I’m in the process of divorcing my husband of 20 years. I’m uncovering a lot about him and, in taking off my rose colored marriage glasses (aka working on my stuff in therapy), I’m realizing that I was financially and emotionally taken advantage of, let down and used for many years. I feel like I’m going to absolutely thrive after the dust settles. Id love to hear from others whose divorce ended up being the best thing that happened for them.
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Mine was absolutely the best thing that happened to me, I’m free now and I get to do what I want, when I want. The relationship was very abusive, and everyone around me but me could see it. Rediscovering so many things I loved but gave up on has been glorious!
I don’t know about Best Thing That’s Ever Happened, but I was in the same boat as you and can say that
living without rose colored glasses is essential to living my life to the fullest
learning the shocking “truths” about my partner eventually lead to learning shocking truths about myself
Unbeknownst to my partner and me was that he had childhood trauma which he skillfully “handled” on his own, in ways that can make romantic partnership difficult. Now that I understand that, I have
This is the reason I’m thriving. Plus, Agency. I encourage an understanding of agency.
I hope you enjoy your life as much as I’m enjoying mine now that my ex is gone. I found out that I can take care of all the bills and raise the kids with very little extra output on my end. It’s truly freeing seeing what you can do, or have been doing in the relationship lol.
Rose colored glasses coming off is a blessing, I never would have known what I have in me to become a badass. He is a narcissist and a sociopath. Never wanted me to succeed, in life, or in my career.. complained about my friends, isolated me from everyone.
You will do great and will be extremely happy!
The only problem is idk if I will ever find a man who will add to my life or enhance it.