Id you end up getting married? Did you not? Is your current partner extremely similar / different? Id love to know!
What happened to the first person you thought you were going to marry?
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Id you end up getting married? Did you not? Is your current partner extremely similar / different? Id love to know!
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I did end up getting married to him! And not one day goes by where I’m not grateful for this happy peaceful married life. I didn’t think marriages could be happy and peaceful but goddamn he proved me wrong ! š„°
He died suddenly š
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Married them!
He took advantage of me over FaceTime then blocked me. And when we reconnected acted so innocent.
I have no idea. We lost touch so many years ago.
Heās my husband!
He broke up with me suddenly just as we had the offer on the second house we went for accepted. No tangible reason, really confusing. The only thing I know is there isnāt another person in the picture. He just didnāt love me anymore. Feels like a betrayal, but also if heād felt like that for a long time the lack of communication and honesty feels jarring. Like we had intimacy under false pretences. Hurts like hell.
We did not marry sadly. My parents were not accepting of him and that was hard for him to deal with. Weāre still friends
I met my ex-partner when I was 16 and I thought I would for sure marry him. We relocated to another city for his work when I was 24. We were both earning similar wages. For 2 years I carried the load in organising our social life, maintaining relationships in our hometown on behalf of us both, doing the housework, looking after our dogs and initiating intimacy (and not succeeding). In this time, he did very little and I got very little from the relationship. I repeatedly communicated my needs and he put in effort for about 3 days each time before he returned to his usual habits and dismissed whatever I felt. I was so unhappy so I split up with him after doing mental gymnastics for almost a year.
My partner now is so different. He is emotionally supportive and we are team mates in every sense of the word. We share the mental load, chores, care for our household, putting effort into friends and family etc. Weāre getting married next year and I feel so lucky!
Iām proud of 27 year old me for making that brave decision all those years ago. While a lot of my friends were leaning into marriage and parenthood, I left my long-term relationship because I knew that I deserved and wanted better for myself.
We got engaged and I broke it off. I know some stuff just because we had overlapping friends in uni.
He started dating his best friend about 3 weeks after we broke up and they moved to New Brunswick for a time. They broke up after 2 years and from what I’ve heard, he’s dating some friend of a friend in Arizona.
I actually knew of the girl he’s now dating when we were together because they used to play World of Warcraft together and I always felt weird about it because we were 19 and she was 14.
Iāve never had a relationship that made me think that way. In fact, I had only two, and they ended before the thought even crossed my mind.
The first person I daydreamed about marrying, though, ended up marrying my best friend.
The first person I wanted to marry was a crush from high-school. We literally never went on a single date.
However, I absolutely thought I was going to marry my husband the moment I met him. And I did!
I broke up with him on the day we were supposed to go engagement ring shopping. It was time to call it and for us to move forward in our lives. No ill-will, just different life paths.
Weāre each married now with baby girls and I think life has gone as it meant. I couldnāt imagine doing life with anybody but my husband, so that decision back in 2020 brought me to my soulmate
He became my ex because he was a toxic manipulator. Then he began stalking me. He was still trying to reach me about seven years ago. We broke up in 1992. He’s a small town reporter and I’m shocked he hasn’t killed himself with how often he drank and drove.
He pussed out. Wanted more time for video games, I think. That’s what I get for dating an engineer.Ā
After having delusions about a future with him. I started to doubt myself if I deserved such a good guy like him, so I let him go. I made myself believe every single day that someone better than me out there deserves him more.
He was my first love – high school sweetheart. Last that I saw, years ago, he has a ltr and step daughter adjacent. In hindsight, I realize it was young puppy love that I always secretly knew and hoped wouldnāt amount to marriage.
My current partner is worlds apart, thank goodness. The three loves theory applies well to me.
I’m getting married to him in September
We did. Weeks after we met (just days before I was 13 – March ’84), I knew I was going to marry her.
At age 17, she told me she wanted to marry me eventually.
Age 44, we got married. We divorced just over five years ago. I’m now 54.
Lots of great times, with one not very great time. I’ve been single since divorce.
He cheated on me and married that woman.
They are now married since 12 years with 2 kids.
We were engaged ans he popped the question a few weeks prior.
He ended up cheating on his wife and his whole family have turned into Trumpers, so I definitely dodged a bullet there.
The first one I was in an actual relationship with and could imagine marrying? He emotionally cheated on me, we tried to be friends (looking back I don’t know why, but at the time I couldn’t imagine losing him completely from my life), he got jealous when I’d go on dates, then started seeing his married supervisor about 5 months after we split (but were still “friends”). I got jealous, she got jealous (surprise surprise). All hell broke loose. (There’s a lot more to this that I won’t get into).
He moved in with her (she divorced her husband for him), and according to his step dad’s obituary married her after knowing her for all of 6 months (just under a year after we split as a couple).
What stung the most, when I read that, is that despite me being able to see/dream about marrying him, he would always say he couldn’t see ever getting married and/or never wanted to get married, etc..
A few months later he used my credit card info to buy them all pizza and I filed criminal charges… There’s now a bench warrant out for him cause he skipped out on his probation and all the court fees/restitution.
My fiance now is much different, and I’m forever both grateful for and abhorred by the lesson my ex was.
His parents bought him a car to break up with me and he ghosted me š©
I married him.
And just to clarify: he wasn’t my first or anything like that. He was just the one and only person I’ve felt yeah, this is my life partner.
Iām getting married to him in two weeks time š„°
Weāre engaged and we have a 4 month old baby!
I married him! High school sweethearts, together for 14 years, married since December š„°
We split up after 5 years, for a few reasons but the biggest 2 being our attachment styles didnāt work together (anxious/avoidant), and he made it clear his career would always be #1 – over me, children, family etc.
That wasnāt enough for me.
I moved home across the country, and met my now-husband 6 months later. He is the opposite in priorities, my daughter and I are his #1, hands down. Followed closely by both our families. He loves hard and is generous to a fault. We have our issues, but he would put our family above anything and everything. Funnily enough, heās 10x more successful (professionally) than my ex ever was, and makes a lot more money than he ever did lol. Goes to show putting your career first doesnāt always pay off!
They are similar in that they are both driven, charismatic, smart and charming. Both nice guys over all but my husband is much more honest and loyal. Ex was a liar and cheated in his past (not on my that I know of).
he committed suicide
We were together for twelve years total and had a kid together.
I broke up with him in 2022 and came out as a lesbian lol
I married him when we were both 19, we are currently (34) in the process of being amicably divorced – just sat down and realized we’re far better friends and parents than we are spouses.
To paraphrase Taylor Swift, I broke my own heart because he was too polite to do it. Young love has its place but I needed to go out into the world and meet people and experience life, and he did too. Last I saw on social media heās still living in our hometown with twins. I hope he is really happy and fulfilled
We got married. He’s a good guy and great father. Very thankful we ended up together, despite all the naysayers who were insistent we were too young to know what we wanted.
Last I heard when he was still trying to ābe my friendā on Facebook lol he was working for NASA. We were 13-14 lol. First boyfriend. Thought man this is who Iām gonna end up with. I ālovedā him. He dated about 2 years. I moved away we broke up and I ended up coming back. Met his new girlfriend lol she was sweet. Moved on. But he didnāt. Tried for years and years to be my friend but I just couldnāt for other reasons. But yeah. Dude was such a dumbass when we were kids. Would do so many dumb things. But he was really intelligent. So seeing him working for NASA wasnāt really a surprise. Good for him.
We broke up a few years after. Not marrying them remains the best decision I ever made
Met him as a little kid and knew he was the one. Met again in elementary/junior high as band kids and new I was going to marry him. We were best friends, attached at the hip, nonethewiser that we were foolishly in love.
Got together in our early 20s. It was heaven. I was still sure we were going to get married. Something massive happened years later that changed all of that and we broke up. Met up in a medical setting a decade later and he apologized for everything.
Even after all of that time, I was still sure we’d get married.
Dead. I found out via an old acquaintance that messaged me out of the blue. We live(d) on different continents and we’re a couple like 20 years ago.
Never found out what happened. He was only 44. He had mental issues and drug problems as well.
He became obsessed with becoming a drug addict (because he looked up to his mum, who was addicted to dope)ā¦ he succeeded, so i leftāŗļø
I married him.
Divorced 6 months later when he cheated
My current partner couldn’t be more different. He has a single hobby that’s the same/similar and that’s really about it…..
He moved on surprisingly quickly, which hurt me at the time. Later, I was able to see the wisdom and bravery in his decision to leave, and to accept his subsequent happiness. I actually posted a letter to him on r/UnsentLetters 8 or 9 years ago, thanking him.
I did marry someone else, in my early 30s rather than my mid 20s, and we could not be happier. They were/are very, very different people: outgoing and athletic vs. introverted and intellectual, sanguine vs. melancholic.
Thinking about it now, my ex-finance was a train engine, like me. We’d have pulled each other in different directions and been unhappy til we split. My husband is a carriage: he’s not going anywhere alone, but he’ll follow me… and without him, there is no point in my going anywhere anyway.
I’ll work on that metaphor, but yeah… Thanks for the questions.
Told me “I think I’m done for now”
We still live together as we have a shared lease and I am breaking every day
Married! āHigh school sweetheartā. 2 kids!
Never meet one, hoping to do so.
Funny story, when I was 5 I had my first crush on a boy from kindergarten and I would tell anyone that we are going to marry eachother when we’re older. We lost touch after we graduated kindergarden but we met again 15 years later and started dating. We’ve been together for the last 5 years, we’re getting married soon.
He ended up being a groomer and hung around a 15 year old friend of mine until she married him . I really dodged a bullet.
15-18 was with a guy who was whiny, manipulative and abusive. He dud prison time for drug and traffic offences and doesn’t see his kids (from his relationship after me, fortunately we didn’t do that)
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He married the gal he started dating 3 weeks after I broke up with him. He became less apathetic (it was a 7 year relationship and he leaned into me taking care of him). We have daughters almost the same age. He still used the little girls name I chose for us which I found a little odd, but he genuinely seems happy and I still feel I made the right decision for both of us. I see him about once or twice a year with mutual friends. We chat and catch up and still manage to have fun and be friends. Itās been 10 years since we broke up.
I dated someone at the beginning of my senior year of high school for 4 years. He cheated & I left. We had no contact for a long time. A few years later, we became friends again, both single but never tried again. Around the same time, we both found new partners & we’ve both been with our partners happily for over 10 years. I have built a great life with my husband and kids & he has with his wife.
He’s been married to someone else for almost 30 years. We still keep in touch–occasional text or phone call, but he’s happy and I’d never do anything to mess it up.
We broke up after seven years, when he told me he changed his mind. Now he regrets everything, but that’s too damn bad.
I broke up with him because he was not a good partner and he basically was giving nothing in the relationship, and always trying to dim my light. He was really angry. Idk where he is now. That was 8 years ago. He very likely is not with anyone. In fact, when I broke up with him one thing he said was āthis isnāt fair, youāll find someone immediately and Iāll be single foreverā lol
I met my husband 7 years ago, weāve been married for 5 years. He is an equal partner, shows love and affection every day, we are hugely supportive of one another, and we love spending time together. He is green flags all around.
Sadly, heās (still) an alcoholic and, last time I checked on social media, single and never married. We almost married in 2009 and I called it off because of his drinking.
We met when I was 25, and he was 19 (he was mor mature than me).
We were together for 6 years when I broke up with him. He was nice, handsome and very feminist (rare find in the last century.
I wanted to travel and move to other countries and he just wanted to stay home.
I met my husband got pregnant and got married and move to Canada in 3 months. I travelled on a fast lane back then.
As for him he got together with a girl who wanted to stay home and got married, he finished college and became an excellent therapist.
We never spoke again, and when mutual friends mentioned me he said I’m dead for him.
My high school best friend and I made a pact to get married to each other by the time we were 30 if neither of us were already married to other people. He ended up self-deleting a couple years out after we graduated.
We got married and divorced, and both of us ended up coming out as trans. We’re best friends now. (For now.)
In the words of Meyer of VEEP āheās aādead nowā
He’s a crackhead now
Thankfully I did not marry him. It would have been disastrous! I know he had kids with someone else, but that didn’t work out. Last I heard, from his cousin, he wasn’t doing great. I did love him, but we would not have been good married.
My husband is very different to that first person!
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Heās engaged to be marriedā¦ again. We broke up in Spring of my senior year, and he ended up dating a girl we knew mutually for several months before getting married. They were married for like 5-6 years, and then one day, she updated her Facebook status to divorced from [exās name] with the date of their divorce and everything. It was savage AF.
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He married someone who looks a lot like me which was amusing, havenāt seen or spoken to him in a long time now though so no idea if they are still together.
He lives in Washington D.C., with his wife and 3 sons. It looks like he has a good job; we donāt keep in touch. Good for him. He was my high school sweetheart and I wish him the best. He did get really, really fat though.
I talked marriage with two men in my life. The first (high school sweetheart) ended up secretly dating my friend. We broke up, lost contact for years but recently bumped into each other and I miss that friendship but hard letting go of resentment. The second man was an addict but was sober when we met. He was up front about his past and things were goodā¦I thought. We had basic couples fight, he used it as excuse to relapse. Turns out he was never sober 100% just knew that is what I wanted to hear. He has been in and out of jail since. I do not trust my judgment anymore.
It’s still happening. Hell, we aren’t even engaged yet. I love the bones off of this man.
We ended up growing apart. Things just didnāt work out the way we thought and over time, we realized we werenāt really compatible. It was a tough but necessary decision to move on.
Lol I was marrying a teenage superstar so there’s that.
He left me for the girl he told me not to worry about. Then I think she dumped him. Now sheās barefoot and pregnant with another man’s kid. Nature is healing
Oh, him? Beat me, cheated on me, verbally abused me, emotionally abused me…I didn’t leave until he (6’4″ nearly 300ibs) kicked my dog (8ibs chimix) across the room resulting in myself (5’3″ 145ibs at the time) going feral and attacking him with such ferocity that I chased him out to his car where he decided to call his mommy for help and drove to her place. I rushed my fur baby to the vet, she was crying from a busted and bruised ribcage and why did her daddy hurt her like that? She’s fine now, it’s been years since though I can feel where the break in the ribcage was and I can finally pet her without seeing red.
I called my friends after years of isolation from them and family, so grateful they all rallied and I got out of there a week after he broke the last straw and my fur baby’s heart.
I’m now in a safe, respectful, loving relationship with a fucking phenomenal man who absolutely adores me and my fur baby. Her paws don’t touch the ground when he’s home and she’s equally obsessed with him. The trials were worth getting where I am now. š«¶
He married the girl he cheated on me with throughout our relationship. They actually both married other people first and then cheated on their spouses with each other. Still working at the same gas station job I applied to for him in high school. Heāll still occasionally try to contact me (now 13 years later) and would without a doubt cheat on his wife with me if given the option. Yikes!
His kids are really cute though. His wife and I are friends on Facebook lol
He passed away. He was the first great love of my life. And moving on from him took a long time. I actually gave up on dating for a long time because I tried to move on and it was a disaster. The really insulting thing was I had an old flat mate tell me to just move on as if it was so easy to move on from the one bloody person in my life who had seen me and all of my scars and instead of running made me feel loved and cherished. She couldn’t understand that I refused to settle for anything but the deepest most life changing of love and continually dated people who didn’t treat her with respect.
I am married now and I found another great love. If you are in the same position, please know grief does not have a time limit. Your responsibility is to you and taking it one day at a time.
She’s my girlfriend. I’m gonna marry her one day š
Well, 2 months after he proposed, he went to Michigan and left his iPad here. It kept dinging and I went to turn it off… tinder notifications. I snooped for hours. Turns out he had been cheating on me the entire 3 years we were together. Now I’m with the man of my dreams, and if I’m not mistaken my ex is engaged to somebody that’s in prison for grand theft auto and fraud…
We will get finally married this year. With all my exes, I never saw myself being married to them. My partner now ā¦ well, we are working on it. š¤
Heās almost bald now š
We went our separate ways for almost 20 years and reconnected over social media. I moved halfway across the country after a year of long distance, and now I wake up next to him every day. If only I could tell 17 year old me that the 8 Ball that said Iād marry the cute boy who sat next to me in class was right lmao š„°
I actually have no idea. We dated when we were in our early 20s and had dreams of going to grad school. We broke up when I started getting in to programs and he didnāt. After a few months, once I knew I was going to be leaving the state, I asked to meet up again and was planning to ask him to move away with me. But he still was too jealous and it didnāt happen – I met my now-husband shortly after I moved!!
He is a writer for IGN now. Heās gotten engaged and married. Weāve both been cheering each other on and congratulating each other on our life milestones. Not friends, but not enemies either.
Weāre married, and itās just as awesome as I thought it would be
Weāve been together for 10 years. Heās my best friend and the absolute love of my life.
He served me divorce papers last night.
He’s balding and we did not end up getting married because his friends hyped him up by telling him he could do better. He’s still single.
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He’s currently in prison for CSAM
married with two kids afaik. iāve seen some cryptic instagram posts in the last year through friends and now everyone thinks they are getting divorced.
glad we didnāt get married because i sure as shit never wanted kids.
It was my shortest relationship, three months of a whirlwind romance that I hope Iāll get to experience again someday. He lived with me for a week in between his leases at one point, and one morning he just turned to me while we brushed our teeth and said āyou make me want to marry you.ā
I still replay that moment in my head. Over and over again. It was a lot, especially for two people who constantly talked about how unappealing marriage was. But then out of the blue, he broke up with me. Turns out, he never really broke things off with his last ex. They were just kind of taking a break. Shattered me, lol. But time heals all. And it helps when his friends reached out to me, upset on my behalf because he was throwing away a good relationship, and they had no idea he was still in contact with his ex who they all hated for some reason. They didnāt last long, but I had him blocked so he couldnāt reach out again. Or I mightāve taken him back lol. Also shout out to his friends that called him out on his bs and SENT ME MONEY AND APOLOGIES LMAOO I will forever respect them
I did not marry him. It was over 35 years ago.
The only similarity between them and my spouse is military service.
The guy, his dad, and his son all died of Covid 2 weeks apart. It was surreal to watch their obituaries go up one right after another.
We got married and we are still married!
I am not sure! I hope he is well. His wife blocked me on social media right when it first came out. I am so thankful for him and time giving me perspective. If I hadnāt gone through that, I wouldnāt have met my actual husband
The year was 2003. He was a fireman in the department the next town over, we worked mutual aid calls together a lot as we were both our departments Engineers and in the Color Guard. He looked like a young Peter Fonda. Lots of fun, but a whole lotta trouble. Broke my heart to pieces.
Iām glad things went sour when they did, he was pure poison. Heās still living in his parentās home with garnished wages and drinks more beer than water. Heās still the same person, just with more children. I think he knocked up 4 women, has 5 kids.
I married a handsome Longshoreman a few years later and lived happily ever after.
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I married him! He is my best friend, my twin flame, my everything. He is the calm to my chaos, the love of my life, and the one soul that truly understands me. I honestly donāt know what life would be like without him, and I never want to find out.
I followed him to college after being in love with him for 4 years, lost my v to him, then he dumped me two weeks later. From Google/facebook, it seems like he got married, had some kids, divorced, has a terrible relationship with his family, and looks-wiseā¦letās just say Iām happy it didnāt work out.
Met him at 14, was with him for 10 years, realized I was being treated like a fuckmaid and no amount of communicating my needs was changing anything.
My current partner is a woman.
I didnāt marry him. It was high School love. First love. Whatever you call it. We dated on and off throughout his entire high school career And he was my best friend. I left him, because my friends didnāt like him.(stupid, i know.) we both married someone else, had babies. I still talk to him now and again. Itās completely platonic now. Heās still a wonderful man, and a great dad to his children. Iām honestly so happy for him.
I married him!! 8years,3 kids zero regrets.
If this doesn’t work out,i don’t think I will ever marry anyone else in this lifetime.
I ended up calling things off with him because he treated me pretty badly about a year into our relationship. He works in law enforcement so when he got back from his training, he came back with a really nasty condescending attitude. He was so mean to me but I stayed to try and work things out. Eventually it became too much so I decided to leave. Itās been almost 7 months and Iām so happy I left
We were Hs sweethearts, planned our lives together, engagedā¦ he made a couple comments that showed me we had different ideas of what our life together would actually be like. Then one day when I got home in a split second I saw everything clearly and knew that if I stayed we wouldnāt be happy and we would end up getting divorced. I gave it time to see if the feeling would pass, but it didnāt. I finally told him we were right for each other and I wanted him to find the person that he could truly be happy with. It was messy and his whole family turned on me (I get it I broke his heart, but some of them be cruel). About 8 years later his mom reached out to me on social media to apologize for how everything happened and how poorly her son treated me (after getting my distance I realized that he was also controlling and manipulative, he had isolated me from my friends and family without me realizing). I just told his mom that when I think back on that relationship I think about the good parts of it. Anyway, heās married with kids and it makes me happy to know that because when I ended things I had to trust that I was making the right choice for both of us and now I know.
As for my relationship now, heās nothing like my ex. Iāve also realized that although I did love my ex and care for him deeply at the time, I wasnāt in love with him. We have so much fun together and Iāve always been able to talk to him about anything. He is one of the kindest people that Iāve ever met and he cares so much. I can see the love in his eyes when he looks at me, even after years. No one gets to me like he can, he irritates me so much sometimes and I wouldnāt have it any other way (I do this to him too and itās intentional š). He also makes me feel grounded and safe no matter what else is going on in our lives.
She left me. I am bisexual. I was not able to have any other relationship with any girl after that trauma šš. At that time I thought we would marry, have our own house and everything.
He fought his dad and then his dadās boss then partied with Teddy bears.
I was totally gonna marry Luke Skywalker from as early as I can remember until around 11.
First person I thought I’d marry used me for permanent residency through commonlaw then cheated on me. Lesson learned the hard way in my mid 20’s.
Hoping my current husband is not the same.. but seeing patterns that have me concerned.
He kicked me out of his house. He was stressed out about his family issues. Plus I had my sister and her family living with us in his house at the time. We had a party on a Sunday and had 6 kids running around. He drank beer all day. On Monday, he had a hangover so I suggested he should take an aspirin. He blew up at me for saying that and told me not to go to work. But I did because I had to meet with a client at 9am. He texted me that I had to move out. So my family and I moved out that same day.
He went on to get married, moved out of the state and had another child. But then he ended his life at his parents’ house. They were well known and very rich, so it was in the newspapers.
Taylor Hanson sadly married someone else at 19 and broke my heart
We got married and still are happily married.Ā
Together for 15 years already š
I never imagined getting married one day, but he’s my soulmate and we love doing everything together š
We were together for a long time in our early to mid-20s. We broke up for many reasons and Iām SO much better for it. Some of the reasons were: 1) cheating, 2) he would never hold doors open for me and often let them fall on me after he went through the doorway, 3) he was a slob who rarely cleaned up after himself, 4) pretended to propose to me and claimed it was a joke. There are more reasons but Iām not going to list everything.
Anyway, Iāve gone on to live my dream life (living in a different country, married to someone who treats me with great respect and love, have two dogs who are our ākidsā).
My ex is now living in the city where I have my rental property back in my home country. They are liking my old photos from like 2/5/6 years ago on IG and found out I was married from an IG post and proceeded to neg me in a message while simultaneously saying that no one lives up to me. Iād say that they are not so happy with themselves.
We broke up after 10 years. We got together at 18, both extremely shy people and we found each other in our loneliness. We had a silent agreement that we actually just got together to have somebody in our lives, instead out of love. I however grew over the years we were together; I had a lot of therapy and worked incredibly hard on myself, I made actual friends. He didnāt and he absolutely refused to go to therapy, even when I asked him to because I was sensing my growth was becoming a problem within the relationship. I also began to see our bond was not healthy at all and the longer we were together, the more he tried to control me.
I am now together with a man who is so wildly different from my ex, and I am very happy. The relationship is a day and night difference and I feel so incredibly respected. And he is so incredibly handsome; 18 years old would have never dared to pursue him because I used to think I was too ugly for guys like him.Ā
My ex was very mad at me for the longest time. He said I took away his one chance to become a father (he wanted to start a family soon, while I had doubts about raising a family with him) and that he lost the warmest family he had ever known because I broke off āa mutual agreement with a unilateral decision he had zero say inā (his own family was rather cold, while mine treated him like a second son). Last I heard he found a new partner though and finally started therapy, so I hope he is happy
We hated each other after the break up. Then, after twenty years we reacquainted and became long distance friends as I had moved abroad.
About five years ago she stopped answering my texts and disappeared altogether. No trace of her online. No obituary either, which is good, but apart from that it’s a damn mistery
I met him while visiting my brother in another city, I didnāt had a romantic relationship since I was living the country in few months.
He was the first and is the only person that I have thought, I would love to marry him.
I had a bf before and thought I want to marry him but more so, because of the idea of thatās what follows.
But with him, I genuinely enjoy his company, loved his value and who he was as a person. (Physically wasnāt my type, but he ended up becoming very attractive to me)
I ended up leaving and 12 years later, (we lost contact but sometimes his social pops up)
He got marry and has a beautiful baby. So do I.
Don’t know know. Hope he got the help he needed
He’s in jail on several charges. He picked me up from work one day, dumped me randomly and told me he was moving out, then he went off the rails and landed himself in jail. He’s been there now for almost 6 years.
He lost a ton of weight and broke up with me to explore. Tried to come back years later. I happily declined.
We ended things the same year he was apparently ring shopping, something I only found out later from my cousins. He tried to fix things, but by then I was preparing to move 8,000 miles away.
No hard feelings at all. Iām married now to someone else and from the very beginning I knew this was the man I wanted to marry.
she dodged a bullet š
She starred in a couple of the transformers movies and then married machine gun Kelly.
Of course I’ve never met Megan Fox, but ever since that scene in Transformers when she looked under the hood, I thought we’d get married.
High school sweethearts. Still together, 18 years later.
I married him. And Iāve been with him for more than half my life at this point.
I kicked him out on our 2nd anniversary because he physically abused me and I wasn’t going to raise my baby to think it was normal.
Hessssss BAAALLLDDD š„³š„³š„³
Still drinking in a garage playing beer pong
I married him, then we had beautiful children, got divorced and now weāre both remarried.
Current partner is similar in some ways but different in others. My exās wife is somewhat similar to me, which I was more surprised about.
I married him.
We broke up, she found and married someone else eventually, lightly messed around with me off and on their whole relationship, eventually we had sex with while I had a girlfriend, she accused me of rape and we never talked again.
Young, dumb, very not proud.
Dated for 7 years. We met when I was 18 and he was 19. Turns out he was a very charming charismatic cheating compulsive liar. Luckily he ended our relationship. It took a long time, but I moved on. Eventually I found the love of my life and he is COMPLETELY different in every aspect. We are now married, traveled the world, bought a place together in a wonderful city in a beautiful area, and we have two beautiful children. Sometimesā¦.things work out for the best.
I married him š
Heās happily married to a lovely woman and Iām happy for them both. He was a catch. Iām not sorry though. Iāve had great adventures, and I know what we had was real. We were just too young. And I might be, as has been suggested, a bit too much of a free spirit. š
I assume heās in jail but canāt be sure
We went away with my parents because he wanted to ask my dad’s permission first. He went for a walk with my dad, me and my mum stayed at the hotel. They got back and he was like ‘I just couldn’t do it’. Didn’t bring it up again. He got a job in a different city, we tried long-distance for a while but it didn’t work, and we both had different expectations from a relationship/marriage. We broke up, he’s married to someone else & I’m engaged.
My fiancĆ© is similar in some regards in that they’re both quite ‘traditional, straight men’, but my fiancĆ© is is way more laid back, I find we can communicate better, I feel like his partner. We tackle problems together. I feel like I know myself better, too.
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They committed unaliving, a few years after we broke up
He had a tragic accident at work. Severe TBI. I stayed as long as I could, but his family pushed me out from the very beginning. It was a real shit situation. Heāll never be the same, it breaks my heart for him.
Did not marry and relationship feel apart almost immediately after he asked me to marry him. I was 18 I think?
Found out many many years after we broke up that he went to jail for statutory rape when he tracked me down and had someone contact me to ask if he could write to me.
Just looked him up and it appears he’s still in the system and was described in an article as a career criminal. Sexual assault on a minor, among other things.
Assuming it’s the same person, right name, right age, approximately same area.
Weāre still together, I still believe weāll get married
Oh god he treated me horrendously and was such a loser. We were medium distance at the time and only saw each other on weekends. One day he was driving and got mad about something, there was a red light up ahead, and he floored it as if he was going to purposely kill us. The other cars even stopped because they all thought they were going to get hit but he slammed on the breaks last minute.
This wasnāt even the worst thing he had done but it was the final straw. I told him I wouldnāt see him again until he got hella therapy. He tried to convince me to ādo therapy with himā and āhelp him find a therapistā but it was his problem, not mine. Eventually we were just texting one day and he said ādo you even want me to come up?ā, and I was like ānot reallyā and it was over
He had tried to get back with me since then (he even sent anonymous roses to my work and the flower shop refused to tell me who they were from, that was a fun one) but I was way over it. Last I heard he moved to the middle of nowhere and got a girl pregnant within a month of knowing her. Theyāre on and off and she alludes to him being kind of a deadbeat
He was gay and I misread his affection
I married him. I never really had thoughts of marrying my previous boyfriends – marriage was never really something I fantasized about during my teenager/early adult years anyway.
I married the first man I genuinely thought I was going to marry as an adult. Middle school and high school crushes donāt count. My husband is the sweetest man I know. Weāre expecting our first child and I was just tucked back into bed because I was shivering when I got up to tell him something. He asked why I was so cold and I told him that I had left my blanket cocoon to talk to him so I got put back into my cocoon and he stuck around till I was finished with what I needed to say. It sounds silly but itās the little things especially when youāre almost 38 weeks and just generally uncomfortable.
Blew through my entire inheritance trying to hep this man and take care of us being together, just to be treated awful, neglected my physical and mental health, chose him over my family including my mom, ruined my credit, in debt, been in pain for years, got dumped right after my cat died, he then got a new gf 2 months later and we dated for 5 yearsā¦ then he kicked me out and I was homeless for a year.. now I see marriage is nice on paper but itās just a ball and chain and something Iām not sure I want.
Heās married now. He has a baby girl and four step kids. He seems legitimately happy and Iām happy for him!
My first boyfriend – we started dating my senior year of high school (his junior year) and then did long distance for another 3 years after that because we went to colleges in different states. We eventually broke up right before going into my senior year because I just wasnāt happy with him (felt more like friends than boyfriend/girlfriend) and it wasnāt until after we broke up that I realized how poorly he had been treating me (essentially emotionally abusive).
He had a very tough time with the breakup. He was still in college, and this was the beginning of his junior year. He ended up turning to drugs and alcohol, and realized he was bi/gay and started having lots of sex with both men and women (even though when we were dating (for 3.5 years) we didnāt get past making out and maybe an over the shirt boob grab). Towards the end of that semester he attempted suicide, and over winter break his best friend convinced him to sign up for a religious retreat. He went on it, and it completely changed his life.
After college he became a Christian missionary, forgoing his Ivy League education and traveling the world building churches and spreading Christianity. While on one of those trips he met someone. They only knew each other for I think 2-3 months before going their separate ways but stayed in touch. When she arrived back in the states (a few months after he did) he met her in the airport and proposed and theyāre now married with a few kids!
I will also say I donāt know all of this because we have kept in touch. We arenāt on any kind of speaking terms because I harbored a LOT of resentment for him for years because of how much I struggled after we broke up. I donāt believe he knew he was being emotionally abusive but as time went on after we broke up I realized just how bad it was and I struggled for years with general anxiety, social anxiety, and borderline agoraphobia because of it. I only know what happened in his life because of a ālife storyā blog he published online before one of his mission trips that was sent to me by a friend, and updates Iād hear from people we went to high school with who were still friends with him on Facebook.
Iām happy that heās happy but sheesh, what a ride haha
I let him go like the dumbass I am
He broke up with me two weeks after prom, and two weeks before my birthday. We went to our favourite restaurant and he did it in person. I was blindsided and heartbroken.
She told me she was straight after a year together. She then started dating her abusive ex girlfriend again. Oh well
We broke up because of our differences a few years in the beginning of our relationship he was avoidant and toxic and after he decided to be loving and caring, I just couldn’t go back to the same anymore. We made up a couple of times, but we always broke up. I thought I will marry him for sure, and I imagined every little detail in the future with him, but somehow it never clicked, and it never felt right to happen. I still feel deep regret and sorry for everything that happened because I’m still not entirely completely sure that this wasn’t a mistake and that is killing me, but there is nothing I can do because there were more than enough signs that this can’t work out.
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Last I heard and saw, he grew a beard, moved out and half his face is paralyzed.
He had a break with reality and now deals with diagnosed paranoid schizophrenia. He cheated on me and we broke up, and then he stalked me for almost a decade. He messaged my now husband a few months before we got married and my husband gave him the what for, and I haven’t heard from him since. They are nothing alike except they both are artistic lol
We got married at 18 and 19. Been together 7 years now, and every year just keeps getting better
When I got real with him about marriage & where we were at, my doubts etcā¦he got mad & ended things. Ironic
He was unhealthily obsessed with Kurt Cobain. Every aspect of his life was decided upon by ‘what would Kurt do?’
We were in our mid teens and I just couldn’t deal with the bs anymore. Of course, he threatened suicide and I felt terrible for a while. Couldn’t listen to Nirvana for years. He still hates me and has done nothing with his life. But I’m glad he’s still alive.
still with him but not married
He cheated on me with my best friend and then married her lol that was almost 15 years ago though, and 10 years ago I found the right guy and married him š©· it all works out how it’s meant to be.
He’s been married to me for 10 years, lol. I thought I’m never getting married, never really wanted to. I was 29, he was 36 when we met and he was the first person who made me think “I could see myself married to him”. My gut instinct didn’t fail me.
She cheated on me with the ‘just a friend’, who was much older and had a kid already. We were in our early twenties. I know they became an item after we broke up, but I don’t know if they’re still together.
As for my current partner, she has somehow managed to make me trust her after being cheated on. She’s wonderful, attentive, intelligent, open-minded, communicative, honest, and smoking hot. We have just moved in together. I wouldn’t want to do life with anyone but her, and I am so happy my ex showed her true colours before we were tangled up in marriage.
He led me on for several years continuing to put off getting me a ring. Then one day he decided he didnāt want to get married as he was having ātoo much funāā¦ which led me to believe that he wasnāt ready to move on from the wild lifestyle he was living & just overall wasnāt ready to grow up (we were in our 20s).
I wanted to settle. He didnāt. He only saw me as his arm piece. Thatās it. I waited for him to officially end things as that was the straw that broke the camelās back for me. When he did, I was completely unbothered by it.
He was 8 years older than me, I’d just graduated from college, he was a charmer, now I know it was all an act.
He treated me like I was the one for long enough that I believed every single word he said. I told a friend I thought he was the one, then she told a friend and that friend told him. He began to act differently like he was annoyed with me, he started going out with his friends more, not including me, not calling, not showing up for dates he planned, like our relationship wasn’t as important as he’d made it out to be, I wasn’t important, it kept getting worse and worse. After awhile I decided I didn’t want to be with him and keep being treated like I didn’t matter. I told him I wanted to break up, he said he’d change, gave me a cassette (yes, that long ago) of songs that would explain to me how he felt and that he wanted to marry me. Never listened to it. He’d get drunk and show up at my apartment. I found out he’d cheated numerous times. I wasted too much time with him.
One of the best decisions of my life was ending it. A mutual friend told me he’d gotten engaged, then he told the woman he wasn’t sure, she called the wedding off. He then told her he was sorry and wrong. She said it was too late. Dude has never been married, not that that’s a bad thing, he just seems to lure in women and then get what he wants while the women don’t get much out of it. I’ve been married, mostly happily, for almost 16 years. I waited a long time until I met the right person.
Sick thing now is, after not thinking about this guy since the early 90s, and glad he was long gone from my life, I saw him. He’s working in a town close to where my husband and I live, a town we want to move to. Hope he leaves before we find a place there. I literally do not care about this guy, nothing for me to say.
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No did not marry him. I was too young and did not understand what it meant. Married the second person though. Love of my life.
I met him when I was 14, instantly had the biggest crush, but he was my brothers best friend so we didnāt end up going out til I was 16. We were together for 3 years and I truly loved him. But he joined the Air Force and we managed to get through basic training and months after but then he got deployed to England and the distance just became too hard for the both of us. So we broke up. I was absolutely devastated. A couple months after the break up we had started talking again and he said we should get married, I would be able to travel with him and go to these countries he was getting deployed too. But I had just moved out on my own and couldnāt get off my lease so it just didnāt work out. But he seeks really happy with his new gf so Iām just happy heās happy.
He married someone 6 months after I dumped him. He was always wishy washy and I grew tired of it. They both became morbidly obese. According to his sister, she passed away earlier this year.
TL;DR: No, we broke up. And Iām SO much happier for it.
We were just about to graduate college (just barely old enough to drink) and had dated for a few years. We started looking at rings and it all became very real. It really made me think hard about what my life would be like with him and I realized that while it would be a fine/doable life, it would never be amazing. After that I fell out of love pretty quickly and broke things off before he proposed.
He and his family hated me after that, my parents thought I Ieft because I cheated on him (I absolutely did NOT), and I lost all of my college friends in the breakup. He had known them before college, so they pretty much all took his side.
Itās been almost a decade now. I moved out of state to the west coast, met an incredible man and then we moved cross-country to the east coast. We have an amazing kiddo, a baby on the way and the two of the cutest little fluffer-puppers you could imagine.
I donāt really feel like they share any traits, as my husband is much more open-minded and adventurous. My ex was a rigid-thinking religious homebody whose ideal wife was barefoot and pregnant. He didnāt have any opinions of his own – they all came straight out of a bible. In his mind, anything outside of missionary position was demeaning and degrading.
My husband is loving and kind and supportive. He thinks for himself. He does everything he can to provide for our family, and he wants me to live the life I want – whether thatās to be a SAHM or a corporate baddie, with one kid or many more. We settled down and bought a house for now while our son is in school, but we also share dreams of moving to a different part of the country someday. Life feels like a realm of endless possibilities with my husband. Heās my best friend, and I look forward to exploring life with him for many years to come.
I wasnāt good enough because I came from a broken home. After 4 years on and off it came to a final end. I moved away. We both married other people. He divorced and is now on marriage no. 2. I have been happily married over 20 years. I see his brother from time to time as we have a mutual connection so get to hear what my ex is up to. I feel I ended up with the right person in the end and my childhood love would not have made me happy in the long run.
I wasnāt religious enough for her standard and yet she said she was madly in love with me as much as I was. She was a very conflicted young soul. Trying to be someone she knew deep down she wasnāt just to please her loved ones.
My (now) ex best friend married him and I went on to meet my now husband after a year of āuncalm waters.ā That was like 20 years ago and we have kind of come full circle and are a little involved in the same social circle. Iām thankful that they were the great life lesson in boundaries and friendships bc it got me to where I am but Iād be lying if I said I 100% feel like I can trust either of them ever again without feeling like Iām being silently judged. They stay š¤šš»behind āmy wallā if you will, hehe.
Met at 17 yo, I grew up he stayed immature.
I’m watching him slowly drown in alcohol and untreated mental illness. And I’ve strapped myself to him as a sort of crash test dummy to make his descent a little bit softer.
He blindsided me with a breakup after admitting that for 6 months he strung me along because he wanted a place to live (we had plans to move in together with some roommates in college). We dated for 2 years at that point and he was lying about not wanting to be intimate anymore (he was very obviously still watching porn then lying about it to my face). Just red flags and the unending anxiety was horrible for me because I knew something was deeply wrong and he was lying every time I wanted to discuss what was happening between us. So ultimately he just told me he wanted to date other people then fucked off. Ended up talking shit about me for years after to stir up drama because I wasnāt ready to be best friends 2 months after he broke up with me over the phone. He lives in Ireland now with a wife apparently after he sabotaged his career in the US (also bc he has a habit of talking shit about anyone and everyone for some reason and we work in a tight-knit industry). The first bit of our relationship he was probably what I believed a healthy relationship was supposed to look like. Iād never laughed so hard in my life. But something definitely changed in him and his personality shifted once he started being more confident in his social life and changed majors toā¦ my major lol. Very two-faced person it turns out.
My ex of 5 years convinced me that marriage was a scam and worthless. He also isolated me from all my friends and family so I had no one to talk to.Ā
Actually ended up leaving once I met my current partner as my current bf made me realize there were so many signs that I was in an abusive relationship.Ā
Now my dream and excitement of marriage are alive again as weāve both agreed we both want to get married one day with our closest family around. My bf has really helped me learn how to stand firm on things I want rather than people please and I canāt wait to marry and grow old with him. š¤
I married him. Things did NOT get married. Ā We got divorced.Ā
Met my ex when we were 14, were together till 17, broke up over text after months of resenting and not communicating. I felt my emotional needs were being met, and he wanted a housewife which I didnāt want. Iām 21 now, last time I heard from him was a year ago. He said he tried his best with his girlfriend after (convenient), told him to take care of himself and Im not going to speak to him out of respect for my current partner. Me and my bf hit our two year anniversary yesterday so Iām quite happy with how things are going. Never been treated better. Donāt settle for less girls
My current husband is the first man that I genuinely believed I could end up marrying. And I was right, it turns out. He’s a wonderful man. He’s gentle and kind and smart and funny and I’m so lucky. ā¤ļø
I married him. He left me after 32 yrs. Heās now lonely and keeps moving to new states to āstart overā. Again.
He ended up marrying someone else. Twice.
He turned out to be abusive!