How much does it matter to you if your partner has stretch marks on their shoulders or arms?

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How much does it matter to you if your partner has stretch marks on their shoulders or arms?

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  1. msstark Avatar

    Doesn’t matter at all, anywhere. My husband has growth marks on his back that he’s self-conscious about, but I honestly don’t even notice them. I have them on my hips, and they don’t even register to me.

  2. verykindzebra Avatar

    Honestly, how old are you?

    I’ve been with my husband for 15 years, through illness, childbirth, job loss, weight gain, mental health issues. He’s my absolute rock and soul mate. So, how much do I care about trivial superficial issues? Not a-fucking jot. 

  3. Upstairs_Cost_3975 Avatar

    I wouldn’t even blink an eye lol.

  4. shortifiable Avatar

    Zero percent. Bodies are meant to grow and change.

  5. ruta_skadi Avatar

    The thought has never crossed my mind. I couldn’t even say whether my partner has any or not.

  6. MotherofJackals Avatar

    Not even something I ever considered as an issue. Stretch marks are just scars.

  7. euphoricplant9633 Avatar

    It’s a part of him and I love every part of him.

  8. Lorts925 Avatar

    I srsly don’t give a f. I have some on my hips/butt, so does my partner. I couldn’t care less. I think they’re pretty cute actually

  9. reowooryu Avatar

    Does it matter? Aren’t we all human at all?

  10. xpgx Avatar

    I’ve been with men and women of all different shapes and sizes. I’ve literally never noticed or thought about stretch marks as anything that stands out. It’s like elbows — sure, they’re there, but when am I ever looking directly at them?

  11. tinfoilhattie Avatar

    Not at all. I don’t even know if they do or not, but I wouldn’t care about that at all.

  12. wearywillows Avatar

    Doesn’t even register

  13. Cherry2Berry Avatar

    I’m convinced this is just a troll sub

  14. Medusa17251 Avatar

    Nah, we can do the scene from Jaws. You think that’s a stretch mark, let me show you a stretch mark, 2006, childbirth.

  15. comdoasordo Avatar

    None. We’re both getting old. We’ve both gained weight. Stretch marks and grey hair for both. One of us already had a heart attack.

    It’s what is inside that matters and the support we give one another.

  16. freckyfresh Avatar

    I genuinely do not care nor would it even be a thought in my mind. I have stretch marks. Most people do.

  17. kwizzle1994 Avatar

    Matters absolutely 0 to me, I love for personality not superficial cosmetics

  18. cvette68sr Avatar

    It matters negative thousand percent aka never in a million years would it matter to me.

  19. rk1499 Avatar

    Not even a little

  20. xMOMxMEATLOAFx Avatar

    Doesn’t matter at all. I find it quite attractive, actually. When my hubs lifts his arms and I can see the stretch marks on his lats, ooh 🤤

  21. -QuarterQueen- Avatar

    Time gets us all, it’s the one certainty all things have in common. Change is a beautiful thing, especially in a loved one. Personally, I’d cherish it.

  22. Jontun189 Avatar

    I love my partner’s tiger stripes 🐅

  23. Lovealltigers Avatar

    My boyfriend has stretch marks by his armpits and I actually think they’re kinda cute and I like running my hands over them

  24. Serebriany Avatar

    I’ve known my husband for almost 36 years, and until I saw this, it had never even crossed my mind. In theory, he may have some because he played sports in high school, and the combination of a final growth phase and required weight-lifting classes made him really big pretty quickly, but if he does have them, I’ve not even noticed them.

    I can describe the size and location of all the scars on his body because scars always have a story, but stretch marks? No clue.

  25. richbunny_ Avatar

    Doesn’t matter. I hardly if at all notice and if I do it’s so hard to care. Blemishes are natural and that’s somehow really comforting to me!

  26. Pretend-Confidence53 Avatar

    Not at all. I’m pretty sure he has them, but I couldn’t tell you where exactly. I don’t pay attention to them in any way.

  27. Shytemagnet Avatar

    Zero. Absolutely zero. I can’t even imagine being bothered by them.

  28. Nikkisfirstthrowaway Avatar

    Truly don’t care. Most stretch marks are just straight up irrelevant. Some even look pretty cool.

    I myself am covered in stretch marks and never cared about them either.

  29. tixticks Avatar

    I wouldn’t care at all.

  30. Merykare Avatar

    Literally could not care less.

  31. AutisticWorkaholic Avatar

    Nah, who cares. Some people get stretch marks from literally just growing when they are teenagers. Or from working out and gaining muscle. It’s gotta be one of the most normal things that can happen to your skin

    The only time you should be worried about stretch marks is when you suddenly get them without any weight changes. That can be a symptom of hormonal problems sometimes.

  32. Kaffee-und-Kuchen Avatar

    I really don’t care at all

  33. OneJello8221 Avatar

    Never thought about it at all. My husband has some, and until I saw this post I’ve never spent a second thinking about them.

  34. cottoncandymandy Avatar

    Sounds like a normal body, so it doesn’t matter to me. It’s kinda weird to judge people for things they can’t help. Like stretch marks.

  35. sakumm3 Avatar

    It doesn’t matter at all. Who cares?

  36. Last_Book2410 Avatar

    Not even a little bit

  37. -LilBean- Avatar

    Why the fuck would I care or pay attention to shit that doesn’t matter like that?
    I love my person. I love who they are.
    That’s all.

  38. Robokat_Brutus Avatar

    I doubt I would even notice them 😅

  39. maddallena Avatar

    Not even a little bit.

  40. BitterSweetDesire Avatar

    I don’t even notice stretch marks

  41. imthrownaway93 Avatar

    I don’t even think about them tbh. My husband has a stretch mark in his belly from sympathy weight gain during my first pregnancy 😂 I like to feel it sometimes with my fingers when we cuddle. It’s a part of him, and I love every bit of that man.

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  43. FakeGirlfriend Avatar

    I can’t imagine even noticing. I’m trying to picture his shoulders and arms – which I see every single day – and I couldn’t tell you if he had them or not.

  44. mugiwarasoka Avatar

    Is it weird I find stretch marks hawt?

  45. PinkCloud_YellowHaze Avatar

    I’ve never cared about stretch marks, not on myself, not on anybody else. It’s just a part of the body.

  46. livelovelemon1993 Avatar

    How would it matter

  47. CherryCherry5 Avatar

    What? It doesn’t matter at all. Pretty much everyone has them somewhere.

  48. MissNikitaDevan Avatar

    No, its so incredibly common for people to have stretchmarks for various reasons, a childhood growth spurt for instance, thats why i have them on my knees/elbows and breasts, growing 7 inches in height in 10 months time did a number on my skin

  49. deskbeetle Avatar

    It doesn’t matter. It meant he probably had a big growth spurt as a teen and is totally normal. I have stretch marks on my hips for the same reason.

  50. PozziWaller Avatar

    My boyfriend happens to have some visible stretch marks on his arms from rapidly gaining muscle. Side effect of sexiness, I guess. Do I care? Nope! I love every one of his “imperfections.”

  51. AnyMark3114 Avatar

    Never ever crossed my mind.

  52. themoistowlette Avatar

    I love them, actually. I like the way you can feel the dips when you run your fingers across them.

  53. spandexcatsuit Avatar

    This does not matter to adults.

  54. taptaptippytoo Avatar

    None at all. Or anywhere else. They just happen when things change size, so how/why would something completely natural matter to me?

  55. biodegradableotters Avatar

    I think stretch marks are pretty

  56. acidhail5411 Avatar

    Barely even registers, of course excess is the outlier but generally speaking it doesn’t negative impact my opinion and will even positively affect my opinion if the person is confident in themselves regardless

  57. FaithlessnessWeak800 Avatar

    None, as I have some myself from having babies.

  58. Shyroxya Avatar

    I don’t care about stretch marks anywhere, he is my soul mate.

  59. Overall-Buffalo1320 Avatar

    Zero. Negative. Nada.

    That doesn’t add anything to one’s character

  60. SCCKZY27 Avatar

    I dont care and never will

  61. Taegreth Avatar

    Not at all. It’s natural.

  62. nnamed_username Avatar

    The only way I would care about something so superficial is if it was actually a medical concern, such as “that’s not a mole, it’s skin cancer”. And if I’m going to be judging him on his, I should expect divorce papers because I have way more than he does.

    Same goes for freckles, wrinkles, thickness/thinness/baldness of hair, where hair is located, what color it is or isn’t, what style he has/lacks, whether or not he shaves anything, piercings, and more. You get the gist. I might question any tattoos he wants just to be sure he knows what they mean before he gets one. This has come up, and thank god he asked me first, lol. He wanted something that turned out to be a gang tat, and he’s so not about that, he just liked the design.

  63. CourtneyDagger50 Avatar

    It doesn’t matter at all

  64. GoodGriefStarPlat Avatar

    It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest if my husband suddenly developed stretch marks, he’s my husband and I’ll love him no matter what. In my eyes he will forever be the most attractive person to me.

  65. InterestingMyTurnNow Avatar

    Imma be honest I’d probably try to treat it like a tattoo cause I’d want to touch them. 🤷‍♀️ don’t know why just seems satisfying. Tattoos are cool so maybe a stretch mark is like a cool natural tattoo that feels good to touch? But I suppose if they feel insecure, my partner probably wouldn’t like that. To answer your question meh? Doesn’t matter.

  66. No-Rub9882 Avatar

    Not at all. Non issue

  67. JadeBlueAfterBurn Avatar

    i do not care. if i love you, idgaf what you look like, i love it either way. as long as you’re healthy, i’m into your look.

  68. Effective-Mongoose57 Avatar

    It doesn’t. Is….is thins a thing? Is this honestly something people are concerned about? Because there are far more important things than stretch marks

  69. useyourcharm Avatar

    I don’t think I’ve ever noticed anyone’s stretch marks unless they pointed them out to me. I think they’re cute, reminds me of oatmeal cream pies, which are delicious.

  70. lordnachos Avatar

    Weird way to tell everyone that you’re an absolute unit.

  71. c-mi Avatar

    Bothers me zero percent. My own stretch marks bother me 1000%, but I don’t even see them on other people.

  72. mvuanzuri Avatar

    Zero percent. I think this is something that only teenagers who’ve recently developed them care about.

  73. 260701a Avatar

    kinda hot because its a sign they gym lol

  74. -aquapixie- Avatar

    My thighs are covered in mottled cuts, why would I care about stretch marks?

  75. KrazieGirl Avatar

    I worry about my own stretch marks, my partner doesn’t give two shits and loves every inch of me.

  76. Heavy_Permission5704 Avatar

    Those stretched places are way better than cosmetic surgery scars

  77. Loisgrand6 Avatar

    I wouldn’t care

  78. RumNRaisins1999 Avatar

    Not at all. Youll understand when you become an adult

  79. SnookerandWhiskey Avatar

    My husband has tiger stripes all over his back. At first I was worried he had been hit by his parents or something, but otherwise it’s just an amusing part of how I got the tall man I have.

  80. happyjeep_beep_beep Avatar

    It doesn’t. I have them too.

  81. FreckledLeaves Avatar

    It’s a non issue. Literally could not care less

  82. According_Thought_27 Avatar

    As much as he cares about the stretch marks on my boobs and hips- so none. I wouldn’t be with someone who cared about mine so it would be a non-issue.

  83. eleventhing Avatar

    Uhm. Not even a little bit. Everyone has stretch marks, unless you won the genetic lottery.

  84. SeriousBeesness Avatar

    I wouldn’t care about that

  85. insipiddeity Avatar

    Never thought about it since it matters so little on how well we do together. It wouldn’t bother me at all.

  86. Wonderful-Daikon8196 Avatar

    Doesn’t matter at all. I love every inch of her body. Worship is like the majestic Queen she is.

  87. 624Seeds Avatar

    Doesn’t matter at all, I’ve seen tons of if guys with stretch marks there, and everywhere else

  88. LemonBork Avatar

    As a percentage? However cold space is.

  89. Kinkajou4 Avatar

    Lol what??

    God, the list of physical insecurities guys think we give a shit about just grows longer by the day doesn’t it.

    No one cares. We care about stretch marks on your PERSONALITY, don’t give two hoots about arms

  90. EmbellishedKnocking Avatar

    I literally have stretch marks. It’s a normal thing, why should it bother you?

  91. Rulanik Avatar

    I wouldn’t care, I’ve got some stretch marks on the insides of my thighs

  92. saeranluver Avatar

    its a silly thing to care about in all honestly, i cant imagine leaving the man of my dreams because he has some lines on his arms or finding him less attractive because of it

  93. AlizarinQ Avatar

    I barely register them but think of them in the same way I think of birth marks and scars- they tell the history of my partner and are special and unique to them, just like I love the little café-o-lait spot on their arm. Little marks on my person that I can trace with my finger tips.

  94. Fine_Wheel_2809 Avatar

    Their hot. My old fwb situationship had long large stretch marks especially on his back as he grew too tall too fast. It was hot. Imo women with stretch marks are extremely sexy. I have a lot on my body now as I’ve gained and lost a lot of weight but I just get tattoos to love my body more, most of my tattoos are in sexy areas which helps with self confidence.

  95. Whooptidooh Avatar

    It doesn’t. At all.

  96. basic-fatale Avatar

    0, he will always be beautiful in my eyes

  97. rutabuuga Avatar

    my bf has some red ones on his arms and shoulders and they don’t bother me in the slightest, when you like/love someone it simply doesn’t matter

  98. jessper17 Avatar

    Not at all because everyone has them and they just don’t matter in the slightest.

  99. Communal-Lipstick Avatar

    Not even a tiny bit. My husband is my everything, some surface mark on his body doesn’t change the amazing person he is.

  100. CancerMoon2Caprising Avatar

    I developed stretch marks when i hit puberty at 110lbs

    I dont think about it. Its genetics and other factors, doesnt bother me.

  101. spicegrl17 Avatar

    Not at all actually

  102. Ill_Sherbert1007 Avatar

    Doesn’t matter to me at all. It’s a body that’s ‘lived in’ and will develop over time to reflect that.

  103. Rude-Brick-3474 Avatar

    Doesnt matter, its just one more fun thing on my favorite person I can touch. Ill lick them fuckers lol

  104. DexterCutie Avatar

    My husband has stretch marks on his butt and the side of his body, from growing, and it doesn’t bother me at all

  105. Dr__Pheonx Avatar

    I couldn’t care less.

  106. ayulzzy Avatar

    They don’t even cross my mind even when they’re right in front of my face

  107. baabyj88 Avatar

    Not at all. If you like the person you are with ,nothing matters like that because in your eyes they are perfect.

  108. Connie_Damico Avatar

    Not at all/don’t care

  109. Xevancia Avatar

    Literally zero.

  110. vivi_is_wet4_420 Avatar

    I don’t really care, tbh… as long as they’re cool with it, I guess.

  111. Annual_Dimension3043 Avatar

    Would not matter in the slightest. I’m covered in them as my skin barely has any elasticity and he’s never commented. And I know for certain I would not care at all if he had them everywhere too.

  112. Indigo-Waterfall Avatar

    Why would it matter to anyone? This is the most inconsequential thing.

  113. ShortieMcFly Avatar

    It doesn’t matter to me.

  114. yokizururu Avatar

    I remember when I was a teenager being very self-conscious of the stretch marks on my hips and ass. Then they’ve never once been brought up or an issue in my life.

    I also live in a culture now where we go to public spas and see naked strangers, and even very thin women have stretch marks. Literally not a big deal at all.

  115. Non_binary_rat_ Avatar

    Couldn’t care less

  116. BarbarianFoxQueen Avatar

    I’d be pretty hypocritical if I cared. Even if I didn’t have stretch marks ‘yet’, bodies change. You don’t even have to have gained weight or been pregnant to get them.

  117. kelowana Avatar

    Why would it bother me? It didn’t bothered me when I was in my twenties and it still does not bother me in my fifties. My personal opinion on someone who has an issue with something like that … either the person is very young and think everything has to be 100% with an possible partner or the person is very shallow and only looks for looks, not an real connection.

  118. Normal_Ad2456 Avatar

    I think my boyfriend has a few on his lower back from getting suddenly taller from puberty and I don’t care at all. I also have some on my boobs from puberty as well.

  119. MiloAisBroodjeKaas Avatar

    You must be young. The only people who will care are extremely superficial and imo don’t actually love their partner. Cos if you do love your partner, these little things are not important at all.

  120. SenyorKarlito Avatar

    Do we like turtles?
    Algebra = No
    Naps = Cosmos

  121. ForgottenSalad Avatar

    It would be completely hypocritical for me to care. Since I also have stretch marks on my arms and hips from when I went through puberty

  122. PsychologicalClue6 Avatar

    Not at all, that’s such a weird thing to care abt

  123. nothoughtsnosleep Avatar

    My partner lost around 300 lbs before we got together. He’s covered in stretch marks and loose skin. He is incredibly handsome to me, I’m very attracted to him, and I love every part of him. He is healthy and happy and these marks and skin are a sign of his will and determination, and his journey to who he is now. I love his body, marked or not, and I love him as a person even more.