Okay I need to know if overreacting or abit in the wrong but my boyfriend gave me hickeys and my dad saw and first time he was just shouting at me asking how did it but I just shut it down and mostly just ingored him or asked him to go and go away but the 2nd or 3rd he said he doesn’t want to see them on me again or else he’ll get mad at boyfriend and then also said how it made me look trashy and that I was for it or something like that
so I agreed it wouldn’t happen again even though I was hurt by his words I just let it but it’s been like a week or so and he has told my WHOLE FAMILY
and I only know this since my anuty called and that’s the first thing she brought up and was just seemed so mad that I didn’t something like that but was also making sure I was okay which I am (my boyfriend makes sure everything I’m okay with everything and if I see uncomfortable with anything he just won’t do it at all) then my cousin who I’ve really speak to in years I mean I see him sometimes but we don’t speak probably cause I think he’s like 19 or something we have a bit of a age gap and texting me about it too saying I’m a smart girl and for him personally he regrets getting into that dodgey stuff and that he’s not judging me but I he knows what boys want that stuff
this has pissed me off so much like they think this is okay and that I’m doing something so wrong and disgusting like it’s not natural like they’re making me feel so disgusting about myself
I know my family may just be worried about me and just want me to make sure I’m making “wise” choices but I still feel like they have no right to comment on this especially how my anuty also said she better not hear it happening again I mean this is MY relationship and MY BODY shouldn’t it just be my choice?? I mean I have respected that my dad wasn’t happy about it but calling me trashy and telling my family? And them also judging and talking to me about it
I have been writing paragraphs to send him to tell him how violated I feel by this but I’m not sure I’m overreacting and should just leave it alone I feel really stuck rn cus I’m like sure he’ll just he’s the adult and can do anything he wants like is that true?
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Backup of the post’s body: Okay I need to know if overreacting or abit in the wrong but my boyfriend gave me hickeys and my dad saw and first time he was just shouting at me asking how did it but I just shut it down and mostly just ingored him or asked him to go and go away but the 2nd or 3rd he said he doesn’t want to see them on me again or else he’ll get mad at boyfriend and then also said how it made me look trashy and that I was for it or something like that
so I agreed it wouldn’t happen again even though I was hurt by his words I just let it but it’s been like a week or so and he has told my WHOLE FAMILY
and I only know this since my anuty called and that’s the first thing she brought up and was just seemed so mad that I didn’t something like that but was also making sure I was okay which I am (my boyfriend makes sure everything I’m okay with everything and if I see uncomfortable with anything he just won’t do it at all) then my cousin who I’ve really speak to in years I mean I see him sometimes but we don’t speak probably cause I think he’s like 19 or something we have a bit of a age gap and texting me about it too saying I’m a smart girl and for him personally he regrets getting into that dodgey stuff and that he’s not judging me but I he knows what boys want that stuff
this has pissed me off so much like they think this is okay and that I’m doing something so wrong and disgusting like it’s not natural like they’re making me feel so disgusting about myself
I know my family may just be worried about me and just want me to make sure I’m making “wise” choices but I still feel like they have no right to comment on this especially how my anuty also said she better not hear it happening again I mean this is MY relationship and MY BODY shouldn’t it just be my choice?? I mean I have respected that my dad wasn’t happy about it but calling me trashy and telling my family? And them also judging and talking to me about it
I have been writing paragraphs to send him to tell him how violated I feel by this but I’m not sure I’m overreacting and should just leave it alone I feel really stuck rn cus I’m like sure he’ll just he’s the adult and can do anything he wants like is that true?
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This is written like you’re well under the age of 18, so good luck with the opinions shared here.
You are under 18, living in your father’s house and having a fit that he is upset at you for coming home with multiple, visible hickeys. You do understand that even though it is “your body” that your father does not want to see evidence of any sort of sexual activity where his underage daughter is concerned I would hope. And yes, it is archaic, and it is old-fashioned, but respecting your father and not coming home covered in hickeys would go a long way towards this situation going away. YOR.
Kind of a toss up here. Like you’re young so it happens buuuuut at the same time it’s weird asf seeing hickeys on people especially if you’re a bit more conservative of a family lol like idk man I was always taught what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. Would you be comfortable seeing your dad and mom walking around with hickeys all over their necks? Also just a good habit to not have visible hickeys later on does not look professional at work too. Just a thought is all
You’re not doing anything wrong or disgusting, and your dad should not be talking shit about you to the whole family. However, hickeys suck and are trashy looking (why do think people always try to cover them up). Just tell your boyfriend to stop giving you hickeys (aka marking his territory) and you’ll be fine. Your family will forget about if you stop coming home with hickeys. (note: if your boyfriend gets mad about not giving any more hickeys, it would be a red flag and then you have a boyfriend problem)
How old are you? Cause if you’re not at or above the age of consent for where you are, even though your dad did not react great he still is your dad and has a bit of a point.
Also how old is your boyfriend? Is he older than you?
Hickeys are just not necessary! They do make a person look trashy and there is no need to advertise what you do. I don’t blame your Dad for being upset! If it were me I would just throw up. 🤮 that’s how they make me feel
I’m afraid it’s your dad’s house and your dad’s rules. He may have felt he needed family support or advice so he reached out to other people in your family and ask them maybe how we should handle it I don’t know you’ll probably have to talk to him about it.
It sounds like he doesn’t really know how to handle, to be honest I’m glad I don’t have have children because I wouldn’t know how to handle it either. On one hand, I hope that I raised my child to make smart wise intelligence choices, and trust them, but I’d also want to give them advice and probably would come across sounding overbearing like your dad.
I know he seems mean and controlling, but just try to remember that is coming from a good place and he’s got your best intentions and welfare at heart.
nothing bad can come of talking to him about this. That’s the most important thing you can do is share with him what you’ve shared with us.
Girl you need to prove read before you post
Use punctuation.