This girl and I have been talking and we both recently expressed interest in each other and would like to work it out. I’m conflicted on if I should tell her about my attempt. I have a tattoo of the date and I feel like she would eventually bring it up. Is this something I should wait for her to bring up or should I tell her about it? I’m much better now since I’ve gotten help.
Should I tell my partner about my suicide attempt?
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Be careful sharing that type of info! I opened up completely to my ex while we were dating. You can guess, all of that was used against my during our divorce! YEARS later!
Nope. Make something up. At all costs keep that private. You literally just met.
If you feel the need to but it’s going to be a red flag for her.
That part of you is gone
You chose life and that is awesome
Just say that is the day I decided to grow up and appreciate life
It is not a lie
Not everything must be said…especially if it happened before you guys met
If you just met, this can wait. You don’t need to disclose every single little thing about you if you just met.
I think being honest is important, but only when you’re ready. It’s part of who you are, and sharing it can help build trust. Just make sure it’s at a time that feels right for you both. Your past doesn’t define you—what matters is that you’ve gotten better. Take your time with it. ❤️
Don’t. I regret opening up to people I was interested in in my past and telling them things I wish I could take back. Maybe in a few years.
No. Glad you are doing well now but you may cause drama as this is a sensitive personal experience unless you plan to marry in the future.
No
in my opinion – no
Why would you hide something like that. If you are interested in being with her she should know you. Hiding something isn’t going to help. If she isn’t comfortable with that then there is nothing you can do. I know it can be something you aren’t proud of, but she deserves to know. How do you think it will go if you tell her 5 years down the road? Do you think she will be happy that you hid something that serious from her?
If it weighs on you by not telling her then just tell her it’s that simple. The thing is, that incident is part of your story and what shaped you into who you are. If she cant appreciate that or is scared off then you did yourself a favor by finding out her level of emotional intelligence now.
Keep private
that’s not something you wanna willingly share before being prompted imo. Save it for a better time in the future
No
Yes, you should tell her, but not yet… not until you’re a more serious couple. As for never telling her at all, as some here are saying — bad idea. What if it gets to a point where you’ve been in an LTR for, say, a year or more, and she finds out some other way? Serious relationship trouble. I’ve seen it before. I had a roommate who had been with his girlfriend for about three years, and all of a sudden she learned that he had been married for eight years. Divorced before they met, but even so.
Proud of you for getting the help you deserve. I think something like this is so personal that you have to follow your heart on this one. Of course there are people who will use information like this against you and some won’t. If it’s a pretty early stage relationship I say just have some fun, keep it light and easy going. This is something you can always share down the road
If the tattoo gets brought up just say it holds significant meaning and comes from a time in your life you don’t feel comfortable sharing yet. If yall aren’t exclusive and haven’t known each other for long then she should respect that as a decent partner. Your partner doesn’t have to know every bit of trauma about you to have a good relationship.
You should wait a bit. If she asks about the tattoo and what it means, you can tell her, but be very gentle breaking that news. You can tell her how you used to struggle with depression, and on that day, you had made up your mind to end it, but on that same day you chose life. Tell her what you have done to keep depression at bay, sustainably, and assure her that part of your life is closed. Be honest, but mainly reassuring. It’s something you SHOULD be honest about, but bringing it up out of the blue makes it sound like you’re still that person and you’re warning her that you might do it again.
I wouldn’t
Don’t you dare!
No.I would think about getting rid of the tattoo.Its bound to trigger questions and I wouldn’t want to be discussing my past mental health with any random who notices my tattoo.
If you have a tattoo of the date clearly you don’t mind discussing suicide/attempts- may as well get out in front of the topic
No, you keep that to yourself, that is your boss and this relationship is too early for that to be used for all not hatred if things don’t last. Far too early to being that vulnerable. Get yourself together, rectory the teepee for what it is, if she asks about the ink, tell her it’s too do with a date of awakening, or a pet or something that isn’t the truth. DO NOT REVERSAL YOURSELF TO BE THAT VULNERABLE SO EARLY ON IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
Nope. Women don’t like weak men.
Hey, Im a pickle, too. There ain’t no going back.
The rock is the past. The hard place is do you lie?
The middle is, wait until she asks. Be forever preparied with the answer.
If you come to a place where you can’t tell the truth, maybe there was not enough love for you to trust her with this secret any way.
Firstly, I’m so grateful you chose life! Nothing will ever be as bad today as the gift of tomorrow and an opportunity to start anew. Congratulations to you! 👑🙏💙
Secondly, it’s between you and your creator. You’re healed now, that person is no longer here, YOU ARE, and you’re amazing! Nothing to mention, its in the past, and can easily be left there. I wish you well.
No,no,no,no,no,no,no….. isn’t that a song?
imo it depends how recent your attempt was. and how long you’ve known her.
glad you’re still with us buddy
At some point sure.
If you truly are past the psychic pain that led you to that dark place, and have been for a while and there’s no need to early disclose a now irrelevant health problem. It is a part of who you are today, presumably a big part if you got a tattoo, so it merits sharing at some point for her to wholly see you
Nobody wants to hear that
Maybe later when you guys have been together longer but I’d only reveal something like that on a need to know basis