Would ask me what they think about something they wanted to talk about but when I wanted to talk about something they didn’t listen and would just stop the conversation and just start talking about themselves again.
Indifference, I don’t hold against people – I’m just one person in a large world. The indifference has got to be calculated before I take offense. Thus: listening to my store manager tell a colleague her previous cashier experience didn’t count toward her wages because the scales for weighing wholesale were different at the previous job. You can extrapolate how someone trained to make excuses like that will treat ANY inferior.
When they work you like a servant and then they complain about it that you are the problem lol and their whole family take a advantage of your kindness it’s shitty but
I was 7, he picked me up because his parents forced him to. I went with him because my mom said I had to. We sat all day in a greasy local pizza joint playing quick pick with the $20 my mom had given me to spend. Went home at the end of the day, he drank bud heavy’s, and I played in a cardboard refrigerator box until we both fell asleep.
I had a work bestie. She never was happy with the workplace and considered quitting. I talked to her about my concern that our friendship will end as soon as we don‘t work together anymore.
Guess what happened, as soon as we separated workplaces, she ghosted me about 6 months later (during the 6 months she very often started ignoring my texts or told me she needs more time before meeting). She knew what a horrible overthinker I am and that I need an explanation from people when they cut me off, so I knew that she didn‘t fucking care about me and my feelings.
When I stopped reaching out first… and the silence was louder than anything they could’ve said.
It’s a brutal feeling, but also a really freeing one once you see it clearly.
When Mom shrugged off her brother robbing her inheritance but became absolutely apoplectic I have puzzles left on the shelf at the family home, calling me “a burden” and “unfair” and many other things. She has said and done many things as bad or worse but this was the last straw for me.
She either doesn’t notice (or care) I’ve put maximum distance between us or does and refuses to acknowledge why I might feel this way.
When my drunk BIL threw a drink in my face at a wedding and my sister told me I would never get an apology and to just get over. And the rest of my sisters told me not to talk about it. Haven’t seen them since.
Edit: This was the straw that broke the camel’s back. Not the first problem.
I was getting screamed at for something I didn’t even do by a girl who was basically the leader of our “friend group” they all knew I was autistic and had a massive problem with loud noise, not to mention the girl being really cruel.
Not a single one of them said anything, they didn’t even look, they pretended nothing was happening.
I had to get sent home, after completing shutting down and going mute for well over two hours.
When I asked one of my closest friends in the group why she didn’t do anything she claimed she didn’t like getting involved in drama
Three of them sent me a text, the drama girl just told me “if you’re coming back we have a sub for t.d” another girl sent me a text saying the girl has gone a little too far but it was understandable because I shouldn’t have done what I did (I didn’t even bloody do it) only one of them sent me a text asking me if I was okay and saying the girl shouldn’t have done that
When I laid my feelings out- calmly, clearly, and with full honesty- and instead of even trying to meet me halfway, he gave me a dismissive, surface-level response.
No accountability. No real reflection. Just silence dressed up as ‘sorry.’
That’s when it clicked, someone who truly cares doesn’t stay silent when it matters. They don’t let you stand alone at the table you both built.
And when they do- you stop waiting for them to catch up. You stand up. You walk away.
A colleague was put up by our boss to be extra nice to me, because I was a new hire, but had 13 years experience previously.
I’d just lost my last parent, my mom, after taking care of her for 12 years, alone, in the middle of nowhere.
I opened up to her, thinking we were fast friends. Over Summer break I figured we see each other, sine we spent so much time together at work, her coming by my classroom, telling her about my family, my experience, being encouraging. She was seeing someone, so I figure what’s the harm?
Well, after a lot of asking, we finally had lunch. Thing is, another female colleague was with her. I felt like I wasn’t trustworthy or something. So we eat. It’s okay and everything,but all we talk about is shop! I thought we’d share break stories or something….kinda bond…but no. It was weird.
I suggested we go bowling. It was hot. So we go.
I paid for three games for us. My “friend” asked “Are you ballin’?” I really didn’t get the reference and just said “”I guess so.”
Later on I wanted to let her know I missed her over the break.
“You know…I really did miss you.” (I’d texted it earlier that Summer.)
Suddenly there was a chill. “Did you miss [the other colleague] too?”
“No…We don’t cross paths that often.”
Things felt weird. There was more silence than usual. I tried to mend things…I mentioned how I missed out talks and just seeing each other at work. “We’re friend’s right?”
“So long as you’re not catching feelings….”
I’d never heard that phrase before, but the way she said it, it couldn’t be good.
I went on. I was trying to be reassuring. I brought up the interactions, the fact she was so nice to me etc….
“THAT’S MY JOB!!!”
Despite trying to make amends, thinking somehow I’d ruined everything, despite her saying “We’re good” numerous times, she’s pretty much cut out. The last phone convo, as I was trying to relay how I viewed seeing the colleague there, like a chaperone, she hung up on me.
It was only after that the boss said “I put her up to it, because you were new, and I thought it would help.”
So…the whole thing was fake. During that last phone call she had even said she knew she was being cruel to me since that bowling alley thing.
Five years too late. It was five years of my marriage and the downfall of it. It was about ten years ago.
There are two good things that won’t make me say that it was wasted time. Good memories from “before” and our 15yo daughter, which is my treasure, my best “talking buddy”, we share hobbies and often were “partners in crime” when it comes to some guilty pleasures. She inherited all those good things I love in her mother’s personality. She makes me feel young, by combining hopes for great future for her, satisfying and refreshing present moments, with the best memories of the past.
When I told my (now ex) that I was upset that she was being cold and distant, and I felt neglected. She said, “I hope you won’t always feel that way.” – I’d had moments where I felt she didn’t care, including a few times in the last 4 months, but this was when it became certain.
Practically no communication, never texts first and when he/she does, has long gaps between replies, doesn’t invite you anywhere, she/he’s not interested in you and your life…
When I called my ex bf because I got sexually assaulted a couple days after we broke up and he was like ‘why did you call me’ and could not care any less
I had just given birth to my second daughter in under 18 months. I was hurting and overwhelmed. Id had two abdominal surgeries in the space of 3 days.
My exhusband immediately started talking about trying again for a boy. I just started crying. I said “look around! The house is a mess! I haven’t slept for more than 2 hours in a week. I can’t have another baby! This is not a well run machine! I’m drowning! If you want another baby someday you need to help me more around here. I can’t do it all myself.”
He nodded thoughtfully, looked me right in the eye and said “I know. I know you can’t. But I wish you could. There are single mothers out there who do it all themselves, why can’t you?”
And that was the moment I realized my marriage was over.
When he didn’t want to spend time together the night before I went away for four days because “I’ll see you in a few days”
When he didn’t want to talk about our future together because he felt “pressured” – we had been dating for over a year and just moved in together
When he wouldn’t say “I love you” after a year of dating
When he told me I didn’t care about his feelings because I was upset this had all happened within two weeks. Mind you one of his reasons for not wanting to talk that week was that it was 4/20 and he wanted to just enjoy that without stress.
When he kept saying “we’ll talk tomorrow” for a week straight.
When he “didn’t think I was serious” when I told him I was done after that comment of me not caring about his feelings and moving out and breaking up. Only then did he say he loved me. Which I told him “no you don’t or you would have said it long before I left”.
Anyways now in a very healthy relationship with someone who enjoys talking about our future, who tells me he loves me ten times a day, who is excited to marry me, who has been nothing short of amazing the past two years.
Relationships ending sucks but you learn what you don’t want in your next one, but also what you do want and don’t need to lower your standards anymore.
I’ve told people I didn’t care about them when I did. And told them i cared when I didn’t. And I’m certain that you’ve done the same. That’s just people?
It does hurt more when you cared and you find out they didn’t.
But you can kind of console yourself in fact that it’s not the end of the world.
And it’s nowhere near as bad as when you lose someone who you love. That’s a pain I can’t describe.
Tried calling my boyfriend (now ex) when I lost my job. He wouldn’t pick up the phone, just sent a text saying he’s going out with his friend tonight he’ll call tomorrow. Meanwhile my mum and my friends we’re all on the phone checking I was okay and lifting my spirits
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when im seeking for emergency help, but i got no response received
when i realized there’s 8 billion plus people in the world nobody care about you and nobody cares who you are
When I go out with someone and that person prefers to talk on the phone or mind their own business instead of being with me
Six days ago
Would ask me what they think about something they wanted to talk about but when I wanted to talk about something they didn’t listen and would just stop the conversation and just start talking about themselves again.
Indifference, I don’t hold against people – I’m just one person in a large world. The indifference has got to be calculated before I take offense. Thus: listening to my store manager tell a colleague her previous cashier experience didn’t count toward her wages because the scales for weighing wholesale were different at the previous job. You can extrapolate how someone trained to make excuses like that will treat ANY inferior.
HAHAHA!
I realized recently that I’m just a moped to my gf.
When they work you like a servant and then they complain about it that you are the problem lol and their whole family take a advantage of your kindness it’s shitty but
I was 7, he picked me up because his parents forced him to. I went with him because my mom said I had to. We sat all day in a greasy local pizza joint playing quick pick with the $20 my mom had given me to spend. Went home at the end of the day, he drank bud heavy’s, and I played in a cardboard refrigerator box until we both fell asleep.
When she walked out the door with her clothes and never came back.
I had a work bestie. She never was happy with the workplace and considered quitting. I talked to her about my concern that our friendship will end as soon as we don‘t work together anymore.
Guess what happened, as soon as we separated workplaces, she ghosted me about 6 months later (during the 6 months she very often started ignoring my texts or told me she needs more time before meeting). She knew what a horrible overthinker I am and that I need an explanation from people when they cut me off, so I knew that she didn‘t fucking care about me and my feelings.
When she cares more if her work colleagues like her than saving the relationship she forgot about
When everything ells is more important and I Get treated as if im always available for Them – but they are never available for me.
When they stopped caring about how their actions affected me while I was still careful to account for them when I did things.
A prompted apology
When I stopped reaching out first… and the silence was louder than anything they could’ve said.
It’s a brutal feeling, but also a really freeing one once you see it clearly.
When they stopped making an effort, but still expected me to always be there.
When Mom shrugged off her brother robbing her inheritance but became absolutely apoplectic I have puzzles left on the shelf at the family home, calling me “a burden” and “unfair” and many other things. She has said and done many things as bad or worse but this was the last straw for me.
She either doesn’t notice (or care) I’ve put maximum distance between us or does and refuses to acknowledge why I might feel this way.
When they stopped checking in, even after I made it clear I needed support.
When I was a five year old little girl. I am now 62 and still feel the same.
Went on a weekend trip. Found a lovely venue and square dancing. She danced all night with a stranger and ignored me.
When I noticed I was always the one making the effort
When my drunk BIL threw a drink in my face at a wedding and my sister told me I would never get an apology and to just get over. And the rest of my sisters told me not to talk about it. Haven’t seen them since.
Edit: This was the straw that broke the camel’s back. Not the first problem.
I was getting screamed at for something I didn’t even do by a girl who was basically the leader of our “friend group” they all knew I was autistic and had a massive problem with loud noise, not to mention the girl being really cruel.
Not a single one of them said anything, they didn’t even look, they pretended nothing was happening.
I had to get sent home, after completing shutting down and going mute for well over two hours.
When I asked one of my closest friends in the group why she didn’t do anything she claimed she didn’t like getting involved in drama
Three of them sent me a text, the drama girl just told me “if you’re coming back we have a sub for t.d” another girl sent me a text saying the girl has gone a little too far but it was understandable because I shouldn’t have done what I did (I didn’t even bloody do it) only one of them sent me a text asking me if I was okay and saying the girl shouldn’t have done that
When I laid my feelings out- calmly, clearly, and with full honesty- and instead of even trying to meet me halfway, he gave me a dismissive, surface-level response.
No accountability. No real reflection. Just silence dressed up as ‘sorry.’
That’s when it clicked, someone who truly cares doesn’t stay silent when it matters. They don’t let you stand alone at the table you both built.
And when they do- you stop waiting for them to catch up. You stand up. You walk away.
A colleague was put up by our boss to be extra nice to me, because I was a new hire, but had 13 years experience previously.
I’d just lost my last parent, my mom, after taking care of her for 12 years, alone, in the middle of nowhere.
I opened up to her, thinking we were fast friends. Over Summer break I figured we see each other, sine we spent so much time together at work, her coming by my classroom, telling her about my family, my experience, being encouraging. She was seeing someone, so I figure what’s the harm?
Well, after a lot of asking, we finally had lunch. Thing is, another female colleague was with her. I felt like I wasn’t trustworthy or something. So we eat. It’s okay and everything,but all we talk about is shop! I thought we’d share break stories or something….kinda bond…but no. It was weird.
I suggested we go bowling. It was hot. So we go.
I paid for three games for us. My “friend” asked “Are you ballin’?” I really didn’t get the reference and just said “”I guess so.”
Later on I wanted to let her know I missed her over the break.
“You know…I really did miss you.” (I’d texted it earlier that Summer.)
Suddenly there was a chill. “Did you miss [the other colleague] too?”
“No…We don’t cross paths that often.”
Things felt weird. There was more silence than usual. I tried to mend things…I mentioned how I missed out talks and just seeing each other at work. “We’re friend’s right?”
“So long as you’re not catching feelings….”
I’d never heard that phrase before, but the way she said it, it couldn’t be good.
I went on. I was trying to be reassuring. I brought up the interactions, the fact she was so nice to me etc….
“THAT’S MY JOB!!!”
Despite trying to make amends, thinking somehow I’d ruined everything, despite her saying “We’re good” numerous times, she’s pretty much cut out. The last phone convo, as I was trying to relay how I viewed seeing the colleague there, like a chaperone, she hung up on me.
It was only after that the boss said “I put her up to it, because you were new, and I thought it would help.”
So…the whole thing was fake. During that last phone call she had even said she knew she was being cruel to me since that bowling alley thing.
Five years too late. It was five years of my marriage and the downfall of it. It was about ten years ago.
There are two good things that won’t make me say that it was wasted time. Good memories from “before” and our 15yo daughter, which is my treasure, my best “talking buddy”, we share hobbies and often were “partners in crime” when it comes to some guilty pleasures. She inherited all those good things I love in her mother’s personality. She makes me feel young, by combining hopes for great future for her, satisfying and refreshing present moments, with the best memories of the past.
When I told my (now ex) that I was upset that she was being cold and distant, and I felt neglected. She said, “I hope you won’t always feel that way.” – I’d had moments where I felt she didn’t care, including a few times in the last 4 months, but this was when it became certain.
when they are agreeable when they talk to you and then turn on you in the presence of others
Two days ago.
Practically no communication, never texts first and when he/she does, has long gaps between replies, doesn’t invite you anywhere, she/he’s not interested in you and your life…
When I called my ex bf because I got sexually assaulted a couple days after we broke up and he was like ‘why did you call me’ and could not care any less
When they don’t reach out to meet up anymore.
When you let them go and they DONT come back to you
I had just given birth to my second daughter in under 18 months. I was hurting and overwhelmed. Id had two abdominal surgeries in the space of 3 days.
My exhusband immediately started talking about trying again for a boy. I just started crying. I said “look around! The house is a mess! I haven’t slept for more than 2 hours in a week. I can’t have another baby! This is not a well run machine! I’m drowning! If you want another baby someday you need to help me more around here. I can’t do it all myself.”
He nodded thoughtfully, looked me right in the eye and said “I know. I know you can’t. But I wish you could. There are single mothers out there who do it all themselves, why can’t you?”
And that was the moment I realized my marriage was over.
When they said to me “stephen, I fucking hate you”, and my name isn’t even Stephen.
When their actions didn’t match their words anymore
When he didn’t want to spend time together the night before I went away for four days because “I’ll see you in a few days”
When he didn’t want to talk about our future together because he felt “pressured” – we had been dating for over a year and just moved in together
When he wouldn’t say “I love you” after a year of dating
When he told me I didn’t care about his feelings because I was upset this had all happened within two weeks. Mind you one of his reasons for not wanting to talk that week was that it was 4/20 and he wanted to just enjoy that without stress.
When he kept saying “we’ll talk tomorrow” for a week straight.
When he “didn’t think I was serious” when I told him I was done after that comment of me not caring about his feelings and moving out and breaking up. Only then did he say he loved me. Which I told him “no you don’t or you would have said it long before I left”.
Anyways now in a very healthy relationship with someone who enjoys talking about our future, who tells me he loves me ten times a day, who is excited to marry me, who has been nothing short of amazing the past two years.
Relationships ending sucks but you learn what you don’t want in your next one, but also what you do want and don’t need to lower your standards anymore.
I’ve told people I didn’t care about them when I did. And told them i cared when I didn’t. And I’m certain that you’ve done the same. That’s just people?
It does hurt more when you cared and you find out they didn’t.
But you can kind of console yourself in fact that it’s not the end of the world.
And it’s nowhere near as bad as when you lose someone who you love. That’s a pain I can’t describe.
When I’m his girlfriend and I hang out at his house with him and all he does is ignore me and watch youtube videos for 5 hours.
When I was always the one initiating plans and they never seemed to make an effort.
When we broke up. I was devastated and he was ecstatic.
Tried calling my boyfriend (now ex) when I lost my job. He wouldn’t pick up the phone, just sent a text saying he’s going out with his friend tonight he’ll call tomorrow. Meanwhile my mum and my friends we’re all on the phone checking I was okay and lifting my spirits