How often do you see your parents?

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If your parents are still alive, how far away do you live and how often do you see them? Feeling guilty…

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  2. apeliott Avatar

    Once a year.

    They live 6,000 miles away.

  3. Necrosius7 Avatar

    All my grandparents are gone and my Dad passed away, while my mom still lives in my town I see her around once a week.

  4. Dogtown5157 Avatar

    Mom once a week, usually Dad, I haven’t seen him in 5 years

  5. ScalesOfAnubis19 Avatar

    Minimum monthly. Usually more like every couple of weeks. Talk to them about every other day.

  6. Itisthatbo1 Avatar

    I see my dad once a week, I haven’t visited my mom in about 5 years

  7. Public-Philosophy580 Avatar

    My Mom is gone ❤️and I see my dad everyday ❤️

  8. EASK8ER52 Avatar

    Way too much. I hope it stops

  9. certainly_not_david Avatar

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  10. xPadawanRyan Avatar

    I live like, a half hour bus ride (like, a ten minute drive, but I don’t drive) from my mom. I see her every two weeks or so. She invites me and my sister (and my toddler nieces) over for lunch every second Wednesday, and I imagine in the summer that my teenage niece will also be in attendance (but during the school year she is, of course, at school during lunch).

  11. Awesomejuggler20 Avatar

    Dad: every day usually. I live with him and my stepmom. Mom: every weekend or second weekend usually.

  12. sneezhousing Avatar

    3,000 miles away so maybe once a year

  13. Straight_Mistake7940 Avatar

    Once a week and all they talk about is my sisters kids, super annoying

  14. AssistantAcademic Avatar

    I hike with my dad every few weeks and have lunch with mom periodically

    Dad also helps with yard projects.

    I probably see them 3 times a month. But I’m GenX, my own family/life. I’m fortunate they’re only 30 minutes away.

  15. klaroline1 Avatar

    More than I’d like to…

    As for my dad, he’s dead.. so never.

  16. Jennyelf Avatar

    My 84 year old mother lives 2000 miles away. We video chat and have phone calls often.

  17. xdark_realityx Avatar

    I live in a self-contained flat on their property so I see them daily

  18. bibliophile222 Avatar

    I’m in VT. My mom is 90 minutes away in the same state, my dad is in AZ. I haven’t seen my dad since last summer, but I saw my mom today. I probably see my mom around 6 times a year.

  19. doot_youvebeenbooped Avatar

    Generally once a year. It’s the only time I ever get to go anywhere

  20. GothicMomLife Avatar

    I see my mom once every couple years, usually for a weekend. We live pretty far from each other but we call/text at least 3 times a week.

    I’m NC with my father as of a few months ago.

  21. Heelsbythebridge Avatar

    Never. We are estranged. I left when I was 21 (I’m 32 now).

  22. Soft_Enthusiasm7584 Avatar

    Once every 5 to 7 years and no more than a few days at a time

  23. Zen_Badger Avatar

    Mum lives on the other side of the country but I go to visit at least twice a year. Dad can go fuck himself. I won’t even go to his funeral when he kicks it.

  24. cuntybunty73 Avatar

    Every weekend usually

  25. Awaken_the_bacon Avatar

    In person? Together, at least once a month. I see my dad every weekend as he goes to my kids soccer game. Virtually? We FaceTime at least once a week to have “dinner”.

  26. PawsbeforePeople1313 Avatar

    Once a year for Mom. I don’t waste time seeing my “father”. Both were violent and abusive. If you ask them they were perfect parents and don’t understand why their kids don’t associate with them. I still have scars from them.

  27. Cool_Grapefruit_1939 Avatar

    I haven’t seen them in 10 and 8 years, something like that.

  28. AMinMY Avatar

    We’re on different continents which isn’t ideal, especially as they get older. I’ve spent about a week with them once a year for the last couple of years, but often gone 2-3 years without seeing each other. Never go more than a couple of days without speaking to my old man though.

  29. MershedPratooters Avatar

    My mom and dad didn’t want to raise me. My grandparents raised me but died like 16 years ago.

  30. azorianmilk Avatar

    Saw my mother in 2010 and my father in 2015.

  31. KimmyWex1972 Avatar

    My mom passed away last year so I now see just my dad about 2-3x a month, he lives almost 2hrs away.

  32. johnny_19800 Avatar

    We only see them once or twice a year, even though they live just 45 minutes away — and honestly, I’m good with that.

  33. trickyfelix Avatar

    Every day because I live with them

  34. Blondefarmgirl Avatar

    Dad has passed. I see mom every other day minimum. Sometimes more.

  35. CmlXjs Avatar

    Never. They’re living. They’re just shitty people.

  36. SheNickSun Avatar

    When they were living, I’d see them as much as possible. Lived about 10 miles away. I still miss them. 🙁

  37. Gwyrr Avatar

    Only when I sleep since they’re both pasted

  38. IncubusIncarnat Avatar

    I try to go home every year depending, but havent been since they started fling planes directly into obstacles.

  39. Designer-Pound6459 Avatar

    I’m 62. Have not seen nor spoken to my parents in 20 years. Yes, they’re both still alive. We just have nothing to say to each other.

  40. seneeb Avatar

    Cold stone is all I see

  41. No-Pomelo-3632 Avatar

    Every 3-4 months. They live 4 hours away. And it’s always me who has to go there. They don’t come to my house.

  42. Klem_Phandango Avatar

    I’ve cut my dad off and my mom lives in Scotland while I live in the US. I haven’t seen my mom in twenty years. I am moving over there at the end of the month and am already girding myself for the inevitable “You got so fat” and “Your hair is too long” comments. It was a rocky separation but I hope it’s a good reunion.

  43. Buttcrack15 Avatar

    Weekly or more. Same with my in-laws.

  44. Real23Phil Avatar

    Mum twice a week, dad not in 20 years

  45. LemonLily1 Avatar

    Every day. We live together. So glad to be with them

  46. PainterFew2080 Avatar

    My parents, every 3-4 weeks.
    My ILs-too much. I don’t care if I never see them again.

  47. Insufficient_Mind_ Avatar

    I see my mom everyday, my dad I see once or twice a year.

  48. Dogmycat16 Avatar

    My dad 2-3 times a week. My mother I go months sometimes without seeing or speaking to.

  49. moon_violettt Avatar

    everyday (unless they go on short trips), I still live under their house and am not in college yet

  50. North_Artichoke_6721 Avatar

    About once a week. We get along pretty well and they live 30 minutes away. We usually try to have dinner together every so often.

  51. Ready-Ad-436 Avatar

    My mom almost every day, my dad? Maybe once every other month

  52. DaMoonMoon26 Avatar

    I haven’t seen mine for 2 years and 3 months. We live 4000 miles apart. They don’t accept me because I am trans and gay. I still miss them though. I want to go visit for my siblings’ sakes but tickets are so expensive just to fly across an ocean. I don’t know when I will see them again and it all makes me so so sad. I never wanted it to be this way, breaks my heart daily.

  53. Fiendfyre831 Avatar

    I live at home so every day

  54. Beginning_Cap_8614 Avatar

    My dad, once a week. My mom, I haven’t seen in years. (It’s stressful to be around her.)

  55. Personal_Conflict_49 Avatar

    Every day. I also see my Grandpa every day and sometimes twice a day. And I see my sister a few days a week. My mom is 14 minutes away. My Dad is 10 minutes away. My Grandpa is 4 minutes away. And my sister is either 12 minutes away or 1:45 minutes away. Love them all so much 🩵

  56. gummycluster069 Avatar

    I see my mom just about everyday because we live with her. I see my dad probably every 3-4 months because he lives in another state.

  57. hunterfiftyone Avatar

    moved from their house when i was 13. havent seen,heard from, or communicated in any way since.

  58. HumanMycologist5795 Avatar

    I see my mom once every other week, perhaps. She lives about 90 minutes away. Sister and her family are about once per year. They live 15 hours away.

    I try to talk to both at least twice per week.

    Sending hugs to all those who have at least one shitty parent and major props for doing what you do.

  59. meme219219 Avatar

    Live 10 minutes away and see then multiple times a week

  60. Soft-Routine1860 Avatar

    My mother, once every few years. Distance- over 2000 miles.

    Father- haven’t seen in 13 years. Distance- 800 miles.

  61. pikapalooza Avatar

    My family lives about 2.5/3 hours away. I usually see them quarterly. Honestly, my dad drives me nuts though so I can only stand being around him for a few hours at best. After that, he starts saying things that are way over the line and then he gets made that I get offended. I usually call my mom when I’m driving home from work now (since it’s an hour+)

  62. Captn_Insanso Avatar

    Father is deceased. I see my mother 1-2x a year and she lives 2.5 hours away.

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  64. landob Avatar

    Still in the same city as them.

    At the very least every other weekend.

  65. jmkul Avatar

    They sold the farm and moved back to my ‘big smoke’, and now live about half an hour drive from me. They’re around 80yo, and we speak daily. I see them at least every Saturday (lunch to dinner). I’m dreading the day when they’re not longer here

  66. LivingonWater Avatar

    Both parents expired long before the seventies ended i miss them both but both of my parents were flawed, doing the best they knew how

  67. Munchkin531 Avatar

    I’m 40 and I see my parents 4 times a month, sometimes more depending on our schedule. The same with my in-laws. We’ll probably get together more often in the summer. They both live 20 minutes away. I love my parents and we have a great relationship. My mom will be having a hysterectomy at the end of May, so I will be helping her.

  68. MrsMethodMZA Avatar

    I see my dad every couple of weeks and he lives about twenty minutes away. I see my mom every couple of months and she lives about two hours away.

  69. reidybobeidy89 Avatar

    Once a year? We live in the states they are in Ireland and I travel back once a year

  70. Sir-Beardless Avatar

    Every few months, when they visit.

  71. ivthreadp110 Avatar

    For more than the last decade after graduating college I go over for family dinner every Sunday my dad’s a good cook. And I enjoy my parents company. No not every Sunday if they’re out of town or I’m out of town or something of course but in general.

  72. nauset3tt Avatar

    Dad overdosed. Step dad sucked and recently died- drank himself to death. Stepmom, a year ago over a difference of opinion on how cool addiction is, and

    My mom, every week because she cares for my daughter Monday and Tuesday. ❤️

  73. chilibeana Avatar

    We built our house 21 years ago to be close to my parents. Saw them 3 or 4 times a week. My dad died in 2016. We still see my mom 3 times each week.

  74. shouldbeamirrorball Avatar

    holidays usually… we don’t rlly have a close relationship as she does with my sister 🤷‍♀️ i don’t mind it since we had too much issues back then

  75. sxyvitaminD Avatar

    I still live with them

  76. mute-ant1 Avatar

    never. they died in a plane crash in Mexico

  77. Hot-Temperature-4629 Avatar

    Father: haven’t seen since 1998

    Mother: haven’t seen since 2018.

  78. JuJuBug1996 Avatar

    I live at home still, I’m 28…I love them a lot & love living at home.

  79. TheRegalYeti Avatar
  80. Jefffahfffah Avatar

    Mom and stepdad used to live 7 hours away so I saw them maybe twice a year. Dad and step-mom lived under 2hrs away and id see them like once every 4 to 6 weeks.

    I moved about 1200mi away from all of them so now it’s like once a year in general.

  81. Vicky-Momm Avatar

    Mom lives about 2 miles away i see her every week but talk to her on the phone every day

  82. Ok_Piano_4144 Avatar

    My parents are a 4 hour drive from where I live. They come visit at least every couple of months. My brother and his family, and my two aunts, live in the same city as me, and my parents are retired, so it is easy for them to come and stay a few days. We are a close family (including my two aunts). I am going on a vacation with my Mom in June.

  83. Strawberry-lem0nade Avatar

    At least once a week, they live a 5 minute drive away

  84. magdawgkilla Avatar

    I live about four hours away from them. Since I’ve moved (2 years ago) I’ve been able to see them 3 times together, and my mom 5 times. I would love to see them more.

  85. Deeptrench34 Avatar

    Haven’t seen my mother in about 5 years and I haven’t seen my father in what must be 15+. They’re still alive. It just never worked out between me and either of them.

  86. bananajr6000 Avatar

    Until they died, I had less than zero interest in seeing my father. I tried to visit my mother about every three months or so, but she was always busy with her religion on Saturdays, and we had to leave on Sunday by late morning to get home for work the next day

    I talked to my wife about going up on a holiday weekend to spend more time with her, and my wife knocked some sense into me with the phrase, “why would you give up more free time when she won’t make time for you?”

    I only saw her when other family living closer to her had a family event

    While I was crushed when she passed, I was ever upset that she valued religion over my family. Who were obviously the black sheep because we were no longer in her tribe

  87. LOUD_NOISES05 Avatar

    28M. Still stuck living with them. WAY TOO MUCH, NEED A BREAK

  88. porkchop_d_clown Avatar

    Well, dad died almost 30 years ago… I haven’t been to the grave since the funeral because that’s where I am on the spectrum. Dream about him tho. Mom, I talk to her from time to time. I feel bad that I’m not a better son but, again, that’s where I am on the spectrum. Fortunately, my sisters can do what I cannot.

  89. Rude-Road3322 Avatar

    Never: they died long time ago.

  90. Sufficient-Joke63 Avatar

    Both have passed away. So never.

  91. how_very_dare_you_ Avatar

    1200km away. Twice a year on average

  92. taniamorse85 Avatar

    My mom and I live together. My father died almost a decade ago, though I’d been NC with him for about a dozen years before that.

  93. monkey_monkey_monkey Avatar

    My parents are still together and live about 90 minutes away. I see maybe every 2 or 3 months

  94. Lopsided_Hat_835 Avatar

    I see my mom about every three or four years I live in a different country. I usually see my dad once a year.

  95. Intelligent-Shop6482 Avatar

    Once every couple of years, I live in Australia she in the UK.

  96. Angelwithashotgun4 Avatar

    Like once or twice a year. We don’t live in the same state and I can’t take off work

  97. Bird_Brain4101112 Avatar

    Once or twice a year. mom lives 1500 miles away half way across the US. Dad lives 2400 miles away in another country.

  98. frostednippleboy Avatar

    Every few months but call them weekly! My parents are my rocks and I’m incredibly lucky that they’re still happily married and supportive of me and my little bro. Most people my age (early-mid 20s) don’t have that so I’m eternally grateful.

  99. pappadopalus Avatar

    Once to twice a week typically, only 15 min drive, sometimes less when I am really busy

  100. motioninblack Avatar

    I see my mom daily. I haven’t seen my dad in about 12 years.

  101. Kelliesrm26 Avatar

    I talk to my mum most days. Mostly see them if there is something on as I take them to their appointments or do anything they really need. I don’t live far from them so I can be there if needed. My parents aren’t elderly, I just do a lot to help them out.

  102. aprilmarina Avatar

    I don’t see them, they’re gone

  103. 9Sirena Avatar

    Every weekend

  104. scottwax Avatar

    My Mom has passed, my Dad remarried and lives about 100 miles away. I usually get down there 2-3 times a year but they travel a lot so it’s tough to coordinate. They come up a couple times a year.

  105. I-own-a-shovel Avatar

    Every week or every two week. We live 5 min appart.

  106. BrooklynNotNY Avatar

    I live about 25 minutes away and see them probably weekly.

  107. Godawgs1009 Avatar

    4 or more times per year. We’re close, and I’m glad for that.

  108. raven_darkseid Avatar

    I live 3 miles or so from my parents. I typically see them about once a week, maybe once every other week. I don’t really talk to my mom much between that time, but I text with my dad a few times a week.

    My MIL lives 14 miles away. We only see her once a month or less. I wish we saw her more, though. She is the best MIL a girl could ask for.

  109. RaggedyAnne0528 Avatar

    My dad lives a mile away. I try to see him every few days, and have breakfast with him every other week or so. It would definitely be more if my stepmother wasn’t a monster.

  110. Spiritual_Lemonade Avatar

    Let’s go with twice a month on average. She lives 20 minutes away

  111. lv8_StAr Avatar

    About every month or so, maybe every couple months

  112. JesusDied4U316 Avatar

    I saw my dad in march 2022. I saw my mom new years 2024.

  113. gemlist Avatar

    Never… the best decision I ever made to cut contact

  114. uglymiddleagedloser Avatar

    I havent seen my mom in about 2 years. We live in the same town. We exchange a text or two every couple months.

    My dad has been dead for 13 years.

  115. Global-Meal-2403 Avatar

    Mom: once every 2 weeks, she’s 45 mins away.
    Dad: once every 2 months. He’s 3 hours away and won’t come to my place or meet halfway.

  116. Zarko291 Avatar

    My mom has full blown Alzheimer’s and I visit her every Sunday after church.

    My dad is in a wheelchair and is a miserable, grumpy old man. I see him once a week too so I can write his checks and make sure he’s got food for the week.

  117. chrisvai Avatar

    Every 2 weeks and only because we all work full time otherwise I’d see them weekly. They live about an hour away though so at least get to see them when I want.

  118. OOOdragonessOOO Avatar

    3 hrs away, never. they’re abusive

  119. Collierkid Avatar

    Not often enough

    In the hospital with my mom right now and this is unfortunately the most time I’ve been to spend with her in a while.

  120. oldfatguy62 Avatar

    Both have passed. Miss them every day

  121. ghetto_breadstick Avatar

    We live in different cities about 40 minutes from each other. I go see them once or twice a week ❤️ I spend some weekends there too. Or they come here and hangout with me <3

  122. Rich-Contribution-84 Avatar

    I can drive two hours to see my parents.

    I talk to them over text nearly every day.

    I see them once or twice a month. Sometimes more.

  123. CluckasaurusRex Avatar

    Live less than a mile from my dad and I see him about once a week but text almost every day. If I don’t hear from him for a day after a text I’ll ask a question he has to answer to make sure he isn’t incapacitated.

    Mom died four years ago Jan

  124. fanacapoopan Avatar

    My dad died last year. I take the train to see my mother every other weekend. My sister sees her on the weekends I don’t.

  125. Physical_Complex_891 Avatar

    Weekly, but we bought the house next door and have a great relationship.

  126. supersaiyan-1992 Avatar

    Once ever two months

  127. Yakuza-wolf_kiwami Avatar

    My mom, every weekend

    My dad, once a month

  128. Motor-Fix-8456 Avatar

    Every few months. Always for holidays and birthdays. I’d like to more. I always feel guilty too after a month has passed and I don’t see them. They are separated and they live about 10-15 minutes from me. I love them so much.

  129. nineoctopii Avatar

    Every day/other day. They’re my neighbors.

  130. ninetiesqueen Avatar

    Every day. Dads in jail (so not him) but my mom lives right next door to me so I see her every day 🩷

  131. nobodyyouknow79 Avatar

    See my mother every day. I drive her back and forth to work. It’s only a 15-minute drive, so it’s not a big deal.