If your parents are still alive, how far away do you live and how often do you see them? Feeling guilty…
How often do you see your parents?
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If your parents are still alive, how far away do you live and how often do you see them? Feeling guilty…
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Once a year.
They live 6,000 miles away.
never
All my grandparents are gone and my Dad passed away, while my mom still lives in my town I see her around once a week.
Daily.
Mom once a week, usually Dad, I haven’t seen him in 5 years
Minimum monthly. Usually more like every couple of weeks. Talk to them about every other day.
I see my dad once a week, I haven’t visited my mom in about 5 years
My Mom is gone ❤️and I see my dad everyday ❤️
Way too much. I hope it stops
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I live like, a half hour bus ride (like, a ten minute drive, but I don’t drive) from my mom. I see her every two weeks or so. She invites me and my sister (and my toddler nieces) over for lunch every second Wednesday, and I imagine in the summer that my teenage niece will also be in attendance (but during the school year she is, of course, at school during lunch).
Dad: every day usually. I live with him and my stepmom. Mom: every weekend or second weekend usually.
3,000 miles away so maybe once a year
Once a week and all they talk about is my sisters kids, super annoying
Never
I hike with my dad every few weeks and have lunch with mom periodically
Dad also helps with yard projects.
I probably see them 3 times a month. But I’m GenX, my own family/life. I’m fortunate they’re only 30 minutes away.
More than I’d like to…
As for my dad, he’s dead.. so never.
My 84 year old mother lives 2000 miles away. We video chat and have phone calls often.
I live in a self-contained flat on their property so I see them daily
I’m in VT. My mom is 90 minutes away in the same state, my dad is in AZ. I haven’t seen my dad since last summer, but I saw my mom today. I probably see my mom around 6 times a year.
Generally once a year. It’s the only time I ever get to go anywhere
I see my mom once every couple years, usually for a weekend. We live pretty far from each other but we call/text at least 3 times a week.
I’m NC with my father as of a few months ago.
Never. We are estranged. I left when I was 21 (I’m 32 now).
Once every 5 to 7 years and no more than a few days at a time
Mum lives on the other side of the country but I go to visit at least twice a year. Dad can go fuck himself. I won’t even go to his funeral when he kicks it.
Every weekend usually
In person? Together, at least once a month. I see my dad every weekend as he goes to my kids soccer game. Virtually? We FaceTime at least once a week to have “dinner”.
Once a year for Mom. I don’t waste time seeing my “father”. Both were violent and abusive. If you ask them they were perfect parents and don’t understand why their kids don’t associate with them. I still have scars from them.
I haven’t seen them in 10 and 8 years, something like that.
We’re on different continents which isn’t ideal, especially as they get older. I’ve spent about a week with them once a year for the last couple of years, but often gone 2-3 years without seeing each other. Never go more than a couple of days without speaking to my old man though.
My mom and dad didn’t want to raise me. My grandparents raised me but died like 16 years ago.
Saw my mother in 2010 and my father in 2015.
My mom passed away last year so I now see just my dad about 2-3x a month, he lives almost 2hrs away.
We only see them once or twice a year, even though they live just 45 minutes away — and honestly, I’m good with that.
Every day because I live with them
Dad has passed. I see mom every other day minimum. Sometimes more.
Never. They’re living. They’re just shitty people.
When they were living, I’d see them as much as possible. Lived about 10 miles away. I still miss them. 🙁
Only when I sleep since they’re both pasted
I try to go home every year depending, but havent been since they started fling planes directly into obstacles.
I’m 62. Have not seen nor spoken to my parents in 20 years. Yes, they’re both still alive. We just have nothing to say to each other.
Cold stone is all I see
Every 3-4 months. They live 4 hours away. And it’s always me who has to go there. They don’t come to my house.
I’ve cut my dad off and my mom lives in Scotland while I live in the US. I haven’t seen my mom in twenty years. I am moving over there at the end of the month and am already girding myself for the inevitable “You got so fat” and “Your hair is too long” comments. It was a rocky separation but I hope it’s a good reunion.
Weekly or more. Same with my in-laws.
Mum twice a week, dad not in 20 years
Every day. We live together. So glad to be with them
My parents, every 3-4 weeks.
My ILs-too much. I don’t care if I never see them again.
I see my mom everyday, my dad I see once or twice a year.
My dad 2-3 times a week. My mother I go months sometimes without seeing or speaking to.
Everyday
everyday (unless they go on short trips), I still live under their house and am not in college yet
About once a week. We get along pretty well and they live 30 minutes away. We usually try to have dinner together every so often.
My mom almost every day, my dad? Maybe once every other month
I haven’t seen mine for 2 years and 3 months. We live 4000 miles apart. They don’t accept me because I am trans and gay. I still miss them though. I want to go visit for my siblings’ sakes but tickets are so expensive just to fly across an ocean. I don’t know when I will see them again and it all makes me so so sad. I never wanted it to be this way, breaks my heart daily.
I live at home so every day
My dad, once a week. My mom, I haven’t seen in years. (It’s stressful to be around her.)
Every day. I also see my Grandpa every day and sometimes twice a day. And I see my sister a few days a week. My mom is 14 minutes away. My Dad is 10 minutes away. My Grandpa is 4 minutes away. And my sister is either 12 minutes away or 1:45 minutes away. Love them all so much 🩵
I see my mom just about everyday because we live with her. I see my dad probably every 3-4 months because he lives in another state.
moved from their house when i was 13. havent seen,heard from, or communicated in any way since.
I see my mom once every other week, perhaps. She lives about 90 minutes away. Sister and her family are about once per year. They live 15 hours away.
I try to talk to both at least twice per week.
Sending hugs to all those who have at least one shitty parent and major props for doing what you do.
Live 10 minutes away and see then multiple times a week
My mother, once every few years. Distance- over 2000 miles.
Father- haven’t seen in 13 years. Distance- 800 miles.
My family lives about 2.5/3 hours away. I usually see them quarterly. Honestly, my dad drives me nuts though so I can only stand being around him for a few hours at best. After that, he starts saying things that are way over the line and then he gets made that I get offended. I usually call my mom when I’m driving home from work now (since it’s an hour+)
Too often
Father is deceased. I see my mother 1-2x a year and she lives 2.5 hours away.
Three times a year.
Still in the same city as them.
At the very least every other weekend.
They sold the farm and moved back to my ‘big smoke’, and now live about half an hour drive from me. They’re around 80yo, and we speak daily. I see them at least every Saturday (lunch to dinner). I’m dreading the day when they’re not longer here
Both parents expired long before the seventies ended i miss them both but both of my parents were flawed, doing the best they knew how
I’m 40 and I see my parents 4 times a month, sometimes more depending on our schedule. The same with my in-laws. We’ll probably get together more often in the summer. They both live 20 minutes away. I love my parents and we have a great relationship. My mom will be having a hysterectomy at the end of May, so I will be helping her.
I see my dad every couple of weeks and he lives about twenty minutes away. I see my mom every couple of months and she lives about two hours away.
Once a year? We live in the states they are in Ireland and I travel back once a year
Every few months, when they visit.
For more than the last decade after graduating college I go over for family dinner every Sunday my dad’s a good cook. And I enjoy my parents company. No not every Sunday if they’re out of town or I’m out of town or something of course but in general.
Dad overdosed. Step dad sucked and recently died- drank himself to death. Stepmom, a year ago over a difference of opinion on how cool addiction is, and
My mom, every week because she cares for my daughter Monday and Tuesday. ❤️
We built our house 21 years ago to be close to my parents. Saw them 3 or 4 times a week. My dad died in 2016. We still see my mom 3 times each week.
holidays usually… we don’t rlly have a close relationship as she does with my sister 🤷♀️ i don’t mind it since we had too much issues back then
I still live with them
never. they died in a plane crash in Mexico
Nevermore
Father: haven’t seen since 1998
Mother: haven’t seen since 2018.
I live at home still, I’m 28…I love them a lot & love living at home.
Never (orphan)
Mom and stepdad used to live 7 hours away so I saw them maybe twice a year. Dad and step-mom lived under 2hrs away and id see them like once every 4 to 6 weeks.
I moved about 1200mi away from all of them so now it’s like once a year in general.
Mom lives about 2 miles away i see her every week but talk to her on the phone every day
My parents are a 4 hour drive from where I live. They come visit at least every couple of months. My brother and his family, and my two aunts, live in the same city as me, and my parents are retired, so it is easy for them to come and stay a few days. We are a close family (including my two aunts). I am going on a vacation with my Mom in June.
At least once a week, they live a 5 minute drive away
I live about four hours away from them. Since I’ve moved (2 years ago) I’ve been able to see them 3 times together, and my mom 5 times. I would love to see them more.
Haven’t seen my mother in about 5 years and I haven’t seen my father in what must be 15+. They’re still alive. It just never worked out between me and either of them.
Until they died, I had less than zero interest in seeing my father. I tried to visit my mother about every three months or so, but she was always busy with her religion on Saturdays, and we had to leave on Sunday by late morning to get home for work the next day
I talked to my wife about going up on a holiday weekend to spend more time with her, and my wife knocked some sense into me with the phrase, “why would you give up more free time when she won’t make time for you?”
I only saw her when other family living closer to her had a family event
While I was crushed when she passed, I was ever upset that she valued religion over my family. Who were obviously the black sheep because we were no longer in her tribe
28M. Still stuck living with them. WAY TOO MUCH, NEED A BREAK
Well, dad died almost 30 years ago… I haven’t been to the grave since the funeral because that’s where I am on the spectrum. Dream about him tho. Mom, I talk to her from time to time. I feel bad that I’m not a better son but, again, that’s where I am on the spectrum. Fortunately, my sisters can do what I cannot.
Never: they died long time ago.
Both have passed away. So never.
1200km away. Twice a year on average
My mom and I live together. My father died almost a decade ago, though I’d been NC with him for about a dozen years before that.
My parents are still together and live about 90 minutes away. I see maybe every 2 or 3 months
I see my mom about every three or four years I live in a different country. I usually see my dad once a year.
Once every couple of years, I live in Australia she in the UK.
Like once or twice a year. We don’t live in the same state and I can’t take off work
Once or twice a year. mom lives 1500 miles away half way across the US. Dad lives 2400 miles away in another country.
Every few months but call them weekly! My parents are my rocks and I’m incredibly lucky that they’re still happily married and supportive of me and my little bro. Most people my age (early-mid 20s) don’t have that so I’m eternally grateful.
Once to twice a week typically, only 15 min drive, sometimes less when I am really busy
I see my mom daily. I haven’t seen my dad in about 12 years.
I talk to my mum most days. Mostly see them if there is something on as I take them to their appointments or do anything they really need. I don’t live far from them so I can be there if needed. My parents aren’t elderly, I just do a lot to help them out.
I don’t see them, they’re gone
Every weekend
My Mom has passed, my Dad remarried and lives about 100 miles away. I usually get down there 2-3 times a year but they travel a lot so it’s tough to coordinate. They come up a couple times a year.
Every week or every two week. We live 5 min appart.
I live about 25 minutes away and see them probably weekly.
4 or more times per year. We’re close, and I’m glad for that.
I live 3 miles or so from my parents. I typically see them about once a week, maybe once every other week. I don’t really talk to my mom much between that time, but I text with my dad a few times a week.
My MIL lives 14 miles away. We only see her once a month or less. I wish we saw her more, though. She is the best MIL a girl could ask for.
My dad lives a mile away. I try to see him every few days, and have breakfast with him every other week or so. It would definitely be more if my stepmother wasn’t a monster.
Let’s go with twice a month on average. She lives 20 minutes away
About every month or so, maybe every couple months
I saw my dad in march 2022. I saw my mom new years 2024.
Never… the best decision I ever made to cut contact
I havent seen my mom in about 2 years. We live in the same town. We exchange a text or two every couple months.
My dad has been dead for 13 years.
Mom: once every 2 weeks, she’s 45 mins away.
Dad: once every 2 months. He’s 3 hours away and won’t come to my place or meet halfway.
My mom has full blown Alzheimer’s and I visit her every Sunday after church.
My dad is in a wheelchair and is a miserable, grumpy old man. I see him once a week too so I can write his checks and make sure he’s got food for the week.
Every 2 weeks and only because we all work full time otherwise I’d see them weekly. They live about an hour away though so at least get to see them when I want.
3 hrs away, never. they’re abusive
Not often enough
In the hospital with my mom right now and this is unfortunately the most time I’ve been to spend with her in a while.
Both have passed. Miss them every day
We live in different cities about 40 minutes from each other. I go see them once or twice a week ❤️ I spend some weekends there too. Or they come here and hangout with me <3
I can drive two hours to see my parents.
I talk to them over text nearly every day.
I see them once or twice a month. Sometimes more.
Live less than a mile from my dad and I see him about once a week but text almost every day. If I don’t hear from him for a day after a text I’ll ask a question he has to answer to make sure he isn’t incapacitated.
Mom died four years ago Jan
My dad died last year. I take the train to see my mother every other weekend. My sister sees her on the weekends I don’t.
Weekly, but we bought the house next door and have a great relationship.
Once ever two months
My mom, every weekend
My dad, once a month
Every few months. Always for holidays and birthdays. I’d like to more. I always feel guilty too after a month has passed and I don’t see them. They are separated and they live about 10-15 minutes from me. I love them so much.
Every day/other day. They’re my neighbors.
Every day. Dads in jail (so not him) but my mom lives right next door to me so I see her every day 🩷
Not enough
See my mother every day. I drive her back and forth to work. It’s only a 15-minute drive, so it’s not a big deal.