You are one step closer to having clearer criteria, filters or boundary. You also learn a bit about yourself and how you deal with such situations. Depending on what was the reason the date went badly, you might become more forgiving towards yourself or other people.
That was generic; in my particular case, the best “thing” to come from a bad date was a friend who later became a boyfriend.
From a string of subpar dates I’d recognised my tendency to please people, my need for affection and love, that I sometimes compromised my boundaries to have what I believed to be a “fun” time or a promise for something more. Afterwards I always felt so bad about myself, so I realised that I needed to grow. Would not have happened without the bad dates tbh
I had started talking to a guy and he invited me to a movie. It wasn’t officially labeled as a date, but I was interested in him and we were both single. The movie was god awful, and the guy himself came off really arrogant the whole time, so I knew immediately, I wouldn’t pursue anything romantically. Fast forward to a few weeks later, and he invited me to a hang out with one of his friends, where I met my husband.
Being aware of the utter ridiculousness of some people, and learning to view it as Not My Problem.
The forever entrenched misogynistic views they display proudly, the married men forgetting to remove their wedding rings and making some shit up to explain it, the NEGGING–especially from men I know were interested, being able to just roll my eyes at “I’m an alPha mAle/a Dom.”
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I got my weed dealer 🤣
funny story to tell another date 🤷🏻♀️
Learning from it. Figuring out what red flags to look out for and letting it teach you what you don’t want in a relationship.
Remembering you have standards and being smart enough to have learned from previous dates/ relationships.
Doggy bags.
Realizing that you’re learning from your mistakes and no longer ignoring red flags.. maturity.
You are one step closer to having clearer criteria, filters or boundary. You also learn a bit about yourself and how you deal with such situations. Depending on what was the reason the date went badly, you might become more forgiving towards yourself or other people.
That was generic; in my particular case, the best “thing” to come from a bad date was a friend who later became a boyfriend.
The stories you tell your gfs afterwards 💁🏽♀️
From a string of subpar dates I’d recognised my tendency to please people, my need for affection and love, that I sometimes compromised my boundaries to have what I believed to be a “fun” time or a promise for something more. Afterwards I always felt so bad about myself, so I realised that I needed to grow. Would not have happened without the bad dates tbh
Free dinner… and leftovers ✨🥰✨
I met my husband.
I had started talking to a guy and he invited me to a movie. It wasn’t officially labeled as a date, but I was interested in him and we were both single. The movie was god awful, and the guy himself came off really arrogant the whole time, so I knew immediately, I wouldn’t pursue anything romantically. Fast forward to a few weeks later, and he invited me to a hang out with one of his friends, where I met my husband.
learning what a bad date is
Me
Realizing my standards were way too low and immediately raising them like rent prices
A story to share and hopefully one day laugh about.
Being aware of the utter ridiculousness of some people, and learning to view it as Not My Problem.
The forever entrenched misogynistic views they display proudly, the married men forgetting to remove their wedding rings and making some shit up to explain it, the NEGGING–especially from men I know were interested, being able to just roll my eyes at “I’m an alPha mAle/a Dom.”