He was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on January 14th. We were told he had 9-12 months left, but the cancer is progressing much faster than we expected. Because he’s a cocaine addict, alcoholic, and marijuana user, he can’t receive treatment. His body is too weak from all the substances he’s taken over the years, and any treatment would only speed up his decline.
My (F17) dad (M61) only has 1-2 months left to live. AMA
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I don’t have any questions, but I am a specialist nurse regularly dealing with pancreatic cancer patients.
I am so so sorry you and your dad are going through this. It’s a horrible disease and I hope you have a good support system around you both. I’m thinking of you, it’s ok not to be strong all of the time.
My dad was just diagnosed with stage 4 esophageal cancer and he got sober 2.5 years ago. His health had never recovered from his addiction so I worry how quickly the cancer will take him 😥
So many mixed emotions come from a parent who is an addict. 2.5 years ago he didn’t care if he lived or not now he’s dying.
I’m sorry, my lovey. I’m 33 and my dad has just been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. I don’t feel old enough to lose him. It sounds like you must have had a difficult relationship with your dad in the past. Although the next few months may be devastating for you, I hope you have some cherished memories, and I wish you peace, strength, healing, and success for your future
Im sorry. The 1st year after losing a parent is really hard. For me it was hard to breathe level if hard. Have your friends encourage you to use your good coping skills when everything gets hard.
Do you trust your mom to support you through this? Do you have a counselor that you can speak with?
I did my dad’s (61) hospice when I was 12, and had no comprehension of the level of trauma I’d experience from his illness and the aftermath of it. The grief went unprocessed and hit me in my 30’s. It would have made a world of difference if I had someone to speak with as it was happening and to ask for help after. Instead I shoved it all down (avoidant parents didn’t teach me how to process the emotions, worried you might have a similar struggle due to dad’s addiction history).
Take care
Dad or grandpa
Hi. First of all, I am so sorry for what you are going through.
My question is, what is your relationship with your father and why did your mother decide to have a child with a man with so many addictions?
Are you okay?
Cancer is a bitch, if it’s any consolation the treatment would’ve been futile anyway. No beating it. Hope he’s comfortable and you have good people around you.
Hey I have lost my dad to the same type of cancer when I was 13. If you need some comfort I am here for it!
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Just wanted to say stay strong hope your mom is around and if you have siblings support each other.
You might observe your dad behaviour change and he might say some harsh words. Don’t take thoes to your heart (always remember he is agitated and angry because of his circumstances) so give him leverage. And try to keep him happy.
Also keep things ready, sort out everything before hand. (e.g.Sort out his Will and related stuff. )
Im so sorry. Be there as much as you can while you still have him. When my dad had pancreatic cancer, we were fed false hope so I didnt visit as often. Something i now regret. At least you have warning and time to mentally prepare.
Also visiting his grave or ash site from time to time can be oddly comforting.
Best of luck
Can he go to rehab
My father lost the pancreatic dance last month. The biggest question is how are you holding up?