Hi, odd title, but I promise it’s on topic.
I’m a single woman in my clubbing age (20’s), but I’m not looking for a relationship right now. I don’t consider myself someone who attracts a ton of attention in general, but right now I’m just focused on having fun with friends while I’m out. Once in a while I’ll attract a stranger who’ll either leave or accept the fact I’m only here to make conversation.
I’m also the kind of person who, when I form an interest in something, really goes all out. And currently, that’s Batman. I can tell when people get disinterested, but lately I’ve been noticing most men really love it when I get into talking about Batman. Up to the point where they’ll keep trying to ask if I’m single or convince me to go out with them. It kind of surprised me. It’s specifically men too (I’m bi) and while most women enjoy my enthusiasm they just take it as a quirk like usual (unless they’re also a huge dc fan and we get into it), but they’re not necessarily pushing for anything like men do.
Do men just really love Batman? I don’t want anyone to think I’m leading them on, I just really love talking about Batman with people and I don’t want to stop.
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“One of my favourite batman characters is Poison Ivy, I relate to her being a lesbian and all”
There now they think they have no chance and it’s easy to work into a batman conversation
well dc comics are heavily marketed to young men, talking like that is inevitably going to be misconstrued as a signal to some
Try superman next and make a spreadsheet, lets see which superhero is the best wingman for your later endeavors when you do become interested
Just bring up your boyfriend. I joke but more than a couple times I have asked a girl a question or just made conversation and they will randomly bring up a boyfriend. Women I have zero interest in. “Excuse me, do you know where the closest store is” …….”Well I just went to one with my boyfriend that was over there” that sort of thing.
I started talking to a man about my love of Batman and now he’s my husband so be careful.
An incredibly cute girl (who in hindsight was interested in me but I fumbled and never saw her again) I had just met chose to sit across from me, otherwise sitting alone, in the entire cafeteria with plenty of other spots. After initial pleasantries, she began to sperg out just like this about some beetles she saw and for whatever reason knew a lot about, even telling the story with her hands on the table conveying how they moved. It was the most adorable thing ever. I know nothing about beetles.
Hey, I like Batman too (Ben Affleck used to be my favorite before I realized that he’s not a good actor and is a POS irl).
You’re literally batman-
You pull people of the opposite gender and do not want them lol
But I’d bring up your like for women. Make a sweet comment on how you think a friend is cute and ask them if they could give tips on getting girls. It’d probably plant the idea that 1. Your into women and 2. Definitely not interested in them if your asking them for relationship advice for a girl. Unless of course you actually want to date a guy then just be yourself.
No you do not need to stop talking about batman but bring life to it, Explain why you like batman, Ask who their favourite hero or villain is. Find similarities and bond using them. “You like poison ivy? Do you like plants?” Ect. Don’t bring it up constantly but ensure they know that it’s something you like.
You have an interest they can relate to – yes it works. I have Batman underwear and it works.
But it’s not just Batman, it can be having quirky or light interests that are not gendered. You easily quash fears of someone with no real interests and a lot of demands centred on social expectation/peer pressure (‘stereotypical women’ fears).
I also don’t have many female friends, the ones I do can talk about anything.
Speaking for myself as a man…..yeahhhhh I really love Batman😂 I guess it’s a subset of guys who tend to be into like superheros and sci-fi? But I mean, let’s be honest, anyone can like Batman, he’s awesome. I wouldn’t try to hide that. I’d just recommend being direct, and politely firm that you’re not really looking anything right now. Also, If you want someone to talk with about Batman (platonically) I’d be more than happy to chat. Also, if you have not done so already, definitely come join the Batman subreddit!
Guys think that if you keep talking to them past the one minute mark, they got a shot. And, yes, if you make it crystal clear that they don’t, they aren’t going to want to stay and listen to someone yammer about Batman.