My gf(21F) and I(20M) have been together for 1.25 years. We work together, 5 days a week. We been together for over a year. After work we go to the gym together, we do our separate workouts in different spaces. Then after that we go home then FaceTime each other until we go to bed.
Sometimes during the week we don’t FaceTime after the gym. We get Mondays, and Saturdays off together. Sometimes we hang out on Mondays. We work together in retail, 4 days a week with each other. A few months ago we set Saturdays to be our day.
I been going to Church and my sister and I met a few people, so come to find out they are available to hang out on Saturdays night.
And I always wanted a group to hang out with. So not every Saturday but we like to go out and my gf is now upset with me. I didn’t see a problem because I plan to spend 6 hours with her and 4 hours with them.
I always invite her to come out with us but she doesn’t want to (no problem with that) she gives me crap for it and then she says that I don’t make time for her. It’s not the first time that we had this conversation.
I love her a lot but it feels like we are not compatible, like we are the opposites when it comes to everything. I like outdoors, she doesn’t. There’s a lot of more stuff that I still wanna do. I feel like me adding on extra ppl in life wouldn’t be the last.
We been trying to make the relationship work. We came to an understanding last night. I love her very much and trying to balance everything.
We talked this morning, and I tried to see if the other days were OK with me hanging out with them, but she only suggested Sundays because the other days we are either doing the gym or we are busy with school. I asked her about the other days and then she got annoyed, and then said “I don’t care, you can do it mon/tue/wed/tru for all I care” in an annoyed tone.
Before I met the group me and my gf made an agreement that I don’t make female friends so I end up making two female friends through my sister. I told my girlfriend that I made female friends and she got upset with me. When we hang out as a group, it just be three girls which includes my sister and two guys, which includes me.
One of the friends that I met, I told my girlfriend about. She accuses me of trying to have an alone time with her, and then calls me a liar and a cheater.
(I have never cheated). It sucks because I tried multiple times to invite her. TL;DR
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You’re not compatible. You need someone else who prioritize church time.
I don’t think you’re being a bad boyfriend. If she’s being invited and choosing not to go with you then it’s not exactly your fault that you’re not spending more time together. I also think she shouldn’t be threatened and upset over you having female friends especially if she’s invited every time you hang out with them. However I don’t kinda understand her being upset because the boundary you previously made agreed not to. Could you guys switch your day together to Monday since you both have it off and keep Saturday’s for yourselves to hang out with other friends?