Alright, let me start with some important context. I’m a 21F, and my family originally comes from a Muslim country in the Balkans, but we live in Central Europe. I wasn‘t born in the Balkans though, like my mother or my father.
Alright now let’s get into the „problem“:
Almost two years ago I cheated on and THEN got diagnosed with cancer. I thankfully beat the cancer in summer last year but I was still fighting with depression and post-cancer-symptoms. Meanwhile, a few months ago, I met my now-boyfriend.
Honestly, words can’t even describe how much I love and appreciate him. It might seem weird coming from someone like me, who is so young, but the last two years of my life were some of the darkest I’ve ever experienced. My boyfriend has been the person who showed me that there’s still light at the end of the tunnel. I genuinely feel like I’m healing and starting to enjoy life again because of him.
The problem is… my mom absolutely hates our relationship.
She keeps telling me to break up with him over and over, simply because he isn’t Muslim and isn’t from the Balkans. I’ve tried talking to her and explaining how happy I am, how important this relationship is for my mental health and overall life, but she doesn’t want to hear it at all. She‘s never even met him and refuses to do so!
She keeps calling me selfish and egotistical for “disrespecting” her and her values and for not doing what she wants me to do. She says things like „I shouldn’t “mix” with other races/ethnicities/religions“ and that „I shouldn’t mix with my boyfriend“ and it breaks my heart. I always thought that my mom would love me unconditionally, but after hearing the things she’s been saying lately, I’m really starting to doubt that.
I don’t understand, why can’t she just be happy for me?
After everything I’ve been through the last years, why is it so hard for her to see that I’m finally doing better? Why does she care more about where he’s from or what religion he is than about my happiness?
And I understand the perspective that she may want to protect me from heartbeak or something, but I just think this isn’t the right way. Why can’t she just be by my side/want to support me?
I also tried everything: explaining, being patient, listening… but she refuses to even consider my side.
If anyone’s been through something similar, or has any advice on how I can handle this, I would really appreciate it. Feel free to ask questions/anything! I’m feeling really lost.
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Backup of the post’s body: Alright, let me start with some important context. I’m a 21F, and my family originally comes from a Muslim country in the Balkans, but we live in Central Europe. I wasn‘t born in the Balkans though, like my mother or my father.
Alright now let’s get into the „problem“:
Almost two years ago I cheated on and THEN got diagnosed with cancer. I thankfully beat the cancer in summer last year but I was still fighting with depression and post-cancer-symptoms. Meanwhile, a few months ago, I met my now-boyfriend.
Honestly, words can’t even describe how much I love and appreciate him. It might seem weird coming from someone like me, who is so young, but the last two years of my life were some of the darkest I’ve ever experienced. My boyfriend has been the person who showed me that there’s still light at the end of the tunnel. I genuinely feel like I’m healing and starting to enjoy life again because of him.
The problem is… my mom absolutely hates our relationship.
She keeps telling me to break up with him over and over, simply because he isn’t Muslim and isn’t from the Balkans. I’ve tried talking to her and explaining how happy I am, how important this relationship is for my mental health and overall life, but she doesn’t want to hear it at all. She‘s never even met him and refuses to do so!
She keeps calling me selfish and egotistical for “disrespecting” her and her values and for not doing what she wants me to do. She says things like „I shouldn’t “mix” with other races/ethnicities/religions“ and that „I shouldn’t mix with my boyfriend“ and it breaks my heart. I always thought that my mom would love me unconditionally, but after hearing the things she’s been saying lately, I’m really starting to doubt that.
I don’t understand, why can’t she just be happy for me?
After everything I’ve been through the last years, why is it so hard for her to see that I’m finally doing better? Why does she care more about where he’s from or what religion he is than about my happiness?
And I understand the perspective that she may want to protect me from heartbeak or something, but I just think this isn’t the right way. Why can’t she just be by my side/want to support me?
I also tried everything: explaining, being patient, listening… but she refuses to even consider my side.
If anyone’s been through something similar, or has any advice on how I can handle this, I would really appreciate it. Feel free to ask questions/anything! I’m feeling really lost.
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