A little confused. Are you asking me to go elsewhere, or are you going to go out and get a hotel room or something? Also, why?
I’m not super clingy or anythings, but we’ve been together for nearly 20 years and I’m not sure they’ve ever said anything about wanting a weekend to themselves. I’d be nervous, honestly.
I’d be down as long as there isn’t a vibe that he hates me or something. He’s a very creative person and I could see where he’d benefit from extended solo time to write and draw. I’d just have to find something fun for myself so I’m not bored and then irritated.
I would feel like he probably needs some alone time and I would take advantage of the weekend to have my own alone time. We don’t have to do everything together, and space from each other can be very beneficial to a relationship.
I wouldn’t think much of it. Just like me he sometimes needs some alone time. I would happily have him do his thing, as long as he confirms that he is okay and I would also use that time for my me time.
I absolutely love my alone time. If details are discussed and there’s nothing weird or suspicious going on, please by all means, live your best life while I enjoy my alone time 😅
Let them do their thing. They are not my possession, they don’t owe me their presence at all times, and they are allowed to need and want time alone. It’s healthy.
My boyfriend and I are both introverts and both self-employed/WFH, so we know how to give each other space and quiet. But we also value quality time together and rarely actually choose to be fully apart for an entire day, let alone overnight. When that happens, it’s for a good reason, like a business trip one of us can’t come on.
In the context of my relationship, asking for a whole weekend alone would be a big red flag.
You know your relationship best to know if that’s in character for your partner.
I don’t think the entire weekend is reasonable unless they’re going on some sort of trip with friends or family etc. my spouse goes out to drink beers in his friends garage once a week. That is my normal. I’d never be with a man who’s constantly at the bar.
Need more context to give a good answer to this question, depends. But in principle it is totally fine, does being together mean you have to spend every living breathing moment together. Sometimes you just want to be alone.
Having been with my partner for some 20 years, totes fine. We’ve spent days or weekends apart, and taken separate holidays. There are some interests we don’t share, and sometimes he needs time to do his thing – as I do mine. We love each other, but we’re also individuals. But we have trust, so that means I have nothing to worry about.
Knowing how we are, that’s be a red flag for something deeper. We love spending alone time together to recharge, he’s told me he hates when I’m away and he’s home alone for longer than a few hours on his downtime cause it’s so lonely. This would be a complete 180 and I’d be like what did I do or what did you do??? I’d assume this isn’t a moment of being alone but rather that we’re facing the end. I know that sounds dramatic but we’ve been together long enough that it calls for that lol
I’m single, but even in relationships, I need my alone time. So weekends apart would likely be a regular occurence and therefore no problem for me at all.
In my marriage it’s normal. We are both often overstimulated since we spend almost all day every day with each other as we WFH FT in the same office and half the time have our young kids with us. It’s not uncommon for either of us to be like, “I need a few days” or even a weekend with some friends individually away from the family.
I think I would be confused on the approach vs doing solo things in the same house/area. My husband I knew we were a good fit because we felt entirely comfortable not having to explain why he was going to play video games in the office and I was crocheting on the couch with food network to unwind. More often than not I’m at my crafting table in the same office doing my thing (painting minis for the tabletop game we both like, crocheting, painting my nails, whatever ) and he’s on his computer doing his thing. We can touch or chat at will but if he’s gaming with his siblings or whatnot its totally fine by me.
We do plenty together in between these days but mid week relax is whatever we each need. Happiest together in our own home that we have curated to be what we each need. No judgement if one person needs extra quiet time to recharge throughout the week, this not culminating in needing an entire weekend alone ever.
I’d be confused and slightly concerned if sth is wrong, so I would be definetely be asking for a reason or if anything is alright. Also I think that it’s important if it’s just like a “I wanna do some things on my own/ with my friend group” or “I wanna be away from you” in particular. The latter would definetely hurt me.
But also, if it’s not for a reason that shows that there is some issue with the relationship or sth, it’d be fine for me, even if I really wouldn’t be happy about that, bc it is my weekend as well and I might have been looking forward to spend some quality time with my SO. I think it’s important to give space to each other in a relationship so that everyone can live out every part of their personality, bc the relationship doesn’t become every part of it. On top of that, you get a bunch of time to yourself that you can use to do sth u love. And hopefully, there will be tons of future weekends you can spend together, if it is not the case that both partners have lives that make it difficult to organize their time together.
I’m very extroverted and have a lot of love/attention to give. I respect that other people have different preferences but personally, from a partner, this would bother me.
I guess to clarify, if they said “I want to go on a camping trip this weekend” (or some other activity I don’t care about) or “I will be on a business trip abroad and want to stay a couple extra days to explore, but I’ll miss you and I’ll text you some fun little highlights of my days” then I’d have no issue with that at all. But if they had no special reason other than just “I’m sick of you, leave me alone”, that’s what would bother me.
Well, what if she wanted to have a slightly unconventional relationship, where I would go to my flat 2 or 3 nights a week, so we could have space? I might find out 5 years later that she had been having multiple affairs! I might have found out only a couple weeks ago.
I might also be slightly bitter, please accept my apologies. Small mini rant over.
I’m not sure. that seems really out of character for my partner. we get plenty of alone time and when we do have to be apart for trips or weekends, we long for each other a lot. we hate not being able to go together. It does warm my heart reading this question, knowing that my partner would want me to go anywhere he goes. and I feel the same.
Dear God, I have four children and when they were all little, I would sometimes fantasize about breaking a leg just so that I could spend a whole week in the hospital with no one needing me, no chores to do, and someone bringing me food that I didn’t have to cook.
Why does your partner want the weekend? Burnout? Hobby? Replenishment? Yoga retreat? Hiking Half Dome? Visiting Mom? Context is everything here.
It wouldn’t bother me at all as long as I understood why! My boyfriend is a major introvert (so am I so it works well for us) and recently was having a really hard/stressful week so we didn’t see each other Monday-Friday at his request. It didn’t bother me mainly because he is an excellent communicator and I can take at his word that he’s taking the time for himself and it’s nothing to do with me. When we reconnected that Saturday he was visibly recharged and so present and so caring. I think when there is a strong bond of trust and understanding, and when you’re content in your own company, it can be super healthy and fulfilling
I would be concerned and have some follow up questions because that’s not something he’s ever wanted. We’re not joined at the hip or anything, but I feel like we spend enough time socializing without each other that an entire weekend away from me just to be by himself would be odd. Usually if he goes away for a few days it’s to do activities that I’m not interested in with friends who are, and vice versa; neither of us ever specifically wants time away to be completely alone. We both have trouble sleeping apart, so I feel like something would have to be off for him want to be entirely by himself for days plural, as opposed to just a few hours to recharge.
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A little confused. Are you asking me to go elsewhere, or are you going to go out and get a hotel room or something? Also, why?
I’m not super clingy or anythings, but we’ve been together for nearly 20 years and I’m not sure they’ve ever said anything about wanting a weekend to themselves. I’d be nervous, honestly.
Only question would be “where ya going to be alone at?” because me and the baby ain’t going anywhere 🤣
I don’t think much of it. I know they need to socially recharge via isolating some times.
I’d be down as long as there isn’t a vibe that he hates me or something. He’s a very creative person and I could see where he’d benefit from extended solo time to write and draw. I’d just have to find something fun for myself so I’m not bored and then irritated.
I would feel like he probably needs some alone time and I would take advantage of the weekend to have my own alone time. We don’t have to do everything together, and space from each other can be very beneficial to a relationship.
Happy that I also get a weekend alone. Love my partner but I’m introverted and love a quiet few days to myself.
I wouldn’t think much of it. Just like me he sometimes needs some alone time. I would happily have him do his thing, as long as he confirms that he is okay and I would also use that time for my me time.
Honestly, I’d be hurt and sad….but….im also fully aware that I can be a bit much sometimes and im a needy partner.
Love the self care. I’d be encouraging.
I absolutely love my alone time. If details are discussed and there’s nothing weird or suspicious going on, please by all means, live your best life while I enjoy my alone time 😅
I spend a lot of my weekends apart from my partner.
It’s usually me who wants to be alone, so it wouldn’t bother me.
Let them do their thing. They are not my possession, they don’t owe me their presence at all times, and they are allowed to need and want time alone. It’s healthy.
Im honestly more likely to be the partner wanting an alone weekend.
My boyfriend and I are both introverts and both self-employed/WFH, so we know how to give each other space and quiet. But we also value quality time together and rarely actually choose to be fully apart for an entire day, let alone overnight. When that happens, it’s for a good reason, like a business trip one of us can’t come on.
In the context of my relationship, asking for a whole weekend alone would be a big red flag.
You know your relationship best to know if that’s in character for your partner.
I don’t think the entire weekend is reasonable unless they’re going on some sort of trip with friends or family etc. my spouse goes out to drink beers in his friends garage once a week. That is my normal. I’d never be with a man who’s constantly at the bar.
I’m secure with myself. I wouldn’t mind. Also, you can’t keep them from cheating. Being clingy won’t prevent that.
Need more context to give a good answer to this question, depends. But in principle it is totally fine, does being together mean you have to spend every living breathing moment together. Sometimes you just want to be alone.
I would be fine with it. If they need to unwind or tlc i understand.
Having been with my partner for some 20 years, totes fine. We’ve spent days or weekends apart, and taken separate holidays. There are some interests we don’t share, and sometimes he needs time to do his thing – as I do mine. We love each other, but we’re also individuals. But we have trust, so that means I have nothing to worry about.
Knowing how we are, that’s be a red flag for something deeper. We love spending alone time together to recharge, he’s told me he hates when I’m away and he’s home alone for longer than a few hours on his downtime cause it’s so lonely. This would be a complete 180 and I’d be like what did I do or what did you do??? I’d assume this isn’t a moment of being alone but rather that we’re facing the end. I know that sounds dramatic but we’ve been together long enough that it calls for that lol
I try to make this a thing for the wife and myself.
We all need time for ourselves.
It might not even be alone time, It could be a night accom where she catches up with friends then sleeps alone and has a sleep in.
I’m single, but even in relationships, I need my alone time. So weekends apart would likely be a regular occurence and therefore no problem for me at all.
Literally what I asked for this Mother’s Day! Love my family more than anything, but some alone time would be simply amazing every now and then!
In my marriage it’s normal. We are both often overstimulated since we spend almost all day every day with each other as we WFH FT in the same office and half the time have our young kids with us. It’s not uncommon for either of us to be like, “I need a few days” or even a weekend with some friends individually away from the family.
No problem with me. But I will be booking a nice hotel room, eating spicy food and going out for karaoke.
I think I would be confused on the approach vs doing solo things in the same house/area. My husband I knew we were a good fit because we felt entirely comfortable not having to explain why he was going to play video games in the office and I was crocheting on the couch with food network to unwind. More often than not I’m at my crafting table in the same office doing my thing (painting minis for the tabletop game we both like, crocheting, painting my nails, whatever ) and he’s on his computer doing his thing. We can touch or chat at will but if he’s gaming with his siblings or whatnot its totally fine by me.
We do plenty together in between these days but mid week relax is whatever we each need. Happiest together in our own home that we have curated to be what we each need. No judgement if one person needs extra quiet time to recharge throughout the week, this not culminating in needing an entire weekend alone ever.
I’d be confused and slightly concerned if sth is wrong, so I would be definetely be asking for a reason or if anything is alright. Also I think that it’s important if it’s just like a “I wanna do some things on my own/ with my friend group” or “I wanna be away from you” in particular. The latter would definetely hurt me.
But also, if it’s not for a reason that shows that there is some issue with the relationship or sth, it’d be fine for me, even if I really wouldn’t be happy about that, bc it is my weekend as well and I might have been looking forward to spend some quality time with my SO. I think it’s important to give space to each other in a relationship so that everyone can live out every part of their personality, bc the relationship doesn’t become every part of it. On top of that, you get a bunch of time to yourself that you can use to do sth u love. And hopefully, there will be tons of future weekends you can spend together, if it is not the case that both partners have lives that make it difficult to organize their time together.
I’m very extroverted and have a lot of love/attention to give. I respect that other people have different preferences but personally, from a partner, this would bother me.
I guess to clarify, if they said “I want to go on a camping trip this weekend” (or some other activity I don’t care about) or “I will be on a business trip abroad and want to stay a couple extra days to explore, but I’ll miss you and I’ll text you some fun little highlights of my days” then I’d have no issue with that at all. But if they had no special reason other than just “I’m sick of you, leave me alone”, that’s what would bother me.
Amazing. I really love my alone time. Hopefully, I’ll end up with another introvert.
I wouldn’t care. Trust my wife. Everyone needs time alone. Don’t get the people that have to spend every waking second with their partner
Well, what if she wanted to have a slightly unconventional relationship, where I would go to my flat 2 or 3 nights a week, so we could have space? I might find out 5 years later that she had been having multiple affairs! I might have found out only a couple weeks ago.
I might also be slightly bitter, please accept my apologies. Small mini rant over.
I’m not sure. that seems really out of character for my partner. we get plenty of alone time and when we do have to be apart for trips or weekends, we long for each other a lot. we hate not being able to go together. It does warm my heart reading this question, knowing that my partner would want me to go anywhere he goes. and I feel the same.
Awesome , let me get the door for you, ok byeee😁
Dear God, I have four children and when they were all little, I would sometimes fantasize about breaking a leg just so that I could spend a whole week in the hospital with no one needing me, no chores to do, and someone bringing me food that I didn’t have to cook.
Why does your partner want the weekend? Burnout? Hobby? Replenishment? Yoga retreat? Hiking Half Dome? Visiting Mom? Context is everything here.
It wouldn’t bother me at all as long as I understood why! My boyfriend is a major introvert (so am I so it works well for us) and recently was having a really hard/stressful week so we didn’t see each other Monday-Friday at his request. It didn’t bother me mainly because he is an excellent communicator and I can take at his word that he’s taking the time for himself and it’s nothing to do with me. When we reconnected that Saturday he was visibly recharged and so present and so caring. I think when there is a strong bond of trust and understanding, and when you’re content in your own company, it can be super healthy and fulfilling
We’re both introverts, so we spend the weekend on separate floors 🤣.
The cat does rotation between parent.
I would be concerned and have some follow up questions because that’s not something he’s ever wanted. We’re not joined at the hip or anything, but I feel like we spend enough time socializing without each other that an entire weekend away from me just to be by himself would be odd. Usually if he goes away for a few days it’s to do activities that I’m not interested in with friends who are, and vice versa; neither of us ever specifically wants time away to be completely alone. We both have trouble sleeping apart, so I feel like something would have to be off for him want to be entirely by himself for days plural, as opposed to just a few hours to recharge.
Not okay, we have 2 kids under 3 years old.