How did you lose that friend that you were once close to?

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How did you lose that friend that you were once close to?

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  1. phillygirllovesbagel Avatar

    Our moral compasses were no longer aligned.

  2. Prize-Ad-2997 Avatar

    She passed away about a year ago from cancer

  3. feetofskill Avatar

    I left our shared religion.

  4. Lazy_DreadHead Avatar

    We just drifted apart. I think he just didn’t like me for whatever reason and distanced himself. We talk every once in a blue moon but not like we used to.

  5. angelreddit16 Avatar

    I lost my child & we drifted apart

  6. Doodlebug365 Avatar

    We were friends all throughout high school & college.

    Then Covid made us realize that we didn’t have that much in common – we had nothing to talk about. We texted less and less and then it all just stopped. Haven’t seen her since 2019.

  7. Kelliesrm26 Avatar

    Got ghosted, more than 10 years of friendship and randomly got ghosted. Never a hint that something was wrong.

  8. Apprehensive-Energy8 Avatar

    His grandmother died & got divorced, and he just went bananas 😵‍💫

  9. jesuisbellydancer Avatar

    20 years. She was a taker, not a giver. Took advice, love, attention, moral support, lacked the giving part. Was there for me at a very crucial point in my life, however somehow people change or just reveal their true colors after some time. Was not supportive towards my life goals nor decisions, always critical despite my troubles moving forward and finally getting my breakthroughs. In the end, someone told me something she had said that I told her in private, and I knew I didn’t want her in my life anymore. It seemed she became jealous and bitter towards me yet pleaded for my friendship because I fed her the attention she wanted. Cut her off cold turkey, been about 9 months now which I think is the longest cuz we have had breaks in our friendship before but much less serious and shorter.

  10. AccordingBad850 Avatar

    She didn’t like my boyfriend (now husband). Even though I was there for her throughout all of her terrible relationships for years, but she couldn’t muster it to be around my boyfriend that wasn’t “cool” enough for her.

  11. Geologyst1013 Avatar

    She just stopped replying to my texts one day. She had moved away so texting and zoom is how we were staying in touch.

    I combed through our text messages and tried to remember our zoom conversations to see if there was anything I said wrong. I couldn’t see it if there was.

    That was 3 years ago. I haven’t heard from her since.

    I miss her.

  12. Forsaken_Sleep9386 Avatar

    Realized out friendship was one sided

  13. LostClutch1092 Avatar

    Had a 3some with a guy she was talking to on tinder. Me and said guy ended up dating and she said i broke girl code even though she initiated the 3some and has never met him before that night

  14. alcoholic_milf_mommy Avatar

    She started dating my ex.

  15. ReebzM Avatar

    She chose to strengthen her friendship with my ex once we broke up, and distanced herself from me. We still occasionally talk & I still love her, but from a distance.

  16. winenotbeabitch Avatar

    She hooked up with my cousin’s (who was more like a sister) boyfriend while we were all in the other room

  17. SilverParty Avatar

    She wanted me to be at her beck and call. She was married, I wasn’t, so I could drop everything and be there for her.

    When I met my now husband, she didn’t like that I was busy.

    I wanted a friendship where we could pick up in 3 weeks and hang out, but she wanted me around daily.

  18. StrongFreeBrave Avatar

    A couple misunderstandings here or there which became bigger issues if I brought it up. They just couldn’t communicate or take accountability. I just found myself wanting to be around them less & less and not wanting to do this superficial tap dance around problems. I don’t miss it though, not anymore. I wanted a real friendship which IMO involves hard talks, communicating, figuring stuff out. They just wanted fun, to just be chill, no real depth I came to notice. As time passed it actually felt like a weight had lifted and also having formed new friendships or deepening existing ones where I could see the difference with people who loved & cared for me, all parts of me, the good, the bad, the times I spoke up, etc. nobody was mad, people didn’t fight.

  19. Archi_penko Avatar

    My friend broke up with her BF just as I bought my first house. I said she could stay for a few months to get on her feet. When I started dating someone, she was just, rude to him. She judged us for not recycling little things, and she even told another friend she burned my butcher block counters but didn’t care. Hearing that was a final straw. I didn’t realize how awful she was until she was in my space and judging me all the time. I asked her to leave a few months later.

  20. yoursaucyneighbor Avatar

    I wouldn’t join her MLM downline.

  21. calamitycayote Avatar

    We were roommates. He wanted to move in his girlfriend and not have her pay rent. I told him we need to split the rent 3 ways as she he’s our guest room full of her clothes and shoes. He told me I was selfish moved out and stopped talking to me.

  22. SincerelySasquatch Avatar

    I had a very loyal friend until I got into a relationship. She’s been single as long as I’ve known her, except a brief dysfunctional relationship, and is man-obsessed and needy. She gets very jealous, critical and competitive about my relationship, and her morals are also shit. She knows this guy who I doubt is really into her, his wife has cancer, and she’s got it in her head they’re in love and he’s going to come move down here to be with her once his wife dies. It’s very strange, but she has brain damage and is not really all the way there.

  23. Dr__Pheonx Avatar

    Most of my great friendships just wane out due to the distance. People end up having different friend circles, different priorities and so sadly all good things come to an end..and also if I were the only one trying.

  24. farawayxisland Avatar

    She wasn’t supportive when I left my ex and came to terms with how abusive he was. She even befriended him and refused to help me get my stuff back because it would “cause drama”. She also told me my SA wasn’t her problem. Went to therapy and realized our friendship sucked so I cut her out. She tries to contact me yearly. Got pretty mad at her when she contacted me and got weird about my son.

    The other was hurt by my actions to expose her abusive ex. It worked, but it wasn’t worth it in her eyes. My ex joked about getting him a job, it happened before we knew the truth about him, and she stopped talking to me. Once I left him, I apologized to her and was on the path of befriending her again when I realized I wasn’t what she needed and was getting too clingy towards her again. So I stopped. We’re on good terms, I assume, as we congratulate each other on big events and like said posts. But that’s where it will stay.

  25. Over_Unit_7722 Avatar

    She died last October. Heart attack in her sleep at 20 years old. She was the picture of health so her death was a complete shock.

    I miss you, Gab…

  26. ppparanoia Avatar

    she confessed that she had feelings for me, and i didn’t feel the same way. she had been treating the friendship like a relationship in her mind, and that wasn’t fair to either of us.

  27. Mammoth-Photo7470 Avatar

    Honestly, I’m not even sure why. We just talked less and less, until one day we just… didn’t. sometimes friendships just quietly fade without either side meaning for it to happen

  28. curlyhairweirdo Avatar

    She got married and had a baby while I went off to college

  29. NegotiationVisual681 Avatar

    I think its happening to me currently she said she wants her space and doesn’t want to talk to anyone. Im like ok but she still active on social media

  30. nothereforit Avatar

    I made a fucked up joke (no different than ones we have made previously, just didn’t consider the context). Unbeknownst to me, she had been harboring negative feelings toward me for years and that was her final straw.

  31. AutomaticAttorney274 Avatar

    I realized that I was always annoyed with her and I didn’t respect her anymore. I had grown out of the irresponsible years and she wasn’t showing signs of doing that yet. I thought she would get the hint after I kept making excuses to not hang out but she kept asking. So I eventually just stopped answering her.

  32. PenguinBluebird Avatar

    She ditched our plans to travel around Europe together in favor of going with some guy she had been seeing for a couple months. Made me realize how much I had been used during our entire friendship. 

    On the bright side, I learned how to be happy traveling alone. And cutting her off allowed me to get closer to other friends that I still consider sisters more than a decade later.

  33. poopoomcg00 Avatar

    She joined the church and ghosted everyone she knew

  34. Raynelove1 Avatar

    We were bestfriends for 10 years. Lived together for the last year or so, we were both engaged and moved out, she completely ghosted me. Never spoke to me again. Our friendship was solid up until the point of saying goodbye when moving our stuff out. 10 years bestfriends and she chewed that shit up, spit it out and disappeared. I even sent her messages asking what happened and she never responded. I know she’s alive because she didn’t even block me on socials which I thought was crazy. Years later, I still have dreams about her asking her what happened. It was extremely heartbreaking for me and I still struggle never understanding what happened or if I did something wrong

  35. pinballrepair Avatar

    She had kids – I don’t really hold much resentment, I just mourn the friendship. Her life is so busy with her career and being a mom of 2 under 3. She has other mom friends now that I see on social media and she doesn’t respond to me anymore. I last texted her I’d love to bring some home cooked freezer meals for her family. We grew up together from kindergarten and I do miss her 🙁