“hey, just remember you always have me,”. i was having a really rough week and had lost pretty much all my friends over something i didn’t do. so i called one of my really close friends, he listened to me complain and cry, then he said that. he’s a real one.
“A hit dog holllered” for whenever someone outs themselves as guilty for getting defensive when you bring it up… or as Shakespeare said “the lady doth protest too much”.. that one is less obvious but means less he same thing.
“What other people think of you is none of your business.” ~ wisdom I received from one of my first patients. She was the classiest lady I’ve ever known.
My high school AP Literature teacher quoted Dickens’ Tale of Two Cities and talked about how it succinctly captures the essence of the human experience. Those lines have always stuck with me as I’ve reflected on the ups and downs of life:
“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of light, it was the season of darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair.”
When a new career opportunity presented itself, I had a talk with my current boss at the time who almost had a fatherly figure about himself. The career was a better move with more money, I was just feeling a bit of guilt about a place I felt I owed some kind of loyalty to (I was young and naive).
He said, “Money talks. Bullshit walks.”
He loved me being at that place but it was time to leave the nest and he encouraged it. Great guy.
“Moderation is for cowards. Anything worth doing is worth overdoing.” I don’t believe this literally, but, to me, it drives home the point of being intentional with your time, energy, and efforts.
I had a file of quotes I’d write on my whiteboard in my cube…it’s been 20 years but these are some of my favs
Eagles may soar; but weasels don’t get sucked into jet airplanes.
Books are lighthouses in the seas of time.
It’s what you read when you don’t have to that determines what you will be when you can’t help it. – coworker added “Good because I only read Superman comics”
in a response to me juggling stuff at work and saying i needed more hands, my former boss said “No, you don’t. People will only ask you to do more things for them.”
“I can read the menu, but I go home to eat.” Said by a 24 y.o. man to me when I was 17. I was very innocent at that age, and didn’t understand until it was explained to me by my sister (who knew him, but I had just met him) that he was interested in me but was restraining himself cuz he was married. I had no idea he was flirting with me (my sister had to explain that too), but I remember him saying that to me as if it was yesterday. It was, in fact, over 40 years ago.
“Don’t rob yourself of future grief.” I’m prone to overthinking and getting worked up imagining the worst case scenario, but if it actually does turn out poorly, I can be upset about it then. There is nothing to be gained by grieving something that hasn’t even happened yet.
“it’s not your fault you were handed this challenge, but it is your responsibility to deal with it” speaking about trauma, mental health, or other obstacles that seem like an unfair hurdle.
Heard this in college and it’s been solid advice ever since. It means to keep growing and learning, and never stop and consider yourself done with self improvement. It also means that you can still have fun and be silly in life. You don’t have to be a “grown up” and just be miserable and bitter like so many grown ups.
Stick with me on this because I have this saved on my phone and written on my bathroom cabinet
I attended a speaking event with Jonathan Banks (of Breaking Bad fame) for my media studies class. This was during Covid, so it was me and a few people in a virtual enviornment. He spoke for about 2 hours and listening to him talk was amazing. Anyway, here’s what happened:
The Q&A was really cool because he would talk to you like a person. A girl asked a question about tv, but then they started talking about movies. He asked what her favorite movie was
I wish I could remember the movie, but what I do remember is her saying “I know it’s seems silly, I’m sorry”
I don’t know what happened in his brain, because he went from a chill/happy guy to an angry/stern guy
His response was, “if you like something, don’t ever, EVER apologize for it”
I know he was talking to her, but he was talking to us at the same time (and he talked about it for a while)
Basically, he said you shouldn’t be embarrassed for things that give you joy. Joy is one of the best emotions in the world, and being embarrassed for liking something is hiding part of your soul
That one hit hard for me because I like goofy stuff. Being in a film and media class, you get a lot of pretentious people, so I never said what I liked. This was with friends as well
I wrote it down as soon as he said it and made sure to record it as well. Since then, if someone asks what I’m into/enjoy I’ll let them know. If they laugh, so be it
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When something falls at work move away from it not towards it.
“Be where your feet are.”
“You weren’t the problem and he wasn’t the solution”
My good opinion once lost is lost forever
You can’t pour from an empty cup.
“It was a mountain to cross, not carry” I read this on Instagram and it was honestly so calming!
“I won’t be by your side forever.” —Mom. That reality hit me hard when she passed. ☹️
The less you say the more people remember.
Proper prior planning prevents piss poor performance
Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go
My boss years ago said. “In the words of brother Luda, Move bitch. Get out the way.” And I will never forget
You can do bad by yourself
“Maybe you’re getting all your bad days out of the way now, so you can live the rest of your life in peace.”
If it had been a snake, it would’ve bit you.
My dad was the milk man
Character is a diamond that scratches any other stone
If you aren’t part of the solution, you are part of the precipitate.
Chemistry nerds would get it !
When someone shows you who they are believe them
“In the absence of communication, the void is filled with negativity”
“a$$ gasket” referring to the paper toilet seat covers.
“I don’t win I don’t eat”
Don’t build the watch just tell me the time.
At the end of the day, it’s all you. All the time.
Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part
Don’t take any wooden nickles
“Maybe it’s not life that’s hard, but who you’re with.” Instantly clicked with me and gave me the right mindset to get out of a terrible relationship.
“ow! My spleen!”
My old coworker screamed that out loud when a pallet of dog food fell on him. Don’t worry, he survived.
You’re to be seen and not heard. Gen X heard this lots. We kept quiet until told to speak.
“if you don’t ask, the answer will always be no.”
Don’t apply permanent solutions to temporary problems
Many hands make light work
“hey, just remember you always have me,”. i was having a really rough week and had lost pretty much all my friends over something i didn’t do. so i called one of my really close friends, he listened to me complain and cry, then he said that. he’s a real one.
If he was the kind of dad that left, imagine how much worse he would have been if he stayed.
The only thing you have to fear is…Time
one of the only things i remember my great grandpa telling me is never let a man (or anyone) hit you twice.
Happiness is not what I’m searching for, I’m searching for peace.
“You can’t un-ring a bell.” They were talking about when you say or do things that are hurtful to others.
“A hit dog holllered” for whenever someone outs themselves as guilty for getting defensive when you bring it up… or as Shakespeare said “the lady doth protest too much”.. that one is less obvious but means less he same thing.
Say Less
Look for relationships that feel like family, not like drugs.
Never fry bacon naked
“It’s better to wake up and be looking down at the grass rather than looking up at the dirt.”
Once when I was a kid, my dad was trying to fix the siding of our house and hurt himself. I vividly remember him saying: “damn piece of fucking shit”.
It lives rent free in my head. It was one of the first times I remember so many sentence enhancers being used in one sentence.
Not everyone you lose is a loss.
Expectations lead to disappointment
“I don’t hate you… I wanted more for you.”
Never Allow Someone To Be Your Priority While Allowing Yourself To Be Their Option
No matter where you go, there you are.
You have a limited time to Use what mother nature gave you before father time takes it all away
The best gift, we can give our children is a healthy diet. “It is a gift we give them, and they do not even realize it”
Wherever you go, there you are
“ You don’t just love your children. You fall in love with them.” I didn’t understand this still I became a father for the first time two years ago.
“Rode hard and put away wet.”
It’s vulgar but so descriptive
The grass is green where you water it
“What other people think of you is none of your business.” ~ wisdom I received from one of my first patients. She was the classiest lady I’ve ever known.
“Your best will never be good enough”
“I can either respect you or respect your insecurities”
The time will pass either way
Never let a stumbling block keep you down.
“Life is like a box of chocolates, the ones with the cherries are better”
No one can swim in the same river water twice.
My high school AP Literature teacher quoted Dickens’ Tale of Two Cities and talked about how it succinctly captures the essence of the human experience. Those lines have always stuck with me as I’ve reflected on the ups and downs of life:
“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of light, it was the season of darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair.”
When a new career opportunity presented itself, I had a talk with my current boss at the time who almost had a fatherly figure about himself. The career was a better move with more money, I was just feeling a bit of guilt about a place I felt I owed some kind of loyalty to (I was young and naive).
He said, “Money talks. Bullshit walks.”
He loved me being at that place but it was time to leave the nest and he encouraged it. Great guy.
Sometimes, a man on the right track gets hit by a train on the wrong one.
And a slight variation from one above… the greatest gift a man can give his children is to love their mother.
You are under no obligation to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm
“Moderation is for cowards. Anything worth doing is worth overdoing.” I don’t believe this literally, but, to me, it drives home the point of being intentional with your time, energy, and efforts.
Don’t worry about something until you have something to worry about
“Always walk with your hands full”
My grandmother kept a tidy home so that resonated with me and I’ll never forget it.
No matter how far down the wrong road you are… turn around.
Whether the weather we must weather the weather whether we like it or not. Said to be by my grandma and its been my hard times motto ever since.
“Before you self-diagnose with depression and low self-esteem, make sure you’re not just surrounded by assholes.”
Loose lips sink ships
What if everything went RIGHT?
(As opposed to the opposite, which is what we usually say.)
Manners cost nothing
“You don’t want to die, you just want your life as it is to change”. I read that here on Redditt at a time I was severely depressed.
“Control the controllables” (it helps with my anxiety)
RIP Harambe
” only real friends can hear you when you go quiet.
Poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine
Listen to understand not respond
Currently you’re the oldest you’ve ever been and the youngest you’ll ever be again.
You can cut the grass or you can cut the grass crying, either way, you’re cutting the grass
I had a file of quotes I’d write on my whiteboard in my cube…it’s been 20 years but these are some of my favs
Eagles may soar; but weasels don’t get sucked into jet airplanes.
Books are lighthouses in the seas of time.
It’s what you read when you don’t have to that determines what you will be when you can’t help it. – coworker added “Good because I only read Superman comics”
The bar is set so low that you’ll trip over it.”
“You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage.”
This line helped me in one of the toughest situations I’ve even been in with my parents. Oof. It worked.
“what susie says of sally says more of susie than of sally”
People don’t think it be like it is, but it do
Don’t sweat the petty things and don’t pet the sweaty things
Don’t believe everything you think
This too shall pass
This isn’t an excuse, it is an explanation
Anything worth doing is worth doing badly.
I grew up with “everything worth doing is with doing well”- the idea of “if it’s worth your time, then do it right.
“…worth doing badly” talks about how it’s better to do something badly than not at all.
They’re both right, but the first one stuck with me.
You are not responsible for the version of you someone made up in their head.
Non illegitimi carborundum. My life motto.
Don’t let “perfect” be the enemy of progress.
in a response to me juggling stuff at work and saying i needed more hands, my former boss said “No, you don’t. People will only ask you to do more things for them.”
“I can read the menu, but I go home to eat.” Said by a 24 y.o. man to me when I was 17. I was very innocent at that age, and didn’t understand until it was explained to me by my sister (who knew him, but I had just met him) that he was interested in me but was restraining himself cuz he was married. I had no idea he was flirting with me (my sister had to explain that too), but I remember him saying that to me as if it was yesterday. It was, in fact, over 40 years ago.
“I’m so full, my butthole’s sticking out.” My southern grandma.
“Don’t rob yourself of future grief.” I’m prone to overthinking and getting worked up imagining the worst case scenario, but if it actually does turn out poorly, I can be upset about it then. There is nothing to be gained by grieving something that hasn’t even happened yet.
You didn’t lose him, he lost you. (When my best friend started acting like he didn’t know who I was)
Behaviour unchallenged is behaviour accepted.
What goes around comes around
When I was 13, I told my mom about a girl I liked.
She told me, “If you get together with her, just remember one of three things can happen: Either you break up, get married, or one of you dies.”
When trying to excel, get at least 1% better. That really stuck with me
Playing 18 holes of golf with someone will tell you all you need to know about their character.
If you’re going through hell, keep going.
Can’t fix stupid.
My MIL would say about cleaning out the fridge- when in doubt, throw it out 👍🏻
Don’t ask someone to do something that you wouldn’t do yourself
my dad one day said ‘don’t come around here comin around here’
no clue what it means but it’s funny asf and makes people so confused when i say it
Honesty without compassion is cruelty.
When you do things right, people won’t be sure you’re done anything at all. -space god in Futurama
Never prove your worth to a worthless audience.
Never complain never explain
Velvet Sausage Wallet
Trust is earned in drops but lost in buckets.
“Bloom where you’re planted”.
Getting old isn’t for sissys
Today is the tomorrow you thought about yesterday
“it’s not your fault you were handed this challenge, but it is your responsibility to deal with it” speaking about trauma, mental health, or other obstacles that seem like an unfair hurdle.
‘The problem is you think you have time’
Don’t argue with the ignorant. They will drag you to their level and beat you with experience.
One time when I was working backstage at a comedy club. My coworker and I were smoking and he said something that I always think about
“humans are the only animal to laugh because their the only animal that suffers enough to need to”
Everything you want is on the other side of fear … I think it’s from chicken soup for the soul . I got it inked on my arm
No, is a complete sentence.
“You’ve survived every bad day you’ve ever had. All your worst days, you survived. 100% of them.”
Don’t take criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from
“I’d rather have unanswerable questions than unquestionable answers”
“We don’t take dead bodies out of seatbelts.” ~ County Sheriff to my driver’s ed class.
Expirence is what you get when you don’t get what you want
Perfection is the enemy of good
People don’t remember what you do, they remember how you make them feel
“You can’t tell which way the train came from by lookin’ at the tracks.”
Perfect is the enemy of the good.
Stanima
You should know something about everything and everything about something
“Done is better than perfect!” Basically get it done and don’t ket perfection get in the way.
We only know how to solve a handful of equations so the trick is to turn all of your problems into something you know how to solve.
This was in a physics class but it totally applies to life in general
“The days are long, but the years are short.”
Context: parenthood and watching one’s children grow up too fast.
“Always be growing up. Never grow up.”
Heard this in college and it’s been solid advice ever since. It means to keep growing and learning, and never stop and consider yourself done with self improvement. It also means that you can still have fun and be silly in life. You don’t have to be a “grown up” and just be miserable and bitter like so many grown ups.
The older I get, the more I see the wisdom in it.
You can raise your kids and spoil your grandchildren. Or you can spoil your kids and raise your grandchildren.
I’m Rick James, Bitch
When working on a farm growing up, someone said “you’re movin’ slower than an orgy in a nursing home.” That one stung.
Stick with me on this because I have this saved on my phone and written on my bathroom cabinet
I attended a speaking event with Jonathan Banks (of Breaking Bad fame) for my media studies class. This was during Covid, so it was me and a few people in a virtual enviornment. He spoke for about 2 hours and listening to him talk was amazing. Anyway, here’s what happened:
The Q&A was really cool because he would talk to you like a person. A girl asked a question about tv, but then they started talking about movies. He asked what her favorite movie was
I wish I could remember the movie, but what I do remember is her saying “I know it’s seems silly, I’m sorry”
I don’t know what happened in his brain, because he went from a chill/happy guy to an angry/stern guy
His response was, “if you like something, don’t ever, EVER apologize for it”
I know he was talking to her, but he was talking to us at the same time (and he talked about it for a while)
Basically, he said you shouldn’t be embarrassed for things that give you joy. Joy is one of the best emotions in the world, and being embarrassed for liking something is hiding part of your soul
That one hit hard for me because I like goofy stuff. Being in a film and media class, you get a lot of pretentious people, so I never said what I liked. This was with friends as well
I wrote it down as soon as he said it and made sure to record it as well. Since then, if someone asks what I’m into/enjoy I’ll let them know. If they laugh, so be it
“It’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility”
Everything you did before the baby was for you, everything you do after the baby needs to be for the baby.
The axe forgets but the tree does not
People may not remember what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.
“You don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to.”