Found out I was the guy in the friend group everyone kept around as a joke and to mess around with. I really thought they cared about me, and I loved them.
Losing enough feelings to finally leave my ex. Before it felt impossible because when I would leave I was in horrible emotional pain so it felt like I couldn’t go on without him. Eventually I kept talking with him with the problems I had with him over and over I guess it somehow sunk in that things would never change and I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life being with an asshole. So I was finally able to break up with him without begging him back. Not gonna lie I did hook up with him one time since the breakup because the sex was pretty good but at least I’m not still in a relationship with him🤷♀️
Contracting an STI after literally being soo careful and falling so so very in love with someone who had recently only been in a long-term relationship that literally lasted almost as long as I’ve been alive…… find out if they’re from the streets before feeling safe enough to get in the sheets cause dogs don’t give a fuck who they give their infections to as long as they get to eat..
That after a fun DNA test I would discover that my Father had a secret family before us. I had a sister. Never expected that, my father is pius, well in appearance.
I never thought I’d become a teacher. I said for many years I could never be a teacher. After a career in healthcare, I took a job in a school to have the same schedule as my children. I absolutely loved it. Now I teach high school and college math.
It turns out that I could never be an elementary teacher. I don’t have the skills necessary for being a good elementary teacher. High school teaching is where I belong.
Permanent irritable bowel from an infection and then bacteria overgrowth that prevents me from tolerating fruit . guessing no one wants to hear about sexual stuff that was unexpected.
always felt silly telling people my dreams of getting my PhD in neuroscience. I begin my program in august & it still doesn’t feel real when I talk about it
Grade 7 band trip I got to stay in a hotel. I remember thinking life cant get better than this. Never thought I’d get to experience that. Anyway. That’s how poor we were.
Divorce. If you’re reading this and not yet married, get a prenup. Divorce is so much more legally and financially intricate than you can imagine and a prenup is your chance to avoid that.
Cancer diagnosis 1 month after my stepdad was diagnosed.
I was 41 with three children ages 2, 7, & 17 while going through a divorce.
Thankfully, I’m here to tell that years later .
I decided to roleplay a bug on a windshield on an electric bike.
When a car going 15 goes against an electric bike going 25, who wins?
The car won. Me, I got lucky with minor injuries.
The driver was a saint too. He offered to split the bill despite me technically being at fault. I still paid the full bill.
Have a normal heart rate. I’ve had inappropriate sinus tachycardia all my life and I am now recovering from heart surgery with a steady heart rate between 65-85. Before my surgery it was normal for it to go up to 160 and my resting was like 110.
My husband died suddenly at 53 years of age. I didn’t expect to be a widow with two kids. Fortunately, he thought it might be a possibility and had a life insurance policy to take care of us.
I wouldn’t say I never thought it because there was a time before I was an addict, but after I got into opioids, I never thought i’d be clean off them. Spent close to 15 years in active addiction, literally all my adult life at the time I got clean. Don’t get me wrong, i had periods of sobriety, but there were always months long, and once got close.to a year.
I always thought ai was going to die using. I was hopeless. I was using an ungodly amount of dope.
Now, it’s been 5 and a half years since I last done any opioid, let alone heroin, (or fent or carfentanyl). Now that i’ve been clean and hearing the shit that is in dope, I am absolutely not going back to it.
I even got in a trade skill, finding stuff I like to do that doesn’t involve drugs… which is honestly, overwhelming being in my now late 30’s and still figuring out simple shit about myself and life… but I wouldn’t trade it for that hell that I came from.
I will smoke occasionally and have a few drinks at work functions(what the company pays for provided if there is enough time to not blow numbers), but it’s what works for me.
Leaving a job with nothing lined up. Not ideal in regular times and in THIS MARKET – bonkers. But it was that bad and I would not still be alive had I stayed working there.
I was in a horrible wreck more than 5 years ago and I lost my fiance and I lost my job I broke both my arms, broke some ribs, one of my lungs collapsed the other was failing I broke my jaw and my collar bone I was in a coma woke up a month later in a wheelchair and had to live in a group home to get my leg strength back.
I never thought I would feel better in my late 40s than I did in my 20s. I had a hysterectomy in November and holy freaking crap, I only wish I could have had it a couple decades ago. Best. Decision. Ever. It took over 20 years of doctors dismissing my complaints but one finally listened to me. And I guess they figured I’m not gonna be out here having more babies at my big age.
I didn’t realize how much pain I was in until I wasn’t. I knew it hurt, but even the good days didn’t feel like this!!! My pain levels are zero. ZERO. I have energy. I can sleep. I’m not riding a ragged edge of irritability all the time. Also? Sex is a whole new level of chef’s kiss.
Being a dad. Not only did it somehow happen while on BC but I was lucky enough to have it happen with the exact right person I always wanted to be with. Despite so much turmoil early on, there is nowhere else I’d rather be. I hope that everyone else finding themselves in such a scenario pushes through to realize that you can do it and it is worth it. The joy and love and light it parenthood brings is meaningful. Life is sacred. Everyone has a purpose.
never thought i would live with my dad and leave my abusive step dad. never thought i would go to a school were i wasn’t the plague and the whole school didn’t hate me. never thought the same person who hurt me mentally for so many years would go to dozens of therapy and parenting classes and work so hard to see me again. never thought i would want to be in the same room as him again let alone make new good memories with him. never thought i would be diagnosed with adhd and autism and finally understand why people didn’t like me. never thought i would have my own room, and definitely never thought the anxiety i got every day would get better and my life would get as good as it is right now.
Deciding to never have kids. Spent most of my life with the one thing I knew being that I wanted to be a mom. Trauma ruined that, and now I don’t think I’ll ever change my mind. I’m never having children.
Got pregnant @41 and had a baby girl after trying for 17 years! I had wanted a baby girl since I could remember. I literally couldn’t believe it had finally happened. She’s 6 now and I still pinch myself over it.
Im 61 and never got bit by a dog but a month ago a pit bull attacked my dog and I grabbed her and the dog bit my arm a bunch of times. I never thought I’d get bit by a dog. But my chiweenie is OK and didn’t get hurt bad and I had under 1000.00 in medical bills the other person paid.
I slid twice in my life on a banana peel that someone littered on the ground. Kind of ridiculous when you dont know why you are making a split out of nowhere…
Never thought I would go to college, but put myself through school and ended up getting a masters degree (the first college graduate in my family). My OB/GYN said I probably would never have kids, but I have two wonderful grown children that are now independent adults.
Having a second chance at life. When you’re in the darkest part of your life and feel so depressed and angry at the world you give up and it feels like you might as well crawl into a hole to die. It’s hard to get motivated when you’ve lost everything you care about, but life goes on.
I had a rough start in life, but I was able to get my bachelor’s in Mechanical Engineering last December. I’m in my 30s and I was a high school dropout. I worked all kinds of jobs. I never once imagined I’d be doing anything like this.
I struggled to conceive and spent a lot of time on reddit reading other women talk about their experiences with PCOS and endometriosis. I felt so bad for them, and so thankful that I didn’t have those issues. I was so sure about this that when my fertility doctor did an ultrasound of my ovaries and said, “Wow those are some classic PCOS ovaries!” I immediately responded, “Oh I don’t have PCOS!” Turns out I had both.
When I was 19 I agreed to put my auto repair bill on credit. I didn’t have to make a payment for six months. In other words, it was free because what are the odds of that much time happening?
Positive: Own a home. I never thought it would be possible. I’m still grateful, everyday I pinch myself that it’s real.
Negative: I never thought that I would develop agoraphobia. I was a social butterfly and loved adventure. It seemingly struck out of nowhere. I couldn’t even check my letterbox, it was awful,
Iwas set on killing myself when I turn 28, at the age of 11. Last year, I decided not to. It’s more cons than pros because I never had substantial development to sustain myself but hey though it’s a shitty one, it’s a work in progress
When I was really young and an early teen, becoming an alcoholic. From 16 to 22, that changed to becoming sober from alcohol, but now I’ve been 3 months sober.
Having 4 miscarriages & having 4 children. I miss the woman I was before those losses but grateful for what that molded me into and super grateful for all my children earth-side.
Never thought I’d survive a nervous breakdown following a seriously bad break up. 9 years ago almost to the day (tomorrow) when I suffered my first panic attack. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. The depression etc lasted two years; nearly died in the process, but, without therapy and without meds, just pure perseverance, I made it through. I still bear the emotional scars but I’m definitely not a sucker to the person that did this to me anymore; never even thought it get over that! And I’m so glad to say that I am so happy now. 😊
Figuring out I’m non-binary after decades of life without a clue. It really fucks with you tbh, going from almost never thinking about your gender to thinking about gender all the time while you’re figuring yourself out.
Get in an abusive relationship. I’m like fine, and it’s mostly financial and emotional, but Christ. I always prided myself on being so smart that I’d never get stuck in a bad relationship. I didn’t know you could wake up one day and realize the water’s begun to boil.
A word of advice to anyone reading this, people don’t change, but they do get worse. So don’t just roll your eyes and forgive everything. Protect your happiness and peace first, because you don’t wanna be where I’m at. It’s a cold and shitty day when you realize that all this work you put into building a life with someone is a moot point because they delight in your suffering in some way.
Also, if you are ever on your knees bawling and begging to be loved correctly and they’re just standing over you with a blank expression, girl run. Don’t stop to grab your shoes. Cuz it only will get worse and you’ve already stayed in that relationship too long.
Getting epilepsy out of nowhere. Nobody in my family has it but apparently I was born with it and it didn’t show up until my mid 20s. Multiple brain surgery later and I’m still having so many seizures. Enough that I can’t use the bathroom while my S.O is sleeping without freaking them tf out after being together for over a decade.
I’m almost just done.
You all deserve the best lives you are capable of having.
Comments
Never thought I would go to college, yet here I am a week before finals telling someone on reddit about it.
Stroke at 45.
I always said marriage wasn’t for me.
Found out I was the guy in the friend group everyone kept around as a joke and to mess around with. I really thought they cared about me, and I loved them.
Got pregnant on a one night stand.
Adopting a cat since I’m allergic to cats.
Losing enough feelings to finally leave my ex. Before it felt impossible because when I would leave I was in horrible emotional pain so it felt like I couldn’t go on without him. Eventually I kept talking with him with the problems I had with him over and over I guess it somehow sunk in that things would never change and I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life being with an asshole. So I was finally able to break up with him without begging him back. Not gonna lie I did hook up with him one time since the breakup because the sex was pretty good but at least I’m not still in a relationship with him🤷♀️
Moving on from my first ever crush, I thought without her I would be dead, but now when I think of her, I just think “man I dodged a bullet”
Parents separated and now hate each other
Now I’m In the mix
Adulthood.
My brain swelling.
Making it to this age, always thought I’d die either by drugs or suicide
I died at 21 and was brought back to life. Really puts things into perspective.
I never thought , I’d die alone. I laughed the loudest, who’d have thought
Bad health
I was the other woman.
Never thought Id be in a relationship, yet here I am!
Going to college being independent and having a career that I will be able to retire and not rely on anybody for anything
A serious chronic illness that is debilitating
Contracting an STI after literally being soo careful and falling so so very in love with someone who had recently only been in a long-term relationship that literally lasted almost as long as I’ve been alive…… find out if they’re from the streets before feeling safe enough to get in the sheets cause dogs don’t give a fuck who they give their infections to as long as they get to eat..
Be alone for the rest of my life.
The destruction of the United States as a world leader
Have Donald trump teabag my entire bank account in three weeks
Becoming a widow at 55 after watching my husband die of cancer.
Never thought I would go to a psych ward. Didn’t know what a manic episode was like until I had my first (only) one.
That after a fun DNA test I would discover that my Father had a secret family before us. I had a sister. Never expected that, my father is pius, well in appearance.
Winning the lottery >!it was $2 but still I won lol!<
I never thought I’d become a teacher. I said for many years I could never be a teacher. After a career in healthcare, I took a job in a school to have the same schedule as my children. I absolutely loved it. Now I teach high school and college math.
It turns out that I could never be an elementary teacher. I don’t have the skills necessary for being a good elementary teacher. High school teaching is where I belong.
Getting hit by a car lol
That I’d ever look old and lose my beauty.
Trumps second term… idk I thought Americans had more common sense then to elect an acquitted rapist and convicted felon… TWICE!!
Traveling with kids!
Permanent irritable bowel from an infection and then bacteria overgrowth that prevents me from tolerating fruit . guessing no one wants to hear about sexual stuff that was unexpected.
Breast cancer
The death of my younger brother. I expected to die first since I was older and he seemed so physically fit.
Getting addicted to drugs
Home ownership
always felt silly telling people my dreams of getting my PhD in neuroscience. I begin my program in august & it still doesn’t feel real when I talk about it
Find love and get married
Grade 7 band trip I got to stay in a hotel. I remember thinking life cant get better than this. Never thought I’d get to experience that. Anyway. That’s how poor we were.
Getting pregnant at 19
Stabbed in high school.
Mediocrity
Divorce. If you’re reading this and not yet married, get a prenup. Divorce is so much more legally and financially intricate than you can imagine and a prenup is your chance to avoid that.
That I would make it to rtirement
Cancer diagnosis 1 month after my stepdad was diagnosed.
I was 41 with three children ages 2, 7, & 17 while going through a divorce.
Thankfully, I’m here to tell that years later .
Taking a sabbatical from my job of 20 years to rest, meditate and find out what I want to do for the next 20 years of my life!
Living on scraps of affection.
Business of family, not the loving kind.
Never thought I could/would settle.
Alas that ship sailed.
Being nonmonogamous
I never thought I would tear my ACL! It’s supposed to happen only to athletes!!
I never thought I’d have a crazy ex that was bad enough to give me a PTSD diagnosis.
Went partially blind out of nowhere, no symptoms, no cause. Pretty scary. I knock on wood every single day that my other eye was unaffected.
becoming completely fearless. i’m still disgusted by certain things but not afraid
I decided to roleplay a bug on a windshield on an electric bike.
When a car going 15 goes against an electric bike going 25, who wins?
The car won. Me, I got lucky with minor injuries.
The driver was a saint too. He offered to split the bill despite me technically being at fault. I still paid the full bill.
Being friends with my parents. Getting older is pretty cool
Never thought I’d be a widow at 60
Have a normal heart rate. I’ve had inappropriate sinus tachycardia all my life and I am now recovering from heart surgery with a steady heart rate between 65-85. Before my surgery it was normal for it to go up to 160 and my resting was like 110.
My husband died suddenly at 53 years of age. I didn’t expect to be a widow with two kids. Fortunately, he thought it might be a possibility and had a life insurance policy to take care of us.
I wouldn’t say I never thought it because there was a time before I was an addict, but after I got into opioids, I never thought i’d be clean off them. Spent close to 15 years in active addiction, literally all my adult life at the time I got clean. Don’t get me wrong, i had periods of sobriety, but there were always months long, and once got close.to a year.
I always thought ai was going to die using. I was hopeless. I was using an ungodly amount of dope.
Now, it’s been 5 and a half years since I last done any opioid, let alone heroin, (or fent or carfentanyl). Now that i’ve been clean and hearing the shit that is in dope, I am absolutely not going back to it.
I even got in a trade skill, finding stuff I like to do that doesn’t involve drugs… which is honestly, overwhelming being in my now late 30’s and still figuring out simple shit about myself and life… but I wouldn’t trade it for that hell that I came from.
I will smoke occasionally and have a few drinks at work functions(what the company pays for provided if there is enough time to not blow numbers), but it’s what works for me.
Leaving a job with nothing lined up. Not ideal in regular times and in THIS MARKET – bonkers. But it was that bad and I would not still be alive had I stayed working there.
Break my leg, slipped on a rock and fractured!!
Moving to Canada for political asylum from the United States…
I’ve fantasized about moving/seeing other countries for a variety of reasons, but this just takes the cake.
That I would get old!
Be in a DV marriage for longer than I care to admit.
I was in a horrible wreck more than 5 years ago and I lost my fiance and I lost my job I broke both my arms, broke some ribs, one of my lungs collapsed the other was failing I broke my jaw and my collar bone I was in a coma woke up a month later in a wheelchair and had to live in a group home to get my leg strength back.
Marrying a toxic person and navigating a separation from said person
I never thought I would feel better in my late 40s than I did in my 20s. I had a hysterectomy in November and holy freaking crap, I only wish I could have had it a couple decades ago. Best. Decision. Ever. It took over 20 years of doctors dismissing my complaints but one finally listened to me. And I guess they figured I’m not gonna be out here having more babies at my big age.
I didn’t realize how much pain I was in until I wasn’t. I knew it hurt, but even the good days didn’t feel like this!!! My pain levels are zero. ZERO. I have energy. I can sleep. I’m not riding a ragged edge of irritability all the time. Also? Sex is a whole new level of chef’s kiss.
Never thought I would have kids. Got pregnant on the birth control implant. Now sitting here with my one month old, and thanking God every day for it.
Move to a foreign country by myself. I only lived there for a year (which was always the plan) and I had a great time but damn what was I thinking?
Being a dad. Not only did it somehow happen while on BC but I was lucky enough to have it happen with the exact right person I always wanted to be with. Despite so much turmoil early on, there is nowhere else I’d rather be. I hope that everyone else finding themselves in such a scenario pushes through to realize that you can do it and it is worth it. The joy and love and light it parenthood brings is meaningful. Life is sacred. Everyone has a purpose.
Get into a car accident.
My friend had just gotten her license, and my parents didn’t want me to go in the car with her, but I convinced them to let me go. 😣
never thought i would live with my dad and leave my abusive step dad. never thought i would go to a school were i wasn’t the plague and the whole school didn’t hate me. never thought the same person who hurt me mentally for so many years would go to dozens of therapy and parenting classes and work so hard to see me again. never thought i would want to be in the same room as him again let alone make new good memories with him. never thought i would be diagnosed with adhd and autism and finally understand why people didn’t like me. never thought i would have my own room, and definitely never thought the anxiety i got every day would get better and my life would get as good as it is right now.
Deciding to never have kids. Spent most of my life with the one thing I knew being that I wanted to be a mom. Trauma ruined that, and now I don’t think I’ll ever change my mind. I’m never having children.
Have an affair.
That I would have a baby that passed away after being here a month. Nothing prepares you for a child’s death.
Divorce, complete loss of faith. SO glad they both happened.
Never tbought I would get ghosted for no reason by the person who promised we would always go back to friends if nothing else.
Got pregnant @41 and had a baby girl after trying for 17 years! I had wanted a baby girl since I could remember. I literally couldn’t believe it had finally happened. She’s 6 now and I still pinch myself over it.
a threesome
Struck by lightning!… I’m fine, I was in my work truck. Apparently it was quite the show though, I did buy a lottery ticket, I didn’t win.
My wife divorcing me.
Cancer at 33.
mom got cancer
Im 61 and never got bit by a dog but a month ago a pit bull attacked my dog and I grabbed her and the dog bit my arm a bunch of times. I never thought I’d get bit by a dog. But my chiweenie is OK and didn’t get hurt bad and I had under 1000.00 in medical bills the other person paid.
I slid twice in my life on a banana peel that someone littered on the ground. Kind of ridiculous when you dont know why you are making a split out of nowhere…
Getting married. Becoming an addict (I’m in recovery now!). Losing my best friend so young. Owning a home. There’s so many things!
Life is crazy.
Being disabled by 54
Never thought I would go to college, but put myself through school and ended up getting a masters degree (the first college graduate in my family). My OB/GYN said I probably would never have kids, but I have two wonderful grown children that are now independent adults.
It’s amazing how life turns out!
Become paraplegic at 32
Buried a child.
Having a second chance at life. When you’re in the darkest part of your life and feel so depressed and angry at the world you give up and it feels like you might as well crawl into a hole to die. It’s hard to get motivated when you’ve lost everything you care about, but life goes on.
Got old
I regained my youth AND my happiness with the Relaxicizer!
Getting in a car accident where my fiancé died and I don’t remember my last month with her.
But it happened in 2008.
Got cheated on
Get Divorced twice
I had a rough start in life, but I was able to get my bachelor’s in Mechanical Engineering last December. I’m in my 30s and I was a high school dropout. I worked all kinds of jobs. I never once imagined I’d be doing anything like this.
Getting diagnosed with a brain and lung tumour at the same time. Both inoperable
Never thought I’d outlive two siblings.
Rape.
That I would get kidnapped
never thought id go from millionare to almost homeless with tons of debts
I found the One.
35 years together this year, 33 married.
It really does happen.
Hooking up with someone from Reddit.
Divorce. My parents have been married almost 50 years. Dedication and working through problems is in my bones.
I draw the line at cheating though.
Nic addiction I feel so stupid now
Be divorced. Firmly believed in the “till death do we part” when I got married..
Getting divorced. Excruciating.
Beachside home and get to see the sunset every night. I was homeless 25 years ago and now I’m so fortunate for what I have.
Finding my dream guy & having a beautiful child
I struggled to conceive and spent a lot of time on reddit reading other women talk about their experiences with PCOS and endometriosis. I felt so bad for them, and so thankful that I didn’t have those issues. I was so sure about this that when my fertility doctor did an ultrasound of my ovaries and said, “Wow those are some classic PCOS ovaries!” I immediately responded, “Oh I don’t have PCOS!” Turns out I had both.
When I was 19 I agreed to put my auto repair bill on credit. I didn’t have to make a payment for six months. In other words, it was free because what are the odds of that much time happening?
Way too many things to list
Pacemaker at 33. Never did drugs and don’t drink.
my mom passing
I never thought I’d be living in my van down by the river, but that’s the first thing I did after some oil field layoffs.
Having to do CPR on a loved one.
Have a wonderful loving partner 🤍
Finishing nursing school and becoming a nurse
Positive: Own a home. I never thought it would be possible. I’m still grateful, everyday I pinch myself that it’s real.
Negative: I never thought that I would develop agoraphobia. I was a social butterfly and loved adventure. It seemingly struck out of nowhere. I couldn’t even check my letterbox, it was awful,
Hooking up with a girl online and ending up in bed together within hours of meeting IRL… The beginning of a wild rollercoaster ride!
Iwas set on killing myself when I turn 28, at the age of 11. Last year, I decided not to. It’s more cons than pros because I never had substantial development to sustain myself but hey though it’s a shitty one, it’s a work in progress
When I was really young and an early teen, becoming an alcoholic. From 16 to 22, that changed to becoming sober from alcohol, but now I’ve been 3 months sober.
Become a sex worker at a brothel. I also have another job but i just never thought life would lead me here, as a single woman in this economy!
Losing my husband at 43
Having 4 miscarriages & having 4 children. I miss the woman I was before those losses but grateful for what that molded me into and super grateful for all my children earth-side.
Never thought I would get pregnant
Never thought I’d survive a nervous breakdown following a seriously bad break up. 9 years ago almost to the day (tomorrow) when I suffered my first panic attack. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. The depression etc lasted two years; nearly died in the process, but, without therapy and without meds, just pure perseverance, I made it through. I still bear the emotional scars but I’m definitely not a sucker to the person that did this to me anymore; never even thought it get over that! And I’m so glad to say that I am so happy now. 😊
Losing my 35 year old daughter.
Figuring out I’m non-binary after decades of life without a clue. It really fucks with you tbh, going from almost never thinking about your gender to thinking about gender all the time while you’re figuring yourself out.
Get in an abusive relationship. I’m like fine, and it’s mostly financial and emotional, but Christ. I always prided myself on being so smart that I’d never get stuck in a bad relationship. I didn’t know you could wake up one day and realize the water’s begun to boil.
A word of advice to anyone reading this, people don’t change, but they do get worse. So don’t just roll your eyes and forgive everything. Protect your happiness and peace first, because you don’t wanna be where I’m at. It’s a cold and shitty day when you realize that all this work you put into building a life with someone is a moot point because they delight in your suffering in some way.
Also, if you are ever on your knees bawling and begging to be loved correctly and they’re just standing over you with a blank expression, girl run. Don’t stop to grab your shoes. Cuz it only will get worse and you’ve already stayed in that relationship too long.
I’m nearly thirty, but in the last 6 months or so I’ve developed an allergy to dogs. Can’t believe it 🙁
Getting epilepsy out of nowhere. Nobody in my family has it but apparently I was born with it and it didn’t show up until my mid 20s. Multiple brain surgery later and I’m still having so many seizures. Enough that I can’t use the bathroom while my S.O is sleeping without freaking them tf out after being together for over a decade.
I’m almost just done.
You all deserve the best lives you are capable of having.