Negativity. I can handle fun little banter/complaining once we get to know each other, but if you’re negative right off the bat it’s a bad sign. I don’t need someone who’s actually negative.
Spelling. If you cannot spell we cannot date I’m not talking about using common shorthand phrases like lol, wtf but I’m talking about people who spell ‘baby’ – babii or definitely defiantly. A woman not being able to spell is the quickest way to get me to peace out. When I started dating, texting wasn’t big and people used to actually pick the phone up(after 9 free nights and weekends!) and talk to each other
Lying for no fucking good reason. Pisses me the fuck off. “I thought you would be upset if you knew the truth.” Well in that case, thank you for lying straight to my face as if I am worth nothing to you.
I can handle a lot of things but don’t even come slightly near me if you want a strap on.
I can handle smoking, I can handle having step kids, I can even go as far as to move countries depending on how it ends up. But I will NEVER want to see a strap on in the relationship.
(Edit: this goes without saying, but I am also not a fan of having a relationship with women with dicks as well)
Being angry at me for either no apparent reason, or for a genuine mistake, irrespective of consequence, if I didn’t mean to do it and you get angry with me, I’m probably ditching you unless this is very, very rare.
Bringing up your ex in an argument. This is like 3x worse if it is an argument that happened owing to what I typed above.
Threatening or implying that you might leave me or that you made the wrong decision getting with me. I had some childhood issues which make this a deal breaker. I’ll recoil in disgust, become avoidant and ultimately break up with you within a week or two if not immediately, sans a big heart to heart in which you decisively climb down and understand this is NEVER ok.
I’m always quietly judging you along these lines, mostly for self preservation / avoiding unfaithfulness reasons. I’m so at ease and comfortable in my own company that a relationship had better make my life much better, because if I sense any games, entitlement or risk to my well being in being with you, I will enthusiastically return to my man cave.
That all said, I have my angel and we will marry soon.
Immediate turn off? If you’re the type to ignore boundaries, act entitled, or treat me like I’m your therapist or emotional punching bag, you’re out. I don’t have time for people who can’t communicate like adults, constantly play games, or expect me to put up with their disrespect. Relationships should be built on mutual effort, trust, and respect — if you’re not willing to give that, don’t waste my time. I’m not here to tolerate your immaturity or selfishness. Life’s too short to deal with that bullshit.”
When they also have a secret tinder account, but too much of a teapot to hide it. Sent you a few screenshots of their work, the last one with a tinder notification, while explaining to you why they want a second phone, so they can msg you on one phone while using the other for work, not to have two WhatsApps etc…had their phone on silent so they didn’t hear the tinder notification come through as they are screenshotting and sending to you, yep was an instant turn off after being with the person for a year.
Me and ex just broke up yesterday and he would literally make major decision’s for me without me having a say and he lied to me behind my back and he practically left me outside in the cold while sitting on a couch with another bitch so yeah major turn off thank you next
Passive Agressiveness & an overly needy text messaging.
I absolutley can not stand passive agressiveness. It completley turns me off.
I also can not stand when I am just expected to be able to entertain them with texts because they are bored. I would actually get the most passive aggresive “whatevers” when I’d say i need to focus on work or I’m going into a test.
If they are filthy. Whether that be not bathing, not brushing teeth or living in a pigsty. I am not a clean freak by any stretch of the imagination but the number of men I meet who will go a week without a shower and will almost never clean is alarming.
Insecurity with me. I’m very open and will say what I’m comfortable with or not comfortable with. If you lie because you’re afraid of how I’ll react, then it’s one of two things…
You’re doing it even though if the situation is reversed you would get angry – double standard
You will never be happy no matter what assurance I provide, you’ll always use it as a weapon against me
Either way, it’s showing a lack of self awareness, accountability or care.
No emotional intelligence. When they think they are always right and they just don’t listen, are not open minded and they care more about winning an argument than to understand the other person
People who are easily irritated, condescending, want princess treatment, or need things to be perfect to be at peace are instant red flags. I have enough family who will incite confrontations over things that aren’t worth fighting over.
After my last relationship arrogance and an inflated ego/self importance. I like confidence but when you seem to think that you are smarter than the rest of the world/better than everyone else it’s not attractive. Also emotional immaturity, really really frustrating to deal with.
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treating service workers poorly
Bad manners, disrespecting me, and not being prepared to endure tough times together (in most cases, they’ve been walking away)…
Smoking!
Hate lies.
I really hate slow texters
Gonna get a lot of hate for this, but smoking.
Ask for money
Being bombarded with texts all the time or the opposite, really slow to respond and poor communication skills.
possessive and clingy people
Poop with the door open
Baby talking/talking to me like I’m stupid
Phone at the table, or any place where we’re supposed to be spending time together.
Lack of communication
Negativity. I can handle fun little banter/complaining once we get to know each other, but if you’re negative right off the bat it’s a bad sign. I don’t need someone who’s actually negative.
Poor communication.
Rushing right into the good morning and good night text routine.
Being a respectful, understanding, and loving panther.. I have such a toxic taste in men
Dating short girls has always felt weird to me. I can’t do it.
not much. my deep insecurities and low self esteem makes me a tolerant and pliable partner.
Spelling. If you cannot spell we cannot date I’m not talking about using common shorthand phrases like lol, wtf but I’m talking about people who spell ‘baby’ – babii or definitely defiantly. A woman not being able to spell is the quickest way to get me to peace out. When I started dating, texting wasn’t big and people used to actually pick the phone up(after 9 free nights and weekends!) and talk to each other
Fucj everyonr.
Lying for no fucking good reason. Pisses me the fuck off. “I thought you would be upset if you knew the truth.” Well in that case, thank you for lying straight to my face as if I am worth nothing to you.
Spelling back then and now, I ended up with someone whom I hate. We’ve been together for 3 years now. I’ve learned to accept the flaw along the way.
Weaponized incompetence.
Snoking
A penis.
Being too basic and conforming to society’s expectations.
When they ogle at girls in front of you or try to flirt with them to try to get a reaction out of you.
If I can tell they put me on a pedestal & they’re ignoring my faults to maintain a certain view of me
Being rude to service industry people.
Period.
The know it all..Never listens to anyone else …because….they know it all
Constantly judging and looking down on others, and smoking.
Cleanliness, personal and space, shutter. 2nd common respect, patience.
I can handle a lot of things but don’t even come slightly near me if you want a strap on.
I can handle smoking, I can handle having step kids, I can even go as far as to move countries depending on how it ends up. But I will NEVER want to see a strap on in the relationship.
(Edit: this goes without saying, but I am also not a fan of having a relationship with women with dicks as well)
If they treat waiters badly.🚩🚩🚩
Constantly begging for me to let them add another person into the relationship. I know that’s specific but that was my situation last time
poor communication skills, (I cannot read your mind)
Talking about how she smashed dozens of big cocks in her previous hookups.
Bad grammar or spelling
Being angry at me for either no apparent reason, or for a genuine mistake, irrespective of consequence, if I didn’t mean to do it and you get angry with me, I’m probably ditching you unless this is very, very rare.
Bringing up your ex in an argument. This is like 3x worse if it is an argument that happened owing to what I typed above.
Threatening or implying that you might leave me or that you made the wrong decision getting with me. I had some childhood issues which make this a deal breaker. I’ll recoil in disgust, become avoidant and ultimately break up with you within a week or two if not immediately, sans a big heart to heart in which you decisively climb down and understand this is NEVER ok.
I’m always quietly judging you along these lines, mostly for self preservation / avoiding unfaithfulness reasons. I’m so at ease and comfortable in my own company that a relationship had better make my life much better, because if I sense any games, entitlement or risk to my well being in being with you, I will enthusiastically return to my man cave.
That all said, I have my angel and we will marry soon.
Gambling addict
Smell
Her saying mean and snipey sh*t and then when I call her out on it, she says she’s “just joking” and that “I’m too sensitive.”
Walk right the fck away from that sh*t because it’ll only get worse until it devolves into an abusive relationship.
Religion
Saying the N word when they aren’t black.
Not getting over an ex , dealing with such people is a waste of time and energy
Immediate turn off? If you’re the type to ignore boundaries, act entitled, or treat me like I’m your therapist or emotional punching bag, you’re out. I don’t have time for people who can’t communicate like adults, constantly play games, or expect me to put up with their disrespect. Relationships should be built on mutual effort, trust, and respect — if you’re not willing to give that, don’t waste my time. I’m not here to tolerate your immaturity or selfishness. Life’s too short to deal with that bullshit.”
Financial exploitation.
The normalised kind.
Emotional immaturity and lack of communication.
If she had a black bf.
When they also have a secret tinder account, but too much of a teapot to hide it. Sent you a few screenshots of their work, the last one with a tinder notification, while explaining to you why they want a second phone, so they can msg you on one phone while using the other for work, not to have two WhatsApps etc…had their phone on silent so they didn’t hear the tinder notification come through as they are screenshotting and sending to you, yep was an instant turn off after being with the person for a year.
Smoking
Me and ex just broke up yesterday and he would literally make major decision’s for me without me having a say and he lied to me behind my back and he practically left me outside in the cold while sitting on a couch with another bitch so yeah major turn off thank you next
Passive Agressiveness & an overly needy text messaging.
I absolutley can not stand passive agressiveness. It completley turns me off.
I also can not stand when I am just expected to be able to entertain them with texts because they are bored. I would actually get the most passive aggresive “whatevers” when I’d say i need to focus on work or I’m going into a test.
Unkindness and disrespect.
My feelings literally switch off.
Feeling unwanted and unheard. Hard to get me to want to come back from.
Desperate is dangerous. If I’m just the next person they’re latching onto or if they fall apart when I’m not available, I’m not interested.
Lies
too clingy… suffocating
Not being into physical affection (hand holding, cuddling, playing with hair).
Nothing “wrong” with anyone not into it, but its just the most immediately clear signal i am not compatible with someone.
If they’re a cultist – be it political or religious
Not being able to communicate when there’s a problem
if they love trump. politics are one thing but idolizing a politician is too much
Being on the right politically. Life’s just to short.
Needy people.
When they are friends with their ex
Obssession
When her Weiner is bigger than mine 😡
If they are filthy. Whether that be not bathing, not brushing teeth or living in a pigsty. I am not a clean freak by any stretch of the imagination but the number of men I meet who will go a week without a shower and will almost never clean is alarming.
Being too clingy right from the start. We don’t even know anything about each other. Stop making life plans revolving around me
Classism.
I may be doing fine now, but I wasn’t always. If you look down at your nose at marginalized people, I don’t want to be your girlfriend.
Drug addiction, financial instability (meaning large debts, not managing their own budget, etc.), living with parents (25+ yo).
Talking in abbreviations
Lack of respect for the other, lying, any semblance of cheating either emotionally or physically.
Lack of intimacy and sex.
Deflection when you try to bring something up and communicate healthily.
Getting defensive and starting an argument instead of taking accountability or just apologizing.
Not being able to not bring up their exes.
Not respecting boundaries.
Physical abuse and not being mature enough to take responsibility for their actions/accountability.
reactions and another girl.
Different with me than they are with others, especially family,
Being controlling, possessive, jealous etc
Being rude and shitty for no reason
Someone who thinks insults are just jokes because they were brought up that way
Ignorance kills the relationship
when they start helping you find a partner lmao
If they shit themselves infront of me, like explosion of poop just ooozing down their leg, thats a turn off
Being deceitful. If you won’t do it with me next to you, why are you doing it?
Lies
Republican
as a man, getting this line from the opposite sex.
my money is my money, your money is also my money.
i’m to old for this shit.
Insecurity with me. I’m very open and will say what I’m comfortable with or not comfortable with. If you lie because you’re afraid of how I’ll react, then it’s one of two things…
Either way, it’s showing a lack of self awareness, accountability or care.
When they do it on purpose to make you jealous.
It’s very ugly and also immature to do and over time can lead to a toxic environment
No emotional intelligence. When they think they are always right and they just don’t listen, are not open minded and they care more about winning an argument than to understand the other person
Putting me down. Shows insecurity and that’s a turn off to me
I prefer my significant other to be self-assured
Making fun of SO
Being tight – as in MEAN (not butt cheeks!)
People who are easily irritated, condescending, want princess treatment, or need things to be perfect to be at peace are instant red flags. I have enough family who will incite confrontations over things that aren’t worth fighting over.
Mama’s boys
Women who pedestal or try to manage me. That shit makes me laugh.
Being disrespectful
Flirting with other people in front of me. Gross person for sure.
A relationship.
Bad table manners
Double standards.
It’s the one thing I absolutely refuse to tolerate under any circumstances. No compromises, no second chances.
Phone addiction
Lying
Not being able to make me laugh.
Wrong choice of words in an argument.
Cleanliness and manners
Being in a relationship.
This is exceptionally weird, but … If a woman stands with her feet pointing outward, nope. Never. Dunno why but que sera sera.
Lack of hygiene
After my last relationship arrogance and an inflated ego/self importance. I like confidence but when you seem to think that you are smarter than the rest of the world/better than everyone else it’s not attractive. Also emotional immaturity, really really frustrating to deal with.