Saw it in r/askwomenover30 and thought it would be interesting.
I’m personally fine with it all. Nothing unexpected is happening for me
Saw it in r/askwomenover30 and thought it would be interesting.
I’m personally fine with it all. Nothing unexpected is happening for me
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The only thing I can think of is I do catch myself saying “they don’t make movies like they used to”, but they really don’t
How hard it is to make new friends.
The pain.
And don’t get me started on Robert Pattinson playing Batman because that’s what he was doing. Was playing at being Batman.
Taking better care of my health…
As we get older every action that takes physical force gets harder to do.
How many doctors I need.
How quickly your eyesight deteriorates.
My back.
It gets harder to get out of bed each morning if you are out of shape and not eating healthy.
That I would start giving a shit about wasted time. I used to waste most of my time when I was young and didn’t give a shit. Now my productivity is directly proportional to my level of peace and happiness and I don’t like it. I didn’t sign up for this.
How fast time actually moves. Spry young man in my 20s, blink and I’m married, blink again and I’m holding my first born, blink again and I’m holding my second born, blink one more time and I’m teaching my oldest to drive.
Time moves INSANELY fast, so take the time, slow down and enjoy the little things along the way.
How much your body hurts and how much you actually end up growing to tolerate the chronic pain.
Alcohol is a highly addictive drug, if you drink every day (like we were told 20 years ago) you’ll find yourself feeling like shit right around after work and only a ‘glass or 2’ of wine will fix it…soon that is 2 or 3 and so on.
Growing old is NOT a gift given to everyone (still with spouse after over 55 years)
…how hard it is to sleep through the night.
How horny women get as they get older
Bladder.
That when gray hair starts it’s not just on your head. 😶
Head hair being replaced by back, ear, and nose hair. Unfair and imo unnecessary trade off.
How quickly your body begins to show signs of wear and tear. My knees, hips and back are just totally shredded.
How time keeps speeding up. Each year fizzes by faster than the one before.
Family and people you love are getting older, and they won’t be there forever. Sometimes, it’s sudden and without warning. Other times it’s slow, and they creep out the front door.
But there will come a day when you realize your family has fundamentally changed and that you now hold the role of the most important person in your childhood held. And it’s funny because you now realize how fucking little they knew.
That song Cat’s in the Cradle by Harry Chapin becomes so fucking sharp the older you get. Spend time with your family while they’re here, tell people how much they matter and that you love them (and often). Spend time with your children – be in that moment and not on your phone/computer/watching TV.
There’s some melancholy to this but your family member or friend might not be there next week. So make the time now.
Doesn’t matter, I wouldn’t have listened. You learn things when you’re supposed to. You chose paths when the time is right. Life is never easy and believing that you should have been doing something 10 years ago is a trap. Of course I would have started investing 10 years ago….. if I had any exrtra money back then
random friends dying suddenly. Feels weird knowing some people had it all and it was gone in a second.
My knee hurting all the time
Drop bears
My body hurts
Finances and when to start caring about them. I’m gonna work till I die and die penniless.
Old people. We’re a weird bunch. Definitely a lot weirder than we look if looked at with young eyes.
Hemorrhoids.
Don’t hang out and read a magazine on the can, friends.
Nobody ever told me that.
ED. When I was a kid we laughed about Bob Dole advertising for Viagra. After all, what kind of a loser can’t get an erection??? What an old geezer!
Then…. I got old. Over 50% of men between ages 40-70 suffer from ED. If your dick doesn’t stay as hard as it used to, it’s nothing to be ashamed about. Just go to a doctor and get some pills. They’re cheap and they work. It’s seriously the easiest medical issue I’ve ever solved.
The death of expertise, no one knows what’s going on everyone’s winging it, we’re all trying our best and failing upwards or backwards
How lonely it gets sometimes. Not even a negative necessarily, but even within your peers you often feel like your backpacking up a mountain without a sherpa, and how you handle it is dependent on how resilient you are.
There is no God. Don’t waste your life thinking there is an afterlife. Spend your time wisely TODAY! For You Only Live Once.
Love fully, forgive deeply, take the chance you’re avoiding because of shyness or fear of failure.
Memento Mori, remember that you must die.
……. my wife getting old also!
I wish someone had warned me how fast “my music” would become retro fashionable. I didn’t expect it until mid-late 40s, but I’ve got kids at work listening to stuff that I remember the summer the songs came out. Not just one or two, but one after another after another.
You hear that you cant buy time when you’re younger and it makes no sense. You get bored, you get time alone, you can do anything you want for the most part.
When you’re older, you realize how little can be packed into a day before you run out of spoons or it’s just not a smart move to go that extra place and take care of that thing.
That half of marriages end in divorce but the other half end in death. Never really gave much thought to the second part.
How there is no meaning to life. You don’t matter. Nothing matters. You are one creature existing in the tiniest blip of time on one planet circling one star in an endless sea of stars and planets. Your existence is inherently meaningless. If you spend your entire life searching for purpose and meaning in a meaningless existence you will feel unfulfilled. Just live. Be present and happy with the mundane parts of your existence.
How long it takes to recover from injuries. Idgaf about losing my hair I just want my tendons to recover
Loss of memory. (Starting at 50.)
How difficult it is to start something when you’ve let it lapse.
Momentum is so much easier to maintain – specifically related to physical activity.
That aging is not linear. I knew it firsthand, but recently read its scientifically true. A person takes a dive at ages 44 and 66. I can speak to that. It is, of course, a general decline, but a steeper dive at those ages. I only vaguely remembering in my mid forties “Shit. I’m beginning to feel old.” I’m 67 now and the real decline started at 66, as the article I read stated. It feel like my life is a series of doctor appointments and new medicines. Oh, and naps!
How easy it becomes to fuck up your back doing normal ordinary every day things…
How fast it happens! You spent your life studying or working then you wake up and realize it’s almost over.
About how life slips away from you if you let it.
I constantly curse myself for being less able to decide what I want and then taking action to pursue it. The gap between where I am and where I could be is large and irrevocably growing.
You’re going to start making that sighing sound whenever you sit down in a chair, just like your dad did.
Older, but nothing’s any different,
Right now feels the same, I wonder why,
I wish they told us, it shouldn’t take a sickness,
Or airplanes falling out the sky.
The importance of a clean birdbath
I get depressed reading this thread yeeee