I was on an IT helpdesk and our team leader used this saying so that when we were working on a ticket make sure to update the user your actually working on it and if you hit a snag tell the user so they know.
My mum when I was 11 years old – “what do you want for your birthday, how about a personality?” Then her and my sisters laughed at me. I realized I fucking hated them and they didn’t add any value to my life. I left when I was 16 and moved to the otherside of the country at 18.
People care more about themselves than they do you. Say the weird thing, do the meet-up with old friends, take risks and be yourself.
“Never try to hate anyone; often they don’t care, and you’re left doing all the work.”
Said by a friend of mine at a very critical time in my life. It’s been said in other ways (“… first dig two graves…” and others) but that one stuck with me for the last 35+ years.
“You’re husband has been in a motorcycle accident” it was the only sentence left in a voicemail. My husband had indeed been in a terrible motorcycle accident. And a passerby who had stopped to call 911 left me that message.
I have loved the stars too fondly, to be fearful of the night.
Best statement:
“Nope. Lean against the wind and keep walking.
We just keep going kiddo.
What? Does life think it’s going to knock me off my square?
Oh no, f** that shizznet!”
(Unedited version)
My Mom
People are quick to accept that the smallest change in the past can dramatically change the present…..yet refuse to accept that the smallest action today can completely change the world….
Know the difference between a friend and an acquaintance.
My granddad told me that when I was young, and it just clicked. I know far too many people that I used to hang about with that I couldn’t tell you their favourite colour, food or film.
The same applies for people I work with, keeping a clear distinction, where others have their list of friends be only people the work with. Which I find so uncomfortable.
It didn’t completely change my life, but when I was stressed about something, my friend said “it’s not that deep.” Now I use that phrase to remind myself to calm down when I’m stressed about something unnecessarily
I grew up in a poor larger family where vacations were nonexistent and food was hard to come by. I would admire the commercials of Nickelodeon cruises and movies where kids celebrities would go on international vacations. My mom and I would talk of my day dreams of huge trips around the world and my older sister would drag me back down to earth- reminding me of how unlikely any of this would happen. My mom told her, ‘it’s okay to dream.’
Now I’ve traveled all over the world and I am constantly day dreaming my next steps. No one is stopping me.
Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation—some fact of my life—unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
From my mom, “Your dad said you dropped out of college because you’d rather smoke weed than go to class.” Neither of them had any idea what I was going through, and in that moment I lost respect for my mom and decided breaking contact with my dad was for the best (mind you I already had plenty of other reasons to break contact).
There is always something you can learn from a person. No matter who, there is something they know that you don’t. Be open to learning from anyone and everyone
“Be very careful and observant. Everything in the natural world is trying to kill you, and you’ll never know until it succeeds.” – my outdoorsman father, telling me to not be so bold and fearless while exploring the Alaskan wilderness that was my childhood backyard.
Years ago I was having a bad day at work. Everyone I dealt with was an asshole. One problem after another so I went outside to get a breath of air and started talking to a security guard.
After telling him my troubles he just looked at me and said.
“On days when you think everyone is an asshole, it’s not them.”
When I was 15 or 16, my mother’s asshole husband punched her in the face over a bag of groceries. After my cousin and I chased him from the house, I was sitting alone with my mom in her room and asked her if he’d hit her before because I couldn’t believe that was the first time. She wouldn’t really answer. I asked her why she’d stay with somebody who treats her like shit.
To this day, almost 30 years later, I can still hear her anguished voice in my head with absolute clarity shouting “Sara, I can’t DO any better!”
That one sentence kept me single and completely uninterested in dating at all until I was 26.
You literally can do anything and have complete control of your life and your future. There are very few actual, real exceptions to that rule. Some things take longer to bring to pass, but you have the power to do anything.
My husband had an affair when our son was only a few months old. It was my second marriage. I gave up on romance, decided to stay with him because I had a newborn. But there was a potential romance waiting in the wings, a man who had been an amazing friend for years. He wanted me to leave and join him, but I didn’t have the energy or the motivation. I was speaking to a friend and said I thought I’d stay for the children (I had a daughter from my first marriage) but she said, “Don’t your children deserve to see you happy?”
That was what changed my mind. We’ve been together for 30 years. He’s an amazing dad.
“Try harder you fat piece of shit!” Marine Corps drill instructor, 1989. I tried harder because I was at the fear of my life. That dude was not fucking around.
“If I offered you $1mm dollars but you’d be dead within 24 hours would you take it? No. Therefore you recognize that every day is worth more than $1mm but you so often waste it.”
It was from a former teacher. (We still have contact since I finished school) and she is a bit like a maternal friend for me. For some time, she was my favourite person (BPD) and for Christmas 2023 I painted her with her dog and her other dog from heaven. I put very much effort into this picture.
Well… She told me that I can call her always when I’m in trouble, but one day I called her around 9 PM, without a “real” reason, just from a BPD mood. She was not amused and she told me that she doesn’t want to called so late for no reason and she doesn’t want a Christmas present, because it’s too close.
Of course I was really sad and disappointed and a world collapsed for me. But in this pain I recognized something: She did not break off contact, so it was just because of my behavior, not because of me as a person. She was the first person who teached me that difference.
„If they wanted to they would.“
(Means if they wanted to spend time with you they would take opportunities and not make excuses. Dont be anyones Plan B and gaslight yourself into thinking „they’re just busy“)
“Diversify your identity” – basically don’t tie your identity to just one aspect of your life so that when you “fail” or have a bad day in one aspect, you can feel good about another part of your identity. For example, I may have had a bad work day as a lawyer but I had an awesome mile run in the morning or I handmade some cool candles before going to bed.
“how much will you indulge in your flaws” it’s from my favorite movie – girl, interrupted. As someone who has struggled with body dysmorphia and EDs for many years, it really hit me like a ton of bricks. I am doing much better now, but I always think of that if I’m having an off day
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When walking walk, when running run, above all never wobble.
Either fuck the day or get fucked.
See it while you can.
Some days you’re the dog, some days you’re the tree
A no! is a complete sentence . No need to explain further
Trust the process
Qolpom – quality of life, peace of mind.
I was on an IT helpdesk and our team leader used this saying so that when we were working on a ticket make sure to update the user your actually working on it and if you hit a snag tell the user so they know.
Quality of life, peace of mind!
“Your dad didn’t want anyone knowing about you, but I taunted his family with you anyway “
Life is too short to be pissed off all the time.
Fuck it, two tears in a bucket, it ain’t shit.
Slow is smooth, and smooth is fast
You are in charge of your own destiny!
Nothing is going to be different unless you do things differently
enjoy it while it last, nothing is forever, and even the closest people can betray u
Never be afraid to fail
Never break two laws at once; that’s how you draw attention to yourself.
My mum when I was 11 years old – “what do you want for your birthday, how about a personality?” Then her and my sisters laughed at me. I realized I fucking hated them and they didn’t add any value to my life. I left when I was 16 and moved to the otherside of the country at 18.
People care more about themselves than they do you. Say the weird thing, do the meet-up with old friends, take risks and be yourself.
Time is the only thing that passes by and you can never get back
“Sometimes when you’re in a dark place you think you’ve been buried, but you’ve actually been planted.”
Be careful what you wish for
” you do not drown be falling in the river , but by staying submerged in it “
Living well is the best revenge!
Love yourself. Someone who can love his self, trúly gives something precious when saying “I love you” to another.
Never be good at something you don’t want to do
Better out than in I always say
“Never try to hate anyone; often they don’t care, and you’re left doing all the work.”
Said by a friend of mine at a very critical time in my life. It’s been said in other ways (“… first dig two graves…” and others) but that one stuck with me for the last 35+ years.
“Let today be the day you learn the grace of letting go, and the power of moving on”
If it’s not a fuck yes then it’s a fuck no.
“You’re husband has been in a motorcycle accident” it was the only sentence left in a voicemail. My husband had indeed been in a terrible motorcycle accident. And a passerby who had stopped to call 911 left me that message.
I have loved the stars too fondly, to be fearful of the night.
Best statement:
“Nope. Lean against the wind and keep walking.
We just keep going kiddo.
What? Does life think it’s going to knock me off my square?
Oh no, f** that shizznet!”
(Unedited version)
My Mom
air is a compressible fluid
A life sentence.
When my daughter was born, my uncle told me “congratulations on becoming rich” and now I get it.
“People will take anything from you that they can, but they cannot take ypur pride if you always do the right thing.”
You could do nothing for the next 10 years of your life and still have time to fuck up.
I feel like 25, I should have everything figured out, but realistically I have SOOOO much time.
“Our fates are already written, fear profits a man nothing.”
-13th warrior
People are quick to accept that the smallest change in the past can dramatically change the present…..yet refuse to accept that the smallest action today can completely change the world….
Something new… not ready to talk about…completely changed the way I looked at my life. One single statement.
Audacity always wins (originally in the context of social engineering)
Asking doesn’t cost you anything
“Do you want to buy it, because you want to use it or because you want to spend money?”
When I was 8 I told my mom that I didn’t like it when she did drugs. She got angry with me and said, “I’m always on drugs when I’m around you.”
“Cause fuck ’em, that’s why!”
A stiff dick has no conscious
“Those who hesitate, masturbate”
Know the difference between a friend and an acquaintance.
My granddad told me that when I was young, and it just clicked. I know far too many people that I used to hang about with that I couldn’t tell you their favourite colour, food or film.
The same applies for people I work with, keeping a clear distinction, where others have their list of friends be only people the work with. Which I find so uncomfortable.
It didn’t completely change my life, but when I was stressed about something, my friend said “it’s not that deep.” Now I use that phrase to remind myself to calm down when I’m stressed about something unnecessarily
“Listen, it’s too big a world to be in competition with everyone. The only person I have to get better than is who I am right now.”
Colonel Sherman T Potter, 4077th MASH
Motion is lotion!
Keep physically moving, basically. Exercise and your body will reward you years down the line.
Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good enough.
“Nobody’s coming to save you”
So yeah prioritize yourself and make sure to always be in a place to be able to provide for yourself.
When I’m not feeling motivated…
“The price of procrastination is the life you could have lived”
I grew up in a poor larger family where vacations were nonexistent and food was hard to come by. I would admire the commercials of Nickelodeon cruises and movies where kids celebrities would go on international vacations. My mom and I would talk of my day dreams of huge trips around the world and my older sister would drag me back down to earth- reminding me of how unlikely any of this would happen. My mom told her, ‘it’s okay to dream.’
Now I’ve traveled all over the world and I am constantly day dreaming my next steps. No one is stopping me.
“Go the f*#k to sleep” 🤣
Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation—some fact of my life—unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
Big Book AA
From my mom, “Your dad said you dropped out of college because you’d rather smoke weed than go to class.” Neither of them had any idea what I was going through, and in that moment I lost respect for my mom and decided breaking contact with my dad was for the best (mind you I already had plenty of other reasons to break contact).
There is always something you can learn from a person. No matter who, there is something they know that you don’t. Be open to learning from anyone and everyone
It is what it is
Have you had a bad day or did you have a bad 5 minutes that you let ruin your day?
sometimes closed doors are blessing in disguise.
“ you never know what someone is going through, always be kind”
The last sentence of the great Gatsby, the hopelessness of hope
Nobody is coming to save you. But you’re also not as helpless as you think.
“You can’t pour from an empty cup.”
“Kara, You are forgiven”
Who’s peace are you keeping?
Lifelong silence to protect a mother who knew all along. There’s no punishment great enough.
r/lostredditors r/askreddit
“Be very careful and observant. Everything in the natural world is trying to kill you, and you’ll never know until it succeeds.” – my outdoorsman father, telling me to not be so bold and fearless while exploring the Alaskan wilderness that was my childhood backyard.
“I’m tired of reliving the same pain because it’s all we have in common.”
fat, drunk and stupid is no way to go through life, son.
Years ago I was having a bad day at work. Everyone I dealt with was an asshole. One problem after another so I went outside to get a breath of air and started talking to a security guard.
After telling him my troubles he just looked at me and said.
“On days when you think everyone is an asshole, it’s not them.”
Your brain is a liar and I am in control.
“Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.”
“Saying no to others is saying yes to yourself.” This is in regards to self care and/or setting boundaries.
You fuck around and find out.
tomorrow will be a better day
Don’t let perfection stand in the way of progress.
“You can do hard things.”s. Rachel
When I was 15 or 16, my mother’s asshole husband punched her in the face over a bag of groceries. After my cousin and I chased him from the house, I was sitting alone with my mom in her room and asked her if he’d hit her before because I couldn’t believe that was the first time. She wouldn’t really answer. I asked her why she’d stay with somebody who treats her like shit.
To this day, almost 30 years later, I can still hear her anguished voice in my head with absolute clarity shouting “Sara, I can’t DO any better!”
That one sentence kept me single and completely uninterested in dating at all until I was 26.
“I’ve lost interest in you”
Righty tighty, lefty loosey
“Life is what you make it.”
You literally can do anything and have complete control of your life and your future. There are very few actual, real exceptions to that rule. Some things take longer to bring to pass, but you have the power to do anything.
My husband had an affair when our son was only a few months old. It was my second marriage. I gave up on romance, decided to stay with him because I had a newborn. But there was a potential romance waiting in the wings, a man who had been an amazing friend for years. He wanted me to leave and join him, but I didn’t have the energy or the motivation. I was speaking to a friend and said I thought I’d stay for the children (I had a daughter from my first marriage) but she said, “Don’t your children deserve to see you happy?”
That was what changed my mind. We’ve been together for 30 years. He’s an amazing dad.
Be kind, for everyone is fighting a battle we will never know of.
If you are not changing, you are choosing.
You don’t have to believe everything your mind tells you
You wouldn’t worry so much about what other people think of you when you realise how seldom they do.
Maybe you think you can do it. Maybe you think you cannot do it. Either way… you are probably right.
“The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the
Inequities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men.”
Oh! Almost forgot.
“Try harder you fat piece of shit!” Marine Corps drill instructor, 1989. I tried harder because I was at the fear of my life. That dude was not fucking around.
Don’t attribute to malice what can be attributed to incompetence
“You accept the love you think you deserve.”
“Don’t take life too seriously no one gets out alive”
“If God is with us, then who is against us?”
“If I offered you $1mm dollars but you’d be dead within 24 hours would you take it? No. Therefore you recognize that every day is worth more than $1mm but you so often waste it.”
life is unfair, always look for the brighter days
It was from a former teacher. (We still have contact since I finished school) and she is a bit like a maternal friend for me. For some time, she was my favourite person (BPD) and for Christmas 2023 I painted her with her dog and her other dog from heaven. I put very much effort into this picture.
Well… She told me that I can call her always when I’m in trouble, but one day I called her around 9 PM, without a “real” reason, just from a BPD mood. She was not amused and she told me that she doesn’t want to called so late for no reason and she doesn’t want a Christmas present, because it’s too close.
Of course I was really sad and disappointed and a world collapsed for me. But in this pain I recognized something: She did not break off contact, so it was just because of my behavior, not because of me as a person. She was the first person who teached me that difference.
Speak up. Nobody can read your mind. Courtesy of my Aunt Gail
Suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems
‘Everything in moderation, including moderation’
“Someone’s therapist probably knows all about you.”
Do not trust anyone but your dog they will never betray you.
“You’re weird. Accept it, and you’ll be fine.” I fid accept it, and I am fine. It’s ok to be yourself, not everyone needs to like it.
The truth will set you free
“Being miserable builds character” Calvin and Hobbes
You are not a tree. If you don’t like where you are Move!
Or it was something along those lines.
When someone shows you who they are the first time believe them.
“If you want to have a baby, you’re going to need to try now.”
“But I’m not married!”
“Mother Nature doesn’t care.”
“If an opportunity presents itself, will you know enough to take it?” – Carlton Sheetz
“Don’t procrastinate, it will bite you in the butt” – Jim Kasper (R.I.P.)
The moment when you most feel like saying something negative to someone is really the moment you should not say anything.
„If they wanted to they would.“
(Means if they wanted to spend time with you they would take opportunities and not make excuses. Dont be anyones Plan B and gaslight yourself into thinking „they’re just busy“)
The problem is not the problem. The problem is the way you think about the problem – Captain Jack Sparrow
It helps me think outside the box and sometimes turn problems into opportunities
You don’t have to apologize for changing your mind
Argument with a coworker “I’m not lazy you’re a sucker” he was right. Changed my whole life, not even joking a little bit.
A healthy person has a thousand wishes; a sick person has only one.
The answer to every question you don’t ask is NO.
My dad: when people show you who they are, believe them.
My mom told me once during a heated argument in my teens, “I love you enough to let you hate me”. Powerful
The best time to plant that tree was 10 years ago, the next best time is today
E+R=O
E.is the events that happen to you in life, most are out of our control.
R. Is your Reaction to the event
O. The Outcome is always on you no matter what, you alone are responsible for the way life is
A man wrote to Dear Abby doubting whether he should go to college later in life. He said, “In 4 years I’ll be 33 when I graduate!”
She replied, “And how old will you be in 4 years if you don’t graduate.”
Gave me motivation to continue towards my degree.
“I have found that if you love life, life will love you back.”
“What’s a fart when you already shit your pants?” – my jiujitsu professor
“Those who mind, don’t matter. Those who don’t mind, matter.”
“Diversify your identity” – basically don’t tie your identity to just one aspect of your life so that when you “fail” or have a bad day in one aspect, you can feel good about another part of your identity. For example, I may have had a bad work day as a lawyer but I had an awesome mile run in the morning or I handmade some cool candles before going to bed.
Stand for something or u will fall for anything
Jenny, you can fix this!!
And I did.
Do you really think that you are the only one who can put up with her shit?
It’s better to be able to sleep at night than to have a place to sleep.
“Dont be soo blind” per the ex, during an outburst.
of course everything is falling apart, your new life will cost your old one
“how much will you indulge in your flaws” it’s from my favorite movie – girl, interrupted. As someone who has struggled with body dysmorphia and EDs for many years, it really hit me like a ton of bricks. I am doing much better now, but I always think of that if I’m having an off day