this has been a thing since i f(23) was a kid. i remember when id argue with other girls in school or even go back and forth online, it excited me. i thought this meant this person must like me because they’re entertaining and giving me attention. this is when i realized tension wasn’t just tension in my head. even when i had “beef” with other girls i still imagine making out with them sometimes instead of fighting. even when i didn’t like the girl.
now as an adult in the rare instance that i do go back and forth with a stranger online or someone im dating, i tend to say things that bounce off of what they say. i try to find clever replies and when they react to it, i get excited- almost like we’re writing a poem together . i do not enjoy bringing turmoil to others. but after a debate with even someone i may not know online, i be wanting to text them after and hold conversations. often times i get the thought “is this person flirting with me” which i laugh it off. but i can’t help but to feel a little intrigued or turned on going back and forth with other people. gender doesn’t matter and i don’t even have to know what the person looks like. if lm (sleeping with, dating, talking to, focused on, etc), to someone i can easily feed into the drama and drag things out, for the tension to me appears as sexual tension. luckily i have a strong mindset and i don’t personally argue anymore due to my anxiety. but sometimes i can’t tell when im trolling too much and actually bothering people. idk if it matters but i am pansexual so it doesn’t make a difference who im talking to really.
idk if this makes sense. but this is one of those odd ass traits of mine that i can’t just go without telling someone.
(edit: i wonder if anyone understand or goes through the same thoughts)
(edit 2: i never said i enjoyed starting arguments, on the contrary i’ve specifically stated that i prefer to not argue. it’s just in the instance that i do argue, im more eccentrically equipped)
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Whoa, that’s kinda wild, but it’s cool you’re self-aware about it… I guess we all have our quirky things, tbh.
I think you’re wrong, retort?
This is quite interesting indeed
Christ, some people are so odd
good girl
Give me your hot take and I’ll argue the other side
The sky is purple
I had a friend like this. She’s a few years younger than me and she’d always love to start up little arguments and debates over the dumbest shit that I would say and eventually she came clean and admitted she loved the drama and it was almost like a turn on for her to be right or smush someone else beneath her own “better” opinion, etc.
We aren’t friends anymore though… lol
The earth is flat
Get ready for a whole load of banter and provocation lmao RIP your DMs. But confessions are what this sub was made for.
NTA. JK. YTA. 💯
Relatable AF
Everybody in the comments are on a mission to give you the orgasm of a lifetime it seems lmao
Jesus we would be doing nothing but discussing anything. I love it
lol. I had this with one of my ex gfs. I never told her, but I knew that in the back of my mind it was super fucked up know that we were about to have crazy sex right after or during mid fight. After the relationship I did some work on myself and it hasn’t happened since.
I had a friend who probably wanted more, for me she was just a friend. We had a time where we phoned more often. One evening she starts provoking me. I don’t remember the details, but I remember it was upsetting me by the minute, so I said something along the lines of “let’s stop for today and talk later sometime” After I had pretty much ended the conversation and wished her good night, she said “wait, wait, don’t hang up”
She told me then that she sometimes likes to pick a fight with close friends. It’s not the fight but the feeling close after a fight that she likes and that’s why she does this sometimes.
You’re not alone.
Therapist!
Avoid at all costs
It doesn’t sound weird. From what I understand, attraction can be psychological. Maybe the conversations and discussions you have with people are stimulating? Like having a good game of ping pong? I can understand that, at least. For my part, it may get exhausting if I feel like it’d be simpler to agree to disagree than dragging out a debate for too long. But who knows? Perhaps healthy communication about how a person feels could help balance it out. Just my thoughts.
No it doesn’t.
I get turned on having shouting matches with my chef lol
Looked at your account, NO truth or dare IS NOT a good movie 😌
My ex is exactly like this but he won’t admit it lol
No it doesn’t
This makes sense to me. I know someone who enjoys “arguing” with me because it has the same effect on her. So I get it.
When I see girls saying dumb stuff it makes me so mad that I want to stuff my cock down their throats to shut them up. So yea I can relate.
I totally understand, but I kinda still wanna argue about it now.
something something entp
Wait, this means you can’t break up with someone over an argument 😂
That explains my friends SO’s behavior. Poor bastard.
Become a lawyer 😋
i have to confess the negative comments aren’t doing what yall think it is. or maybe they are. 😉
No you don’t
oh well let me be more direct. i won’t change my opinion no matter what you say and as well i won’t care about what you’re talking about.
You don’t like arguing!
I wish you the best but it reminds me of this clip from Scrubs
I kind of feel similar towards one person not everyone I hate fighting most people but there is this one person that we have this weird like flirty but as enemies interaction where we are constantly rude and mean nasty towards eachother but in a sexually charged playful way like I really dont like this person but I’ve heard of hate fucking so that kind of makes sense whatever your into these days there’s a place for you to feel at home and for you that place sounds like reddit 😆
quick question, honest answer please, do you affiliate with any political party. this is for my own research, not trying to get all political?
You need to find someone to role play and get into an argument with, but with the intention of going through with your sexual desires. Sounds like it could get to be fun! You would need a good “nice” safe word I think.
So. After reading the post and some comments, my only question is does it matter like what the argument is about or HOW the person argues? Like are there “types”? People have different “styles” and “tactics” when arguing so I guess im wondering if theres one kind that turns you on more vs another? Like intellectual, hostile, name calling, the know it all when they really have no idea type, etc.
Astaghfirullah
I don’t believe you and yes I want to argue about it
This falls somewhere in the sapiosexual catagory
.I think.
Sounds like you are a contrarian.
No it doesn’t
I think you’re objectively wrong and there’s no way you’ll talk me out of it
I feel ya, it’s wild how our minds decode things… kinda fascinating how your interactions spark that fire for ya, tbh… thanks for opening up.
I wonder if most people on Reddit and the internet as a whole have the same kink as you because I can’t say anything on this site without someone arguing with me about it.
Ngl I’m a little sick in the head like that. I enjoy getting under a man’s skin omgggg, especially if I liked him to begin with.
Acknowledgement craving
It’s because it stimulates a trauma response, and a lot of people are drawn to those who make them feel unsafe, because they lived an unsafe childhood. Either physically or emotionally. This kink will destroy your life, I promise you. Don’t fall prey to its allure.
It sounds like you might identify as a Brat. 😀
If we dated and you started doing this to me I’d be ignoring you in no time just like I did my ex lol. Can’t stand people who argue for sport
Did you grow up with frequent arguing in your home?
No it doesn’t!!!!😅🤷🏻♂️
I feel the same waaaaaay
Alright i’ll disagree with you.
What are we debating?
Wanna fight?
OP never become a lawyer
I dated a girl who was the same way. She literally would provoke me, piss me off to no end and as soon as I’d blow up she’d want to fuck. God she was so toxic but damn it was fun for a little while. Lmao.
The good thing is that if You end with haters because of this You Will win anyways 😭😭😭
You sound like an ENTP. Ive dated too many of them to spot them in the wild
I just can’t agree with you. You can’t possibly consider ignoring another explanation.