Apologies in advance as this might be a mess. TempThrowaway acc obv. I’m afraid my partner would find this but I really want to let this off of my chest.
During 2023 while I was browsing on MRM (myreadingmanga) website where a porn ad came thru and that’s where something weird happened. I saw a guy that looked really familiar on the intrusive webcam ad and i clicked on it to find out it’s my high-school bully. Mind you he’s not bully bully but jus annoying, childish, name calling, pulling my pants down kind of bully. At first i couldn’t believe my eyes like it can’t be him but his username and His IRL name is similar (like Chris XXXson). I watched for a while where he pleasure himself while interacting with the viewers. At first I jus wanted to mess with him a bit but then I was really drawn to him to the point that I created an account, interact with him and even spend money. He’s not a big camboy or whatever it’s called. Usually it’s 2 digits to jus a couple viewers but i was obsessed with him and everytime i got off work. I would look him up, chat with him, send coins. Throughout this I confirmed it’s really is him but I was already obsessed with him. After some months later, I learn about him alot and I really want to reach out to him but scared that I would come off as a creep so I tried to reconnect with my old friends to find out about him. After sometimes, i figured out thay he’s unemployed, staying with his sister and whereabouts. I hang around his area to see him and i did. I’ve always thought of myself as a loner who would grow old as a single uncle but seeing him was like something reachable, within my grasp if I make my moves right. I’ve never had that kind of confidence in anywhere and it felt good. I remember i was shaking with excitement and I knew I gotta do it. And so i did. I try to bump into him at his usual go to convince store and act all surprise and guilt trip him into buying me beer for bullying me in high-school. He was sincerely apologising and all which i find it very cute. I got that beer bar date. There I planned it all out. Joking about old times, reminiscing about high school and all the fun things and then got him to go for a walk in a park with more beer cans in hand with me. I had it all. We couldn’t stop talking about everything including his life and where he’s been which I already know ofcourse. I comforted him and the next thing i know, he got all emotional and we were making out on the bench at night. I walk him back to his home where his sister is worried sick. The next day, i text him and hit him up. One thing i had to lie at that time was how i knew his number and his address which i got all from a friend. I jus swept it under by saying he was too drunk when he give it to me. From that day on, I hit him up IRL and on that cam website. He always chat about life and whatever topic he has on his mind when there are very few viewers but I was always there. On there as an online stranger, i tried to push him into my way. A lot of things happen during that until one day he really went out on a proper date with me. I was pursuing him in IRL but subtly. I learned more about him during our 2 months where i learn he has a passion for baking but never really got into so I encourage and put him as apprentice in a local bakery using my connections which he is very thankful for. After a while, he announced on the website that he’s turning a new leaf and leaving the cam site and I even congratulated him and send him a final tip. He never mentioned about the website to me IRL tho. 8 months of dating in and I had him move in with me, where he would bake breads and pastries for me. We are head over heels for each other. We celebrated 1 year anniversary like 5 months ago and now we’re planning to save up money to open up his own shop. My house smells of bake goods and he is trying his best for the shop. Sure i feel like such a manipulator sometimes but I love this man so much. His sister loves me too. It’s a little family i got. I aim to marry him next year if all goes well. From jus wanted to mess with him to him making a mess out of me everyday. I want to let this whole thing out to him but i don’t even want a single dent in my relationship with him. I cherish him and he knows it. God this was the single bravest thing i ever did and I’m loving it everyday. I sometimes feel like I litreally went with my gut like a villain, a mastermind. I still would love to hear what you guys have on your mind.
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Honestly, this sounds like one of those wild “what if” scenarios that ended up going way further than expected.
Never let him know he won’t be okay with that…
So you’re saying I CAN bully a girl into liking me?
If you don’t want to ruin something good, delete this post before he can see it
I am pretty sure that he will not accept this if you tell him, but I am 100% sure that this will come back to hound and destroy you eventually if you dont tell him
If it were me I’d be incredibly weirded out and question the validity of the relationship. Delete this and keep it to yourself 🫣
You’re gonna have to take this one to the grave but its okay just shove it farrrrr back to the back of your mind, never think about it again, and move on like nothing happened. Simple
I don’t care if it’s manipulation I love this lol
Girl, I know exactly what you mean. Three years ago I strategically pursued this guy who had so much potential but zero direction. Helped him build his confidence, update his wardrobe, and apply to grad school. We’re engaged now and sometimes I lie awake wondering if I’m a terrible person for orchestrating the whole thing.
You should turn this creative writing exercise into a manga
It’s like the series YOU
I genuinely love this for you OP but delete this and never bring it up again 😭
This is strangely wholesome and he will take it either lightly or heavily- do you have an idea on what he’d lean towards? You know a lot about him, is he a non serious guy? It also matters how you bring it up. If you sit down and act all serious about it, it might come off as creepy. This might be a throw away story when you’re years older or if you feel like it’s going to bother you for keeping it in it’s something you should tell him now. Secrets secrets, are no fun. Secrets, secrets hurt someone. But honestly I could understand this being a take it to your grave thing. It’s a white lie in my mind, something not too sinister- kind of has the same vibe of “at first i asked you out on a bet but then I spiraled and fell in love with you” type situation. Good luck either way OP!
Tell him and post an update
Instead of digging into the past, focus on being open with him about your future dreams, struggles, and feelings. That’s the honesty that matters most now. You already have something beautiful, protect it by growing even more trust between you two.
What in the Hailey Bieber ..
I don’t think it’s that bad. He wouldn’t be with you if he didn’t like you. You haven’t forced him to do anything
What in the Joe Goldberg.
This is incredibly manipulative and if I were your bf and found out, I think I’d actually have a mental breakdown. You need to fess up before he finds out.
If you gonna say something, do it in your death bed. Don’t mess up something so good. You vented to us, got it out of your chest. Now enjoy this life you have ahead and make the best of it! It does not matter what started the relationship, what matters is that from now on you have each others backs and be a great partner to each other.
This should be a Lifetime movie. Glad you found your person. I’d keep this secret. Maybe something to share on your 50th wedding anniversary… by the way..
Maybe it’s just me but the commenters talking about how wholesome this is, is cringy as fuck. Nothing about this is sweet and cute.
Not only did you orchestrate the whole relationship, you had him move in with you so now you control his housing..
He quit his camming gig and how he makes money now is by a route YOU gave him.
You manipulated two major things people need to survive, money and housing. Downvote me all you want, but this is not okay.
Delete this. It never happened.
Lmao???
Delete this. You got it out, good for you both.
you didn’t manipulate him, you side-quested into a whole bakery owner husband. This is some Disney villain origin story but with croissants and true love. I’m invested. Drop the wedding date so we can all bake ourselves into your life too
Delete this now, take the secret to the grave.
Wow, that’s quite a journey… tbh, relationships can take unexpected turns, but it’s awesome to see how you two found happiness together.
Yo delete this post, it’s way too specific
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yeah delete this. I don’t agree with how you got here, but basically you have 2 options:
or
Honestly, I don’t even know what the ethical thing to do in this situation is. You did something immoral in the past to get to this point, but if you both are genuinely in love and treating each other in a healthy way now, then causing more pain by telling him would be more “truthful”, but it would also hurt everyone involved immensely.
Normally I’d be hardcore on “you have to tell him” but idk… if you can be married for the next 40 years and genuinely build a happier life? Maybe that’s better for the both of you in the long-run. At the same time, him not knowing all the information essentially means that you are making that choice for him, not with him.
Do what you think is best, but there’s no coming back if you tell him.
What you did is wrong because you’ve made him believe a false narrative of how your relationship evolved; however, you’re probably the only person who knows his deepest secret that he cares about. He’s probably ashamed and hasn’t mentioned it because he’s afraid you would accept him. The fact you know this and still believe in him is beautiful in a dark twisted way and you should totally keep this to yourself. Hopefully you can delete your electric path so he can never find out.
This is so fukin cute, I would recommend deleting this post, but this confession is just plain lovingly in a… Weird way i could say (at least the first part) but at the end it’s all nice
Just enjoy what you have now, if you are happy and he’s happy, just be happy together 😀