Two months ago my best friend went through a really rough breakup. The kind where you know the relationship was toxic but still, it destroyed her.
She called me the night it happened and asked if she could come stay with me for a while, just to get away from everything. At the time I had just booked a short trip for myself.
It was something I had been planning for a while, mostly funded by some random credit that built up on a platform I sometimes use when I get bored. Honestly, I was excited about it because it felt like the first real thing I had done for myself in a long time. I told her I needed a few days and that she should stay with her sister first.
I thought she would be fine for a little while. By the time I got back, everything had blown up. She had a huge fight with her sister, ended up sleeping on a friend’s couch for a week and basically spiraled for a while.
She never said anything to me directly but I can feel the distance now which is KILLING ME INSIDE. We used to talk every day and now it is just polite check-ins. I know she needed me and I chose to put myself first and like even if it made sense at the time it still feels like I failed her when it actually mattered.
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Keep reaching out to her and invite her to do things. She just needs to know you’re there for her. Taking a trip you already had planned is understandable.