Today was our 2-year anniversary, and my boyfriend surprised me with a gift — a necklace and stud earrings. At first, I was excited, but then I saw they were studs… and I never wear studs. I’ve mentioned so many times that I don’t like them, so I couldn’t help but feel a little hurt. After two years, I really thought he’d know my style.
Then I found out he bought them from one of those overpriced jewelry stands I’ve warned him about before. The necklace was cute, but it felt super cheap — and it was $150! I’ve told him not to shop there because it’s a rip-off, but he didn’t listen.
It’s not even about the gift looking cheap — it’s about him spending way too much on something that doesn’t reflect me at all. I care about how he spends his money, but it feels like he doesn’t.
So after hearing all this… am I a b**** for being upset? Me 18 (F) him 20(M) ⸻ Reddit keeps deleting my posts please comment here.
TL;DR- me 18 him 20. He got me stud earrings when I don’t wear them the rest of the info is up there.
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I’d feel the hurt is more so stemming from it being a bit of a token gift.
You’d specifically said you didn’t like studs or that shop, yet you got both.
If it’s the thought that counts while intended to be a nice gesture, it certainly lacked the thought, unfortunately.
It’s hard to show gratitude for something you specifically said you wouldn’t want.
When it comes to gifts, it’s the thought that counts. Sounds like he didn’t have much thought if he bought something you specifically don’t like, from a store you don’t like. It seems like an impulse purchase, like buying a present from a service station in the way home, but he got ripped off in the process.
This is something to talk about calmly with him about the eforrt he put in. Some men confuse dollar amount with effort, so maybe it’s best to start there.
I have never had a boyfriend or husband who could choose jewellery. Best to tell them that it’s hard to choose the right thing, and to have you involved if they want to buy it. My daughter just did the same with her engagement ring.
Though I am wondering how it came about that you’ve mentioned that you don’t like studs so many times in the two years you’ve been together. Have you been hating on other people’s studs? LOL