I need an outside perspective because I’m feeling kinda conflicted.
About two weeks ago, my best friend (let’s call him “BFF”) and I planned to watch the new Minecraft movie together. Before that plan, I had already talked to a newer friend (a girl I met about a month ago) about watching it too.
My plan was simple: watch it with the BFF first, and then with the newer friend on a different day; it wouldn’t be the first time I’ve done something like that.
But my BFF kept rescheduling. Then he decided to invite the girl he was seeing and her younger sister along to our movie outing. I’m a pretty introverted person and feel uncomfortable around people I don’t know well. His girlfriend seemed cool, and if this had been the plan from the beginning, I would’ve handled it better. Sudden plan changes stress me out.
Anyway, the movie date with BFF kept getting pushed around. Meanwhile, the plans I had with my newer friend stayed solid — we were set for Saturday. We decided to meet on Friday first just to vibe and see how we got along. And honestly? She’s great. We laughed, made jokes, and even danced a little in the theater (it was almost empty), talked Minecraft lore — it was a blast.
Meanwhile, BFF kept asking me to cancel on her or watch something else with her. I didn’t want to, because:
1:I hate changing plans last minute
2:I didn’t see a good reason to
On top of that, on Friday, the girl BFF was seeing broke things off with him (I won’t get into details, but honestly, I don’t blame her based on what I know).
After finding out I had watched the movie with someone else, BFF got super upset. He told me that I “always blow him off for girls” (which, to my memory, isn’t true at all). I asked him for an example, and he just said he didn’t have to give one.
Now he refuses to watch the movie, saying, “Why would we watch it if you already watched it with a random girl instead of your best friend?”
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Backup of the post’s body: I need an outside perspective because I’m feeling kinda conflicted.
About two weeks ago, my best friend (let’s call him “BFF”) and I planned to watch the new Minecraft movie together. Before that plan, I had already talked to a newer friend (a girl I met about a month ago) about watching it too.
My plan was simple: watch it with the BFF first, and then with the newer friend on a different day; it wouldn’t be the first time I’ve done something like that.
But my BFF kept rescheduling. Then he decided to invite the girl he was seeing and her younger sister along to our movie outing. I’m a pretty introverted person and feel uncomfortable around people I don’t know well. His girlfriend seemed cool, and if this had been the plan from the beginning, I would’ve handled it better. Sudden plan changes stress me out.
Anyway, the movie date with BFF kept getting pushed around. Meanwhile, the plans I had with my newer friend stayed solid — we were set for Saturday. We decided to meet on Friday first just to vibe and see how we got along. And honestly? She’s great. We laughed, made jokes, and even danced a little in the theater (it was almost empty), talked Minecraft lore — it was a blast.
Meanwhile, BFF kept asking me to cancel on her or watch something else with her. I didn’t want to, because:
1:I hate changing plans last minute
2:I didn’t see a good reason to
On top of that, on Friday, the girl BFF was seeing broke things off with him (I won’t get into details, but honestly, I don’t blame her based on what I know).
After finding out I had watched the movie with someone else, BFF got super upset. He told me that I “always blow him off for girls” (which, to my memory, isn’t true at all). I asked him for an example, and he just said he didn’t have to give one.
Now he refuses to watch the movie, saying, “Why would we watch it if you already watched it with a random girl instead of your best friend?”
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Good news for him, it sounds like he still has a girlfriend afterall
Do you still call him best friend? He’s just selfish and doesn’t care about you.
“BFF, you know I hate plan changes and rescheduling. You kept doing it. I’m allowed to organise my time as I see fit, even if it upsets you. And the fact it upsets you, after your frankly very flaky behaviour is more than a little hypocritical. If you had stuck to the plan, I’d have watched it with you first. You didn’t, and I didn’t see a reason to cancel on the person who actually prioritised their plans with me. From now on, if you try to change plans last minute I’ll just cancel them completely. That’s a boundary I’m setting. And I won’t cancel preexisting plans for you, that’s not on the table”
Info: Knowing your gender and what your BFF did to lose his girlfriend would help a lot with giving proper advice, would you mind sharing?