At some point some science-y people put both men and women in an MRI and scanned the brain while climaxing. Yes, they made people masturbate inside an MRI.
Basically, in the last 15 seconds or so before climax, and until it’s over, you are focused only on yourself. You’re so much in your own body that it’s impossible to think of anything else but your own pleasure.
So, until that point, I give as much as I get. In the home stretch I don’t.
Here’s a thing – I’ve not had a partner successfully get me off since the mid 90’s – so it’s all about her, and I’m fine with that.
My current partner has a bit of a complex about it, she feels guilty that she’s not able to reciprocate. I’ve no idea how to fix that particular problem.
It turns me on more to give my partner pleasure. Sometimes I have to really concentrate when I’m receiving pleasure because it takes me a while to climax especially receiving blowjobs.
depends on the dom/sub dynamic:
as a sub i feel like you focus more on yourself, and as a dom you focus more on your partner
Can’t exactly melt away when you’re trying to stay in control right? But you can make your partner melt
It’s a balance of both I feel because when you are in tune with each other, you feed of each others pleasure too… it’s a dance and you are both intuitively moving together.
Don’t get me wrong. I do everything to please my partner and make sure they enjoy themselves. I can even be a bit cruel about overwhelming them with pleasure and making the experience as intense as possible and taunt with dirty talk if somebody is into that.
But I’ve found that just being in the moment makes sex a thousand times better for all parties involved.
As a dude i actually need to not finish so my partner is enjoying herself. So it’s not like a race to the nutt, it’s like a- if i get too involved in what she’s doing right now i’m not going to be able to keep her doing it for very long.
I think the fact people take turns to orgasm is amazing… I’ve not met many who are considerate enough for that… Usually if I get there before them I use hands to help them over the line…
Depends on the mood.
If we have time. Then initially on the mood, then on her then me. More if that’s the vibe.
If it as quickie, she may just want a filling so that’s on me but if it’s a quickie for her then obv on her.
I’m kind of submissive and really only want to focus on my partner. Their pleasure is all that matters. If they allow me to finish myself when they’re done I’m happy
Giving pleasure gives me a lot of satisfaction, even if i’m really horny I feel better and more relaxed after making my partner cum. When I’m doing penetration, I’m focusing on stroking properly and also trying to make sure I finish inside her. When I’m receiving head I’m just relaxing and enjoying it as much as possible and making sure I finish.
100% on giving them pleasure, whether it’s making her lose count of orgasms and limping when we’re done, or giving him an willing friend to cum in, it’s all about them. I’ll get off just fine in the end, I don’t worry about me.
Her pleasure, first and foremost. I love all the moans, and mms, and ahhhs. I can last a lot longer with her than I can when it’s finally my turn. I wish I could hammer away for twenty minutes, but she’s too gorgeous and I just can’t.
The first time.
That second time, I’ve got the staying power of a stallion!
Giving pleasure is where i feel the the real fuel of pleasure arises seeing how your small action are making them go crazy ,so what they hide from society,their real self which is during orgasm has full control and wants to just feel and cross the line
Fully focused on my partners pleasure, I fit into the pleasure dom classification, and my wonderful girlfriend truely appreciates that my pleasure and enjoyment comes from giving her pleasure. I don’t climax often, maybe every third or fourth session, but that doesn’t worry me, I am very happy with how much she enjoys herself
Both. I love being the giving part, but for my partner that sometimes means me focussing on MY pleasure and just taking them in any way I like at the moment. It’s an interesting dynamic 🤭
My own. My partner is a giver, I am… not. I know we aren’t supposed to admit that but frankly I’m terrible in bed, I don’t really enjoy getting others off and I’m not good at it. Past partners would probably describe me using words like “unenthusiastic”, “clumsy”, and “uses too much teeth”.
I’m great at laying back and enjoying myself though. And I found someone who likes doing all the work and doesn’t want it reciprocated. We’re both very happy.
Isn’t it so nice how varied people are? I didn’t know I could just find someone who doesn’t like being touched but really enjoys doing the touching. Every pot has a lid.
I focus on her pleasure. She often tells me the orgasm ratio in our relationship is unfair. But her pleasure literally is what turns me on the most. I literally have orgasms from making her orgasm. I’m one of those men that can have multiple orgasms without ejaculating. So when it’s her turn to please me, she can go as long as she wants and I orgasm and she just keeps on going until she’s satisfied. So even my pleasure is for her pleasure. Before me she didn’t even women could have multiple orgasms. Now she knows I don’t stop until she’s had a minimum of 3. And luckily my girl can orgasm from penetration. We have multiple session daily. We’re so in love 🥰🥰
Both, there’s times for both. Knowing how to please someone and doing good at it and vice versa. It’s different everytime like sometimes you or they would be first to bat but the same gist.
Giving pleasure of course. As a man, I can cum on my own accord. Making your wife cum is something to work for and it lasts for a while. I cum and well, get back to doing something else in like a minute or so
It is all about giving her pleasure 🥰🩷🥰 I don’t care if I get off when we are having sexual relations. And it doesn’t seem to bother her much if I don’t.
Sometimes I don’t even get undressed and I’ll give her oral for multiple climaxes, with a little breather in between each. Or I’ll grab the Magic Wand and use it over her clothes and give her an orgasm or two.
I do a lot more solo masturbation than she does, so I want to make sure she is being fulfilled.
Her pleasure is my kink. I’ve always been turned on by the thought of pleasuring a woman. Something about the vulnerability, the intimacy, and being in control of how she feels. It’s better than an orgasm. I get my fix just giving oral sometimes.
My girls pleasure, always. I sometimes don’t even ejaculate. I’ve always taken forever to ejaculate and if it’s past 40 minutes, there’s no way anything’s cumming out (all pun intended). Besides, my woman’s pleasure makes me very happy. Thankfully I know all her points so sometimes she cums in less than 5 minutes. Also, I learnt that penetration is overrated quite often. The clitoris is a wonderful magical creature and your greatest friend. Give it love and it will give love to your woman. If ye get what I mean.
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Both are equally important so i’ll focus on both.
Giving pleasure. I will almost always cum when they do.
At some point some science-y people put both men and women in an MRI and scanned the brain while climaxing. Yes, they made people masturbate inside an MRI.
Basically, in the last 15 seconds or so before climax, and until it’s over, you are focused only on yourself. You’re so much in your own body that it’s impossible to think of anything else but your own pleasure.
So, until that point, I give as much as I get. In the home stretch I don’t.
Most rarest questions lmao 🤣
Depends on what we’re doing but… a lot of the time I’m more focused on me.
Definitely focus on your partner!
Partner. It leads to lasting longer, and rewards me
In the long run
Pleasuring my partner = my pleasure
Giving. 100%, I get off getting her off.
If they are happy, I am happy. That being said it really turns me on knowing that the other person is having fun and getting pleasured because of me.
Giving pleasure. I don’t even finish sometimes.
Both. I’m an equal opportunist.
Besides a long foreplay session, I always shoot the biggest loads when the woman I’m fucking is convulsing from pleasure.
Giving pleasure
If all that mattered was my own, I could take care of that manually on my own 😐
Giving is far more enjoyable an experience anyway
Fucking. I ain’t trying to solve Sudoku puzzles.
Giving the pleasure! The more I get them into the mood, the more I get into it.
Both, sometimes I like to dominate other times I feel submissive, other times it’s neither but just focusing on each other and making love
I prefer giving the pleasure most to the hotwives
My pleasure is hugely enhanced by theirs.
My partner.
Here’s a thing – I’ve not had a partner successfully get me off since the mid 90’s – so it’s all about her, and I’m fine with that.
My current partner has a bit of a complex about it, she feels guilty that she’s not able to reciprocate. I’ve no idea how to fix that particular problem.
It turns me on more to give my partner pleasure. Sometimes I have to really concentrate when I’m receiving pleasure because it takes me a while to climax especially receiving blowjobs.
Always give pleasure cause in the return you’ll receive greater
Look of your partner enjoying herself gives me pleasure and turns me on more
Her first then me
depends on the dom/sub dynamic:
as a sub i feel like you focus more on yourself, and as a dom you focus more on your partner
Can’t exactly melt away when you’re trying to stay in control right? But you can make your partner melt
Give
Giving pleasure. That’s the best part.
The men in this comment section give me hope
These are not mutually exclusive situations. If it is then make sure you get paid.
It’s a balance of both I feel because when you are in tune with each other, you feed of each others pleasure too… it’s a dance and you are both intuitively moving together.
Neither. I focus on being in the moment.
Don’t get me wrong. I do everything to please my partner and make sure they enjoy themselves. I can even be a bit cruel about overwhelming them with pleasure and making the experience as intense as possible and taunt with dirty talk if somebody is into that.
But I’ve found that just being in the moment makes sex a thousand times better for all parties involved.
Giving pleasure to my gf always 🥵
It makes me more hard seeing and feeling her being pleasured
I always let my partner cum first, so def giving.
Giving pleasure is also pleasurable, especially if you are more than just physically connected with that person.
Sex is stressful… you wanna do well so badly that you toss your own feelings out the window to avoid embarrassing yourself.
Reading the comments almost makes me believe not everybody on reddit is a virgin
My focus is lasting longer the 90 seconds
Don’t we all climax during a scan?
It switches on the moment.
Not my pleasure until she tells me to. Thinking about myself makes me finish way quicker.
I get off getting her off. I can’t get off just sitting down and having the work done for me.
Both
Mine… but the reasons why may surprise you!
As a dude i actually need to not finish so my partner is enjoying herself. So it’s not like a race to the nutt, it’s like a- if i get too involved in what she’s doing right now i’m not going to be able to keep her doing it for very long.
Giving pleasure gives me pleasure
It’s all a blur and then all of a sudden I’m getting escorted from the public pool.
The more she lets me give the more I get from it.
Giving pleasure. My lady comes first
Giving. Because when they lose control, that’s my reward. 😌
Them, then have to finish alone. The audacity!
I’m a giver. 3/1 every time I cum she has to cum 3 times minimum
I’m usually just making sure that the laptop doesn’t fall off her back.
I think the fact people take turns to orgasm is amazing… I’ve not met many who are considerate enough for that… Usually if I get there before them I use hands to help them over the line…
I enjoy so much my partner’s sexual bliss. That’s all what I think about after we have sex.
Depends on the mood.
If we have time. Then initially on the mood, then on her then me. More if that’s the vibe.
If it as quickie, she may just want a filling so that’s on me but if it’s a quickie for her then obv on her.
Been that long I can’t remember 😂
I’m kind of submissive and really only want to focus on my partner. Their pleasure is all that matters. If they allow me to finish myself when they’re done I’m happy
Both, but in turns. I go down till she’s close then she rides me till she finishes then I’ll finish shortly after.
It’s like spinning plates! Keep everything going until the crowd applauds
I focus on an interview with Xavier McDaniel on why he gets into a lot of fights.
Giving pleasure gives me a lot of satisfaction, even if i’m really horny I feel better and more relaxed after making my partner cum. When I’m doing penetration, I’m focusing on stroking properly and also trying to make sure I finish inside her. When I’m receiving head I’m just relaxing and enjoying it as much as possible and making sure I finish.
Giving pleasure. I can always make myself cum.
Her first, numerous times then me once and sandwich time and I’m lights out…. True story
I need to last at least 10 mins to get my partner off. I’m usually focused on trying not to cum first.
Giving pleasure. I get off when she forgets her own name.
As a reaction kinkster I always prefered giviving pleasure
I my culture, sex is a sacred thing, the man devotes the entire time to pleasuring the lady
Giving
Ladies first
Both. It sends me feral when I can see and feel how much they are enjoying it though, I love to please.
How much do you wanna bet every comment is going to be “giving pleasure”?
100% on giving them pleasure, whether it’s making her lose count of orgasms and limping when we’re done, or giving him an willing friend to cum in, it’s all about them. I’ll get off just fine in the end, I don’t worry about me.
Making sure I don’t accidentally call them by my cat’s name.
My own. Why the hell should I care about how much fun my hand is having?
Her pleasure, first and foremost. I love all the moans, and mms, and ahhhs. I can last a lot longer with her than I can when it’s finally my turn. I wish I could hammer away for twenty minutes, but she’s too gorgeous and I just can’t.
The first time.
That second time, I’ve got the staying power of a stallion!
Giving pleasure. My pleasure will literally cum at the end.
Give for another and you will fulfill yourself
Giving pleasure is where i feel the the real fuel of pleasure arises seeing how your small action are making them go crazy ,so what they hide from society,their real self which is during orgasm has full control and wants to just feel and cross the line
I focus on not nutting too fast.
You can understand this completely with my partner, first she has to cum violently and then according to her wishes.
I’m a dom I want to be pleasured so I prefer submissive women who prefer doing that.
Fully focused on my partners pleasure, I fit into the pleasure dom classification, and my wonderful girlfriend truely appreciates that my pleasure and enjoyment comes from giving her pleasure. I don’t climax often, maybe every third or fourth session, but that doesn’t worry me, I am very happy with how much she enjoys herself
OP, just remember that there is a socially “correct” answer to this question when you read all these responses.
Both. I love being the giving part, but for my partner that sometimes means me focussing on MY pleasure and just taking them in any way I like at the moment. It’s an interesting dynamic 🤭
Both. Both is good.
My logic has always been quite simple. The more pleasure I can help her enjoy, the more often she will want to enjoy the pleasure.
My own. My partner is a giver, I am… not. I know we aren’t supposed to admit that but frankly I’m terrible in bed, I don’t really enjoy getting others off and I’m not good at it. Past partners would probably describe me using words like “unenthusiastic”, “clumsy”, and “uses too much teeth”.
I’m great at laying back and enjoying myself though. And I found someone who likes doing all the work and doesn’t want it reciprocated. We’re both very happy.
Isn’t it so nice how varied people are? I didn’t know I could just find someone who doesn’t like being touched but really enjoys doing the touching. Every pot has a lid.
I concentrate on baseball
Giving pleasure and concentrating on my strokes so I don’t go too deep
Definitely focus on my partner I want her to enjoy it too
Giving pleasure until my girlfriend wants me to finish, then i focus on my own pleasure 🙂
My partners pleasure.
She doesn’t seem to really care though.
Harder and harder 😈
Give, and thou shalt be given
Giving pleasure for me feels more satisfying.
Giving pleasure, there is just something about seeing your parnter enjoy the hell out of what your doing.
I focus on her pleasure. She often tells me the orgasm ratio in our relationship is unfair. But her pleasure literally is what turns me on the most. I literally have orgasms from making her orgasm. I’m one of those men that can have multiple orgasms without ejaculating. So when it’s her turn to please me, she can go as long as she wants and I orgasm and she just keeps on going until she’s satisfied. So even my pleasure is for her pleasure. Before me she didn’t even women could have multiple orgasms. Now she knows I don’t stop until she’s had a minimum of 3. And luckily my girl can orgasm from penetration. We have multiple session daily. We’re so in love 🥰🥰
Both, there’s times for both. Knowing how to please someone and doing good at it and vice versa. It’s different everytime like sometimes you or they would be first to bat but the same gist.
Always giving pleasure. Mine will cum after.
My pleasure is linked to hers so if she is enjoying it then I am having a blast
it’s a 50-50 for me
Both cause we both important
The best sex is when it’s a dance between the two of you. It’s about each of you pleasing the other.
Giving pleasure of course. As a man, I can cum on my own accord. Making your wife cum is something to work for and it lasts for a while. I cum and well, get back to doing something else in like a minute or so
I’m a man my pleasure is going to be there. I finish every time. So my soul focus is to make sure my partner gets hers.
I only cum, when my girl has cum as much as she wants.
I try to develop a rhythm that will allow my partner to orgasm. She before me.
It is all about giving her pleasure 🥰🩷🥰 I don’t care if I get off when we are having sexual relations. And it doesn’t seem to bother her much if I don’t.
Sometimes I don’t even get undressed and I’ll give her oral for multiple climaxes, with a little breather in between each. Or I’ll grab the Magic Wand and use it over her clothes and give her an orgasm or two.
I do a lot more solo masturbation than she does, so I want to make sure she is being fulfilled.
Her pleasure is my kink. I’ve always been turned on by the thought of pleasuring a woman. Something about the vulnerability, the intimacy, and being in control of how she feels. It’s better than an orgasm. I get my fix just giving oral sometimes.
My girls pleasure, always. I sometimes don’t even ejaculate. I’ve always taken forever to ejaculate and if it’s past 40 minutes, there’s no way anything’s cumming out (all pun intended). Besides, my woman’s pleasure makes me very happy. Thankfully I know all her points so sometimes she cums in less than 5 minutes. Also, I learnt that penetration is overrated quite often. The clitoris is a wonderful magical creature and your greatest friend. Give it love and it will give love to your woman. If ye get what I mean.
Giving
My rule is to make my girl cum atleast 2x before me.
She doesn’t like that because it makes her feel self conscious , like she’s not pleasing me. It’s not that I just get off from her getting off