I 25f have been married to my husband 25m since 12/10/25. He’s Middle Eastern & I’m American. We’re high school sweethearts & have a pretty good happy relationship. The problem is my in laws. They suddenly hate me, constantly talk shit about me ( I saw it on the ring camera) constantly starting drama to make me look bad. All I’ve ever done was love them in every way possible. My mom passed when I was younger & my dad isn’t present in my life so having loving in laws is important to me. I want my in laws to love me & know I love their son. I cook, clean & work 60 hours a week. My MIL hates that I can’t deep clean the house 24/7 while she just sits down all day smoking cigs. I’m basically their slave. Been living with them for 3 years & finally moving but I’m having different thoughts about my relationship now. My in laws treating me like shit are pushing me fully away. I wanna celebrate American holidays with my future kids & in laws. I wanna spend summer days & nights with my future in laws & I want my sister/brother In laws to genuinely like me & speak highly of me. I love my man a lot but I couldn’t imagine this being my future. I would resent him in the future for my unhappiness when it’s not his fault. No moving away won’t help bc now it’ll just be me isolated from his family bc I’ll never keep him away from his family. I just don’t want these ppl (in laws) in my life at all & im just at a cross roads. I feel like I’m meant to be with an American & American in laws. Help idk what to do anymore.
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Backup of the post’s body: I 25f have been married to my husband 25m since 12/10/25. He’s Middle Eastern & I’m American. We’re high school sweethearts & have a pretty good happy relationship. The problem is my in laws. They suddenly hate me, constantly talk shit about me ( I saw it on the ring camera) constantly starting drama to make me look bad. All I’ve ever done was love them in every way possible. My mom passed when I was younger & my dad isn’t present in my life so having loving in laws is important to me. I want my in laws to love me & know I love their son. I cook, clean & work 60 hours a week. My MIL hates that I can’t deep clean the house 24/7 while she just sits down all day smoking cigs. I’m basically their slave. Been living with them for 3 years & finally moving but I’m having different thoughts about my relationship now. My in laws treating me like shit are pushing me fully away. I wanna celebrate American holidays with my future kids & in laws. I wanna spend summer days & nights with my future in laws & I want my sister/brother In laws to genuinely like me & speak highly of me. I love my man a lot but I couldn’t imagine this being my future. I would resent him in the future for my unhappiness when it’s not his fault. No moving away won’t help bc now it’ll just be me isolated from his family bc I’ll never keep him away from his family. I just don’t want these ppl (in laws) in my life at all & im just at a cross roads. I feel like I’m meant to be with an American & American in laws. Help idk what to do anymore.
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And to add. Yes my husband has my back to a certain extent. He’ll defend me but he doesn’t set boundaries to let his mom & sisters know not to disrespect me. So I don’t see the disrespect ever changing sadly.
I would divorce.
This will not end well.
I’m happy with my husband & we’re bestfriends but I know i can most likely be happy with someone else too & not have to deal with such bad in laws for forever
You lost the battle with the in-laws before you even got serious with him. Such extremely different cultural background (your in laws) won’t see you/treat you as you want to be. Time to bail. There are billions of men out there.
so you have been with him for 7years and you just figured this out. something happened. Weird to decide that American in laws would solve the problem.
12/10/24*** sorry
If he allows them to do this to you….. it will never stop.
He isn’t a good man….
Run, leave and never look back.