My dad told me he loved me and I was his favorite person. Then he walked out with his flavor of the week when I was 11. He’s a douche canoe. I am 39 now. He’s still alive he just doesn’t care, apparently.
My mom told me bathing prolongs periods, she read an article about it. Well I had week long ( or longer ) heavy periods, do you think I wanted to prolong them? Obviously you should not stop bathing during your periods WTF.
If you turn a light on inside the car while driving at night, bad things like an accident will happen. That, and having your arm out the rolled down window is illegal.
My dad was a biologist and a very rational, scientific minded guy, but every so often he’d by into some insane urban legend, like that if you signed up to be an organ donor doctors would let you to harvest the organs
Growing up very poor I was always taught that rich people are terrible people and think they are better than you. This ment anyone who worked 40hours, so more middle class than “rich”.
My parents don’t talk to me anymore because I’ve become a ”corporate snob” /“wage slave” and my attitude has apparently changed since I’ve “sold out”
I now realize they are just projecting their insecurities and let them be rather than argue.
My parents both firmly believed that nobody “but your family” genuinely cares about you or genuinely means it if they pretend to.
Ironically, neither of my parents gave a single shit about anyone but themselves. They certainly didn’t care about each other. Or me.
In retrospect, I’m pretty sure this was some weird manipulative shit to try to get me to be more dependent on them and lower their risk of anyone hearing about what shitty people (and parents) they were.
“You just find them, have your fun and then tell them where to go” no dad. I was appalled then and still am. Dad was a 10/10 provider but 0 for advice/wisdom.
“You think too much” was my mother’s admonition to me more than once. Two degrees in philosophy and three children later, plus being a HSP, I would suggest that some people just don’t think enough, or very hard.
That unions were a waste of money. The irony is that my grandfather was super active in his union and mum had a lot of benefits even as an adult lol. And I was recently elected the union delegate for my workplace ❤️
“Never discuss your vote.”
-my father when I asked him who he voted for when I was in second grade learning about elections. I told him I voted for Green Bear in the school election and he scolded me and told me to never discuss my vote.
That the Republican party was always correct and their policies are in the best interest of every person in every situation. I’m focusing more on the second part here than the first, different parties suit the interests of different people, and that’s ok! I don’t appreciate the rhetoric that the Republicans are pushing these days though.
My parents genuinely believed in rules. My mom taught me to “play the game,” by which she meant how to watch how social interactions work and mimic them. I didn’t realize until I was an adult that she genuinely believed that people would do things like turn in things they found to the nearest authority, partially because it took me a decade or so to unbelieve that myself. That people would be selfish, or theivish, or less than going-out-of-their-way-to-help-their-fellow-man… would never occur to her. And if anyone did it in her presence, she’d just be a Dissappointed 2nd Grade Teacher at them.
I’m fairly disillusioned now, but I do love my mom’s view of humanity.
One day you will marry a random dude and then thou shall cling to him like a barnacle for the rest of your life. Although you haven’t met him yet, you already owe him.
This is hyperbole, but growing up in a religious household, it feels like this is the message.
“eat everything on ur plate or u can’t get up from the table” u can just eat till ur full then wrap it up and put it in the fridge for later. why force yourself to eat more than u can handle.
not my parents per say, but what the church taught them to teach me: that I was born a bad person, and the only thing that can save me is Jesus. that took a long time, two graduate degrees, tons of books, podcasts, and conversations to deconstruct it.
You can’t travel out of town because you will end up dead in a ditch somewhere. I love to travel. I had no idea why mom kept telling us —three daughters—that. Must have known about sex trafficking and serial killers. It was never explained. And yet she left London at 19 and moved to the US never to look back.
That (my future) husband is always right, and I should never say no to my (future) husband. The key to happiness in a family is wife’s unquestioned obedience.
Religion is the worst thing to happen to humanity. Spirituality, belief, etc…..amazing stuff. Religion, biggest criminals and war mongering groups to ever walk the planet.
when I was younger we didnt eat out much or buy treats often and when we did my mom always said she didnt like it whether it was a pizza, cupcake etc. when I was really young I believed her and would take it. as I grew I realized she just wanted to make us kids happy. I myself stopped and taught my siblings to say no too so she could also enjoy the small treat we got once in a while.
“I should be grateful for being born/for what I have because they work hard for it for “me”/”brothers.”
Is what my parents like to tell me time to time when there’s something we don’t agree on. And in all honesty, I never ask to be born and till this day; I feel so wrong being here. Thanks to them, I’m constantly thinking why I’m alive and try not to give in my parents expectations/negativity because it’s unreasonable..
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That santa doesnt exist
always respect your elders.
truthfully, some do not deserve it.
That therapy and psychology is non-sense.
Don’t give money to homeless people
Eat everything on your plate.
lol all the things
Red in the morning sailors take warning, red at night sailors delight.
Long sleeved shirts aren’t for the summertime!
Sometimes they are.
Put cooking oil on burns
That powerful people got there due to their work ethic and talent, and have extraordinary insights.
After being in corporate America for over a decade, I know people up top are clueless.
family first.
that I’m the most beautiful girl in the world
“Im bringing out the belt!”
Tell the therapist what they want to hear.
My dad told me he loved me and I was his favorite person. Then he walked out with his flavor of the week when I was 11. He’s a douche canoe. I am 39 now. He’s still alive he just doesn’t care, apparently.
Don’t live in a big city right after college.
Later learned that it’s one of the better ways to make large and early career gains as well as easiest to switch companies to level up.
Only losers get jobs because of friends and connections.
Racism & classism
Ronald Reagan was a good president.
My mom told me bathing prolongs periods, she read an article about it. Well I had week long ( or longer ) heavy periods, do you think I wanted to prolong them? Obviously you should not stop bathing during your periods WTF.
That I have to earn their respect. I am a human being, not a robot or a servant.
“But they’re family.” Sorry, but sharing genes doesnt mean I’m gonna keep people in my life who are toxic to be around.
Children should be seen, but not heard. No, just no.
You have to be married to have sex.
That I’m worthless, selfish, cruel, and a piece of shit. And whatever other insults my mom could think of to tear me down over the years.
I can be anything I want to be
If you turn a light on inside the car while driving at night, bad things like an accident will happen. That, and having your arm out the rolled down window is illegal.
Family is forever…no actually sometimes they are just wackos you have the unfortunate luck of being related to.
That I would become more conservative as I got older and richer.
My dad was a biologist and a very rational, scientific minded guy, but every so often he’d by into some insane urban legend, like that if you signed up to be an organ donor doctors would let you to harvest the organs
That i “shouldn’t see color.”
Growing up very poor I was always taught that rich people are terrible people and think they are better than you. This ment anyone who worked 40hours, so more middle class than “rich”.
My parents don’t talk to me anymore because I’ve become a ”corporate snob” /“wage slave” and my attitude has apparently changed since I’ve “sold out”
I now realize they are just projecting their insecurities and let them be rather than argue.
My parents both firmly believed that nobody “but your family” genuinely cares about you or genuinely means it if they pretend to.
Ironically, neither of my parents gave a single shit about anyone but themselves. They certainly didn’t care about each other. Or me.
In retrospect, I’m pretty sure this was some weird manipulative shit to try to get me to be more dependent on them and lower their risk of anyone hearing about what shitty people (and parents) they were.
“Alcohol isn’t that bad.”
Family full of alcoholics and addicts. wtf
That modesty is necessary, and being naked is inappropriate and sinful.
“You just find them, have your fun and then tell them where to go” no dad. I was appalled then and still am. Dad was a 10/10 provider but 0 for advice/wisdom.
“You think too much” was my mother’s admonition to me more than once. Two degrees in philosophy and three children later, plus being a HSP, I would suggest that some people just don’t think enough, or very hard.
You will lose your soul if you have sex before the government knows you are together (you are married)
If you work hard you can be or do anything you want in life.
A lovely concept with pretty much no basis in reality for the vast majority of humans
You can do anything. I’ve proven that wrong many times. Instead, Fail often and fail fast from me!
Stick with one company for your entire life. Granted it worked out well for the both of them, but times have changed.
You need to go to college to be successful
That unions were a waste of money. The irony is that my grandfather was super active in his union and mum had a lot of benefits even as an adult lol. And I was recently elected the union delegate for my workplace ❤️
Treat others how they treat you.
That living alone at my age (mid-50s female) would be lonely. I am living my best life and I have no regrets.
Try praying about it
Children should be seen and not heard.
Forgiving makes you the bigger person. Forgiving and moving on aren’t mutually exclusive. And some things aren’t worth forgiving.
That I spent too much time on the internet.
Jokes on them I spent 10x the amount of time on the internet now!
“Never discuss your vote.”
-my father when I asked him who he voted for when I was in second grade learning about elections. I told him I voted for Green Bear in the school election and he scolded me and told me to never discuss my vote.
“We probably won’t see the effects of global warming before we die, but you will!”
Wrong – we are both getting to witness it.
People who go to church are better than those who don’t.
“When you’re an adult, you won’t have any friends, only your family and spouse to lean on.”
I think I have more friends at 27 than 17, and I have a low contact relationship with my family.
You should always do what you’re told.
Pagan ideas were dangerous.
Everything happens for a reason.
No
Privacy isn’t important.
My dad told me it was my fault my mom and him divorced
I was 5
I sure believed it for a long time
That I’m dumb
That the Republican party was always correct and their policies are in the best interest of every person in every situation. I’m focusing more on the second part here than the first, different parties suit the interests of different people, and that’s ok! I don’t appreciate the rhetoric that the Republicans are pushing these days though.
That the civil war was fought solely over states rights.
That I HAVE to separate whites and colors or all my white clothes will be rainbow 🌈 colors.
That they are right because “they’re the parent.” Hindsight being 20/20, they were often wrong. They just didn’t want to admit it.
Go to church
Go to university if you want a good salary
My mom said no man would ever marry me because I’m overweight. I’m on my second (and hopefully last) marriage.
My parents genuinely believed in rules. My mom taught me to “play the game,” by which she meant how to watch how social interactions work and mimic them. I didn’t realize until I was an adult that she genuinely believed that people would do things like turn in things they found to the nearest authority, partially because it took me a decade or so to unbelieve that myself. That people would be selfish, or theivish, or less than going-out-of-their-way-to-help-their-fellow-man… would never occur to her. And if anyone did it in her presence, she’d just be a Dissappointed 2nd Grade Teacher at them.
I’m fairly disillusioned now, but I do love my mom’s view of humanity.
I have to finish my food because there are starving kids in Africa.
Parents don’t have to apologize to their kids.
One day you will marry a random dude and then thou shall cling to him like a barnacle for the rest of your life. Although you haven’t met him yet, you already owe him.
This is hyperbole, but growing up in a religious household, it feels like this is the message.
Family first no matter how toxic
“Work hard play later”
I’m so glad I traveled in my 20s because I’m in my 30s and traveling is exhausting now lol
Just ignore the bullies, they’ll stop.
‘Don’t talk to strangers’ turns out, striking up conversations with strangers on Reddit can actually add a lot of value to your life
Being [perceived as] good with the sole intention of getting into heaven
“eat everything on ur plate or u can’t get up from the table” u can just eat till ur full then wrap it up and put it in the fridge for later. why force yourself to eat more than u can handle.
not my parents per say, but what the church taught them to teach me: that I was born a bad person, and the only thing that can save me is Jesus. that took a long time, two graduate degrees, tons of books, podcasts, and conversations to deconstruct it.
You can’t travel out of town because you will end up dead in a ditch somewhere. I love to travel. I had no idea why mom kept telling us —three daughters—that. Must have known about sex trafficking and serial killers. It was never explained. And yet she left London at 19 and moved to the US never to look back.
That (my future) husband is always right, and I should never say no to my (future) husband. The key to happiness in a family is wife’s unquestioned obedience.
Lol, nope.
Religion will save me.
Religion is the worst thing to happen to humanity. Spirituality, belief, etc…..amazing stuff. Religion, biggest criminals and war mongering groups to ever walk the planet.
That we are better because of being born in an upper caste family. F that.
when I was younger we didnt eat out much or buy treats often and when we did my mom always said she didnt like it whether it was a pizza, cupcake etc. when I was really young I believed her and would take it. as I grew I realized she just wanted to make us kids happy. I myself stopped and taught my siblings to say no too so she could also enjoy the small treat we got once in a while.
“I should be grateful for being born/for what I have because they work hard for it for “me”/”brothers.”
Is what my parents like to tell me time to time when there’s something we don’t agree on. And in all honesty, I never ask to be born and till this day; I feel so wrong being here. Thanks to them, I’m constantly thinking why I’m alive and try not to give in my parents expectations/negativity because it’s unreasonable..
The police are ALWAYS there to help.
I gotta say, I respectfully disagree
That people in my church growing up were good people. Facebook showed me who they really are.
Dairy and meat is healthy and you need them.
If you work hard, you will be rewarded.
Children should be seen and not heard. My mom tried to say that once to my son and I shut that immediately down.
Adult women should always wear their hair short.