How to drive, doesn’t mean you have to drive everyday or even when you don’t want to. But just knowing how to is pivotal. I live in a major I understand not needing to
how to be alive, no genuinely, if you don’t know how to be alive and just exist by 30 it’s over because you have missed so many great opportunities, well i guess im foreshadowing my future since im not living, just existing
Basic financial literacy. How to invest for yourself outside of a 401k and knowing how things work. Takes like an hour or 2 to learn how to invest.
It’s a huge problem how many adults don’t know how to invest their money and can’t ever save their paychecks or budget. It’s ridiculous. Or they pull money out of their 401k often and just do everything incorrectly when it comes to finance.
Vehicle maintenance. Not how to change a transmission or major electrical, but for christs sake brakes and oil are a MUST. Don’t keep giving money away for a simple fix!
how to be emotionally intelligent. honestly something we should be capable of before our 20s but somehow theres a surprisingly large amount of even 50+ year old people who couldn’t be further from it
How to manage their money. Does not matter if they make $10 an hour or $100 an hour. Broke is broke and poorly managed money is just a negative balance.
learn a musical instrument of some sort. it brings a rare joy, it can bring sadness, it can bring pondering life’s mysteries. if anything else, it usually brings emotion.
Responsibility with money. Don’t have to know how to invest or make a fancy budget, as long as you pay your bills and save some money before you buy anything extra, you’ll be fine. It’s of course even better if you can invest etc. but the basics will get you far enough.
How to drive. Coming from someone who finally passed at 36, even if you don’t have a car, the ability to drive a car should be something someone learns for emergencies.
How to swim.
How to budget properly and live and eat very cheaply should needs arise.
All of these are really good – but as I cross into the late 40s, I cant help but reflect on how much we miss the mark on emotional regulation.
Some things that I didnt even consider and took me until the mid 30s to be aware of and the good last year to actively change:
1- How I feel is my business and up to me to manage. No, that does not excuse people being needlessly abusive or cruel, but I do have the power and control of myself to not let comments said in cruelty hurt me
2- Brain chemistry and why we function the way we do is horrifying. The “falling in love” dopamine and cortisol and butterflies are a very primal way for us to increase our chances of survival because older humans usually died if left alone. This is why if you are the “dumpee” – it doesnt matter how toxic, abusive, boring or annoying your partner was to you as of a week ago, if they ended things with you. They now become this symbol of happiness and your brain fucking lies to you about how amazing they were – its all based on survival
3- Feelings are temporary things we experience, usually based on our unique perspective, judgment, trauma, experience and individual sensations. I ordered a fucking McDonalds breakfast this morning and suddenly got stupidly emotional realizing the last time I ordered this breakfast was on the first day I had moved into this new home with a manipulative lunatic who luckily only stayed for one month before having a paranoid break and hitchiking back to Florida. Ive felt the deepest of peace and relief once he left, but here I am in this stupid nostalgia bubble remembering when we were just laying here in the empty house as I was caressing his hair and we were waiting for movers. The actual fuck. All of that though is me. The bag is the exact same millions of people got, I just attributed it to a plesant memory and now I get to deal with the stupid nostalgia ring.
4- True happiness, true peace, true satisfaction in life is learning that there is a DIFFERENCE between the stimulus and the response. It took so long to find it and you almost have to give yourself examples, but find things that unbalance you – either joy, anger, jealousy, hurt, depression – and trigger it. Youll start to see theres this deep balanced sense of you and above it is the swirl of the feeling. The more you can live in that separation, the more you realize nobody can manipulate or hurt you, you see the feelings and decide what to do from that. Its fucking incredible
5- While there are SOME exceptions, I do believe many people who married their high school sweethearts or first college loves are living stunted lives. We are sold on the disney complex of “true love” and “the one” and “soulmates” because our fucking brain is using that to increase our survival. Im so fucking happy I didnt marry my first boyfriend out of college and ended things with him when we got to 27 – I would’ve missed out on so many incredible experiences, opportunities, life events, joy, pain and just exposure and experience. In 2016 my bf of 5 years ended things with me because he fell in love with someone else and that was the most painful horrific fucking cruelly terrible thing I ever experienced and for a good year all I wanted was for us to get back together, and then I got over and it eventually led me to meeting and falling in love with someone else and in early 2019 I found journals from late 2017 and started to LAUGH like “oh my god, I used to actually feel this?!!! thank god it never happened”
Emotional maturity, regulation, management and relationships with our emotions is a HUGE defecit in us
There are a lot.of.valid answers to this, but I wish everyone would learn healthy coping mechanisms. It would allow you to adapt better to adversity and find a better way to lighten your life at least a little.
How to care for your clothes and shoes (proper laundering techniques, sewing buttons, properly polish shoes, etc.) so that they last and you’re not blowing money by tossing stuff out that could quickly, simply, and cheaply be fixed.
You gotta learn about personality disorders . It will give you perspective on how to handle people and not to take anything personal (with respect to your boundaries) .
You will know why certain people act in a certain way . that once their acts were not understandable , You can get your way around them now
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How to cook
Learn to enjoy the present.
Self defence.
How to drive, doesn’t mean you have to drive everyday or even when you don’t want to. But just knowing how to is pivotal. I live in a major I understand not needing to
Aside from cooking, effective people management and crisis management skills
Based on the odors I encounter at work, I think everyone should learn how to bathe and brush their teeth properly.
How to budget, save, and invest properly
People speak about 30 the way they used to talk about 20. Most of the things mentioned here should be learned way before 30 to me.
Definitely the skill of enjoying your own company and feeling content in solitude
How to swim
You never know
Savings
how to be alive, no genuinely, if you don’t know how to be alive and just exist by 30 it’s over because you have missed so many great opportunities, well i guess im foreshadowing my future since im not living, just existing
Basic financial literacy. How to invest for yourself outside of a 401k and knowing how things work. Takes like an hour or 2 to learn how to invest.
It’s a huge problem how many adults don’t know how to invest their money and can’t ever save their paychecks or budget. It’s ridiculous. Or they pull money out of their 401k often and just do everything incorrectly when it comes to finance.
How to turn 30
Vehicle maintenance. Not how to change a transmission or major electrical, but for christs sake brakes and oil are a MUST. Don’t keep giving money away for a simple fix!
how to be emotionally intelligent. honestly something we should be capable of before our 20s but somehow theres a surprisingly large amount of even 50+ year old people who couldn’t be further from it
Taxes, The law, Real Estate, Finances and investing
Where is the main shut off valve for the water supply in whatever sort of home you live in. This WILL come up at some point and you MUST act fast
How to make a fire
1000% minding ur own business.
How to live according to your means
How to navigate life without a cellphone for any period of time.
Swimming
How to manage their money. Does not matter if they make $10 an hour or $100 an hour. Broke is broke and poorly managed money is just a negative balance.
uprooting your beliefs when reality calls for it.
First aid.
How to give an orgasm
How to disagree with your peers when you are established within a group. Avoid group think.
To say sorry.
Sewing. Being able to patch or alter clothes is super useful and can save a lot of money
Critical thinking. The world would be a much better place if people learned to assess information critically instead of emotionally.
How to wash dishes properly. No more weaponized incompetence!
Managing a budget and living within your means.
learn a musical instrument of some sort. it brings a rare joy, it can bring sadness, it can bring pondering life’s mysteries. if anything else, it usually brings emotion.
How to set boundaries without feeling guilty. It saves your time, energy, and sanity more than anything else.
Responsibility with money. Don’t have to know how to invest or make a fancy budget, as long as you pay your bills and save some money before you buy anything extra, you’ll be fine. It’s of course even better if you can invest etc. but the basics will get you far enough.
How to hold a conversation and actually interact with other people in a casual way.
How to drive. Coming from someone who finally passed at 36, even if you don’t have a car, the ability to drive a car should be something someone learns for emergencies.
How to swim.
How to budget properly and live and eat very cheaply should needs arise.
How to cook for themselves
Basic first aid skills. Specifically, CPR and chocking.
All of these are really good – but as I cross into the late 40s, I cant help but reflect on how much we miss the mark on emotional regulation.
Some things that I didnt even consider and took me until the mid 30s to be aware of and the good last year to actively change:
1- How I feel is my business and up to me to manage. No, that does not excuse people being needlessly abusive or cruel, but I do have the power and control of myself to not let comments said in cruelty hurt me
2- Brain chemistry and why we function the way we do is horrifying. The “falling in love” dopamine and cortisol and butterflies are a very primal way for us to increase our chances of survival because older humans usually died if left alone. This is why if you are the “dumpee” – it doesnt matter how toxic, abusive, boring or annoying your partner was to you as of a week ago, if they ended things with you. They now become this symbol of happiness and your brain fucking lies to you about how amazing they were – its all based on survival
3- Feelings are temporary things we experience, usually based on our unique perspective, judgment, trauma, experience and individual sensations. I ordered a fucking McDonalds breakfast this morning and suddenly got stupidly emotional realizing the last time I ordered this breakfast was on the first day I had moved into this new home with a manipulative lunatic who luckily only stayed for one month before having a paranoid break and hitchiking back to Florida. Ive felt the deepest of peace and relief once he left, but here I am in this stupid nostalgia bubble remembering when we were just laying here in the empty house as I was caressing his hair and we were waiting for movers. The actual fuck. All of that though is me. The bag is the exact same millions of people got, I just attributed it to a plesant memory and now I get to deal with the stupid nostalgia ring.
4- True happiness, true peace, true satisfaction in life is learning that there is a DIFFERENCE between the stimulus and the response. It took so long to find it and you almost have to give yourself examples, but find things that unbalance you – either joy, anger, jealousy, hurt, depression – and trigger it. Youll start to see theres this deep balanced sense of you and above it is the swirl of the feeling. The more you can live in that separation, the more you realize nobody can manipulate or hurt you, you see the feelings and decide what to do from that. Its fucking incredible
5- While there are SOME exceptions, I do believe many people who married their high school sweethearts or first college loves are living stunted lives. We are sold on the disney complex of “true love” and “the one” and “soulmates” because our fucking brain is using that to increase our survival. Im so fucking happy I didnt marry my first boyfriend out of college and ended things with him when we got to 27 – I would’ve missed out on so many incredible experiences, opportunities, life events, joy, pain and just exposure and experience. In 2016 my bf of 5 years ended things with me because he fell in love with someone else and that was the most painful horrific fucking cruelly terrible thing I ever experienced and for a good year all I wanted was for us to get back together, and then I got over and it eventually led me to meeting and falling in love with someone else and in early 2019 I found journals from late 2017 and started to LAUGH like “oh my god, I used to actually feel this?!!! thank god it never happened”
Emotional maturity, regulation, management and relationships with our emotions is a HUGE defecit in us
Sharpen a knife, make a steak, install a light fixture, unclog a toilet and make eggs
Here’s a list:
How to control your emotions.
There are a lot.of.valid answers to this, but I wish everyone would learn healthy coping mechanisms. It would allow you to adapt better to adversity and find a better way to lighten your life at least a little.
How to spot when people are lying and trying to scam you out of money.
They need to experience Runescape scams.
CPR and basic first aid
How to be healthy. You don’t recover as well in your 30s and everything starts hurting.
Know how to use fire extinguishers and know the different kinds.
Take first aid classes to learn CPR/AED and “stop the bleed”.
Take firearm safety and self defense classes.
Emergency response time is usually measured in minutes when seconds count. It’s good to know all three skills and be your own “first responder”.
How to be kinder. Life is hard, y’know..
Learn to Save and invest
How to care for your clothes and shoes (proper laundering techniques, sewing buttons, properly polish shoes, etc.) so that they last and you’re not blowing money by tossing stuff out that could quickly, simply, and cheaply be fixed.
How to grow food.
How to cook
Financial literacy.
Not having kids
How to change your own oil/change tires
Critical thinking so you can evaluate situations and spot the negatives and positives that you can use to make informed decisions.
How to cook. I can’t believe how many people out there don’t know how to cook a simple meal
CPR
How to drive thru a roundabout, hint…it’s NOT a stop sign
You gotta learn about personality disorders . It will give you perspective on how to handle people and not to take anything personal (with respect to your boundaries) .
You will know why certain people act in a certain way . that once their acts were not understandable , You can get your way around them now
Cook simple meals.
Communication skills, you’d be surprised how many people don’t have them.
How to drive competently. How to spell and use proper grammar. How to think critically and not fall into cult mentality.
That’s a good start.