Probably a cliche answer but drinking. At least excessively. Went full sober for a few months got some therapy around it and its been very eye opening. I come from a long line of borderline alcoholics and actual full blown alcoholics and realizing that I could break that cycle has made a huge improvement
I had a garbage doctor for years that I said I had wanted another one of after my first prescription with them. She slowly degraded into a descriptive, unreliable a**. But, I didn’t really communicate with her is what the lesson there is, I think. She compiled speech patterns and association from adverse people and just went crazy with them.
He was a horrible person in his teen years, all the way up until his 20’s. So much so that I’ve stopped talking him completely. The things he told me that he did, I wish I didn’t hear. Years later, he would steal my inheritance, which just added to the hatred I had for him already.
Any time his name came up, or I’d hear somebody talking about him, instant thoughts of rage would pop up in my head. It wasn’t until recently that I’ve started to count up all the years I’ve wasted by making him my #1 enemy. That P.O.S had a full residency in my head.
not working out. i used to run track but then stopped running for a year- lost all my stamina and for 2.5 years ive been trying to build it up again. unfortunately im no where near where i was.
Holding onto past trauma. It’s ruined jobs, friendships, relationships, I lost my house, ect.
Don’t let that shit live rent free. It’s a huge open world out there. Bury that pain in a hole somewhere dark amd leave it there. It’s costs so much to keep nit with you amd miss some really amazing things amd people
my 24yo boyfriend when i was 18… was constantly, DAILY justifying myself and having arguments with him in my head(!!!) for 2 years after the relationship ended cause it made me feel so inadequate, worthless and insignificant lol
Some social media, I was just too stupid and immature to realize that it was hurting me as much as it was. I’m only really on 2 SMs now and it’s been better but lonely.
Social Media and those features on your phone that auto-populate news stories.
Admittedly, I still have an IG account to keep up with family and close friends, but I ditched Facebook and X/Twitter, uninstalled Google News and disabled the news fly-out. I never looked back.
None of those things did anything what-so-ever to improve my quality of life. I never once looked at Facebook for example, and came away happier or more inspired. 95% of the time I was feeling exasperated, and it bled into my daily life such that I couldn’t shake the frustration, and because it’s like a drug, I would often go back for more. People do not realize how unbelievably toxic and unhealthy it is. Even if your feeds are relatively tame and absent politics or other divisive content, the constant memes, boring and sad jokes, bragging, constant self validation, that one person who cannot fucking stop posting about their Labradoodle, it all adds up to a bunch of nothingness that turns your brain to static and leaves you empty inside.
Social media like instagram, facebook, tiktok. It was ruining my attention span and I hate everything about performing my life online for other people. I’m so much happier just worrying about myself, and I’m buying way less stuff b/c I don’t see many ads and that’s also made me happier
I thought I’d miss it and I just don’t, not at all
it didn’t ruin my life, it made me very comfortable with not trying.. very content with sitting on my ass watching tv/movies, getting fat, and feeling overall malaise.
I still love weed but I don’t buy it anymore, if I’m at a party and someone has a joint I will 100% partake, but I know if I buy it, I’ll sit on my ass, eat, watch tv, do nothing for days/weeks at a time.. it definitely had an effect on my cognitive function too, I used to be very sharp/quick witted and still am to an extent, but I feel like I lack the fast cognition to express myself concisely and kind of feel like I come off as a bit of an idiot at times now.. that could also be long covid symptoms still but.. I’ve noticed a slight improvement since stopping a few months ago.
Codependency and not allowing myself to speak my truth. I’m just now starting to come out of this. It’s painful when you realize how much time you’ve spent trying to please others, when all that energy could have been put into bettering yourself instead.
Looking for the love when I should’ve been finding new ways to love and appreciate myself, im single now and doing better cause I finally chose myself but I wish I had chosem me sooner and not the validation of someone else
Heroin, from 2012 to 2022. Almost died in the hospital from a blood infection, which led to a stroke and having 2 valves replaced in my heart.
I spent several years homeless while using, and that’s pretty much as far down in the “quality of life” scale as you can get.
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Smoking. Terrible lungs now.
Being too close to guitar amps
Alcohol
Probably a cliche answer but drinking. At least excessively. Went full sober for a few months got some therapy around it and its been very eye opening. I come from a long line of borderline alcoholics and actual full blown alcoholics and realizing that I could break that cycle has made a huge improvement
Paying bills
My wife
My ex husband.
Taxes
I had a garbage doctor for years that I said I had wanted another one of after my first prescription with them. She slowly degraded into a descriptive, unreliable a**. But, I didn’t really communicate with her is what the lesson there is, I think. She compiled speech patterns and association from adverse people and just went crazy with them.
My husband
Work.
vaping
Uber eats
Porn
Stress. It caused me so many health problems
Religion.
My high school boyfriend lol
Work right now. I don’t feel happy at all in general
Long commutes
Marriage
Credit cards
Moving to the U.S
Alcohol and coffee
I still drink coffee, but to a much lesser extent. And I’ve waited so much money on alcohol it’s not even funny,
Whiskey.
Taxes
Capitalism – oh wait, damn. We haven’t done that yet…
The hatred I have for my half brother.
He was a horrible person in his teen years, all the way up until his 20’s. So much so that I’ve stopped talking him completely. The things he told me that he did, I wish I didn’t hear. Years later, he would steal my inheritance, which just added to the hatred I had for him already.
Any time his name came up, or I’d hear somebody talking about him, instant thoughts of rage would pop up in my head. It wasn’t until recently that I’ve started to count up all the years I’ve wasted by making him my #1 enemy. That P.O.S had a full residency in my head.
Alcohol. Stole years from me. I’ve never been happier since I quit
Joining the military
MY job as a high school music teacher
Weed
Worrying abt shit i can’t change
I should have stayed single. Marriage didn’t ruin it, but it slowed down the trajectory.
Not trusting my intuition or being polite that ends up biting me in the long run.
falling in love
YouTube
Social media
not working out. i used to run track but then stopped running for a year- lost all my stamina and for 2.5 years ive been trying to build it up again. unfortunately im no where near where i was.
2 University Degrees. For the love of god, talk about shooting yourself in the foot.
computers and electronics
sleeping late
I wish I didn’t go to university for occupational therapy
My current 💩-ass job.
Only thing stopping me from quitting/walking is the even worse 💩-ass job market.
Ex mother-in-law
Enmeshment incarcerate
Fake friends
Staying in toxic environments, whether work or personal. Once I let go, everything just got so much better.
I’m 39 years old and 42 days sober from alcohol. I wish I would’ve never started drinking.
wallowing in self pity
Onlyfans
Weed
Toxic friends
Eating unhealthy
Nicotine
My first husband
Church.
Porn
People. I make enough of my own problems, I don’t need the ones they bring me as well.
Going to grad school.
Processed food
Alcohol
Letting my OCD control me. Have under control now.
Holding onto past trauma. It’s ruined jobs, friendships, relationships, I lost my house, ect.
Don’t let that shit live rent free. It’s a huge open world out there. Bury that pain in a hole somewhere dark amd leave it there. It’s costs so much to keep nit with you amd miss some really amazing things amd people
Working a job where I was made to feel like dirt. I started to believe the problem was me and lost a lot of confidence.
Facebook, Instagram, TikTok
my 24yo boyfriend when i was 18… was constantly, DAILY justifying myself and having arguments with him in my head(!!!) for 2 years after the relationship ended cause it made me feel so inadequate, worthless and insignificant lol
Changing myself to try to fit in with people I wanted to be friends with
Soda
Smoking.
Facebook
Yep. Alcohol.
101 days sober today. Never touching that stuff again.
Got scared straight when my liver enzymes were in the 200s.
Some social media, I was just too stupid and immature to realize that it was hurting me as much as it was. I’m only really on 2 SMs now and it’s been better but lonely.
Processed sugar
90% of the people i entertained romantically
Golf
A man.
shitty friends.
My ex husband
A cheap mattress
Opioids…
Ex-wife
Marriage
Fake colleagues
Toxic Relationships
(Still working on ditching it..)
My first job ever.
Candy
Being married to the wrong person. Alcohol is a very close second though.
Crack
car payment
Work
Cigarettes and nicotine addiction. I wish I’d never started smoking when I was just a teenager. Quit 8 years ago.
Obesity and not exercising. Down 120 lbs now and work out 6 days a week. Everything is better. It’s like a new life.
Trump
Social media
The ex Husband.
Insomnia caused by traumatic stress and anxiety
CPAP machine
Social Media and those features on your phone that auto-populate news stories.
Admittedly, I still have an IG account to keep up with family and close friends, but I ditched Facebook and X/Twitter, uninstalled Google News and disabled the news fly-out. I never looked back.
None of those things did anything what-so-ever to improve my quality of life. I never once looked at Facebook for example, and came away happier or more inspired. 95% of the time I was feeling exasperated, and it bled into my daily life such that I couldn’t shake the frustration, and because it’s like a drug, I would often go back for more. People do not realize how unbelievably toxic and unhealthy it is. Even if your feeds are relatively tame and absent politics or other divisive content, the constant memes, boring and sad jokes, bragging, constant self validation, that one person who cannot fucking stop posting about their Labradoodle, it all adds up to a bunch of nothingness that turns your brain to static and leaves you empty inside.
Getting stuck for someone who once showed they wanted to be someone in my life, but stepped back once I was in for it.
Gaming.
Staying with emotionally abusive bestfriend – foregoing my own comfortability for her happiness. So happy without her!
My ex
My ex-wife
Wanting to be liked.
My ex-fiancée
My stupid thought that PTSD was something I could manage if I just powered through.
Social media
Ex and assholes
My ex wife
My father’s side of the family. Jfc.
A birth defect called Spina bifida. Still ain’t ditched it yet but I’ve adapted & overcame a bit.
overthinking
Toxic family members
My ex-wife.
Family
Myself my laziness. Always says tomorrow.
Unhealthy relationships
My ex
Bad posture, using my phone, doing work at the computer… It’s caused so much pain and aches and once you’re used to it, it’s hard to fix/correct.
Voting liberal in Canada
My family
Social media like instagram, facebook, tiktok. It was ruining my attention span and I hate everything about performing my life online for other people. I’m so much happier just worrying about myself, and I’m buying way less stuff b/c I don’t see many ads and that’s also made me happier
I thought I’d miss it and I just don’t, not at all
weed
it didn’t ruin my life, it made me very comfortable with not trying.. very content with sitting on my ass watching tv/movies, getting fat, and feeling overall malaise.
I still love weed but I don’t buy it anymore, if I’m at a party and someone has a joint I will 100% partake, but I know if I buy it, I’ll sit on my ass, eat, watch tv, do nothing for days/weeks at a time.. it definitely had an effect on my cognitive function too, I used to be very sharp/quick witted and still am to an extent, but I feel like I lack the fast cognition to express myself concisely and kind of feel like I come off as a bit of an idiot at times now.. that could also be long covid symptoms still but.. I’ve noticed a slight improvement since stopping a few months ago.
A community in South San Jose and a majority of my relatives. They played God.
My friend group from high school and college.
My ex
Cigarettes
Codependency and not allowing myself to speak my truth. I’m just now starting to come out of this. It’s painful when you realize how much time you’ve spent trying to please others, when all that energy could have been put into bettering yourself instead.
My own bad choices
Having kids – first one autistic, scream 24/7 for 6 months, I have tinnitus since and I hear less and my last post partum ended up in hypothyrodism
Husband #1 (now ex).
Alcohol
Impostor Syndrome. Still fighting it.
My entire family.
A emergency surgery with complications
Alcohol and worrying about my weight
Smoking wrecked my teeth and made me fat and lazy.
Spending without a doubt
TIKTOK.
My ex husband
Drinking and toxic people
Bad friends
Social anxiety. Pursuing a career in the arts is a close second place.
Looking for the love when I should’ve been finding new ways to love and appreciate myself, im single now and doing better cause I finally chose myself but I wish I had chosem me sooner and not the validation of someone else
self harm
Heroin, from 2012 to 2022. Almost died in the hospital from a blood infection, which led to a stroke and having 2 valves replaced in my heart.
I spent several years homeless while using, and that’s pretty much as far down in the “quality of life” scale as you can get.
Moving to Berlin
Social media/cell phone
My x wife
Insomnia
Social Anxiety
Alcohol
Trauma. It’ll never “be gone” but I’m learning how to recognize its aftermath and redirect myself better.