Met him when I was 15 (f) and he was 19. At subsequent camps, though there was never any flirting or ANYTHING weird on his part, we had a spark. Whilst barely knowing each other had a conversation that lasted over 3 hours one time. I got fanny flutters at the prospect of just seeing him- its hard to put to words how incredibly attractive I find this man. His smile makes me want to melt into the ground and never get up again. Im now 18 and I havent seen him for a year but I feel the exact same way and have never been able to forget about him.
CONTEXT: I met him during a time in my life when I felt incredibly lonely and thinking of him I know was a way of escaping the emptiness I felt around me. But what I felt for him I think was totally real and to this day ive never felt similarly about anyone else. Now when I think about him it just makes me sad because realistically we have no chance of being together anytime soon and he doesnt really seem interested in me much, the times we occasionally message. But he also doesn’t know I’ve turned 18 so wouldn’t have to feel weird anymore about showing interest? So maybe things would be different if I could find a way to tell him? Or am I just kidding myself? But I can’t stop thinking we’d be amazing together.
I would love if some kind soul could give me a bit of honest advice. Sorry for the rant.
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I think it’s crazy he is txting u while thinking ur under 18…
Look up “limerence” there’s a sub for it also
Well if you do not want this to go on :
It’s his job so yes you get all the attention when it your turn
Although he’s not doing it right because ya’ll text?
Have you located him after all these years? Is he in the same city/state? I understand your attraction but people change a lot after 1 let alone more than 1 years.
You better gauge his response because he’s a young man trying to find himself in life. All in all i say… go for it. It cant hurt at all.
You never know unless you try
Maybe it’s not him you’re stuck on, it’s the emotions you felt around him.
Maybe let the thought of him go and find comfort knowing you’ll find someone else that will make you feel that way.
Hugs.
go for it, not too far by age. shoot your shot as us guys say
Only way you gonna know is if you ask a question or day something especially if he lives in the same city!
“Dude I got a big crush on you” simple as that. Whats the worst that can happen?
“Oh wow I had no idea….but I got a girlfriend”
It’s life…its shit! Lol
what the hell..
Assuming he doesn’t have a girlfriend, ask him out on a date, maybe something safe, go meet him at a bowling alley on a Saturday night, that would be a safe date, then you would have the opportunity to see where you guys arr in your lives :)))
I choose this girls camp counselor
Men need to start choosing the fucking bear.
Despite the fact that you’re 18 now it would still be an inappropriate relationship for him, imo. From the outside it would be indistinguishable from grooming.
From your POV, I think you need to believe the comments that suggested you aren’t in love with him but rather the thought of him. You’re young and you will find a much more satisfying and realistic crush if you let yourself.
message him and ask to hang out to catch up, see if there is a spark or if your feelings have changed once you meet him in person. this will give you closure instead of feeling stuck on that “the one that got away” type of feeling.
The best way to get over a man is to start dating them.
I’m joking, but only kind of. We often idealize people when we don’t know them that well.
You saw him last in Jan 2024 buy have you had any other type of communication recently? Since January of 2024?
Do have his cell # or email?
If you have been in contact recently then there’s no harm in saying what’s up? How are u? Thinking about camp lately. Would love to see you and catch up? If he responds yes , just say, “Are u seeing anyone? I only ask because I don’t want to get you into trouble or anything.”. If he says no, then just say okay. Just thinking about how nice it was to talk with you back then. Was thinking about ya.
And then, temmeber that feeling in your stomach? Butterflies? Well you are ahead of the game. You’ll know exactly what you will feel when you do meet your “Mr Right”.
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Good luck honey!!!
Tf
Look up limerance. Considering you met him at a time you were vulnerable entombed and you don’t really know the guy, I’m guessing it’s that.
Everyone has someone they fixate over at this age. In several years you will hardly ever think about him.
Let’s see. Half the older persons age, plus seven…
Or your age minus 7, multiplied by two.
These will help you arrive at the boundaries of what is a mutually socially acceptable age for dating.
So at 14 it’s only acceptable to date another 14 year old lol
At 18, it’s appropriate to date anyone who is not over 22 years old. Or better put, a 22 year old shouldn’t date anyone younger than 18.
Anyways. You’re good!