I think my 58yo Republican Christian mother is a closeted Lesbian

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Usually she’ll rant to me about politics and I keep my mouth shut because I don’t want her to yell at me. During these rants, there has been more than 4 YES 4 occasions I recall of her saying “Just because you find girls sexy doesn’t mean your lesbian, everyone thinks about girls that way, it’s normal”. She’s been divorced 3 times, because the men were abusive, she always says they got mad at her because she didn’t want sex and has said her husbands had to force her in order to have her 6 kids. The way she found these men? She just says “If a man comes to me I’ll accept him, I don’t care about attraction as long as they like me”. I remember watching her cry at a church meeting because they started to mention how bad homosexuality was, she went out of the room mid lecture and didn’t give me an explination. She’s also given me many lectures on how girls think, she said women are naturally attracted to women’s personalities and this is why they imagine themselves in a relationship with other girls, she then went on to say how homosexuals ignore this “fact” and that’s why they’re gay. I have no clue how I didn’t put this together but I was thinking before bed and I just remembered everytime she did something like this, WOW. I really think she’s a lesbian.

Comments

  1. blaguga6216 Avatar

    she gay as fuck homie

  2. this-guy- Avatar

    Get that woman a roommate, stat!

  3. Brush-Cutter Avatar

    Its all good, unexpected and shocking I’m sure but just embrace her, let her live.

  4. wuboo Avatar

    What a pitiful way to live

  5. raspberrybee Avatar

    Aw. I feel for her. She seems to come from a religious background that is very against being gay so she suppressed it. Hopefully she is able to find happiness at some point.

  6. baby_jane_hudson Avatar

    without the republican christian part, she sounds like me before i came out – “girls are just, attractive. everyone knows that. that doesn’t make me not straight.” etc.

    aka these are very gay thoughts to have

  7. PushingMyLimit Avatar

    Hey I have a lesbian non christian but extremely tolerant and very middle ground mom, 51 and likes older women. I think we can make something happen here

  8. Weaksoul Avatar

    They always think it’s a choice, they just don’t realise most people don’t think of it that way. Most people don’t think it’s a choice to be straight, or gay, they just are…

  9. Sad_Cantaloupe_8162 Avatar

    I wonder if she was SA’d as a child, and that’s why she feels closer to women and more withdrawn from men. Everything you said just screams trauma, (been there myself minus the six children,) and I’m praying for her 🙏🏼❤️

  10. Southern-Interest347 Avatar

    I don’t know if your mother is gay. I do agree with her that, women definitely can think other women are pretty, attractive or have sex appeal without being gay. They are not your mother definitely doesn’t want to have a label. I would just let her know that love her unconditionally. good luck

  11. Timely-Youth-9074 Avatar

    My sister is like this.

    But she’s so hung up on appearing “normal” she’ll rather be sexually frustrated her whole life.

  12. captainzigzag Avatar

    The poor woman. She can’t admit it to herself because it goes against everything she’s been conditioned to believe.

  13. manicpixiedreamfrog1 Avatar

    Please try and help her 😭😭 I know it’s so unlikely that she’ll listen, but I just feel so bad. I hope she finds her true self and heals from all of what she clearly had to live with.

  14. SurpriseDragon Avatar

    She needs an older female friend to help her

  15. dirty_corks Avatar

    “Mom, you like women. Like, you LIKE like women. That’s OK with me; I’d rather see you happy than not. You should make a profile on HER, maybe go to an Indigo Girls concert or the local LGBT coffee and bookstore, and see if you meet anyone that strikes your fancy. Because living alone and in the closet has to suck “

    I have friends who’ve got parents that came out later in life, and are MUCH happier for it.