My therapists advice just makes me more anxious rather than putting me at ease sometimes. For instance, we talk a lot about my decision to not have kids. I just don’t find motherhood appealing and want no part of it. But my therapist often talks about me growing older and my family all being gone and having no one to care for me or be with me. It freaks me out and just makes me feel like I’m gonna die old and alone. Then I start questioning if I should just have kids, but then it feels like I’ll just be having them out of fear of being alone. Today, I talked about me and my fiancé moving to be closer to his job after we get married and she basically said it wasn’t a good idea for me to uproot my life, leave my family, just to be near his job because there’s too much uncertainty with that plan. Now she’s got me questioning everything.
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This doesn’t sound like a very good therapist. She should be there to support and guide you through life and through making your own decisions, not telling you how you should live your life. If it’s making you anxious (and I don’t blame you), think about getting a new therapist. This doesn’t sound right.
I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. I’m childfree and my therapist is very supportive of my decision… that’s how it should be.
She sounds like she sucks but she is right that the downside of not having kids is dying old and alone