Seriously wtf is going on. I already firmly believed men only love you when you are young and hot.
And things like this are not helping at all.
Im going to a gym for a year now,
I’ve talked to multiple men now that where hot yes, but married and they have children. But yet they make it clear they would fuck me if I allowed them.
At first I only read about it online, but I dont really know what changed but there are so many married men after me. Its sad. It breaks my heart.
Is giving youre youth to a man even worth it in the first place ? You end up old anyway and then they’ll drool over younger ones.
I have no problem with men checking other women out(NOT IF HES OUT WITH HIS WIFE OF COURSE) I get it. I’m sure their wives to it too.
but they’ll literally would risk everything just for a quick nut, or just the full staring at you while their wife stands next to them.
I lost hope in true love, my assumptions where right. Men dont like older women at all. doesn’t matter if you got together when you where young, or how good you are. They get bored of you after you age.
If given the change, majority would fold if their was a hot young thing trying to smash them.
Look at the happiness rates for older men and older women. Older women are more unhappy than older men, Older women get treated like shit, called old, bitter, jelous, crazy cat lady etc.
I always wanted to be with one person the rest of my life, but right now im starting to think fuck it.
I really really dont want to but I genuinely start to dislike men.
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using a few people you’ve met to represent 4 billion people isn’t the right choice. narratives is what kills is all. Loyal men exist.
Cheating mainly happens in problematic relationships, or by immature people in relationships. And a lot of people or relationships can be that way, but 80% seems a bit of an exaggeration. In general. It really depends on your personal environment and social circle I guess.
So the question for you to answer is mainly, why am I seeing this so much in my environment. Is it really the case, or is it a feeling that I have? Why do I think that every guy I talk to is willing to bang me if I allow them.
Stable long term or even lifelong relationships are having a hard time nowadays. We all raised our expectations, separation or breaking up relatinships was never easier or socially accepted than nowadays, and finding a new partner seemingly never was easier in a digital world with dating apps.
But the reality is that most people still want to have that one lifelong partner that makes them happy. It all comes down to making the right choice, and be very aware of that choice.
And women don’t like men if they’re not tall, 6ft, and make 6 figures with a 6 pack. Do you see where I’m coming from? It goes both ways, I think we just need to accept that artificial and shallow people exist but that shouldn’t stop us from finding a partner 🤷♀️. There will always be people who love you only for your body and you need to learn to just ignore them
Confirmation bias. The only men approaching you are ones that would cheat because the loyal ones…are loyal. So you don’t see them. They also might not be “hot” like you mention so you never even spare then a passing glance. Think about all the men who approached you and then think about all the men you’ve passed by that didn’t even acknowledge you. Which pool is bigger?
No.
Background: 50, with my wife for almost 30 years.
A lot of people try to treat the gym as a pick-up spot and it’s infuriating for the others
Corelation doesn’t equal causation
Are you not close to any married women? Same thing
Honestly, there are probably hundreds of men you interact with or are nearby who have not and would not approach you. The men who are approaching you are the subset who will cheat. My partner and I are in our 50’s. I couldn’t care less about other women of any age in terms of relationships. She is all that I want or need. But what I have is love. That’s the difference, I think. People in unhappy relationships will eventually crack.
I’m a m34. Just closed the bar so I’m drunk. Forgive me, but I do agree with you. I have a good friend group, all married. I can honestly say that all but two, out of 7, would or have cheated.
The two who haven’t are my most loyal friends, even though we really don’t hang out. We have this unspoken bond, like we all know who we are and know who our other friends are. I come from an immigrant cultural background, idk what that means, but I think it has set some values that I strongly believe. Even if I didn’t want to be I am a one woman man. Who ever she is and when she is with me, that is the only woman I see.
True love might be lost or hard to find but respect is not and there are men out there who value that. I do, and have a few friends that I know do. I respect you, don’t lose hope because I don’t want to either.
Again drunk but from the heart
It’s heartbreaking how common this story feels like watching a magic trick where love disappears behind the smoke of aging and ego. But real connection isn’t just about youth or looks; it’s about growing together, not apart. Don’t give up on that hope it still exists, even if it’s rarer than it should be.