All I think about is food. I am so greedy. I hate chocolate, I hate the pull it has on me. I can go one, two, once five days without overeating on junky, sugary foods. I often eat until I experience discomfort. I often start out good but as the day progresses I give in and vow that I will eat well tomorrow, I will never eat chocolate again, but the first thing next morning I am at the cake in the fridge.
Throughout the day I will gorge myself on chocolate, icecream or anything remotely sweet. My parents had to get a lot for our kitchen cupboard and freezer. It is embarassing.I have so little willpower. The act of eating itself brings fleeting pleasure but it is not worth it. I know this, but in the moment when the food is in front of me, all I think about is that fleeting pleasure.
People comment on how I scoff my food give me knowing, amused looks. My brother jokes about. My parents joke about it. I must joke too, haha I’m a greedy bitch who can’t stop fucking eating.
I just want to be slim. I am not overweight by BMI standards, as a 59kg 5’3 15 year old girl, but I feel so fat and chunky. I hate my body so much. My legs are massive. My arms look like big jiggly hams. I am pudgy all over. I have a double chin. I am disgusted by myself. The girls at school are so slim and toned. I wish I could look like them. I wish I was dead, or atleast have the courage to kill myself.
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Its an addiction and like any other addiction you need help. You can stop, but you probably need therapy to help you do so. Decide whether its worth it or not.
This is body dysmorphia, at 5’3 and that weight you are healthy 15 year old. I doubt your arms and legs are massive. You really need to speak with a therapist honey. I’m absolutely sure your beautiful and just don’t realize it yet.
You’re not greedy, but you may have an underlying issue for your need for sugar. Sugar is an instant dopamine hit. Your body is craving that dopamine hit. Why? That’s what you need to think about.
Are you bored? Are you anxious? Are you worried. It could be the body image issues feeding back into a negative cycle loop. In which case you need to speak to a parent, friend or therapist about your feelings.
You’re not greedy, you’re not weak. What you may be is confused, but the good news is with a bit of help you can figure it out. You’ve got this!
My mom started craving chocolate and said she could eat it for every meal and never could calm that crave- Dr put her on Wellbutrin and it kicked it for her! I know they sometimes will add this med to people who are trying to quit smoking as well.
Food addiction is one of the hardest things to manage. You can quit drinking, quit smoking, quit gambling, but you can’t quit eating. You have to learn to manage it. I used to struggle with binge eating a lot too and have it under control now. You need to change your mindset around food
First of all, stop telling yourself “I’ll never eat chocolate again.” You love chocolate and you deserve to enjoy it. You deserve to enjoy food, it’s one of the biggest pleasures in life. Removing the guilt and shame from eating is one of the most important steps to stop binge eating, in my opinion. You aren’t going to pressure and guilt yourself into a healthy, balanced diet
Also, depriving yourself is only going to make your cravings stronger and trigger another binge eating episode. When you say “I’m never going to do this again,” you’re setting yourself up to fail. When you start binge eating again, you think, “well, I fucked up today. I’ll try again tomorrow.” That type of thinking only sets you up for failure. You can only control the present moment. If you binge eat, let it go and don’t beat yourself up about it. Don’t eat less the next day to “make up for it,” just try to re-focus on following your body’s natural hunger/fullness cues and eat the amount that feels good in the future. Drink lots of water, make sure you aren’t deficient in any vitamins (iron deficiency can cause excessive hunger/cravings, for example), and try to not feel guilty or shameful about food. Be kind to yourself
If you look up “binge eating disorder,” there are lots of resources. You’re going to be okay ♥️
Also, being bored can cause sugar cravings. Try to focus on some hobbies that bring you joy (art, music, going for walks, talking to friends on the phone, etc…) The goal is to not think about food excessively
I call this the sugar roller coaster. It is absolutely an expression of addiction we have.
I had found two tools that help me out of the constant hunger. One of them is low carb. Start reducing carbs a little bit at a time and replacing it with proteins and fats. Eventually you will find yourself suddenly not hungry one day. It’s glorious.
The other tool I found is fasting. For me, whenever I am doing intermittent fasting, my weight management is much easier and I don’t tend to have sugar roller coaster cravings.
Stop beating yourself up for being a failure, accept that you have been addicted by a multi-billion dollar industry centered around making you addicted to sugar and carbs. At that point it becomes a dynamic of compensating and managing the addiction when you have capacity and bandwidth to do so.
One of the biggest things that helped me with that is intermittent fasting. Typically that means you only eat within an 8 hour window of the day. However, considering you are 15 I do not recommend doing it that way at all. What I would recommend is not eating for just an hour before bedtime. Eating too close to bed time can mess up your digestion, even just for the night. Also, this will help you slowly learn willpower, which will help in many aspects of life, not just this. It also sounds like you’re lacking dopamine. I would say talk to a therapist and your doctor.
You have an eating disorder and obvious signs of body dysmorphia.
You need therapy because without it your disordered eating and body dysmorphia is going to slowly get worse.
This sounds like binge eating disorder (source: I am diagnosed with B.E.D.) and I would STRONGLY suggest therapy to help sort it out and help manage binges. I’ve done therapy for mine and it has made a world of difference.
Have you talked to your parents about your feelings? Are they safe to talk to about stuff like this?
Is it possible you have low dopamine? Have you tried any sort of psych meds? Wellbutrin helps a lot with addictive problems including cravings and smoking. And it’s not necessarily an appetite suppressant it targets the dopamine.
edit: i read you’re 15. you’re growing! this is normal to crave sugar and other things. just try to be mindful. our body craves things we need, maybe you need less candy sugars and more fruit/smoothie/yogurt sugars.
I think you need to start being a bit kinder to yourself. I also think you should check online which vitamins and minerals you need because that might explain why you crave sweet things. I always craved sugary things very much and I think it had alot to do with a shortage of magnesium. I had so many deficiencies. Sugar is addicting and it is very sad that it is just everywhere and in our face all the time.
Firstly, bmi is bullshit. It was made by a group of ‘scientists’ with only using men as median to base their results. I think you need to find out the cause of the problem rather than feeling bad over food, food isnt good or evil- its just food. Therapy might be a good shout?
i thought you’d say you are 100kg but 59 kg girl really ? it’s not the end of the world
Tbh this is not an unhealthy weight but the habits are. Who cares that you are not toned, they most likely go to the gym for that because being toned just doesn’t happen if you aren’t working out in some form.
Id say ask if your parents can support your decision to eat better by removing the sweet treats. You are trying to break an addiction. Then only drink water and if you need a glass of milk, drink one glass too as your drink of choice. The sugary drinks is also an issue but diet drinks are honestly so bad for you too. You don’t have to restrict yourself of sugar forever but until you can find a healthy balance and disciplining yourself, you must restrict a little bit.
Don’t use the image of someone else to hate you. You can admire their looks but what it all comes down to is why do you want to look like that? Is it because you want attention? A partner? To fit in? Or do you want to because you will feel better? Be healthier? These are hard questions you need to come clean with for yourself because if your reasons is for others, you won’t be satisfied.
Firstly, BMI is a bullshit metric and always has been.
Secondly, you’re a growing kid. Eating is not a crime.
Thirdly, if you’re concerned about your weight or why you’re overeating, see an endocrinologist (hormone doctor). They will give you an educated answer on if what you’re experiencing is abnormal.
Sugar is 8X more addicting than crack. Let that sink in. I once asked a friend if she wanted to join me in doing a low carb diet. She had been eating a lot of sweets for a while. She literally went through withdrawal. It was crazy. It typically takes 21 days for cravings to go away. You can stop OP it’s not easy but definitely doable!
Try delayed gratification. Once you notice the craving, acknowledge it, and tell yourself you’ll have some of the thing you’re craving in five minutes time. Set a timer, then go and have it. For that week, keep the time at five minutes. Next week go to ten, then fifteen, twenty, twenty five, thirty etc. Each week the delay between the craving and the reward should get longer to break the cycle. Whilst doing that, start also making healthier choices. Buy chocolate bars that have fewer calories. Each week get a different bar that has less calories.
But also buy fruit. Each time you have some chocolate, have some fruit as well. Use the chocolate to try and transfer the craving over to the fruit. Try medjool dates too. I was having lots of small chocolate bars due to triggering my sweet tooth again. But I’d have one then crave another one. Dates are delicious and satisfy the sweet craving, but one will do me, and I don’t want more.
Also,use the power of your mind. When you eat healthy food, smile as big as you can and tell yourself this food is delicious, that you’re loving it and crave it. When you eat chocolate and sweets, frown and tell yourself that it tastes horrible and that you don’t want to eat it anymore.
Talk to your doc, mine prescribed me vyvanse for binge eating and it def works
Seek help, this is addiction just like anything else can be. Replace overeating with going to the gym, get addicted to that and eating healthy wholefoods you can still have cheat days.
Hey OP, first of all I want to say you’re honestly not overweight for your height. If you’re unhappy with how your body looks why don’t you consider doing some light weight training? Is there a weight room at your school gym? Do you participate in a gym class? Is there a weight lifting class you can take? If you’re feeling that you’re “chubby” then weight training is a great option.
I also do worry that you’re dealing with some body dysmorphia and/or a potential eating disorder. Are you seeing a therapist? Would your parents be willing to send you to one?
This might seem strange but it’s arguably better than binging on sweets: drink a lot more water. I’m kind of a big dude, and i sometimes make the conscious decision to avoid certain things, and opt for water instead. Now, it’s almost as if I’ve tricked my brain into seeing water as a reward and I’m SO fucking hydrated now.
I’m wondering if the sensation of discomfort is your signal to “stop.” A quick liter of water can probably get you there much quicker than candy, and you’re more hydrated. I don’t think you’re too far gone to try little different things, and i genuinely believe that if you put in a little effort into finding ONE thing you can do instead of the sweets, be it water or fruit or even a quick lil hobby, you’ll be just fine.
You have an eating disorder and body dysmorphia if you think you’re in any way fat at that weight. Please seek help from your family and dr.
I think you might benefit from professional help. It sounds like you’re moving towards an ED.
I eat emotionally and when on my period. Realising these two facts has helped me a lot. Asking myself „Why do you want to snack? Or shop?“ it’s stress, anxiety and depression for me. I am learning to sit and live with the feelings and dealing with them, instead of eating or shopping. For my weight I have started to do intermittent fasting and walking home from work, whenever I can. It’s helped. I try to eat tons of veggies or grapes when I want snacks. Yes fruit has sugar in it, but it’s better than eating chocolate bars, which believe me, I wanna do so bad (I’m Swiss, our chocolate is truly amazing!).
If I want to stuff my face I make an enormous bowl of salad. I don’t eat breakfast (as digesting makes me tired and I love working in the morning on an empty stomach, I can focus so well…). I eat one large meal a day and some fruit/vegetables or müesli instead of a second meal.
Dealing with the WHY is key, imo.
I was just saying to my mom yesterday that I wish I didn’t care about being skinny at that age.
I felt very similar at age 15 (ate jars of nutella in bed every night, constantly stole and stashed sweets, etc) and I know that everyone is different, but for me I ended up naturally slimming out at around 17-18. It may be beneficial for you to seek counseling about your cravings, but in my opinion, it’s pretty normal for that age. My sweet tooth went away as I grew up.
As someone who used to eat this way all her life, look into therapy. Very late in life have realized that eating this way was me seeking dopamine hits because I was covering up depression, rage and anxiety that I kept stuffing down inside….. I too ate until discomfort. Now I am nearly pre-diabetic which has allowed me to finally step up to the plate (lol), and eat better. More fruit veg and protein and barely any sugar. It can be done. I know it seems impossible, but you have to literally wean yourself off sugar over time, replace processed foods and sugars with healthy stuff: fresh fruit, brightly colored veggies, lean protein, yogurt granola…etc. Start every day with a protein. Its amazing. you feel fuller and more satisfied and stop wanting to graze. Add a healthy fat. Move your body. Drink water. I bought one of those 1/2 gallon bottles and drink it throughout the day. And therapy seriously helps.
They invented processed food in our lifetime to keep us addicted. Luckily they also invented GLP1’s in our lifetime to break the addiction.
It must be very difficult. The main issue isn’t your eating habits, but your body image perception. It’s wholly psychological. Even if you remove the food, it’s like a band aid for a gunshot wound. How can you cultivate body positivity? What is the real shame in not being Victoria secret skinny? It’s a hoax of societal standards.
Just try Wegovy. All the cravings will stop.
There’s a really good nutritionist on YouTube who says “think about what you can add not what to take away” chocolate is great! Have it w some oatmeal or waffles I don’t think you need to get rid everything you like, just learn to have it in moderation. It’s also OK to remember that learning new habits is not linear and it’s okay if you fail at first. Either way you’re too hard on yourself op, your body is not the end all be all about you.