So, this all started Christmas time when I (26f) was told by my boyfriend(28m) he was getting me something he knows I’ll love. He kept hyping it up and he knows I love little surprises so it became something I thought about. Christmas Eve rolls around and he tells me as his grandparents are on the way that he has to leave to LA to go get my present.. Well long story short I ask that he stay considering his grandparents speak only Spanish. I know how to say agua and count to ten so I told him I rather him stay and he can just get it next time he goes to LA(he works out there). He finally agrees and again later that night even shows his aunt a picture of what he got me without me seeing and her jaw dropped saying it was gorgeous.
Time passes and I never get this “gift”… I feel weird bringing it up, but I decided to ask after about a month and he tells me he hasn’t gotten a chance to pick it up since Christmas Eve (he literally works in LA). Well, I got impatient and I went through his messages and found he had texted someone about the fake van cleefs they had and if they really were passing as real, price, etc. I even saw the messages about him cancelling to pick it up on Christmas Eve so I KNOW that’s where he got it. I say nothing because at this point there is no point. I don’t even have the bracelet(yet)
Well, Valentine’s Day rolls around and the last gift he gives me is in a van cleef bag. I open it and of course it’s a gorgeous bracelet with diamonds, a serial number, the whole 9 yards. I immediately remembered the text though and just played it off saying how beautiful it was as this man proceeds to tell me he had to get me something nice because he couldn’t let me walk around with nothing next to him as he wears his 40 thousand dollar chain… The whole time I’m knowing in my head the VC is not real so his comments were giving me serious ICK.
I did some digging on how to spot dupes of VC and I decided to register it on the website with the serial number. The wrong piece came up even though the serial number did in fact work. Plus, the bag and box was fake. I mentioned it to him by saying something along the lines of “babe I’m so sorry, but I think you got scammed… This bracelet might be fake”. The whole time he is acting shocked that it was fake. He still claims to this day he had no idea, took it back and says he has a 10k credit with that jeweler and is going to get me something else with the credit when I know he only paid 1.5k… And before anyone comes for me, it’s not about the fact that it’s fake VC, it’s about the fact that he lied and continues to, to this day. I took it to a jeweler to get it tested and the only thing fake about it was that it wasn’t from VC so I don’t see why he didn’t just get me a cute diamond bracelet or something.
EDIT: I’m the mother of his 3 children and we have been together since 2021. Also, as crazy as it may sound especially after reading all the responses, I never told him I know the truth because part of me genuinely feels bad for ruining his surprise. I still wanted to keep it even after “we” found out it was fake because it was still a gift and I’m a really sentimental person. I let his dig himself a hole though when he lied to me about the price because I told him if it is fake it makes the bracelets value go down significantly and it wouldn’t make sense to keep a bracelet you “spent 10k on” if it’s only worth about 1.5k. He couldn’t argue with that unless he was going to be honest and tell me he never actually spent the 10k.
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Backup of the post’s body: So, this all started Christmas time when I (26f) was told by my boyfriend(28m) he was getting me something he knows I’ll love. He kept hyping it up and he knows I love little surprises so it became something I thought about. Christmas Eve rolls around and he tells me as his grandparents are on the way that he has to leave to LA to go get my present.. Well long story short I ask that he stay considering his grandparents speak only Spanish. I know how to say agua and count to ten so I told him I rather him stay and he can just get it next time he goes to LA(he works out there). He finally agrees and again later that night even shows his aunt a picture of what he got me without me seeing and her jaw dropped saying it was gorgeous.
Time passes and I never get this “gift”… I feel weird bringing it up, but I decided to ask after about a month and he tells me he hasn’t gotten a chance to pick it up since Christmas Eve (he literally works in LA). Well, I got impatient and I went through his messages and found he had texted someone about the fake van cleefs they had and if they really were passing as real, price, etc. I even saw the messages about him cancelling to pick it up on Christmas Eve so I KNOW that’s where he got it. I say nothing because at this point there is no point. I don’t even have the bracelet(yet)
Well, Valentine’s Day rolls around and the last gift he gives me is in a van cleef bag. I open it and of course it’s a gorgeous bracelet with diamonds, a serial number, the whole 9 yards. I immediately remembered the text though and just played it off saying how beautiful it was as this man proceeds to tell me he had to get me something nice because he couldn’t let me walk around with nothing next to him as he wears his 40 thousand dollar chain… The whole time I’m knowing in my head the VC is not real so his comments were giving me serious ICK.
I did some digging on how to spot dupes of VC and I decided to register it on the website with the serial number. The wrong piece came up even though the serial number did in fact work. Plus, the bag and box was fake. I mentioned it to him by saying something along the lines of “babe I’m so sorry, but I think you got scammed… This bracelet might be fake”. The whole time he is acting shocked that it was fake. He still claims to this day he had no idea, took it back and says he has a 10k credit with that jeweler and is going to get me something else with the credit when I know he only paid 1.5k… And before anyone comes for me, it’s not about the fact that it’s fake VC, it’s about the fact that he lied and continues to, to this day. I took it to a jeweler to get it tested and the only thing fake about it was that it wasn’t from VC so I don’t see why he didn’t just get me a cute diamond bracelet or something.
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He’s not even good at lying. If you were returned Van Cleef to the store, he would have Van Cleef Credit not a jeweler. Why are you with a dummy just break up already? He’s a liar.
Ewwww. He’s lying to what? Make you feel indebted to him? Pls call him out and tell him you know!
I thought he had bought you a veteran Western movie actor lookalike.
He doesn’t think you’re worth it but wants you to think he thinks you are. Or he’s really broke and doesn’t want you to know.
So much work to be lazy.
It’s not about the price of the gift, it’s all the lying and manipulation surrounding it. A non-branded 2k bracelet would have been a thoughtful gift. Not hyping it up and bragging about it to everyone around him would have been nice.
I’d have the ick, too. He wants the credit for grand gestures without doing anything grand. I don’t trust liars. If you were into reps and were clued in, that’s fine. But you aren’t wrong for your feelings and I would be permanently turned off, too.
Move on, he doesn’t value you or trust in a relationship.
the basic thing in a relationship is to be honest and he can’t do that
What’s a van queef?
Not wrong for being upset about the lie and the doubling down of the already doubles down lie.
It’s a pretty piece and expensive. As long as you like it. It shouldn’t matter where it came from. It’s just the lies that make it gross.
You staying with the liar?
Bro! Stop expecting ANYTHING! What have you given him besides the obvious? He also gave you something a few times. And . . .
Chlamydia!
Bang bang!
He’s stringing you along, and you’re allowing it/staying.
So….am I the only one who read this and just…I don’t even know. My brain is genuinely scrambled after trying to conceptualize real, actual people in this “predicament”…
Well, all I can say is I’m apparently a different species than OP. Nothing in this post is relatable. Literally nothing. It’s so impressive that I commented this.
The elaborate lies here should give you serious pause on this whole relationship.
Honestly you both sound like you got busted priorities and worry too much about status symbols, and especially the price of those status symbols. Guy sounds flaky and skeezy, but you going through his phone gives me the ick.. I think you both have a lot of growing up to do. Either together or apart, but ya need to get at it..
Yikes.
Don’t date liars and don’t date trashy men, please.
How much is his chain again?
Get rid of him seriously
You’re dating a guy who has a 40 k gold chain…..your first problem is you’re both too materialistic. Materialistic men are very apt to do bullshit like this routinely.
You are dating a liar honey. Think about it. If he has no problem lying to you, you cannot trust anything that comes out of his mouth. I’m sorry but it’s the truth. I would walk away and find a man who does not lie to me.