Being able to express something that’s upsetting you without yelling, arguing, or name-calling—and turning it into a calm discussion instead—is powerful.
When someone is openly weird. Not creepy. Just their own thing.
Everyone is unique but most people do well at hiding it or suppress it to the point they aren’t anymore. I appreciate people who embrace their weird parts without fear.
Awkwardness, Vulnerability like i told my Boyfriend I loved him and everything he does for me, his response was to get emotional and cry, and while yes its crazy nobody has told him he’s deserving of love, I’m not going to lie that made me quite hot and i think about that a lot…Lol
Tell me all about your special interest without “mansplaining” it and I’m all ears ((my boyfriend talks to me about snakes and plants for hours at a time and I never get bored of just listening to him talk))
Not just showing interest in what I am talking about but looking it up and talking with me. I remember telling my now husband about the West Memphis 3 case and he read up on it and asked me questions.
When you’re in a group of people and someone is on the periphery, so someone pivots their body enough to let them be part of the circle without repositioning so much to force them to be part of the circle. Green flag.
Even in the times of stress the person is calm and not rude, or even if you get angry on the person and he/she is still giving enough importance and trying to understand your situation, these are green flags for me.
Going to therapy on a regular basis whether or not they think it’s necessary. It helps someone keep their focus especially when you have a good unbiased neutral perspective from someone who is getting paid to help you through the mental health.
Will play video games with you even when they don’t care for them or try activities you plan. It means a lot that they try to do your hobbies with you. I always try to immerse myself into their hobbies.
Are blunt and will give you constructive feedback on whatever you ask or bring important information to your attention that you are filtering unintentionally while both not scolding you nor sugarcoating.
Makes animal sounds like dog or cat noises. Pretty much any type of animal vocal stim.
My current girlfriend lets me know all the time how much she appreciates the little things I do for her, which made me realise I’d never had anybody actually show true appreciation for me before in a relationship. It’s nice.
When they talk to small children or people with disabilities like normal people, and actually mean it. No baby talking or talking down with exaggerated speech… You know the type.
Another is if they are kind to animals. Extra points if you converse or sing to them.
When I was on dating apps, I was always told by girls that they liked that I just talked to them without trying to be sexual. That was my “green flag” apparently.
When it’s our first date and they told their parents about it.
On the opposite side, when it’s our first date, their parents don’t know about it and her mom calls and asks where she is and she replies with “oh don’t worry I’m with my friend x”. Lying to their parents is a huge redflag
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They are a tattoo artist
Refrains from picking nose in public.
they like cats
Humor
Libya. But 1977 Libya.
Mild awkwardness is usually a huge green flag to me.
Makes me grilled cheese when I’m upset. I fucking love grilled cheese.
Bangladesh
They go to therapy. I have mad respect for anyone who says YES, I am willing to work on myself.
Dog person…
Its not actually a red flag to dislike dogs… but if you do I don’t like you.
saudi. great sword.
Always offers a tea when putting the kettle on.
They have a cat
When he quietly refills my water without saying anything, like sir, are we married now or…?
When the animals like them and not just because they have food.
Green Flag breakdown! Always gets to me 😁
Makes room in a circle of people talking to include a newcomer
Italy has green on it. Does that count?
When he’s a beat maker
When they are on Reddit instead of Twitter/X
When they say “Sorry, you were just talking?” After you’ve been cut off from a conversation.
Being able to express something that’s upsetting you without yelling, arguing, or name-calling—and turning it into a calm discussion instead—is powerful.
When they are positive. Things like complementing strangers and generally just having positive energy.
The former flag of the Great Socialist People’s Libyan Arab Jamahiriya (1977-2011).
Das BIG boobz.
When someone is openly weird. Not creepy. Just their own thing.
Everyone is unique but most people do well at hiding it or suppress it to the point they aren’t anymore. I appreciate people who embrace their weird parts without fear.
Knowledge of and/or interest in baseball
When, unprompted, they ask what book I’ve been reading.
When they accept my dietary restrictions without argument or condescension.
The car breakdown company, they always get me.
Someone who remember things about you. What you’ve told them. If they see you like certain foods or drinks, etc
boys who are awkward, but confident without any reason to be LMAO
when he offers to go to the store for you when you’re on your period
Brazil it’s the first thing I think of when I see it.
Kindness to kids, animals, older humans, and anyone that’s currently working a service job.
If you’re kind and understanding to someone bringing you food or drinks, then you’re likely a-ok in my book.
I’ve witnessed some absolutely atrocious behavior because some folks think they’re “better than.”
Screw off into the dark. We’re all humans on this weird-ass spinning rock.
They use their turn signal
Smiling and being nice to me.
The start of a motor race
Awkwardness, Vulnerability like i told my Boyfriend I loved him and everything he does for me, his response was to get emotional and cry, and while yes its crazy nobody has told him he’s deserving of love, I’m not going to lie that made me quite hot and i think about that a lot…Lol
Tell me all about your special interest without “mansplaining” it and I’m all ears ((my boyfriend talks to me about snakes and plants for hours at a time and I never get bored of just listening to him talk))
When they have a sorta awkward smile. Can’t tell why though
When they admit when they were wrong, doesn’t have to be right away.
being a passionate nerd
When they gush over something/someone they love
I like my country’s flag. Guyana
Politeness
Not just showing interest in what I am talking about but looking it up and talking with me. I remember telling my now husband about the West Memphis 3 case and he read up on it and asked me questions.
Then during Covid endured all the docs about it.
When you’re in a group of people and someone is on the periphery, so someone pivots their body enough to let them be part of the circle without repositioning so much to force them to be part of the circle. Green flag.
Calls women “bro” and “dude”. “nice dress dude”
Even in the times of stress the person is calm and not rude, or even if you get angry on the person and he/she is still giving enough importance and trying to understand your situation, these are green flags for me.
Encouraging people to sleep and rest without guilt or shame.
When they have passion for something especially if it’s a random subject or a hobby.
You want to talk excitedly about bees for an hour? I’m in.
You’re learning how to make cheese? Sounds fascinating tell me all about it.
I just like to see people light up when they talk about something that interests them and I like to learn no things, keeps life interesting.
Going to therapy on a regular basis whether or not they think it’s necessary. It helps someone keep their focus especially when you have a good unbiased neutral perspective from someone who is getting paid to help you through the mental health.
Will play video games with you even when they don’t care for them or try activities you plan. It means a lot that they try to do your hobbies with you. I always try to immerse myself into their hobbies.
Are blunt and will give you constructive feedback on whatever you ask or bring important information to your attention that you are filtering unintentionally while both not scolding you nor sugarcoating.
Makes animal sounds like dog or cat noises. Pretty much any type of animal vocal stim.
When someone gets genuinely excited talking about something they’re interested in. Bonus points if it’s a nerdy topic.
My current girlfriend lets me know all the time how much she appreciates the little things I do for her, which made me realise I’d never had anybody actually show true appreciation for me before in a relationship. It’s nice.
persona fans I know it can be a red flag but like….. as soon as someone likes persona I wanna get to know them
When they talk to small children or people with disabilities like normal people, and actually mean it. No baby talking or talking down with exaggerated speech… You know the type.
Another is if they are kind to animals. Extra points if you converse or sing to them.
When I was on dating apps, I was always told by girls that they liked that I just talked to them without trying to be sexual. That was my “green flag” apparently.
A flirty, playful, curious and natural sex drive.
Edit: Maybe that’s not oddly specific.
Being non judgemental about other people’s food habits or not making fun of different sounding languages.
When they have dealt with significant trauma and mental health issues.
When it’s our first date and they told their parents about it.
On the opposite side, when it’s our first date, their parents don’t know about it and her mom calls and asks where she is and she replies with “oh don’t worry I’m with my friend x”. Lying to their parents is a huge redflag
When their names begin with the letter A
When they have strong opinions but zero need to convince you of them, confidence without ego is rare.
When they understand my allergy and put my health before “enjoying the rest of the show” at my expense
If the other person is a metalhead. They seem to be the nicest people ever, I instantly have a positive bias towards them.
When people interject in your story to share a relatable thought you triggered, and then say back to you, and stop talking so you can continue.
Not just hobbies and passions, they care about the most mundane things in your daily life.