(18) She guilt-trips me, calls me names and that im worthless, have no personality and she always wishes that she never gave birth to me then there’s days her mood changes and she suddenly becomes nice to me, tells me there’s no mother like her that other mothers treat their kids horribly and I should be ok with her behavior. She controls some things in my life that make me feel powerless, hopeless and she’s religious and tells me that my “other life” will be in hell. AMA
I live with my narcissistic mother who abused me physically and mentally throughout my childhood and adulthood. AMA
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Don’t listen to her. You are none of those things. Work, work really hard, save your money and move. You’re young and have all the potential in the world. You can get out of that situation. You got this!
I am so sorry about this.
What a horrible person…
Do you love your mum?
When did you realise other kids mums were not like her and something was wrong?
What positive things exist in your life? What activities make you laugh and smile which you could do right now?
Do you ever feel like you don’t deserve to be angry or complain about your situation, because you know that many people do have it worse than you, but you also want to complain because you genuinely feel bad? As in, does the back and forth shifting of your mother’s attitude make you doubt your perception of your own experiences?
You need to leave!!! You will regret staying
not a question but my mom is the exact same, she’s extremely two faced and is nice and tells me i’m her favorite girl in the world and then the next second tells me that she hopes my kids hate me and treat me the way i treat her or guilt trips me by saying how she’d never treat her mother like this. she’s exhausting and extremely interrogative, overbearing and so control at times i just give up. she’s been fatshaming me and projecting her insecurities onto me since i was born and tmi but she’s always been the main driving factor in me wanting to hurt myself among other things. she’s religious too. i keep the image of a happier and healthier me when i move out in my head to help me push through the rough times i face everyday living with her and i hope one day we can both find that. i know what it’s like living with someone like her,,, sending hugs and wishes op
Does she behave this way with anyone else?
I lived the same experience. Mine was also a really violent, bipolar alcoholic as well. I ran at 19 and lived in a converted barn for 18 months which fucked sucked but atleast I was away from her.
No question, just wanted to say that you’re not alone and to stay strong. I wish you happy healing and that you get far away from your loser mother.