This is a bit long, so please bear with me. A couple of weeks ago, I attended a church conference. A girl I used to be friends with (let’s call her C) approached me and handed me a note. The note expressed her feelings, saying things like, “I know we drifted apart, but I wish we could be friends again.”
I cut off communication with her two years ago because someone informed my mother-in-law that they believed I had been cheating on my husband. I suspected that C was the one who spread this rumor. She concocted a wild story, claiming that our friend (let’s call him Z) was at my house building my kids’ trampoline and that we were communicating too much. As a result, my mother-in-law confronted my husband about it, which led him to question me. He didn’t mind that Z and I spoke frequently since we hung out with Z almost every weekend at my husband’s family house, but he was confused about Z supposedly being at our house when he wasn’t home. I lost it at that point.
I demanded to know who said it, but my mother-in-law defended C then and wouldn’t tell me. I proved that I had built my kids’ trampoline by myself, as we have cameras at every angle of our property (yes, a woman can do things without her husband—who knew?). Recently, I learned the truth from my mother-in-law. She told me that C was the one who spread the rumor, and I had been right all along. I confronted C about it; now she’s trying to spin the situation to make it look like I’m the problem and that she never said it. I knew from day one that she was the one responsible. I initially let it go, but recently, a mutual friend sent me screenshots of things she had posted about me on Facebook. Another person informed me that she expressed her hatred for me and my best friend even though I’ve done nothing wrong. She’s never been the one to accept accountability or responsibility for anything.
I’m ready to blast her on Facebook and tell everyone what kind of person she truly is because I’m sick of it now, but should I be the bigger person? How do I deal with this narcissistic, manipulative person that unfortunately I have no choice but to see.
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Backup of the post’s body: This is a bit long, so please bear with me. A couple of weeks ago, I attended a church conference. A girl I used to be friends with (let’s call her C) approached me and handed me a note. The note expressed her feelings, saying things like, “I know we drifted apart, but I wish we could be friends again.”
I cut off communication with her two years ago because someone informed my mother-in-law that they believed I had been cheating on my husband. I suspected that C was the one who spread this rumor. She concocted a wild story, claiming that our friend (let’s call him Z) was at my house building my kids’ trampoline and that we were communicating too much. As a result, my mother-in-law confronted my husband about it, which led him to question me. He didn’t mind that Z and I spoke frequently since we hung out with Z almost every weekend at my husband’s family house, but he was confused about Z supposedly being at our house when he wasn’t home. I lost it at that point.
I demanded to know who said it, but my mother-in-law defended C then and wouldn’t tell me. I proved that I had built my kids’ trampoline by myself, as we have cameras at every angle of our property (yes, a woman can do things without her husband—who knew?). Recently, I learned the truth from my mother-in-law. She told me that C was the one who spread the rumor, and I had been right all along. I confronted C about it; now she’s trying to spin the situation to make it look like I’m the problem and that she never said it. I knew from day one that she was the one responsible. I initially let it go, but recently, a mutual friend sent me screenshots of things she had posted about me on Facebook. Another person informed me that she expressed her hatred for me and my best friend even though I’ve done nothing wrong. She’s never been the one to accept accountability or responsibility for anything.
I’m ready to blast her on Facebook and tell everyone what kind of person she truly is because I’m sick of it now, but should I be the bigger person? How do I deal with this narcissistic, manipulative person that unfortunately I have no choice but to see.
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