If you, at some point, realized you are not emotionally and sexually attracted to your spouse but decided to stay married, did you ever start loving and wanting them again? If so, how?

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This is a question for people who found themselves living as housemates with a spouse: no common hobbies, no sexual attraction, no sharing of deep thoughts and feelings. Is it possible to have those in the future if they don’t exist now?

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  2. bcwendigo Avatar

    can you turn lead into gold?

  3. Aware_Welcome_8866 Avatar

    I gave it my best shot after we had a kid. It was HARDER to establish common hobbies, desire sex, share deep thoughts and feelings while caring for an infant. You can go back to something you had before the birth, but the demands of a kid (wanted and much loved) don’t allow you to establish something.

    That’s my 2 cents for a couple with kids. Perhaps couples without kids can do it.