I just spent $60 for the most disappointing BJ ever

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I’ve never thought of prostitutes before. But I’ve been so incredibly busy with life and work for the last two years or more, I haven’t dated anybody in that time or even gone out with anyone.

I’m not exactly flattering and I don’t quite have the time to go to night life to try my luck there.

I was just SO horny. So impulsively I pulled up to the area in my city known for having prostitutes going up and down the street looking for business. My goal was to pay for some cheap hole to stick into that was at least an actual vagina, bust, and leave.

I felt so awkward and didn’t even have the balls to tell her I wanted to fk her hole and leave and be done, I just went with “I don’t know yet”, got her into my car and went with the flow.

Uuuhh “the flow” ended up in me paying $20 for her to get some shit at a gas station, then pull up to some random apartment complex where we had to be so sneaky I couldn’t even TRY to enjoy it, and denied pussy for that very reason when I asked.

I settled for a BJ that I couldn’t even get hard for. And she charged me $40 for it.

Ultimately it’s okay, an overwhelmingly disappointing blowjob at a sketchy area of town with all the risk involved with no repercussions was well worth the $60 looking back. Could’ve been a lot worse, got the wrong person in my car, busted by cops, who knows.

Thanks for reading if you did, I just needed to get it out somewhere and there’s zero chance I’m telling this to a single soul ever.

REFLECTION UPDATE

Alright I thought about this for a while since I posted this and finally came up with how I wanted to word the answer I was looking for to all the people saying I dehumanized this woman by calling her a cheap hole.

I‘ll admit I am an asshole when it comes to wording, I don’t sugar coat bullshit and I called her a cheap hole cause that’s what she is. What do you rather I had called her? A bargain promiscuous lady? Lmfao. Like alright I can call her a cheap sex worker, but why bullshit? She a street hoe. I’m an asshole. That doesn’t mean I think less of her. I can simultaneously call people out for what they are while also respecting their choices – believe it or not in such a CRAZY concept. I treated her very nicely from start to end precisely cause I was respectful that she’s providing me a service. I stopped her mid sucking my limp dick cause I felt BAD for her for dealing with a soft guy for the last 10min and wanted to let her go her way. I would not be surprised if I was actually the person who treated her the nicest the entire night. And I didn’t treat her nicely as means to an end, I treated her nicely cause every human deserves to be treated well. Regardless of profession, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, etc. unless they specifically done something to you that warrants it.

But if you a bum I’ll call you a bum, if you’re a bitch I’ll call you a bitch, if you’re an asshole you’re an asshole, if you’re a hoe you’re a hoe. Why are some words okay and others not? You all called me asshole, shouldn’t you have respected me and called me an unpleasant guy? LOL no you called me for what I was.

I did not call her a cheap hole to dehumanize her or with the intention to disrespect her, however, that’s what Y’ALL assumed from the wording. You’re free to not believe me, and think because I used the word cheap hole there’s somehow no way I still believe she deserves to be treated well. I respect hoes, they’re just doing their thing, making their money. I treat them with respect and I’m always polite, but if you’re a hoe you’re a hoe and that’s okay.

I can both call you a hoe and still respect you as a human being, I’m just choosing not to use some more socially acceptable word in order to be presentable. On that end I am an asshole and I’ll admit to it. If you’re a hoe be a hoe, don’t be offended someone calls you a hoe – that’s what you are?? With that said I’m not gonna treat you as less of a person.

My sister is a stripper, she had only fans before and many partners. I’d tell her and people who’d ask to go out with her that she’s a hoe, why? Cause she was a hoe like tf? She never took offense to it cause it was the truth. I ain’t gonna call her prude cause she’s not. I simultaneously did not judge her choices one bit and would not let someone think less or disrespect my sister because she is a stripper and had an only fans. If calling someone an at best controversial word despite being what they actually are is highly offensive to you idc get off your snowflake island. I still respect them regardless, I just don’t act like a pussy and use more “acceptable terms” to convey it.

I think it’s real silly for any sex worker to get offended by being told how things are: she was a $40 BJ from the middle of the street. She was a street hoe. That doesn’t mean I treated her less than she deserved or called her that in my story to dehumanize her, it’s just how y’all perceived it. And deduced my entire personality as someone who doesn’t respect others. If your standards start with what word I choose to call someone, yeah you lost me there – definitely the asshole in that case. I won’t treat you anything but well though.

Check all my fkn replies. Did I call anyone any names? Curse anybody out? Acted disrespectful towards anyone? Tried to fight anyone wishing me terrible things? I did not. Matter fact I believe I held myself very reasonably this entire time. If I was a disgusting pig who doesn’t respect others, or women for that matter, how come I’m so polite to everyone who’s been judging me? Beats me bro.

Comments

  1. TheDadBodGodv2 Avatar

    RIP that 60 bucks, brother.

  2. SoftCheeks2025 Avatar

    Username checks out

  3. notmyrealnamepapi Avatar

    -My goal was to pay for some cheap hole to stick into that was at least an actual vagina, bust, and leave.

    -I wanted to fk her hole and leave and be done, I just went with “I don’t know yet”, got her into my car and went with the flow.

    Eeewww you sound so gross, glad you didn’t enjoy it.

  4. SwitchMain Avatar

    Did you get his name?

  5. Real-Restaurant6867 Avatar

    60 bucks for a sloppy toppy, damn..

  6. mushroom_lover42006 Avatar

    👁️👄👁️ if u js wanted to bust and leave u could’ve gotten yourself off bro

  7. Icy_Cap7700 Avatar

    Referring to any woman as “a cheap hole” is gross and dehumanizing.

  8. The_Liminal_Space Avatar

    Good. You shouldn’t use women like this.

  9. sunshineandrainbow62 Avatar

    You deserved even less for “looking for a hole” gross

  10. Due_Force_9816 Avatar

    The cops can’t arrest you if you give her the money in a birthday card!

  11. Jennyelf Avatar

    “cheap hole” “fk her hole”

    Do you even care how utterly disgusting you sound?

    I hope you at least wore a condom so you didn’t get a fucking STD, gross guy.

  12. Weird_Gene_ Avatar

    The way you talk about women is the most disappointing part of this- she deserved better. 🗑️

  13. espressoman777 Avatar

    It’s never fun shooting pool with a rope

  14. Passionfruit1991 Avatar

    Prostitutes are still people. Why are you talking like that? I’m glad it was terrible. I felt bad when you said you weren’t flattering looking and then I read on. Ew.

  15. thotisms_speaks Avatar

    >cheap hole

    Seek Christ.

  16. I_am_Coyote_Jones Avatar

    Just buy a fleshlight and stop treating human beings as objects.

  17. manicmice Avatar

    Dude is over here calling women holes, fuck off man, I’m glad it wasn’t good

  18. hahahawhattf Avatar

    I’m supposed to be kind and civil according to the rules so I won’t tell you the kind of monster us women think you are.

  19. alldthingsdatrgood Avatar

    The reason you’re unflattering is your personality. You don’t even know how to talk. Who refers to a prostitute as a hole? I’m glad you had a bad time with her.

  20. BurnAfterReading010 Avatar

    The dehumanizing language about people aside, I kind of get where you’re coming from. Unfortunately, paid interactions are frequently disappointing because she doesn’t really want to be there any more than you do, probably much less because that’s her life. When you’re really horny it’s easy to forget that a big part of any sexual encounter is human connection. Paying someone shortcuts the process but both of you knew that it wasn’t real, which made it feel bad because the was no connection behind it. Really $60 is a cheap price to learn that lesson (Although you still can get an STI from oral sex so if you didn’t use a condom you should get tested).

  21. Flat_Bodybuilder_175 Avatar

    Every time you described holes, mine closed up a lil tighter. “Fuck her hole and leave” is… come on, man. It’s implied if you’re talking about casual sex. I think you received the pleasure you deserved.

    But I am thankful you went about the more ethical way of cleaning your cheeseboard. I’ve been locked in cars by MORE THAN ONE tinder date. Just pay for sex – please get more acquainted with that actual word and not “just fucking your hole and leaving” – and be glad someone was willing to sell their body to you for so little.

    In a few months you may want to get checked out, as well.

  22. Brenner2089 Avatar

    The way you refer to women as “holes,” I see a lot more of this in your future

  23. Responsible_Ad_7995 Avatar

    Perhaps saying things like “fuck her hole” is part of the issue you have with women?

  24. Lea___9 Avatar

    Invest in a sex doll. 

  25. TacoTitsTuesday Avatar

    Hi! 🙋🏻‍♀️ Your friendly neighborhood sex worker here.

    Next time your horny brain wants to make decisions, you will be much better off Googling “female escort (your city)”.

    You can find a worker that has an incall, meaning you go to her, usually a hotel, or you can find one to do an outcall to your place. Be prepared to shell out an average of $100-120 for a QV, which stands for “Quick Visit” ~15 minutes.

    Girls walking the street are usually survival workers and tend to have pumps or be trafficked much more often than women posting for themselves online.

    A couple sites you can try are SkipTheGames and Tryst.

    Make sure you read each ad in full before contacting as girls will all have their own different rules and preferences. Do not say anything incriminating or mention anything sexual.

    If you have any questions feel free to DM me!

  26. dang_bro775 Avatar

    I wish she charged you more

  27. beeboobum Avatar

    Was I really that bad? Damn. Thanks for the gas station hot Cheetos

  28. fernandocrustacean Avatar

    I love that you say it’s the most disappointing BJ ever, but you’re the one that couldn’t get it up.

    Edit: spelling

  29. fernandocrustacean Avatar

    I love that you say it’s the most disappointing BJ ever, bur you’re the one that couldn’t get it up.

  30. jne_nopnop Avatar

    You couldn’t even get hard and you’re calling her bj disappointing?

    Sounds like you paid 60 bucks to embarrass yourself and try to cover it up to internet strangers, not for a disappointing bj.

  31. thegracelesswonder Avatar

    Sounds like you’re just as much to blame as her for this bad blow job.

  32. Viktor_The_Head Avatar

    “Some cheap hole to stick into” yeah, that’s gross dawg. Maybe you should actually look for a gf.

  33. Masterpiece678 Avatar

    Just a long way to say you have ED and no personality bro

  34. hotchocbimbo Avatar

    You refer to women as a hole to stick it in. No wonder you have to pay for someone to pretend to be into you….

  35. Unusual-Brain-5761 Avatar

    Dude. Jerking off is FREE

  36. Davicitorra Avatar

    Now go watch Monster with Charlize Theron and re think the way you look at prostitutes trying to make a living

  37. happylittledaydream Avatar

    Get a fucking toy if you see a sex worker as such. They are still a human performing a service as a job. This is the first time I’ve ever been happy someone got shitty head.

  38. SeaLass34 Avatar

    I’ve never been less shocked to find out someone is single and can’t get any level of relationship based on the way you speak about women. Sick and pathetic.

  39. AdvantageNo6141 Avatar

    sw who are good at their job and aren’t doing it out of survival,,,,, pretend and act like they are into you and just as horny, sometimes so well you can’t even tell you paid them to be there. but you need to drop at least 200$

  40. bunnylover9000 Avatar

    Ewww. If I ever found out a man I wanted to date went to a prostitute AND also used this kind of language, I would automatically dump his ass. Pathetic.

  41. LeosGroove9 Avatar

    Every time you used the word hole I’m pretty sure I barfed in my mouth. You sound absolutely repulsive

  42. JUGRNOT24 Avatar

    They make amazing toys now guy. The sensation is very similar

  43. clairyboots Avatar

    Referring to ANY woman as a ‘cheap hole’ is so vile I don’t even know what to say. Except you saying you don’t have time to date women is just like me saying I’m not interested in dating Pedro Pascal. We both know who is really making the decisions here.

  44. Barefootmaker Avatar

    Talking about another human like the way you have tells me that you don’t deserve anyone to give you pleasure, at any price.

  45. Wonderful-Focus1550 Avatar

    Paying for sex will very likely take out a lot of the fun. A lot of what makes sex so good is the connection and as a woman you’ll give a 10x better blowjob if you like the guy you’re blowing.

    Not to add 60 bucks seems like a very little amount. From what I’ve heard sex workers will charge upwards of 100 for a bj. Sounds like you might’ve just gotten a bad deal and got nervous.

  46. MyHeadHurtsRn Avatar

    Dehumanizing prostitution while actively participating in prostitution, the jokes write themselves.

  47. abbyinwillow Avatar

    “some cheap hole” is that what you think of women…? no wonder you gotta go pay for sex LOL

  48. thingschng Avatar

    So it’s her fault that you can’t get it up with a real woman bc you spend all your time wanking to porn?

  49. StepfaultWife Avatar

    Cheap hole?

    You sound like a real champ.

  50. twoqts Avatar

    Can’t imagine why you have problems with women, given how you describe us as “holes”

    Gross.

    No sympathy for misogynists.

  51. Killbro_Fraggins Avatar

    You sound gross even before getting the BJ.

  52. Sailboat_fuel Avatar

    This part:

    “My goal was to pay for some cheap hole to stick into that was at least an actual vagina, bust, and leave.”

    Jesus. This is the most casually dehumanizing thing I’ve read on here in a while, and the bar for casual misogynistic dehumanization on Reddit is sky fucking high.

    I hope you never enjoy another blowie for the rest of your life.

  53. Glittering_Hold_5857 Avatar

    Describing a person as a “cheap hole” is so disturbing

  54. matchbox176 Avatar

    Be op

    Refer to women as “cheap holes”

    Wonder why people don’t like you

  55. steph-anie-rose Avatar

    I’d have done it for $100 🤷🏻

  56. Jason-Dammit Avatar

    I dunno, man. Kinda sounds like you don’t deserve a good blowie with the way you talk about women. I’m glad it was disappointing.

  57. -LAYERS- Avatar

    Men will do anything except work on themselves to actually become desirable

  58. leavingtheorder24 Avatar

    What a pos. 🤢

  59. yccmwywbyccmt Avatar

    Why do men even pretend to like women. Go get a fake ass to stick it in and leave actual women alone.

  60. GlobalSouthPaws Avatar

    The most reddit shit ever

  61. greasethecheese Avatar

    Dude, you are a seriously creep.

  62. sheepsix Avatar

    That’s too bad dude. You do generally get the kind of service that you pay for from SW though. I’ve experienced some reality altering blowjobs from professionals in the past. One thing to keep in mind is you need to treat SW like the human beings that they are to get the best from them. Your relationship is supposed to be transactional and mutually beneficial, not parasitic.

  63. Automatic-Arrival668 Avatar

    You would of had a better time just masturbating my dude

  64. m_a_gxoxo Avatar

    The dehumanization and objectification of that person just because she’s a sex worker 😬

  65. D0-0 Avatar

    Pornaddict attitude

  66. BombardMeWithBoobs Avatar

    Lmao what a loser

  67. shadowyak429 Avatar

    of course it was…. you spent $60 for a blowjob, what did you expect? the chicks who do it right are charging atleast $100 more than that. get what u pay for dude.

    besides, if you just actually treated a woman like a human being for once you might actually get one for free.

  68. Haterofthepeace Avatar

    I’m glad she got snacks for a soft penis in her mouth!

  69. Loki-ra Avatar

    The fact you refer to another actual human being as a cheap hole makes me think you got way more than you deserved.

  70. currycurrycurry15 Avatar

    I hope you used a condom. You don’t need to be spreading anything. Also, to clarify with you, this “cheap hole” is attached to a person. Women aren’t just holes.

  71. Mountain-Tea3564 Avatar

    I think it was bad because you couldn’t get hard. Just saying.

  72. xHeyItzRosiex Avatar

    Calling a woman a “cheap hole” is probably why you don’t have a fucking girlfriend. Yikes. That was hard to read.

  73. Beautiful-War-4011 Avatar

    I’ve never done any kind of sex work, but I imagine if I was only getting $60 for a bj I wouldn’t put a ton of effort into it lol

  74. hotlittlenumber504 Avatar

    The fact that you use that derogatory terminology regarding a woman is why you find yourself paying for sexual gratification.

  75. Lifeabroad86 Avatar

    Sometimes I wonder if the universe is having a laugh with us when it comes to user names and stories they post or comment on

  76. sandwichrobbery Avatar

    Exploiting a human being just because you believe you have a right to her body and then complaining like you’re the victim is pretty fucking disgusting.

  77. babaG2022 Avatar

    Please reevaluate your view of women, sex workers or otherwise. Then maybe you will have sex more than once every two years

  78. meepster124 Avatar

    gross way to talk about women

  79. MmggHelpmeout Avatar

    Get a Fleshlight. Women aren’t just random holes

  80. agentxscully Avatar

    She should’ve charged more, you sound insufferable.

  81. sephra_rae Avatar

    Dude’s out here paying for a $60 blowy meanwhile guys complain about paying for a $20 meal at chilis 🤣

  82. throwaway7832190 Avatar

    Calling someone a hoe is a judgement. There’s negative connotations with calling someone a hoe ur just trying to be edgy it seems like by “calling it what it is” you could just say shes very open about sex or into casual hookups. You dont HAVE to label her as a hoe you want to. But honestly if shes ok with it thats between you and her

  83. Downtown-Carrot-3972 Avatar

    yeah your edit just makes me feel like you do have problematic views women but refuse to be introspective about it! way to double down and be defensive! could have really explained yourself better there buddy

  84. WanderingStarSoul Avatar

    Hmm. I thought I was read AITA for a moment. I began to lazily scroll down your post at “reflection update” and then stopped and all I have to say is – yes, you’re an asshole.

  85. Euphoric-Device11 Avatar

    I read your post in its entirety. I have not taken the time to read any of the other replies. I want to add some information. Most prostitutes are victims of sex trafficking and are controlled by their pimp. Most began at age 15. I don’t understand why the focus is on what you called the woman because you were not the first person in her life to strip her of her humanity. Your character was revealed when you admitted to hiring a statistically likely trafficked person. You showed your ignorance concerning the hellish reality these women live by referring to her as a street hoe. Maybe you could consider volunteering with a nonprofit for women being rescued from life on the streets.

  86. ladyhaly Avatar

    >My goal was to pay for some cheap hole to stick into

    This phrasing is the crux of why many people responded negatively. Referring to someone—anyone—as a “cheap hole” strips them of humanity and reduces them to a body part. You say you didn’t intend to dehumanize her, but that is what dehumanization looks like: language that objectifies a person and denies their personhood. Intent doesn’t erase impact.

    >She a street hoe. I’m an asshole. That doesn’t mean I think less of her.

    You keep trying to separate how you talk about someone from how you feel about them—but words are part of your behaviour. You say “I respect hoes” while calling them derogatory names and describing the encounter with condescension and resentment. That contradiction undermines your claim of respect.

    >she was a $40 BJ from the middle of the street. She was a street hoe. That doesn’t mean I treated her less than she deserved

    This is another example of what’s bothering people. You insist you were polite—but you also frame this woman purely through the lens of what she cost, what she did for you, and how unmemorable or unsatisfying she was. You reduce her to a transaction and label her in a way that reinforces stigma.

    >I can both call you a hoe and still respect you as a human being

    Technically? Sure. But most people don’t experience respect through labels that have historically been used to shame and degrade them. If you want to have an honest conversation, you need to acknowledge that what you think is respectful doesn’t always match what someone else experiences as respect.

    Empathy is needed for emotional intelligence.

    >My sister is a stripper, she had only fans before and many partners. I’d tell her and people who’d ask to go out with her that she’s a hoe, why? Cause she was a hoe tf? She never took offense to it cause it was the truth.

    You’re leaning heavily on your sister’s reaction to justify your language. But your sister doesn’t speak for all sex workers. Some people are reclaiming terms like “hoe” or “slut,” but context matters. A woman you paid $40 for a blowjob doesn’t know you. She didn’t consent to be called that.


    TL;DR

    You seem to be processing a lot of frustration, guilt, and confusion around this encounter. That’s fair. But dehumanizing language, even if said “jokingly” or “honestly,” does impact how people perceive your respect for others. If your goal was to be real, consider that “being real” can include self-awareness, not just brutal language. Politeness and genuine respect are not the same thing.

  87. Wonderful-Middle-601 Avatar

    The reflection response was longer than the confession. Lol. Might be worth looking at that OP.

  88. Rochelle6 Avatar

    Your update does nothing to help your case btw

  89. Plushie_Hoarder Avatar

    Op, just get a fucking fleshlight Jesus fucking Christ. You are not mature enough to be allowing your seminal fluid near ANY holes.

  90. oldcumsock_ Avatar

    I think its more of you being an entitled prick rather than you not having much time anymore, buddy.

  91. mexicantwerk Avatar

    why did bro start trauma dumping in the edits 💀💀

  92. schmukas Avatar

    Damn dude. This is foul. Even after reading your little reflection update. You really need to do some work on some shit and your attitude towards women

  93. tiekanashiro Avatar

    No wonder you have to pay for sex given how you talk

  94. phantom_lux Avatar

    “But why bullshit? She a street hoe” 🤣🤣

  95. oluwamayowaa Avatar

    Such a loser ewwww! That’s why you won’t find anyone

  96. Itscatpicstime Avatar

    What else to call her?

    A sex trafficking victim is a pretty good bet, as that’s literally what “cheap” means 99% of the time. That’s most of who is on the streets.

    So congrats for not only dehumanizing a woman, but dehumanizing a sex trafficking victim.

    It literally would have been better if you called her a hoe. That at least represents a job, even if in a disparaging way.

    But calling her a cheap hole is dehumanizing, and literally none of your bullshit here changes that. It is objectively dehumanizing.