My husband is about to get fired. We have no other source of income. We have a special needs child. My husband’s in the meeting right at this very second. Getting fired. I’m at home. Crying and hopeless. My god, what are we going to do? Will we end up homeless?
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Take a deep breath. Hopefully they’ll give him some notice and pay. Help him update his CV and start applying for new jobs tomorrow, call recruitment consultants, leave no stone unturned. He’ll find something else.
If you’re in the US start applying for all assistance now, hopefully you have a better state than I do in regards to rental assistance. Medicaid, SNAP, utility assistance. Your area should have a website or a number similar to 411 with information. I know it seems bleak and hopeless in the moment but don’t forget your child is relying on you. You WILL get through this, I’ve been there.
Unemployment as well
Sorry to hear. Apply for unemployment or food stamps or any other benefits your country offers asap. There are resources. You are not alone. And hopefully his job offers some severance.
I’m not sure of your options as I’m in Australia and options depend on the why etc but I work with a guy who is close to getting fired and all I can think about is his family. I really do hope things work out well, I’m so sorry for you I really am.
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He can apply for unemployment. Also, contact staffing agencies in your area. Companies pay them to find good applicants.
Take a deep breath. You’re not gonna end up homeless. The absolute worst case scenario is that you have to either sell a car or sell your house and even then you’d still have money coming in.
Take a deep breath. This is not the end of the world, even though it feels like it. Now take another deep breath. I am not gonna tell you that everything is going to be OK, because that’s a slap in the face to someone who’s dealing with something in the moment. But what I am going to tell you is to take a deep breath, what you’re going to do if you are not going to freak out when he gets home. You’re going to hug him and make sure that he hugs you back. You’re going to have dinner and you are going to talk about the good parts of your day. Take a deep breath.
Tomorrow, if he does not have to go into work, then you are going to sit down and calmly discuss how you’re going to move forward. I understand that it is overwhelmingly stressful right now, so please take a deep breath. The two of you have got this. Try not to spiral into all of the worst case scenarios. Try as best you can not to spiral into where we gonna go, what are we gonna do, how are we gonna take care of our family. Now take another deep breath.
Do not try to solve this problem at 6 o’clock tonight, don’t try to solve it at 11 PM or 4 o’clock in the morning or tomorrow when you first wake up. Everything is raw and new and different and it’s going to freak you out and that’s OK.
One door shuts so another can be opened!
Start applying for unemployment and start looking into resources your city offers. If you’re in certain U.S. cities, families with children are prioritized for assistance and even receive stipends on top of unemployment.
Also look into charity orgs in your area, churches and mosques/religious orgs will provide family assistance (muslim charity orgs will still help you regardless if you’re Muslim or not).
Your husband should look for ANY and I mean ANY work. Don’t just sit around looking for stuff, but take on a job that pays less for the time being if needed. I’ve seen it happen to many times where people think they’re too good to work at a low paying job while they get back on their feet. Any money is better than no money. Good luck OP :/
Tell yourself and him. We’ll figure this out together. If he doesn’t get severance perhaps between you you could put gig work jobs together to make things work. Maybe he does day shift and you take the night or vice versa. Things like waitressing where there is an opportunity for cash tips or even food to take home.
You will figure it out.
I’ve been through very tough times and can assure you will make it.
Look in the mirror and say “I’ve got this”
When hubby gets home smile and tell him it will be alright and you believe in him. 😊❤️
Good luck 🍀🙏
Ah im sorry this is such a stressful time.
He should get some sort of redundancy pay in line with his notice period to tide you over? That will give some breathing space whilst he gets into the job search and signs up for benefits or assistance if eligible? Deep breaths, It takes a while for things to get so bad that you lose the house!
Make sure you’re signed up for all the assistance your child is entitled to. Just breathe. One hour at a time. That’s all you need to focus on right now.
You are in a tailspin right now so can you imagine how your husband feels? You need to snap out of it OP and today, maybe tomorrow, you need to be the strong one.
It sucks getting fired and it rearranges all kinds of things you thought about yourself. Your husband is gonna need a little support from you so stop tolling the death knell!
It’s insanely stressful but you’re gonna get through it. Obvious thing first, are your resumes updated?
If not, get them updated. If you need help there are a lot of resume builders that make it easy and really aren’t expensive.
Secondly – Do not turn on each other. I don’t know why he’s getting fired maybe it’s his fault, and if there is something about that you guys need to deal with it, then yes communicate that. But don’t blame game, just support each other.
Look into benefits like SNAP, unemployment, etc.
You might come out of this better then before, the economy isn’t great but the job market is actually doing alright currently (also to hell with stats, just power through).
Food banks and churches can help too. When my mom went through this with four kids by herself our church helped pay her phone bill.
Depending on the state, he can file for unemployment benefits. Then you need to file for cash assistance and snap benefits, utility assistance and whatever else the state offers to help you and your family. He can look and probably find a fast food job or something to tide you over.
What happened if I may ask? Im sorry your family is going through this.
I don’t know what state you’re in, but in my state applying for and receiving food benefits triggers eligibility for other discounts like on utilities and at our local Humane Society for vet care. SNAP has been a godsend for me while I job search. Apply (online if you can) for unemployment insurance ASAP as there is often a backlog and it may take a few beats before you’re approved.
Life shifts in a minute- you guys will figure this out. Try not to let the fear overwhelm you and focus on actions and gratitude for what you do have. You got this, OP!
in some countries you get paid for 6 months when this happens
Sorry, I hope you figure things out. Whatever you do, don’t watch Black Mirror – Common People right now.
Are you employable? Perhaps you can go back to work while your husband is home with your son while collecting Unemployment benefits and looking for employment?
Why did he get fired?
We went through this. We made it through, with infant twins and a special needs toddler at home. We survived and now we’re doing okay again.
He needs to apply for unemployment tonight, and start job hunting tomorrow.
It’s going to be okay. You’ll get through this.
Take a deep breath. People lose their jobs and find new ones. It’s scary for sure. I would have him file for unemployment ASAP. Look into social benefits you’re eligible for. Are you able to work at all? Even gig work like Uber eats would bring some money in. Look around your house. Is there anything you could part with? Sell everything you can. eBay, Facebook marketplace. Sell your plasma, work fast food. If your husband will be at home applying for jobs he can be with your child while you also go out and work. It will be hard but you can do hard things.
It’s not the end of the world. I know it’s scary. But it happens. Maybe he’ll get severance. Or be able to apply for unemployment. He should at least get his PTO that is accrued. Whatever it takes in the meantime to get by until the right job comes along, that’s what y’all do. It’s not always fun, but ya do it. Update the resume and start applying first thing. Just give him some time to process without you freaking out.
Call a staffing company they hire on the spot just to have a job apply for food stamps and their other benefits in the meantime than start looking for him another job fix his resume and do practice interviews
Also contact your landlord or apartment manger tell them you will possibly be late on rent because of your husband income being lost and your waiting on his unemployment to be approved
Apply for unemployment…
Call your local 211 they have lots of rental assistance
And don’t forget the collect all his pto time
Definitely have him file for unemployment. It’s not much but it’s something. Start looking immediately for something new and take it one step at a time. Im sorry
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Sign up for Uber, DD, GH, Insta. There’s a background check and wait for some apps. The sooner you submit his info, the sooner he can be cleared. Have him apply for unemployment as soon as he gets home. Apply for Medicaid, food stamps, energy assistance, heating assistance (they’re usually connected to the food stamp app). That’s 3 real sources of alternate income for you while he finds another job. I did UE And DD while I was on disability. Didn’t get a check for a few months. This held me over with the bills (just driving) and then when the disability checks rolled in, it went right to high yield savings.
If you are home with your child, can you watch other children? What skills does your husband have? Seems loads of people need help with sprinkler repair this time of year.
Why post on Reddit to strangers tho?
Can you receive IHSS to care for your child? What about applying for Social Security now that your family has no income. I’m so sorry how overwhelming and scary