I buried my son April 26, 2025. The absolute worst day of my life. My son’s murderer has still not been found. I feel like he never will. Tomorrow will be a month since he was shot. I miss him so very much. I miss his smile, his love, his loyalty. I miss everything about him. I am lost and feel alone even with people around. Does it get better? Will he always be on my mind 24 7? Does life get better or will it always be this heavy? Finding Tyrone Jones doesn’t bring my son back, but I need to see him be punished. It’s almost an obsession.
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It will get better but not for a long long time and it will never ever go away. My sympathies for your loss. May justice be served and soon. That does help a little.
I’m so sorry about your boy. I hope they catch his murderer and you can see some kind of justice.
It sounds like you raised a wonderful young man. One who clearly put others ahead of himself. I don’t know what it is like to lose a child, but I have been through grief. It f*cking sucks. The pain will be there for a long time. Do not rush it, and don’t let others make you rush it.
Cherish every memory you have of him. Remember to take care of yourself, but also remember it’s ok to cry and scream and be angry.
Big hugs to you and his father.
So sorry for your loss.
Contact America’s most wanted it’s still fresh they could probably get him quickly hopefully he’s still in the area
I am so very sorry for your loss and hope you are able to get justice for your son.
Karen, I wish I could give you a big hug. I know you are proud of your son, who risked his life so honorably to save another’s. You raised a wonderful young man, who showed his selflessness and kindness to strangers in their darkest of times. Sometimes it takes years, but they have his identity and justice will be served. Our system can be broken, it taking more than enough time to put this guy where he deserves. It will come. Keep fighting and your Zackery will be there with you, cheering you on. He looks like he was a beautiful soul, and he is lucky to have his mother fighting for him.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I read the article. He’s a hero. Nothing will ever undo the pain from his loss, but I hope you find comfort in knowing he went out helping someone else. He seems like a great young man, and the world is poorer without him. Maybe you could get in contact with the woman he helped? I’m sure she shares your grief, and something beautiful could come out of his passing.
Lost my best friend in a very similar way. Sending you hugs and prays.
My grandmother lost all 3 of my uncles, youngest died at 19 oldest 39. They all passed within 6 years of each other. One being murdered on the street at 19. We love to laugh together and cry together about the memories. It’s been years but sometimes when she sings or is talking about them she’ll burst into tears out of no where. But the good memories keep us going and creating new ones. Talking about your son and sharing his story helps others and I hope you have the support or even find more support out there. You are not alone.
My message might be all over the place but just know there are support groups out there♥️
OP, my deepest condolences. Zackery seemed like a kind and nice man. Zackery did not deserve to go out how he did and I pray to the universe that his murderer is found and justice is served. Please look into a therapy group for victims of gun violence and find a way to best honor him in your life. Sending you so much love, strength, and light.
I had a friend describe ot perfectly after i lost someone. Imagine a box with a button in it and a ball bouncing around that box. Everytime the ball hits the button its raw and you feel it. At first the ball is almost the same size as the box and it hurts often almoat always. As time goes on the ball amd button are still there it still hurts but the box gets bigger and bigger over time so the ball hitting the button get fewer and fewer
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. I hope and pray the murderer is caught, and because he already has a record, let’s pray it won’t be long before caught. Prayers to you, your family, and grandchildren
You never get over it. You just learn to live with it.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. It takes so much time and I don’t know if you have started yet but please consider starting therapy or joining a grief support group. Talk about him to the media, keep him in the public eye
My sincere condolences to you. ❤️
My sincere condolences to you and your family OP. You raised a wonderful person. I hope you dwell in the good memories to help deal with the pain of his loss.
Virtual hugs 🫂 and positive vibes coming your way from this internet stranger….💞
My condolences for your son. Time will help you but this pain will never go away, just ease it
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My brother lost his daughter in a drunk driving accident about 5 years ago (her fault). It led him to some very dark places. And he isolated himself, which made it worse.
My best advice is to try finding a support group and therapist and lean heavily on them. My brother resisted this for a long time, claiming family was his support group, but family couldn’t understand the pain he was feeling. The sooner you can do this, the better. It will continue hurting for a long time – maybe forever – but being able to discuss that pain will give you tools that can help when it gets really bad.
In addition to that, if anyone is offering you help in any way, take it. You have enough to deal with on your own, and if there’s any chance to offload stupid stuff like cooking or laundry, then that that opportunity. These little things can help.
I feel for you and wish you peace.
If you’re struggling with the idea of punishing the murderer, I suggest you watch the Korean film I Saw The Devil.
I’m sorry for your loss and wish you all the love and healing. Your son wouldn’t want you to lose yourself over someone. They are not worth your humanity. I think therapy would be a good place to start
condolences man
Things gotta get better
if you need talk send me message
It takes time. I highly recommend the book, “The Wild Edge of Sorrow” by Francis Weller. It’s available as an audiobook, if you’re not up to reading. Also, Anderson Cooper’s podcast, “All There Is” has been a tremendous help to me in processing grief. I’m so sorry this has happened to you and I hope you can find some comfort.
I’m very sorry for your loss. Your son is a hero. I hope his children grow up knowing that.
I read the article. I am so sorry for your loss. Hopefully they will find that person soon and put him under the jail. RIP, Zackery. You were a hero.
Your son was in my traveling community. Although we weren’t close, I know so many people who are grieving his loss. It doesn’t make it any better. I know nothing will, but I think the pain of loss teaches us of the infinite nature of love.
Every time it hurts to think of someone I’ve lost, whether it’s listening to a song we played together or seeing their favorite brand of hot chips at 7/11, I realize how much I loved every part of them. I think about how that pain shows me every corner of my soul they made their way into.
I know it’s a shallow consolation for losing someone so close. But I hope knowing how many people loved your son helps you in some tiny way. His memory will live on for a very long time. And I hope you eventually find peace. It doesn’t ever go away, but you get better at carrying it, and it won’t feel like the weight of the world with time.
Do you have other family to lean on? I read you lost your husband. Is there anyone else?
I’m so very sorry mama. I hope they catch the coward that did it.
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I’m so so sorry for your loss