(21f) ok this is gonna sound delulu but
Honestly? I straight up just dont care anymore. I get it,im far from conventionally physically attractive (im kinda borderline underweight like 5’7″ 115-120 ish lbs,flat,vampire pale complexion,rectangle build,gangly,the only curve in my body is scoliosis) but at this point im like…why should I care? Whether or not someone else likes how I look is not the sole purpose of my physical existence. So what if I’m prolly like a 6? I can still be happy with myself,my body is perfect to me and I dont plan on changing for anyone. I mean im assuming somehow someone will eventually be generous enough to not care about my appearance but even if it doesnt…meh,dont care anymore.
I just wanna be satisfied with my own appearance
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There is nothing wrong with any of that. I admire you for it.
At 21 you maybe haven’t found your look yet ?
And if you’re not satisfied there is so much you can do with your body through exercise and diet.
But if you’re happy then be happy!
good for you!!
and i mean, imo anything above a 5 is not terrible?
and also, my 9 has been someone else’s 4, so it doesnt really matter. people have their tastes 🤷🏽♀️ I think confidence is the most attractive quality, naturally.
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You’re on the right path but I think you could be kinder to yourself. You can still be attractive without having a perfect body and everyone’s physical preferences are different so I wouldn’t just write myself off as unattractive. Like just looking at nsfw subs here you can see there are things you might be insecure about that someone else finds really cute
But yes it’s true your body is yours and being comfortable in your own skin is the most important thing!
My grandpa always says, “I don’t care how I look, I don’t have to look at myself….you do!”
I mean, sure, if you don’t care about it and don’t care if other people don’t care about it, great for you. Most people do want to be found attractive by others, that’s the issue. If you don’t, then it’s great.
That said…”underweight like 5’7″ 115-120 ish lbs,flat,vampire pale complexion,rectangle build,gangly,the only curve in my body is scoliosis” “So what if I’m prolly like a 6?” – lol what? That does not sound like a 6, at all. A 6 is slightly above average. That description is nowhere near that.
“The only curve in my body is scoliosis.” Lmao
Loving yourself is the literal most attractive thing about a person. You can be a “10” and be insecure and that insecurity is what leads to jealousy and a whole lot of other issues. Being confident is really hot, and most people struggle with that. I was never very confident but I did get a lot of attention when I was younger. I’m 30 now and pretty much since COVID I’ve stopped making an effort and I absolutely LOVE that nobody approaches me in public anymore. I’m comfortable and I get left alone. Pretty privilege is real, 100%, but there’s something to be said about ugly privilege too. 🙏🏻
Girl, you could be the hottest goth ever. Just dress up in all black all the time, dye your hair black and scowl. Your preferred gender will come running. You can go full goth or just go monochromatic black, both would look fantastic.
🤜🏻🤛🏻nice! Everyone should be so positive and self assured. People tend to give too much of the power in their life to how they’re seen by others.
Realistically, most people are around average looking for their age. That’s why it’s average. It’s weird to be that saying someone is “mid” is such an huge insult. Most of us by definition are mid. If you’re happy with how you look then that’s what matters. I’m 40, so older than you, and while there are things I’d like to change, I’m pretty happy with my likely-mid look. I have a full life and people who love me. I can look pretty good when I dress up and I take care of myself.
You’re on a good track !
Bro I wish I could stop caring. But that’s good that you don’t anymore, fuck fitting a standard for people to judge no matter what, it’s not worth it.
You can’t love someone if you hate yourself.
I mean this sincerely…
… Congratulations for accepting normality, or what should be normality. So many out there think they are far more than they actually are and that’s what makes them unattractive. Just be you and own it.
I would say I’m an ugly duckling. But once I stopped caring about what people think, found my own style, got my confidence and that I’m finally happy with how I look. Who cares if you are ugly you just gotta be nice for you
Girl don’t give a f about appearance but give tons about health! Appearance doesn’t matter but health does, I hope you find your perfect weight
Since i gained weight in definitely a 3. Only reason it bothers me is cause I’m less physically capable of doing things like hiking
This is actually a nice mindset to have.
Id bet you’re being hard on yourself. From what you’ve described, is say you aren’t unattractive. Those traits are very appealing to a lot of men, myself included. Also you are young! You’ll fill out.
You don’t owe anyone a thing.
I feel the same way. I used to be obsessed with whether or not others found me attractive. But as I’ve gotten older, and I got married, I realized I don’t even care about the attractiveness of other people, so why should I worry if others care about mine or not? The right people, the people you will want to surround yourself with, will love you for your personality.
Sounds like you have a great personality. Even if you’re not the best looking person. You’ll find someone who’ll make you wholeheartedly happy
Body neutrality is honestly what I strive for these days
This! I got 30 and thought, you know what? Only my opinion matters. I started dressing how I wanted to not how I thought I should. I get so many more compliments now too. And I have only got fatter, so I assume it is my smile.
The truth is other people are never as concerned abt our appearances. Unless ur actively being told u look bad everyday or sth, it’s rly psychological and a self-sustained belief. You want to be happy with your appearance? Consider changing it. There’s nothing wrong with that if done healthily. It’s like someone doing bad in school, hating themselves for it, then trying to get better grades so they feel better abt themselves. You’re clearly still feeling some type of way about your appearance and not being kind to yourself. If you can’t be accepting and not degrading, you’re never gonna be satisfied.
You have the confidence. Go out there and get em.
A 6 doesnt sound so bad tbh..
To hell with attraction, take care of that scoliosis. Take it from someone twice your age, neglecting health (especially spinal health) in younger days really comes back to haunt you in your older age.
Delulu?
You seem funny tho you made me laugh in a post quite dramatic 💀🫵
You also seem to be fine with how you look at yourself but not how people look at you. There is no need to please the eye of every human being, I’m sure you are great
Congratulations for getting here. Most women don’t arrive here until age 40+. You’re ahead of the game.
Self acceptance is a powerful thing in a world where you could change your appearance with Just a surgery. I think beauty is more of a subjective thing. What i realised is if someone can’t appreciate beauty with their eyes closed, it’s probably an illusion.
I am sorry to break this to you but if you are not getting a lot of attention, the 6 may be part of your delulu.
Have you considered being brutally honest with yourself and your standards
Are you closer to 5 – average?
Are you above? 6
Are you below? 4
radical self acceptance is SOOOO freeing yes im so happy for u!!!
Plus beauty is often regarded by other I mean you can’t even see your face unless you are in front of the mirror
I would kill to be a 6.
Please let me kill to be a 6. I have a list…