Hi, 29F! Would a love letter mean anything to you to as man or does it seem childish or like something only women would want? Can it be overbearing or is it flattering? Does that seem too fairytale or would you consider it thoughtful?
Asking for myself because I feel it’s easiest to express my feelings when I can write them down as a way to process my emotions. (I share them verbally, too, but asking this as an addition to that). I also personally love to read so I think that plays a part in being able to have something concrete to give someone. Can I get your thoughts? Thank you.
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Very awkward. Especially because it was one sided. She like me and I didn’t feel the same way.
had to check what sub I was in
My wife wrote me a letter and got me a custom zippo for my birthday the first year we were together. I carried that note in my wallet and zippo it my pocket up until last year when they got retired to my study desk from getting a bit roughed up over the years. For my last birthday, she wrote me a whole new letter about how much more she loves me since the first one and take a guess where it went. Love the feeling that she took time to sit and physically write something very personal.
I’d say it depends on the man in this situation
I don’t think I’ve ever gotten one
I have and it put me over the moon when I was reading it. It was thoughtful and clearly something they put effort into. It was a lovely way to feel connected with them since we both had difficulty expressing ourselves at times
I used to be in the Army and, before we were married, my wife used to leave little notes in the pockets of my packed uniform before I went on exercise. This way I would find them when I was already out there and it was always such a morale boost for me.
Yes, I’ve received many love letters in my life. I felt excited, surprised, happy, valued, honored, loved, appreciated, and grateful to say the least. There is something special about reading a handwritten letter. To me, it has more meaning, feeling, and connection.
I remember writing “love letters” as kids, then being afraid to talk to each other at school lol if my future wife wrote me a real love letter I’d probably cherish it forever.
I did many times, I felt amazing but later I realized it doesn’t really mean much cause she broke up with me 2days later.
My wife and I communicated via email the first couple months before our first date, and we live a good ways apart, so the first few years were full of emailed love letters sent back and forth. It’s fun to go back and read them, we love bombed the shit out of each other. I’m not much for gushy stuff, but it does feel nice to receive.
Yes, I’ve received one, and it hit way harder than I expected. There’s something timeless about someone taking the effort to sit down and write their feelings. It’s not childish, it’s rare. And rare things tend to leave a mark.
If it’s coming from a genuine place, most men will find it thoughtful, not overbearing. We may not always say it, but being seen and appreciated like that? That stays with you.
So yeah, write it. He might treasure it more than you think.
My husband has every letter I wrote him while we were dating (pre-email)
I have but I felt kind of awkward and only skim read it to get the gist. Honestly not my sort of thing really.
I tend to watch what people do.
What people say is what they perceive themselves to do or be, so you need to filter out their wishful thinking bullshit %.
If you mean it, show me by doing it.
If you want to communicate, then talk to me face to face so that it’s interactive.
A girl I really liked gave me bunch of chocolates 🍫 and crisps from uk 🇬🇧 after her family holiday there. Made me get in my feels for her
In high school there was a guy who brought flowers and poems and left them at my door. The guy was a creep and thought I’d like him if he stalked me and eventually I’d go out with him.
I told my Dad who met him at the door and told him to stop, that I wasn’t allowed to have a boy friend and if he ever talked to me, left me flowers, or another poem, he’d regret it.
Yes, but it was the only one I have ever received. It made me feel really happy because never in my wildest dreams would I have ever thought to receive one. It blows my mind, to this day, how much affection a letter could make me feel. I treasure it always. So, yeah, it means a lot to me.
A couple. Made me feel wonderful. Some I have kept my entire life. I take them out sometimes and reread them.
Yes, a few times. Didn’t like it