I’m a female and I work in a professional office environment. We have a team of 12 of us. This one guy, who is otherwise very nice, always finds a way to either steer the conversation towards masturbation, or somehow brings up masturbation in every conversation. Most of the team is used to it so they just find it normal. But I still find it weird.
He even does it in team meetings and my boss just laughs it off
Thoughts?
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What? You should report him, that’s nowhere near normal.
What a jerk!
Uh, that’s beyond creepy
There shalt not be any amount of masturbation on company grounds. -USMC
Just walk away…no reaction…but let HR know.
He’s a master debater. Probably not a cunning linguist though.
Offer to jerk him off in front of HR !
Bloody wanker!
He started working on a fishing boat at such a young age that by the time he was 12 he was a master baiter.
Avoid. I’ve gotten into so much trouble for being unable to understand social cues or appropriate topics of conversation that my life has been quite the misadventure sometimes, even I know that that is not a topic anyone tries to discuss with random strangers on the fly and that’s a crying shame.
You should bring up menstruation all of the time, and if someone comments, say you assumed nothing was out of bounds since that guy always brings up masturbation?
Better than he brings up sado maso or some stuff like fart porn….
Unless he has Tourettes or some explanation you are unaware if, he should be given one warning, then terminated.
Not normal and not ok. Super inappropriate conversation to have at work.
Report it to HR. I worked with a guy who started by talking about sex and masturbation, that moved into sending dick pics to certain coworkers, then he started masturbating at work and took videos of himself doing it. He eventually got fired for it. He also faced criminal charges but I have no idea where those went since he was terminated before going to court.
Look him in the eye and call him a creep every time it happens. What kind of office would accept this behavior? Is he the owners half wit son?
If sexual references make you uncomfortable, and this guy has been doing it so often like it’s a pattern.. then this definitely counts as sexual harassment at workplace! I’m just appalled at the fact that your boss laughs it off, which makes it way more worse when he should have been the one trying to regulate it. Do you think you can talk with any of your coworkers who you think might find it awkward?
I had a coworker that always brought up sex crimes in the news. Didn’t offend me but I’ve always been fascinated about his psychology, of all the things to fixate on why that?
That’s called a hostile workplace. HR needs to know.
Is it Louis CK? It’s Louis CK isn’t it? I know it’s Louis CK.
That’s called sexual harassment. I’m “close” with some of my coworkers and I would never bring that you to them, male, female, nonbinary, whatever.
Crazy inappropriate, jesus
You’re in an unsafe work environment
Every time he does it, take out a notepad and write down what he said, time, date, and who else witnessed it. When he asks what it’s for, say “just getting ready for the deposition.”
What do people expect when they ask a question like this? I’m serious OP, what do you want? Some premonition or insight that mysteriously solves this for you?
Contact HR period.
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I’d would say “no one wants to talk about your penis or what you do with it in your private time” loudly, in the meeting. Let them fire me. Idgaf. That’s nasty and if the team just brushes that off, what else are they going to let slide?
“That’s inappropriate.” Move on. Repeat as necessary. That’s how you be assertive, that’s how you be a leader. If he wants to be a bitch about it and somehow fight his corner, he’ll quickly find himself on the losing side of the argument, because your statement is inarguably correct.
That is weird, I would call him out. Count the times in a day or the days in a row and call him out and make fun in front of everyone. I worked in a male dominated field for almost 10 years, this works.
It’s not normal and your silence is letting him make it normal..”please quit steering the conversation to masturbation, you do it a lot.. it’s weird and it makes me uncomfortable” is what you should be saying to him.
HR. Any kind of joke or innuendo to any thing sexual is sexual harassment. This kind of thing does not belong in any work environment.
My wife worked for a woman in a large company that without fail in group meetings would ask “who would you do?” And point out people she’d like to have sex with. It was insane.
You should beat him off 👌
Does he still force it into conversation when you’re not around? Or when he’s only around other men? If he is, maybe he’s just a weirdo with a juvenile sense of humor. If not, it sounds like he’s trying to broach the subject in the hopes one of the women gives of signs of receptivity.
Buy some IcyHot cream and some lotion. Either swap the labels or the contents. Put the new “lotion” in his desk drawer.
In the USA? My thought is that your boss won’t laugh this off when a complaint is filed with the federal government.
So, this place probably has an HR department you could talk to…so, either talk to HR or hear him talk about HJs…speaking of HJs; How’s it hanging, everybody!? (sorry…couldn’t resist the self-gratification. SHIT! Did it again!!)
But seriously. Talk to HR. It’s unprofessional to discuss at work and it will only keep bothering you and only you if everyone else is okay with it
Find at opportunity to quip back at him after he brings it up in a way that makes him feel embarrased, turn it into an uncomfortable subject for him. Along the lines of “You sure do talk about masturbation a lot, it sounds like you need to find a girlfriend.” Or like “What’s with you and masturbation? I think you might need to see a therapist.”
I mean masturbation is pretty cool and everyone does it so Im not surprised
This is just creepy
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https://youtu.be/I62_Kf9615k
Talk to HR.
Do you have an HR department??
Well, did he cum or what?
File a sexual harassment complaint. Being offended is enough & if the company continues to encourage him by ignoring him (after you’ve complained) you have a valid complaint.
Are you working with Louis CK, by any chance?
Don’t cut the guy short.
Ick. That is just weird, as well as inappropriate. I’d be wary of him.
I promise others find it weird too but just let it go
. Masterbation is obviously sexual. It is probably how he gets off, so he enjoys saying the word He is looking for a reaction. Don’t give him one.
He probably is addicted to it. That’s very abnormal.
What a bellend.
Seriously though, this is insanely inappropriate.
I’ve seen people saying report it to HR but that seems like a bit much. If you haven’t even asked him to please not make jokes like that around you it would probably have a negative effect on how people treat you as well.
Must have no life of his own so his pathetic brain just goes there – kinda sad and disgusting at the same time
It’s low level sexual abuse. Let HR know.
That’s just horrible. I can’t believe the boss laughs at off. It totally astounded me how much some men think about that dangling appendage.
Wrong. It’s a sour work environment for you. You should approach your boss and tell him you are uncomfortable with this and state that you expect him to put an end to it. He should be aware, given that it’s 2025, that this is a lawsuit waiting to be filed. If he doesn’t do anything, take it to his boss or HR.
LOL. That’s kinda funny in a weirdo creepy way. I wonder what that guy does when he gets home