When going out to dinner with my boyfriend I had curled my hair and done a full face of make up. When we got back, I told him I was going to wash my face so I could take off my make up and get comfortable. He looked me in my face and said, shocked, “you’re wearing make up???” I’m not kidding, eyebrows done, eyeliner, blush, contour, lashes, the whole 9 yards.
So men, please tell me what is going on. Is he trying to be cute or did he seriously not notice
Thank you for your answers
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He was probably buttering you up.
I only notice when it looks bad. You must’ve looked great.
I notice it and prefer woman who don’t wear it
Some guys do, and some are totally oblivious unless you’re doing full-on drag makeup.
You are litteraly getting made up for yourself, your girlfriends and other women. Men don’t care.
>Do men [X]?
The answer is always the same:
Some do, others don’t
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. The more “intense” the make up the more it’ll be noticed. Like if you have glittery red eyeshadow on, yea, I’ll notice.
But if you’re just doing “touch up” make up it may go unnoticed
Some do, some don’t. On average, as far as men are concerned, makeup is some form of dark art.
I’m not surprised that many miss well done full face that just doesn’t have a “unnatural” colors (blues and greens and glitter and what not). I’ve seen so many guys comment something along the lines of “I don’t like makeup, I prefer a natural look like <this>” and show a full face of professional makeup, just not… colorful.
Only when you’re not wearing it….
That’s a compliment- you must look natural with makeup on
My boyfriend doesn’t notice it but I don’t wear that much. He has told me that I look beautiful before and “before makeup” when I was wearing it lol
Probably depends on how much you do. Fake eyelashes etc I assume they would see that
he probably didn’t notice. i took me a while to develop an eye for spotting it.
Depends on your makeup style. Some styles are more natural looking while others kind of go out of their way to show off the make-up.
You didn’t mention your age. I know I didn’t notice it when I was 20, unless it was really bad. Then one of my girlfriends who I thought didn’t use it told me she used some every single day. I was baffled, but since then, I do see makeup, even when it’s just a little, if I think of looking for it.
So it depends… he might never have a thought about this, so he never noticed. Or he’s flattering you.
Yes, prefer no makeup or very light.
Probably just ‘being cute’ but supports you with or without make up 🙂
If it is done well ( basically invisible ) it’s fine, but still not necessary. If it’s not well done, or wildly overdone, it always seems weird and off-putting. If it was necessary I would be wearing it too right?
If I notice it I get suspicious. I much prefer women who are comfortable to just be who they are.
I absolutely notice. If she looks more beautiful than usual, I notice. She’s always beautiful, but when she goes out of her way to turn it up to 11, I ALWAYS notice, and I ALWAYS let her know, but I also let her know how beautiful she is when she ISNT wearing makeup too.
You can easily spot a virgin when they say “I prefer no makeup.” They have no idea what that actually looks like.
If it’s something like bright red lipstick, or you’re going for a darker “black lipstick look” I’ll notice. Unless you’re screwed up your make-up and look like a raccoon, I rarely notice eye liner or shadow.
I am the type of guy that hates 90% of makeup of how it feels and 80% of how it looks.
The most that doesn’t bother me is a little lip gloss, no heavy lipstick.
I not only get an “ick” factor in close proximity due to texture, even smell, sensitivity, but I genuinely think it looks bizarre and has the opposite effect of what is intended.
That being said, I understand why some like it
I notice those who don’t wear it and prefer that look.
Yup my husband says the same thing. I think I look a lot different without make up but he disagrees. He also thinks I have body dysphoria but I don’t think so. I do love that he thinks I’m beautiful all the time though.
They notice if there’s too much. And too little.
Yes, but i rather see my wife without makeup. Her skin is so beautiful
Bro knows the code.
Not really, they just register attractive. They have zero clue usually
I notice, but maybe because I prefer women without makeup idk
Not specifically unless it is overdone. We might think “she looks pretty” but we don’t specifically notice the makeup unless someone draws our attention to it.
I mean the vast majority of women wear full makeup as a minimum so a lot of us really don’t notice anymore of everyone’s doing it there’s nothing special about it
We do notice make up and we hate it. Just be the natural you.
We see and don’t see it when it’s done nice like, enhancing the beauty. But, that badly applied, clown looking face we notice off the top.
only when it looks bad or they use too much of it
This one could go either way. Either he’s genuinely oblivious in which case your makeup routine is on point. It’s also possible he just isn’t very aware about makeup, or he was being sarcastic and it’s obvious because you draw on your eyebrows and could remove your base with a paint-scraper.
We don’t care. And the ones that do are probably worth moving on from.
Some do. Usually ones who have been caught out not noticing before.
But, for most men, because all that effort women put into their looks is not part of our routine, it just doesn’t cross our minds.
We love you and love looking at you, but men who love a women think she looks amazing in a baggy hoodie with bed head on a Saturday morning just as much as she looks amazing with full face on.
Depends on the man, but unless it’s the insane raccoon-esque eye shadow that was popular 5 years ago, a lot of men don’t know enough about it to understand what is the person and what is the makeup. A few years before I met my wife, I got an object lesson in this.
There was a girl that hung within my friend group. Short, tiny, always dressed up, always looked extremely pretty. Basically every guy wanted to sleep with her and thought she was drop-dead. I meet my girlfriend (now wife) and she stayed over on a Friday. We went out in the morning to do a little shopping. I passed a girl that was very plain, disheavaled, and in frumpy clothes.
I asked if my girlfriend knew who that was: she seemed familiar, but I couldn’t place her. And she told me it was the same girl. Without very well done makeup, not in her curated outfits, and without other people to prop her up socially, she looked totally forgettable. The realization of exactly how much difference clothing, makeup, and wingwomen could make was crazy.
Guys don’t always notice makeup, but most of them will notice the effects.
My wife is upset with me and how I’ll spontaneously complement her looks when she’s not wearing makeup, but not do it when she is.
If I can tell you’re wearing foundations, you’re wearing too much foundation. Let the imperfections exist.
They don’t even notice my fake eyelashes and get shocked when I take them off
Yes
The change needs to be either bad or dramatically different for me to notice. In one way it’s actually a compliment if I don’t notice, means you look like a normal person.
Like my wife has dark brown hair and will sometimes come home with a slightly different shade of brown hair, I have no hope of noticing that. Also eyebrows, I do not get the obsession women have with them. Unless they look weird I do not notice or think about eyebrows at all.
Usually notice it. Rarely like it. Hate surgery and lip fillers.
Only when there’s too much of it
When I was younger I didn’t even think about it, now I notice. But I mostly notice if it’s over done/bad. Also now I notice in shows when women ‘wake up’ and already have makeup on and it’s so fake.
I’m too dumb to know it’s there. It obviously works, but if it’s done correctly I don’t recognize it as make up.
Man, here.
I notice when it’s in excess.
Subtle and well done, great.
I simply don’t like makeup. Makes an otherwise good looking woman appear to be so artificial.
To me, makeup usually smells unappealing, and kissing someone with lipstick isn’t very pleasant. I can usually tell when someone’s wearing makeup, probably more than half the time, but it really depends on how skillfully it’s applied, how heavy it is, and the setting. In dim or low lighting, it’s definitely harder to notice.
That said, it’s actually pretty common for men not to notice makeup, at least not in the way you might expect. A lot of guys don’t really know the components, like contour, highlighter, or setting spray. Instead, they just register that you look “nice” or “put together” without realizing why. Some men only associate makeup with more dramatic looks, such as bold lipstick or heavy eyeshadow, so when it’s well-blended and natural-looking, they just see it as your face.
In your boyfriend’s case, I think it comes down to one of two things:
He’s genuinely into you, and those kinds of details don’t really register anymore because he just sees you.
Or, he doesn’t care enough to pay attention and wasn’t really looking at you that closely.
You probably know his tone and behavior better than anyone else, so your gut feeling here matters a lot.
Can only speak for myself. Happily married 10 years, for reference.
Sometimes i notice. Usually not. If i notice, it’s because it looks weird and makes her not look like herself and I don’t like it. But if she likes it, I keep my damn mouth shut and tell her she looks great.
In my opinion it’s mostly pointless to the men I know. Maybe the ladies judge it with more discernment on each other, but almost every guy I know would rather she just look like herself in her normal form, without the goop.
Clothes are different. Clothes are rad. My wife’s wardrobe is a mix of delightful and horrific and I love all of it. Her clothing choices make me smile.
Only if it looks bad. I don’t know if it’s just me but I really hate lipstick, although I don’t know if lipstick actually counts as make up.
I personally prefer a natural look. I’m not saying no make up, but it has to be somewhat subtle. My wife wears a little eyeliner and that’s about it
I call it war paint, I think it’s ridiculous.
Depends.
Caked on like spackle? Notice every time and hate it.
Light eye liner, blush ect nope don’t usually notice until they take it off.
For me personally makeup is fine as long as it isn’t super noticeable. I prefer none to minimal.
Everyone’s different. I would guess it sometimes has to do with whether or not a guy likes it in the first place.
I notice it all the time, a lot more than my friends do, but I also usually dislike it and so that’s probably part of why – especially lashes and eyeliner (idk why). I also notice small piercings and tattoos a little more often than other guys, which also makes sense because I really like those. And then there are a bunch of things I miss because im indifferent compared to some of my guy friends – clothes and shoes for example. I have sneaker head friends who will always ask if I saw those nice shoes this or that girl was wearing, and I miss it basically every time lol. Or friends who will point out if they liked / disliked some girl’s outfit in general and I’ll have already completely forgotten what she was wearing as soon as she leaves my sight
If you do it right, then no we won’t notice.
If you look bad with no makeup, anyone will notice
No we don’t. In fact. Most of us think make up makes you look less attractive. But we would never say that to your face. But we normally don’t notice. If we like you, we pay attention to you as a whole. The times we notice your outfit, hair, or make up are the few times we are specifically looking for a change you made, usually when the woman brings it up prior or heavy hints at it.
Not really. Unless it’s super colorful or super caked on. Lol.
No one will be able to notice unnoticeable makeup, women included. And I think it’s safe to say there is very subtle makeup out there.
But men are probably worse at it than women, although not normally to this extent.
Men generally do not care to nearly to the same extent about all this shit women to for looks and fashion. They care even less if it’s their S.0. In fact, MANY things women do for looks and fashion are flat out repulsive to guys. Over blown makeup, fake nails, fake eye lashes, weird unnatural eyebrows, unnatural hair colors, piercing/tattoos…
Guys would rather have all that gross shit just vanish. Whenever I say that, women tend to be gob smacked.
The answer for the most part is only if it’s badly done or it doesn’t agree with your complexion or it’s a vibrant color that does not go well at all with what you’re wearing.
I guarantee you what you’re wearing.It significantly matters more than whatever makeup you have on.
He was complimenting you – he thinks you look that good all the time.
If we notice makeup, then it’s probably not a good thing.
I can’t remember ever hearing a guy said “she could use some more makeup”, though I have heard a number of women say that.
Not me. I’m super oblivious. I didn’t even know about leggings.
My husband didn’t even know I have a mole near my lips and we have been together since 2006.