TIFU by hooking up with my cousin’s Pastor

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Well, I’m not proud of myself. I, 25M, made a series of mistakes. I was bored, and had too much time on my hands, and decided to browse the apps. I’m a gay man, so you can imagine which apps I’m talking about. Now I normally don’t ever meet up with anyone from the apps nor have any intention on meeting anyone, just mainly use them as a source to cure boredom. However a profile messaged me that was very close by. I typically don’t ever respond to faceless, stat-less, profiles, but this guy messaged me with some pics that, I’ll just say it, were quite nice to look at. He said he couldn’t send a face pic because he’s married and was only available for a brief window of time. Usually when someone tells me they’re married it’s an immediate block unless they have some arrangement with their partner but again, the pictures were nice to look at. So, ignoring all of the red flags and rules I have for myself for safety, I agreed to meet him. It was fun, not that that matters but when it was over and I left I couldn’t shake the feeling that i recognized him. Then it finally dawned on me, he’s my cousin’s Pastor.

Over the past few years, my cousin was begun going to church and has really gotten into it. Myself and some other family members have always gotten weird vibes from this church, but for the sake of privacy, I don’t what to go into too much detail. I know it may seem like an easy situation to ignore, but my cousin frequently has family events at her church, and members of her church, such as the Pastor, have been in attendance. He’s since messaged me and says we said “hangout” again, so I don’t get the impression that he recognized me, but I feel like that would change if we ran into each other. I probably should go ahead and block him, definitely don’t think it’s a good idea to tell him i recognized him. At least now I have an excuse to get out of all of the kids birthday parties at the church. Definitely learned my lesson and reminded myself why I usually stay off the apps and never meet up with anyone.

TL;DR hooked up with a random guy on an app, afterwards i recognized him as my cousin’s Pastor, who I see at events my cousin’s events. Now things are gonna be mega awkward.

Comments

  1. Ok_Screen_8739 Avatar

    Bucket list item crossed off

  2. Slawth_x Avatar

    The fuck up started at “I’m married”

  3. Fro_o Avatar

    You didn’t fuck up. He did, mainly because he’s married. But yeah, just leave it as it is. No need to make it awkward or ackowledge the situation with him or your cousin

  4. mayan_monkey Avatar

    Damn. Pass the info. I dont know him so it wouldnt be weird. Jk. Had something similar happen to me before. But I didn’t “meet” the person until a week later at a coworker’s birthday dinner. They were there with their girlfriend. AWKWARD. but yeah, i usually only use that app wjen im traveling and evem then, its stroctly to get food recs and suggestions on things to do. Maybe grab a beer but not hook up. It works marvelously for that.

  5. WhelanBeer Avatar

    Definitely not advocating anything with this question, but is this the kind of church that tends to preach against homosexuality?

  6. Lem0n_Lem0n Avatar

    Did you missed the chance to call him father?

  7. -Immolation- Avatar

    Stay off Christian mingle. God…damn it?

  8. xolinlevh Avatar

    Show up at church with your cousin one day. And please post his reaction to seeing you

  9. quimera78 Avatar

    > At least now I have an excuse to get out of all of the kids birthday parties at the church.

    What’s the excuse? Sorry cousin, I can’t go because I fucked your pastor?

  10. UMustBeNooHere Avatar

    Jesus He Knows Me

    “I believe in family, with my ever loving wife beside me. She doesn’t know about my girlfriend, or the man I met last night.”

  11. DoctorRiddlez Avatar

    u/RealityTVWatcher2000

    Does it give off a cult vibe?

  12. WednesdayBryan Avatar

    Dude, you definitely have to go to the next event. Make sure that you greet him in front of a crowd. Shake his hand and tell him that it’s good to see him again.

  13. Firedog502 Avatar

    Ok… I have to ask… did he fill you full of Christ’s love? 🤣🤣🤣

  14. LemonEar Avatar

    They say if you go to hell you’ll get the red hot poker. Looks like he got his in heaven

  15. d4m1ty Avatar

    TIFU indeed. You Fucked.. UP, 😛

  16. MikeHock_is_GONE Avatar

    Pastor is going to be preaching against Sodomy on Sunday to overcompensate for his failed temptations

  17. xMcRaemanx Avatar

    I mean, you say you HAVE an excuse to get out of the parties now but realistically I think you NEED an excuse.

    I can’t come to the party because I have a cold sounds so much better than I can’t come to the party because I fucked the Pastor.

  18. fuzzerhop Avatar

    Idk i feel like he fucked up more. He’s the one who is married and part of a homophobic group