There’s this girl in my office I’ve grown quite attached to. We’ve spent a lot of time together — we talk, hang out, went on a trip recently, and overall, we’re comfortable with each other. One of my friends even said we look really cute together.
But the truth is, I don’t think she’s interested in me romantically. She’s fun, outgoing, loves traveling (she’s already planning another trip casually), and sometimes she initiates conversations, but mostly it’s me doing the talking and making plans. I’m the one who checks in, who tries to keep things going.
Lately, it’s been messing with my head. I miss her, I overthink everything, and it’s starting to affect my mental peace. I talked to a friend and he said I should wait a month or two and then confess. But honestly, I don’t know if I can drag myself through this slow emotional burn. I’m scared of getting more hurt than I already am.
Should I just confess how I feel within a week or two and accept whatever comes — or wait and risk falling in deeper?
Any advice would help.
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I’d just start looking elsewhere. If she likes you, it’ll probably come up. If you’re just a friend, things won’t change from her perspective. IMO
Well… a girl once asked me if I wanted to go to cedar point with her and some friends when we were 18/19. Ghosted her for the most part cuz I didn’t think she liked me, we are married now lol (eventually we started talking again like 6-7 years later)