So I had a crush on a girl for the longest time, (knew her a couple years back, we stopped talking and started talking again just this year) and after a couple months of talking, getting to know her, I finally actually told her how I felt (yay me) and asked her to the school dance. She said she didn’t like me like in that way, and she wanted to stay friends. Personally, I don’t have any trouble with being friends, but I don’t know if it will end well. I just wanted reddit’s input on my situation. She’s super nice and honestly that can be confusing sometimes, because I’m not sure if she actually wants to be friends or is she just being nice. Thanks in advance!
word for word copy of her message: “Hey I just wanted to email you about going to the dance. You’re really sweet and I enjoy talking to you but I don’t have feelings for you in that way. I don’t mean to hurt your feelings in anyway but I think it is better if we just stay friends”
TL;DR, girl i like rejected me but still wants to be friends, girl is really nice and i don’t know if she actually wants to be friends or is just being nice
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If you weren’t “friends” before, as in talking, hanging out, doing stuff together friends and you were just “friendly” as in talking occasionally, then she wants to keep things as they are. You’re “friendly” acquaintances.
you’re more confident and brave than the majority of 14 year olds for starters and you should definitely give yourself props for going after what you want. TBH she isn’t interested based on that text. You’ve to learn how to run game now. Ask out multiple girls and that will give you leverage of options, she will eventually want what the other girls want. The more options you have and the less you act interested in her, the more she will wonder and pursue you. The power in a relationship is with the person who cares the least