I’ve been interning at my company for a couple of months, and there’s a girl here that I really like. I would love to ask her out, but I’ve read a lot of posts suggesting that dating at work isn’t a good idea. However, I’m planning to leave this company in the next couple of months since the work isn’t aligned with my field. Given the situation, how should I approach this? Any advice would be appreciated!
P.S: She knows I exist, we’ve made eye contact multiple times. I’ve smiled at her and she’s reciprocated
Edit : Most people will say ‘ask her out after you leave’. So is there any groundwork I can lay before that?
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Ask her out when you leave.
Dating coworkers is a bad idea in any professional environment.
Wait until you no longer work there. Don’t poop where you eat.
Go for it, life is too short.
It’s better to regret things you did do than live with “what ifs” .
Go for it. I met my wife at work.
There is a saying don’t s&@“ where you work. So if you are a player and just want to to play, don’t.
If you really like the person, and think there is potential, you should go for it. How many people do you really get to know after college? It can be bad if they don’t like you or you don’t like them and have to continue to work together, but I think it worth the risk.
All you have to do is suck it up and be mature if it does not work out. If she gets all weird, HR is an option. That’s worst case.
Best advice about dating at work if you are male…don’t. No matter what.
smiling isn’t flirting.
talk to her more, get to know her, be friends with a flirty vibe, then don’t think to hard about it and just ask her out
Wait til you leave bf you ask her out! Why? Someone (her included) could conclude that you are sexually harassing her, and that messes up YOUR work record. If you see her chat with her, so that way she does remember you, it also gives you a chance to assess her character, it is possible that after a brief chat you find she is not what you are looking for.
Maybe make some small talk n’ whatnot before asking her out lmao
Do you have her number? My husband and I started out playing Words with Friends (that makes me feel soooo old). It’s an innocuous way to start chatting. You can text each other the wordle or your score in connections and start friendly banter. Then, ask her out after you leave.
As long as one of you it not the other’s subordinate, go out and date.
Whatever it develops after it, don’t create a shit-show on your workfloor.
People meet at work all the time. Obv there’s way it can be inappropriate like a boss dating someone one their team or other power dynamics but dating at work is normal and fine. People complain how they can’t meet anyone irl then make up rules like “can’t date at work” “can’t ask out the cute barista because I still wanna go to the coffee shop” “can’t date that person bc we share a friend group”
It’s dumb and it’s totally ok to want to date people you meet out in the real world
Same department? Big no. Different department where you dont have to interact with her? Go for it. I met my wife at work.
I’d recommend doing a bit of research prior to asking her out. Does she have a serious boyfriend or even a husband? Start up some casual conversations before going all in and asking her out. As things stand you only really like the way she looks. You may lose interest once you hear her voice or learn more about her. You may be leaving soon but I’d think you’d want a good recommendation from this place you’re interning at.
Be her friend get to know her.
Are you CAPABLE OF DOING THAT?
You might find you don’t really like her lol.
If you really do like her, invite her out on a double date or group thing if possible… Something non threatening.
Then solo.
Otherwise.
Wait until you are going to leave.
Then ask her out.
The old adage is right: don’t shit where you eat. Lol 🤣